Stop Stalling, Start Achieving

Stop Kicking the Can Down the Road & Turn Regret into Rocket Fuel!

Feeling stuck in a cycle of procrastination and regret? You're not alone. But what if those nagging feelings are actually secret motivators in disguise?

In this episode of Chasing Dreams, Avoiding Regret, Jason & Jana Banana crack the code on transforming negativity into unstoppable momentum

Here's what you'll get:

• The Hidden Power of Discomfort: Discover how discomfort, like a built-in thermostat, can PUSH you towards your true purpose (Imagine finally ditching the gym intimidation and loving the post-workout high!)
• From Procrastinator to Progress-Maker: Learn to shift your perspective and see procrastination as a guidepost, not a roadblock (Stop feeling guilty and start getting curious about what you REALLY want!)
• Unmask Your Desires: We all know what we DON'T want, but what truly LIGHTS YOU UP? This episode will help you identify your deepest desires and set goals that make your soul sing. (Because chasing someone else's dream just leads to burnout.)
• Second Chances: Your Superpower: Life's full of them! Learn to embrace these opportunities for growth and rewrite your story. (Every day is a chance to start fresh!)
• Pain vs. Pleasure Paradox: We're wired to avoid discomfort, but sometimes it's the very thing that propels us forward. (Think about that time those tight pants became the motivation you needed for a wardrobe refresh!)

This episode is packed with actionable tips and inspiring stories to help you:

• Break free from self-doubt and limiting beliefs
• Stop the cycle of emotional avoidance
• Turn frustration into fuel for positive change
• Finally start living a life that lights you up from the inside out!

Ready to ditch the struggle and start living lucky? Press play and let's transform your mindset into a rocket shiptowards your dreams!

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Chasing Dreams, Avoiding Regret

Jana Shelfer 0:00

Are you ready to create a life you crave ? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start Living Lucky® . Good morning . I'm Jana and this is my husband, Jason, and we are Living Lucky® . You are too . Author . Nicholas Sparks once said don't think there are no second chances . Life always offers you a second chance . It's called tomorrow .

Jason Shelfer 0:32

Oh , I like it . That's a , but . I think that second chance is always like even the next moment , now , yes , it's because the happening happens in the now , it doesn't happen in the past . It doesn't happen in the past , it doesn't happen later . And so if we tried to do something or if we've been doing something and we want to make that change in the micro moment or any moment is the time , and that can be the second chance , that can be the do over , that can be the new start , and it's just having the awareness of saying all right , I want to make this change .

Jana Shelfer 1:09

When it's time to change .

Jason Shelfer 1:11

It's time to rearrange .

Jana Shelfer 1:16

I guess , what we're really talking about today is not having regret , not not tuning into that regret vibration .

Jason Shelfer 1:27

Yeah , and and are allowing it to continue to grow Like it's , I think .

Jana Shelfer 1:32

And you said something right before we hit record . You said you know what , Sometimes our soul is wanting us to experience the feeling of regret , because that is the motivation to get up and move toward our destiny , our soul's purpose .

Jason Shelfer 1:52

Yeah , I feel like even we just talked about procrastination a couple of days ago in the last podcast , and so our soul is going to let us do the things that we need to do , or the things we're going to do , to go through the spiritual curriculum that we're writing for ourselves . Correct , or that the universe is like we're co-creating .

Jana Shelfer 2:08

We are co-creating it .

Jason Shelfer 2:10

And even in that procrastination , we will allow that procrastination , or we'll go sit on the couch , we'll go lay in the bed , we'll go do something else and keep putting off until that our thermostat moves to the point of being so uncomfortable that you have to make that change . That is true , yeah , and there are the things that we do on a regular basis that we're comfortable with .

Jana Shelfer 2:32

You can avoid getting a job until , all of a sudden , you're hungry , and then it's that hunger that's actually a gift in your favor . Am I right ? Absolutely One hundred percent . And it's how we perceive that hunger . Are we going to look at that hunger and go oh my gosh , why is the world out to get me ?

Jason Shelfer 2:55

Why is this ?

Jana Shelfer 2:55

happening to me .

Jason Shelfer 2:57

Lend itself into learned helplessness . When someone is always enabling or always giving you things and saying , hey , don't worry , like you keep procrastinating . Do this Like ? One of the biggest things for me is ? I read something the other day Salary is basically the bait that companies give you to trick you out of or to keep you comfortable enough not to experience your dreams .

Jana Shelfer 3:22

It's complacency yeah .

Jason Shelfer 3:23

It literally is complacency .

Jana Shelfer 3:24

Yeah , it literally is complacency . It's like , okay , let's keep you comfortable enough to where you're not hungry , tony robbins , chase that dream tony robbins calls it the thermostat , and we all have a , a window . I mean , have you ever been in your house and it's 75 degrees , right ?

Jason Shelfer 3:45

I mean , well , 73 degrees is kind of like that's where we like it , that's our comfort level , that's our comfort level right , until we go to bed and then I'm like I can't sleep with 73 degrees . It has to be 71 degrees , yeah we've got to knock it down two degrees and I can feel the difference . And there's another part of that is you know when the power's out and it's summertime and how uncomfortable it is when the house gets up to like 80 degrees .

Jana Shelfer 4:11

Yeah . Then all of a sudden you're like okay , it's 80 degrees , I'm taking action .

Jason Shelfer 4:14

I got to get out of the house . I got to call the air conditioner guy .

Jana Shelfer 4:17

When it's 78 degrees , you think , oh well , maybe the power will come on , on its own Right .

Jason Shelfer 4:23

It maybe the power will come on on its own Right . It's a little uncomfortable . It'll start cooling off a little bit more .

Jana Shelfer 4:27

Yeah , but once it hits 80 , you've hit your threshold . It's your thermostat threshold that's so big To where you think I have to take action .

Jason Shelfer 4:36

Something has got to change right now , because I've got to crawl out of my skin .

Jana Shelfer 4:41

And believe it or not , we as humans . We tend to avoid pain or uncomfortableness , or More than we seek pleasure . More than we seek pleasure .

Jason Shelfer 4:56

It seems like so we can have this veil , or it's almost like a Halloween disguise that feels like I'm chasing pleasure , like I'm chasing pleasure and a lot of times that chasing of the pleasure . If we peel that back and actually dig deeper underneath it , it's really a move away from pain of something , yes , then towards that pleasure , because we're trying to hide something . And then we find ourselves , once we get to the goal of that pleasure that we thought we were seeking .

Jana Shelfer 5:26

I feel like we need to back up a little bit , because you're speaking on college level and we need to go back down to sixth grade level . So in human psychology , all of us , every single person , every single soul , every single human , we have a tendency to avoid pain and seek pleasure .

Jason Shelfer 5:51

Yeah .

Jana Shelfer 5:52

That is a rule , that is a psychology 101 .

Jason Shelfer 5:55

Those are kind of the movers yeah .

Jana Shelfer 6:02

Those are the movers saying . Is the mover really tends to be when the pain threshold gets to be too high , it's too much , it's too hot , it's too much , and we tend to do that more so than when we think about pleasure .

Jason Shelfer 6:23

Like ? Will I be so actively engaged in chasing the pleasure or building the life of my dreams , or am I going to wait , kind of , and be pushed from behind by the pain ?

Jana Shelfer 6:36

Here's a very , very simple example . I know that when Jason and I have done a marathon , which has been a handful of times in our life- or triathlon we know that when we cross the finish line , we have this dopamine that releases in our brains and it feels so good , especially after we have trained for six months and then we go do this challenge . It makes us feel on top of the world . Okay , so right now we're kind of an average physicality . We're average physicality .

Jason Shelfer 7:19

You speak for yourself . I'm above average . I've gained like three price , five or six pounds Stop .

Jana Shelfer 7:28

Okay . So right here , right now , I know that if we train for six months and then did a marathon or a triathlon , we're going to feel absolutely fan-freaking-tastic . We're going to have confidence , we're going to like the way we look . We're going to probably even take better care of our wardrobe and what we wear .

Jason Shelfer 7:48

Well , it bleeds out to everything .

Jana Shelfer 7:49

Yes , it bleeds out into every area of your life . However , I can also say you know what I really feel like some ice cream right now , and we can go have ice cream , or we can go have a hamburger and we can eat like that for I don't know , a couple weeks .

Jason Shelfer 8:07

Let's say six more weeks .

Jana Shelfer 8:09

Yeah , a couple weeks , a couple weeks and all of a sudden , our pants start getting tight .

Jason Shelfer 8:14

Hey , I resemble that .

Jana Shelfer 8:16

And once the pants start getting tight , once we start avoiding the mirror , once we start feeling lethargic .

Jason Shelfer 8:23

Pants are getting tight and you have two events coming up in the next month .

Jana Shelfer 8:26

Yes . So which is the greater motivator ? Is it the fact that I feel like crap and I want to feel at least presentable , or is it ?

Jason Shelfer 8:35

oh my gosh if I just started training , I could be in tip-top shit and it would bleed out into everything else in my life .

Jana Shelfer 8:44

And , for some reason , most humans , we sit where we're comfortable , until our pants get too tight .

Jason Shelfer 8:53

Yeah , and so the example that came to my mind was me working for this company for 18 years and the changing my thermostat and my pain threshold , to think , well , this is just how life is , like bringing it down , saying okay , this is how it is , these are how things are supposed to be , and thinking my pain tolerance is growing . So I stay in that complacency , in that comfort zone . And it was still avoiding the unknown and the bigger change .

Jason Shelfer 9:32

Yeah , and because when we almost like when we do the marathons , when I released myself of that , when I said no , my threshold has been met and I left , I said okay , I'm resigning , I'm , this is my new purpose in life and started making that change . I felt like I just run that marathon , Like it was even bigger and better because I'd gone through the spiritual curriculum of realizing everything that I didn't want and then also recognizing what I did want and was able to change into that new process of saying , okay , how do I move towards the things that really fulfill me and light me up in the world ?

Jana Shelfer 10:13

Okay , so that's . Another point that I want to bring up is that it is so much easier for humans to identify what we don't want .

Jason Shelfer 10:24

God right .

Jana Shelfer 10:26

It is so much easier , however , to sit down and say okay , what is it that I want ?

Jason Shelfer 10:31

And if you don't under , if that doesn't relate to you right now , wait until it's time for dinner and someone says what do you want for dinner ? And it's I don't care , yeah , You're like oh , you know what I don't really care , it doesn't matter .

Jana Shelfer 10:44

All right . Well then we're going to have .

Jason Shelfer 10:45

Chinese food . I don't want that .

Jana Shelfer 10:46

I'm like oh , I don't really want Chinese food .

Jason Shelfer 10:49

Oh , we're going to have McDonald's . I don't want that , yeah no , oh we're going to have Italian . I don't want that . So we know the things that we don't want . We haven't taken the time to identify what we do want , and once we do identify what we want .

Jana Shelfer 11:02

For example , during this podcast , I've realized I want the feeling of training for a marathon .

Discovering What You Really Want

Jason Shelfer 11:10

Awesome , that's the feeling .

Jana Shelfer 11:11

I want , I'm tired . I'm tired , I mean I'm looking at my patterns .

Jason Shelfer 11:15

I'm sick and tired of being tired .

Jana Shelfer 11:17

And I feel like I get in good enough shape so that my pants aren't tight , and then I kind of let it slide until my pants are tight again .

Jason Shelfer 11:27

You're elastic . Boogie , woogie , woogie . No , I'm not .

Jana Shelfer 11:30

That's right . Stop with that I love it . Interesting right . Where's your pain threshold ? And that is why we started this by talking about regret , and sometimes regret is actually a gift . It's a gift because it will help steer you to what it is you really want .

Jason Shelfer 11:52

Yeah , it'll make you start knocking on the doors , make you start asking . The question is what is it that I'm looking for so that I can move towards that instead of away from this ?

Jana Shelfer 12:00

I know what I don't want . What do I want ?

Jason Shelfer 12:03

Ask that question . I love it , and how lucky am I that I get to experience all these things right now ?

Jana Shelfer 12:08

Thanks for joining us .

Jason Shelfer 12:09

Keep Living Lucky® , bye-bye .

Jana Shelfer 12:12

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