Living Lucky® Podcast with Jason and Jana Banana

Your Energy Scripts Your Experience

• Jana and Jason Shelfer • Season 10 • Episode 12

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The Mirror Effect: How Your Energy Scripts Your Experience 🪞✨

Can a simple errand fuel your entire day? In this episode of the Living Lucky® Podcast, Jason and Jana Banana reveal the "Mirror Effect"—the truth that the world reflects the energy you project. We share how a dreaded, coffee-free morning at a medical lab was transformed by one authentic, unscripted interaction.

Break free from mindset traps and use your agency to design a reality you enjoy. Whether facing high-stress hurdles or routine tasks, learn the personal development tools to shift your frequency and invite better outcomes.

In this episode, you will learn to:

  • Stop Negative Forecasting: End the habit of using past "vile" experiences to predict today’s results.
  • Master the "Orange Squeeze": Understand why life’s pressure only reveals what you’ve rehearsed inside.
  • Apply the Teflon Reframe: Let negative micro-moments slide off before they ruin your day.

Mindset Nuggets for Daily Empowerment:

  • Appreciation is a Magnet: You don’t just receive good service; you invite it through your presence. (Believe in the people around you).
  • Authenticity Over Scripts: Humans smell a "scripted" smile. Real connection happens in raw, honest moments. (Believe in yourself).
  • The Door-Handle Reset: Use physical transitions to choose your mood before entering a new space. (Believe in your circumstances).
  • Stock Your Internal Well: Fill yourself with love and light so that when life "squeezes" you, the best version of you comes out. (Believe in a higher power).

Stop being a victim of your day. Hit play to reclaim your agency and start Living Lucky® today!

  • How does mood affect daily reality? Your internal state acts as a reality filter. Through the "Mirror Effect," the energy you project—defensive or appreciative—dictates how others treat you, effectively scripting your day.
  • What is the "Orange Squeeze" in self-help? Popularized by Wayne Dyer, it teaches that life’s pressure only reveals what you have stored inside. When "squeezed" by stress, you can ensure love comes out instead of anger by practicing daily gratitude habits.

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*Previously Recorded

Jana Shelfer:

Are you ready to create a life you crave? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start Living Lucky®. Good morning. I'm Jana. I'm Jason. And we are Living Lucky®.

Jason Shelfer:

You are too.

Jana Shelfer:

We're taking a moment to appreciate customer service.

Jason Shelfer:

Appreciate the people who are making us feel good when we're out having transactions, when we're out experiencing life.

Jana Shelfer:

Right? Because I feel like that gets overlooked. And the more that you appreciate, the more you will experience what you appreciate, correct?

Jason Shelfer:

I'm seeing it every day. I see it every day.

Jana Shelfer:

Jason had to go get get or give. Give. How do you even say that?

Jason Shelfer:

I bought other people's blood, but I had to go do lab work. So I had to.

Jana Shelfer:

He had to go give blood this morning.

Jason Shelfer:

And I thought it was gonna be vials of blood.

Jana Shelfer:

I mean, even the way we talk about this, oh, you have to go do this. It's good, there's gonna be vials.

Jason Shelfer:

I mean, even the word vile sounds even though it's not spelled the same, just the sound of it is vile.

Jana Shelfer:

That that has a connotation in our it rings to our brains, like, oh my god, this is this is a vile experience. This is gonna be dreadful. And also, you've been putting this off because you like having your coffee first thing in the morning.

Jason Shelfer:

Well, and the other part of that is the last time I did this, so I was also judging future experiences by my last experience.

Jana Shelfer:

Oh, I know, because last time I was in there until 11:30, and I was like, I am so hungry.

Jason Shelfer:

And the last, yeah, the last time I was, I sat in the waiting room for a long time. Now the person was wonderful, but she brings out this massive basket full of vials.

Jana Shelfer:

Donuts?

Jason Shelfer:

I wish that's all I wanted. You know, coffee and a donut would have been great on that example. Kind of like at the blood bus where they give you an orange, they give you something to drink. But they took probably 27 different vials with just constantly pulling blood out.

Jana Shelfer:

Yeah.

Jason Shelfer:

Because it was a it was one of those things. I was 50, 52, it was your degree, whatever.

Jana Shelfer:

It was your midlife exam.

Jason Shelfer:

And I was like, let's test it all. Or the doctor said, Let's test it all. I didn't know what that meant. I thought they could do a mass spectrometer or something like that and just do a small thing.

Jana Shelfer:

Even when you give 27 vials like that, though, the minute I go, what is my blood type? They're like, Oh, I don't know. We didn't test for that.

Jason Shelfer:

Isn't that crazy?

Jana Shelfer:

Uh I'm like, I gotta actually get the doctor to prescribe. To write the prescription for it.

Jason Shelfer:

Okay, so I think you're B positive.

Jana Shelfer:

There you go. Probably because that's just how I started I normally okay. So Jason went to give blood this morning, and where I want to go with this is that the person that checked him in was just so kind, so authentic.

Jason Shelfer:

Delightful.

Jana Shelfer:

And made you feel delightful. It made you so good. You had this little interaction.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, and I had I didn't have an appointment, so I had to wait, but I didn't mind waiting because I was like, oh, well, these people are here to help me. These people are here to just almost like cater to me, was what my subconscious thought was.

Jana Shelfer:

Okay, so they're here to help us. However, sometimes we are I mean, not I don't want to use the word we, but as a collective, our society is not necessarily they often discard help helpers, right?

Jason Shelfer:

And and overlook and and they're they take it for granted, or they they put these weird expectations on that you're not doing enough, you know.

Jana Shelfer:

Right. And where I want to go with this is Jason came home and said, I just had the best customer service, and it just made my day. And you did, you came home with a little pep in your step, and I feel that sometimes that sets the tone. Here's the other level to this is that I feel customer service is often a reflection of what's going on with ourselves internally.

Jason Shelfer:

So are you saying customer service, the customer service I receive is a reflection of what's going on with me internally?

Jana Shelfer:

Yes.

Jason Shelfer:

Okay.

Jana Shelfer:

Because with the way life works, we it there is a karm karma exchange almost. People can if you go up there and go, you know, you set the mood by the the way you check in. Are you with me on this?

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, and that and so the whole conversation kind of started out with, I'll be right with you. And that's that's where that was the start of that's what she said to me is I'll be right with you.

Jana Shelfer:

Okay, but a lot of people when they say I'll be right with you, they they unconsciously roll their eyes. Okay, yeah, I guess, I guess.

Jason Shelfer:

I don't want to interrupt you.

Jana Shelfer:

They kind of have a huppy, yeah, and that is perceived, whether or not we intentionally do that, right?

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, and I I literally I I remember the conversation because it was like it was kind of awkward for me.

Jana Shelfer:

Like it was all right, play it out.

Jason Shelfer:

So I said, take your time. I'm not even supposed to be here today. Which she kind of chuckled at, and she's like, Where are you supposed to be?

Jana Shelfer:

But you said it jokingly.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, I said it as a as a funny, like, I'm not even supposed to be here today. And she goes, Where are you supposed to be? I said, I said, Well, I would I was hoping I could be at home drinking my coffee, going through my morning routine, but I I want to be here because I had to put off a doctor's appointment because I didn't have this done already, like I was I he asked me to.

Speaker:

Yeah.

Jason Shelfer:

And she's like, Oh, you don't worry about that. We're gonna get you in. Well, you don't need an appointment today. We're busy, but we'll we'll fit you in as quickly as possible. And I was like, and she was just so friendly and authentic in it.

Jana Shelfer:

I love that.

Jason Shelfer:

Which I think we have a choice in how everything is a choice, we are making millions of choices every single day. The energy that we want to give to the world, and it needs to be the authentic. You mentioned that to me um, because I've had experiences where I feel like there's someone giving me great customer service, but I can feel that they are forcing it.

Speaker:

Like they are just like they've been trained to be the same way.

Jason Shelfer:

They've been trained this way, they've probably been been ha they probably just had a conversation with the manager in the back. He says, You tighten up, or she says, You tighten up, or we're sending you home for the night. My pleasure. And then they come out and they're it's one of these things where you feel like what is happening in the world.

Jana Shelfer:

It doesn't feel in alignment with who they are, it just feels like a script, words coming out of their mouth. Okay.

Jason Shelfer:

Because we're allowing something that's happened to us ripple out in a negative kind of fashion, right?

Jana Shelfer:

Yeah, but this rippled out in such a positive fashion in a positive fashion. And there's- Even I noticed it when he came home.

Jason Shelfer:

And there's there's I I imagine that there's times because I remember being in customer service where that one person comes in and they are like, I am not subscribing to your good mood, sir, to me, you know, like they don't say those words, but everything like they are so resistant to the help, to the the conversation.

Jana Shelfer:

That's because they become a product of how everyone treats them and their past experiences.

Jason Shelfer:

It could be but they took one experience and said, people suck.

Jana Shelfer:

Well, because okay, here's another little tip.

Jason Shelfer:

Like I did with the blood.

Jana Shelfer:

Our negative experiences dig a deeper impression into our brains than the positive ones do. We really need to train ourselves to expect the best. Yes.

Jason Shelfer:

And that's and that's hard to do when someone has just quote unquote metaphorically scratched you or punched you, you know.

Jana Shelfer:

And so along this same route, if you do have a customer experience that maybe isn't so positive, the sooner you can let go of that and forget it and not let it affect you. Almost be Teflon.

Jason Shelfer:

Like when you're opening your car door, yes, you should say, I'm I'm creating a new environment here. Like let go of that, let go of that feeling and get into the feeling that I want again, because if you carry that negativity onto the street and onto the road, all that, it will come out again.

Jana Shelfer:

You know what, Jason, you just uh you just said it in a way that I just had a little aha moment, and that is you are creating, we are creating, I am constantly creating, constantly creating my reality. Always, and that's a very empowering feeling.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, we have agency.

Jana Shelfer:

We do, we have agency in this, and we have more of a what am I looking for? More of a factor in our outcome than than sometimes what we give ourselves credit for.

Jason Shelfer:

Everything that we see in the world is a reflection of our internal self.

Jana Shelfer:

This morning I was listening to Wayne Dyer and he used the analogy, if you squeeze an orange, what are you gonna get?

Jason Shelfer:

And everyone's like, Why? Because that's what the orange is, that's what's inside it.

Jana Shelfer:

Is an orange, and when you squeeze it, you're gonna get the juice of what it is. And then he goes on to say it's the same with our personal lives when we are under pressure, when we are in any kind of squeeze in our daily lives.

Jason Shelfer:

Somebody punches us, cuts us, scratches, like metaphorically.

Jana Shelfer:

Whatever comes out of us is what we're made of, whether that is anger, resentment, jealousy, or it can be love, light, laughter.

Jason Shelfer:

Yes, which I think I think that love, light, and laughter are our our like our real core.

Jana Shelfer:

No, well, that's how God created us. Right. And then over the years we have become conditioned, we've become trained.

Jason Shelfer:

Well, it means we've taken these feelings and emotions and we said, This is this belongs to me.

Jana Shelfer:

Yes.

Jason Shelfer:

I'm gonna fight for it.

Jana Shelfer:

Like because it's comfortable.

Jason Shelfer:

Well, this is the whole thing.

Jana Shelfer:

It it becomes comfortable.

Jason Shelfer:

It becomes comfortable, it becomes the norm. It becomes habitual. So when I used to drive to work, and I had that hour drive to the office three times a week, right? Yeah, there would be times where the sunrise was coming up, it was beautiful, yeah. You know, and I had those moments, and then I would hit it.

Jana Shelfer:

Where the sun is like peeking into the window, and and you're like, oh, that kind of feels good.

Jason Shelfer:

And the colors were incredible. I mean, I had this drive that was so scenic, so beautiful, and no traffic because it was a brand new toll road.

Jana Shelfer:

Plus, you would get up super early to go up. You're like, I gotta be on the road.

Speaker:

Yeah.

Jason Shelfer:

And then I would hit the traffic of getting off the toll road. Yeah. And then I would start getting grumpy. I want to use grumpy, and that's very angst is probably the best. It's um uh apprehensive. All the all these negative emotions start coming in because I lose a little bit of control, I lose a little bit of my flow. And then regardless of what's happening around, I uh before I opened the office door, I would change my mood. You know, I would say, okay, I'm gonna leave all that behind me.

Jana Shelfer:

Yeah.

Jason Shelfer:

And that's why I think I excelled so much at what I did, even though I didn't love what I was doing.

Speaker:

Yeah.

Jason Shelfer:

Which is crazy. Um, but I didn't have all this awareness back then. So looking back, it's very easy to pick it out and see we have the choice to decide how to our energy, how to react, how to be proactive, process our feeling, yeah, and and create the experience of life that we really want. Like the create the physical things, create the experience, create the feelings, all these things in life. We we have 100% agency over.

Jana Shelfer:

I want to add one last tidbit. The fact that you have taken note of the customer experience and what a great environment that was for you this morning, I guarantee you're going to create more of it because the universe says whatever you pay attention to, you get more of.

Jason Shelfer:

You get more. Thank you more.

Speaker:

Thank you more, please. Have a great day.

Jason Shelfer:

Keep Living Lucky®.

Speaker:

Bye bye. If the idea of Living Lucky® appeals to you, visit us at LivingLucky.com

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