🌟 Confronting the 'Try' Mentality: Shifting from Convenience to Commitment" on Living Lucky 🌟

Ready for an eye-opening exploration? Join us, Jana and Jason, on a captivating journey through the power of language in our episode titled "Confronting the 'Try' Mentality" on Living Lucky. Let's unravel the transformative impact of Yoda's famous quote, "There is no try, only do," and discover how our choice of words shapes our reality and actions.

Dive deep into the psychology behind 'trying' versus 'doing' as we explore the concept of 'permission parameters.' Discover how the language we use often creates subtle escape routes from commitment, hindering our path to success. Through candid personal experiences, Jana shares her recent financial venture and how the phrase "I'll try" nearly became a barrier to a promising investment opportunity.

This episode is a wake-up call for all of us, urging us to become conscious architects of our language, empowering us to set solid commitments rather than relying on convenience. It's a call to embrace a proactive approach that opens doors to unparalleled possibilities.

Get ready for an engaging discussion that not only challenges the 'try' mentality but also encourages a shift in mindset toward unwavering commitment. Tune in to Living Lucky's latest episode and step into a world where language becomes the catalyst for transformative change and where 'trying' evolves into empowered 'doing.'

🎧 Listen now for practical insights, relatable anecdotes, and actionable steps to conquer the 'try' mentality, unlocking your potential for a luckier, more purposeful life. 🌈✨

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Speaker 1 0:00

Are you ready to create a life you crave ? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start living lucky . Good morning . I'm Jama , I'm Jason and we are living lucky . We're talking about the word try . I believe it was Yoda that said there is no try .

Speaker 2 0:27

Only do .

Speaker 1 0:28

Yes , what's the actual quote ?

Speaker 2 0:30

There isn't . I think that's it . There is no try , only do .

Speaker 1 0:35

And I know there's been a couple times in my life where I've caught myself saying I'll try . Do you remember our neighbor Tom , where he was like , hey , can you make it to the Christmas party ?

Speaker 2 0:46

And we'll be like , we'll try , that's the first thing that came up is when people invite you places and either you haven't looked at your calendar or you're like I don't know if that's really what I want to do . So you want to come out and say I'll try , because I do want to spend time with you , but I don't know that I want to spend time with you at that point in time .

Speaker 1 1:09

The minute you say it , you're like I'm giving myself an out here . The minute you say I'll try to make it , what you're really saying is I don't really want to go If it works into my schedule .

Speaker 2 1:24

I may show up If there's absolutely nothing else that I can fill my time with at that point .

Speaker 1 1:30

Right , that's exactly what you're saying . And when we become consciously aware of the language we are using , it's almost becoming a master of ourselves . Yes , I know that Joe Dispenza said it's almost like treating ourselves like a wild horse If we become that master that sits on the horse and says no , no , no , no .

Speaker 2 1:59

This is where we're going . This is what we're doing .

Speaker 1 2:01

This is where we're going . This is exactly what we're doing , and I don't care if you buck and I don't care if you nay and try to go your own rogue path . You can go your own way . Thank you , Jason . This is what we're doing .

Speaker 2 2:21

Yep .

Speaker 1 2:22

And when we become consciously aware of the language we are using , because the language tells our brain what the permission parameters are .

Speaker 2 2:37

Oh , permission parameters , that's huge and we talked the other day about is it ? Do you have the commitment or are you looking for the convenience ? And we're going to lean into that convenience whenever it's available . But if we have the permission parameters set up , then we eliminate .

Speaker 1 2:56

When it's non-negotiable . Non-negotiable , this is a commitment . I got chills . This is what I'm doing , and Jason actually called me out on this just yesterday . I know that if you listen to our podcast , you know that I've been in the stretch zone Myself .

Speaker 2 3:17

The stretch zone is . If you haven't listened to episodes before this . The stretch zone is anywhere outside of your comfort zone .

Speaker 1 3:24

And for me , my stretch zone as of late has been in the financial territory . I have been looking at investment properties and I have been stretching myself to really take responsibility of my financial freedom and I have been looking into investing in different sorts of Real estate .

Speaker 1 3:49

All sorts of real estate and cryptocurrencies and different markets Tech . I've just been in educating myself and learning . We have been looking at some different real estate properties . I literally left a property that I loved yesterday and it was exactly everything that I was looking for in the exact location and I thought this is perfect , perfect . All the bells were going ding , ding , ding , ding , ding . The only caveat is I was thinking it's a little high in the price range . I'm not sure the banks are going to give me the loan . And I , in my head , I was thinking , eh , you know , we'll try , we'll try .

Speaker 2 4:45

You start building the evidence and building out the convenience factor to escape .

Speaker 1 4:51

Because I didn't want to face rejection . I didn't want to face rejection and Jason actually caught me and he said what do you mean ? Try . This is going to happen . We just have to get creative and ask the questions how are we going to make this happen ?

Speaker 2 5:07

Yeah , and it's just a learning . So we know that we're in this new process and if we start building these convenience factors to allow ourselves out , then we eliminate those doors of learning opportunity as well .

Speaker 1 5:24

I literally didn't want to get my feelings hurt by meeting with a lender or a financial advisor or any sort of . I mean , you put money in the sentence and all of a sudden I turn into a little turtle and go inside my shell and I don't know why I do that .

Speaker 2 5:44

Well , so immediately , what popped into my head right now is Thomas Edison and his light bulb . It's like he's going to try to create this light bulb . No , he committed to it .

Speaker 2 5:56

So , 10,000 ways . That doesn't work . He learned . And then he got the light bulb KFC . They turned down Kentucky Fried Chicken for those of you that aren't aware of KFC but the banks and people turned down that recipe and that franchise opportunity hundreds of times until someone said you know what I like the taste of this . I'm going to loan you the money . Go ahead and start up your , your fried chicken establishment . And it became a huge success .

Speaker 1 6:25

And it's just my ego . It's just my ego that's sitting here on my shoulder saying I don't want somebody behind a desk to say , well , jemma , you don't make enough money in order to invest in this property and I don't want to leave there going , oh , I'm not worthy , I'm not good enough , I didn't . I didn't fit all the criteria .

Speaker 2 6:51

I should just go get under my heating blanket and lay on the couch for a week and feel sorry for myself because someone else has their permission parameters set up and they and their permission parameters are set up on the average or statistical , just commonality and they're not allowing themselves to be creative and their selves to grow .

Speaker 1 7:14

Now , when I make this a commitment and say this is happening , this is happening yes and I'm going to meet with a financial lender and I'm going to listen to whatever they tell me . And it's not failure , whatever they say , it's only feedback . It's only feedback . And whatever they say to me , that gives me the information , the data , to either pivot . And there's so many ways to raise money to invest in a property . I can find partners , I can . I can look for other lenders .

Speaker 2 7:59

I can money's just energy .

Speaker 1 8:01

So there's a way to create energy .

Speaker 2 8:03

There's a way to create cash flow , way to create money . So , and then there's just the creativity in that .

Speaker 1 8:12

And I just was so grateful that you pointed out to me that I said , oh , I'm going to try . Like I literally left the place and the guy said , well , I hope to see you back , because Monday was a very important point in the transaction . He says I hope to see you back on Monday and I said , well , I'll try . And then Jason was like what do you mean try ? This is happening . This is not a convenience project we're working on . This is a commitment . You said that you wanted your first investment property by the end of the year . Well , the clock is ticking , honey . The clock is ticking . Let's stick to those goals and let's commit . It's not convenience . Our goals , our dreams are not out of convenience , and that's the problem is that so many times we put our dreams in the convenience category and the minute that we do that , we give ourselves just a little avenue of the chicken exit .

Speaker 2 9:22

Yeah , and this is way beyond just a financial investment into real estate or that growth , that stretch zone , into financial freedom . It goes back to relationships , like when you get married and you say I'm going to , I'm committing to this , and you start exploring how can we make this work ? How do we maintain this integrity and structure of this bridge between us , instead of trying to knock it down and demolish it ? Because if our needs aren't being met , it's because we're feeling needy , it's because our needs aren't being met and it's because we're allowing ourselves or we're ignoring the permission parameters and we're allowing ourselves these convenient outs along the way . And that's the saying I'll try to commit to you at the altar , I'll try to commit to you in this relationship , instead of saying we don't try .

Speaker 1 10:20

We either do or we don't . Yoda was right , he was spot on on this .

Speaker 2 10:25

That's why he's Yoda . I'm not your Yoda .

Speaker 1 10:30

We don't try . We either do or we don't Life . Our dreams are not out of convenience . Either we want them or we don't , and I think sometimes that's a hard truth . But if you , if you haven't made your dream happen , or if you're not pursuing it , that's up to you . That is your choice , correct ?

Speaker 2 10:55

Yeah , that's , that's why I'm , I'm , I linked in and on a lot of things I put chase your dream , like the quality of her , like to pins on it , because when you get to the end , when you get to the , the 11th hour , you start thinking , wow , I could have been a contender , I could have done this , but you didn't . You tried instead of committed .

Speaker 1 11:15

I mean , it comes down . Do you want it ? Do you really want it ? You ?

Speaker 2 11:20

didn't put up your permission parameters . I love that . That permission parameters is something that I'm going to just hang on to , because I absolutely love it . And that just came out I know your gene well , I know you're a genius , but that was God speaking .

Speaker 1 11:35

God was speaking through me and he said perishing permission , perishing permission parameters , but it's it's it's meaningful and it's impactful .

Speaker 2 11:44

So if you can just set your permission parameters , it allows you to kind of put the dam up on your convenience causeways .

Speaker 1 11:55

Oh , my gosh , now God was just speaking through , jason . Thank you . Thank you , god . Oh , I love it , I love it , I love it , and it really comes down to do you want it or don't ?

Speaker 2 12:08

you and if you're not getting the things that you want out of life , if you haven't been able to commit , send us an email and let us figure out how we can kind of lean into you and help you with that .

Speaker 1 12:18

It's not out of I could . Now I'm just I'm regurgitating the same information it's important . I am getting excited because I have I have some financial people I need to go meet with today . Did I ever think I would be excited to meet with financial people .

Speaker 2 12:38

We've just changed the energy . When you make the commitment , it changes the state and the way you feel about that .

Speaker 1 12:44

The turtle is coming out of the shell . Oh , hello , turtle head . Whoa , just call me Yoda . Have a great day , guys . Thank you so much for joining us . Keep living lucky . There is no try .

Speaker 2 12:59

There's only do .

Speaker 1 13:00

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