The Pathway To Your Results

What's Your Why?

• Derick Grant • Season 6 • Episode 235

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We explore why discipline often gets blamed for a deeper issue: a weak why. Through a training story, hard-won lessons, and a mountain climb, we show how an intrinsic why turns pain into transformation and goals into mirrors for growth.

• setting the frame: moving from how and why to optimization and repeatability
• the workout lesson: clarity, standards, and accountability
• intrinsic versus extrinsic motivation and why the inside must lead
• self-awareness as the ultimate fuel source
• aligning goals with the heart and soul’s unique purpose
• reframing challenges as information for transformation
• identity over outcomes: becoming the person who can
• borrowing energy when you forget your why
• honoring past and future selves as commitment
• practical guidance to make your why unmeasurable


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Once you see what you actually are, that you're an infinite, limitless being, you'll see that nothing exists outside of you. I'm your host, Derek Grant, and this is the Pathway to Your Results Podcast.

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Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Pathway to Results Podcast. It is your brethren, your boy, DG. We're here. Um this is this episode. First of all, this these next couple episodes, um, I'll tell you more about it probably in a following episode, but like, I'm really back on my like, I'm trying to figure out how things work. I guess it's maybe the Sagittarius in me coming back alive. I don't know. Sagittarius season just ended. Uh I just I want to figure out how, I want to know why. And before it was, when I went through this awakening, it was I want to know how and why, what is the structure and the order of this universe? Like, I'm trying to figure out all levels. Now I'm trying to figure out how is it that we optimize this thing, this experience that we're calling life. And then how do we how do we repeat it? Because I don't like doing stuff, and I'm like, well, how did I do that? What was that? So anyway, these next couple episodes, we're gonna break that down. But today, let's talk about this thing that we refer to as our why. Our why. W H Y. See, because here's what I'm learning. And I actually it's funny, I always tell share stories. My son, one day, he's gonna grow up and be like, Why are you telling everything about me? Why are you always talking about He's gonna say one day he's gonna listen to it, maybe. Maybe he probably actually won't listen to it because he heard it all the whole childhood growing up anyway. He we were talking and he was actually working out. He was in the basement, he was working out, and he knows what it is. Look, we got a 30-minute workout. All I ask is just give what you got, that's it, and you're gonna know. I know when you ain't giving what you got. And if you ain't giving what you got, I gotta go ahead and give it to you. Okay, so he's working out, and I can tell. And I told him, I said, right now the big thing is you're you're in puberty, you're getting, you know, the hormone of testosterone is starting to come in. So let's start to maximize your strength. So I put like a little foam thing under his chest, and I said, okay, we're gonna do push-ups. Now, normally when he does push-ups, he does four sets of 20. This time, I put the cushion, the foam underneath, and he had to touch the foam. He had to touch the foam. So now there is no, did you go down far enough? No, when you touch it, that will be one. On top of that, instead of doing 20, we have to do 25. Now, he's doing five more. Grand scheme of things. I'm sure to a 13-year-old, five more is a lot. Grand scheme of things, it wasn't like I asked him to do 20 more, right? So I told him, I said beforehand, I said, the reason why we're doing more is because, and the reason why we're doing the level of detail is because we're really trying to optimize and maximize you getting stronger. Out one in one ear, out the other, right? He got down and he did eight reps. One, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight. And he took a break. And he took a break and he stopped because I had only counted the five. And he said, I just did eight. I said, No, you didn't. You did five. I told you it was only one when you touched the phone. I made it simple. That's just the rules. I'm just telling you what it is. And I looked at him, I said, please understand, I'm not doing this to be mean. This is just the framework that's needed for you to get stronger. Okay. So I already knew what he was. He's a Leo, by the way. So you know all my Leo's out there. Stubborn in the mouth. Hey, just stubborn. He's the only really Leo that I really know when I tell you he, boy, bullheaded like a musk. So anyway, I already know what I know what kind of day it's going to be, right? So we're working out. Now, one thing I have to add into this is that Carly was also down there riding the Peloton. Okay. So now that throws a little layer into it for all my um fathers out there, because you know mama's little boy, mama bear gonna protect a little bit. So now I got two of them that I gotta deal with. Thankfully, she had her headphones on, noise cancelings, but she couldn't hear anything, but she could feel the energy. Okay. So now you get the visual right now. So I'm sitting here, I'm telling him, I'm like, look, I'm not gonna argue with you today. Here's just what it is. I'm trying to be diplomatic. This is all it is, okay? So anyway, I already knew he was on one. He didn't want to do it. Boom. Had to just kind of just, you know, just let him know, hey, this won't work, can't do this, right? So anyway, finish the workout. So I sit down and I talked to him. I go, why are you doing all of this? He's like, I don't know. I said, Well, there's half the bat, half the half, that's half the issue right there. How many times did somebody have you do something or you had to do something? Let's just say it could be at work, it could have been with your parents, and you were like, why am I doing this? It's so stupid. I did this for 13 years of my life. You know what I called it? School. I'm just kidding, y'all. I shouldn't say that. What was the point? That's what I'm saying now, 43. But anyway, I told him, I said, if you don't know your why, if you don't know why you're doing something, you will inevitably set yourself up for failure when things get uncomfortable. When it gets real, when it gets tough, when it gets challenging, you're not gonna know how to push through it because you don't have a fuel source to push you through. Go ahead, let's go and close them, uh, deacons, ushers. Can y'all go ahead and close them doors now? I'm gonna just go ahead and tell y'all this. Some of y'all right now, listen to this, you don't have a problem with discipline. You don't have a problem with discipline at all. You know what your issue is? You ain't got a strong enough why. You put your why outside of you, and that ain't strong enough. If your why is outside of you, it ain't strong enough. And here's why, no pun intended. The reason why is because this universe, life, God, the source, the creator, Allah, Brahman, the absolute, the all, I don't care what you want to call it. There's no way that it emanated and created itself through you and then would have you living outside of yourself. Why would it do that? Why in the world would it say, well, once I get this money, because that was your motivation, once I get this money, then I'll be happy. So now you're using the money as the motivation for you to be happy to reach uh levels that you've never been to. But what happens? You get the money, and then guess what? Then guess what? You still feel the same way you did before you got it. Then now you realize it wasn't the money. Oh, when I get in a relationship, then I'll be happy. And that was your motivation. See how we keep putting it on the outside? Life doesn't want you to live outside of yourself. So I started to realize if you have a small why, every obstacle along your journey is gonna feel massive. It's going to be huge. And here's what else I've learned. When you have a weak why, you're gonna have some strong excuses. I had a coach he used to tell me, he'd be like, Why are y'all why y'all late for practice? Why we'd be like, but coach, uh, he looked at me one day and said, Judge, you got more excuses than a pregnant nun. Well, well, Mother Mary, how'd you get pregnant? Well, uh, see, what had happened was, uh, you know you weren't supposed to be pregnant, Mother Mary. You know that. What you was doing? So he was saying this, but my point of this is every time that we make an excuse, that means your why is too weak. And I'm gonna teach you really today of how we develop a why. First thing, your why must be intrinsic. Intrinsic. It cannot be outside of you, it cannot be extrinsic. See, in means internal, it's inside of you, it's inherent. Science cannot quantify it. Why do you love your spouse? Don't you say for the money. Please don't say that. Please don't say it's for their looks. My mom used to tell me, she said, Don't you marry somebody for their looks because one day they're gonna be old and wrinkled up, and then what you gonna do? Hmm? Don't you marry somebody because they look nice, because then what happens if they get in an accident, they get all mangled up, and then that that that that appearance isn't there anymore? You better you better love somebody and marry somebody for something that science can't put their finger on. Do we see how this works? So anytime that you chase something physically, you better make sure that your why is something that cannot be measured. So I asked my son, I said, What's what's your goal? He said, I want to play in the NBA one day. I said, why? Why? And he couldn't answer it. I said, that's a good start. That's a good start. Let me ask you this. Why do you love your partner? Carly asked me that one day. She said, Why do you love me? I said, Hold on now, what you doing? Let me make sure there wasn't no cameras around. I felt like I was on Aston Kutcher punked or something. Let me look around here. She ain't got no hidden cameras. You gonna put me on Tok-Tick or TikTok, whatever it's called, TikTok. You're gonna do something, have me out here. Derek Dunley. And I sat there, I said, I I mean, I don't know if I have reasons. There's not a reason why I love you. I just do. I just do. I can't. And I really sat and thought about it. I said, I can't come up with a reason. There's no reason. It's just, it's just, it just is. It's just, I can't, I can't imagine myself not, you see. So I asked my son, I said, what is it? Why? He said, I just I just want to play against the best. I said, if you want to play against the best, why don't you go down to YMCA? Why don't you go somewhere else? You can go find the best of the best anywhere. I said, What is it? I just looked at him, I said, son, whenever you have a goal, whenever you have a dream, always let your why be. I want to see who I have to become. I want to see what transformation must take place. I want to see how this situation, how I handle it, how it molds me. See, now, now it pertains to the inner part of you. And the reason why this is important is because the inner part of you is the only part of you that's gonna be with you your whole life. So now you have a sustainable fuel source. You hear what I'm saying right now? You have something now that is not uh uh contingent on situations, it's not contingent on circumstances, it's not contingent on time, it's not contingent on what had how much money you had. You have something now that will always be with you. So all of my motivations, yes, I wrote my goals down, but I know I need to make sure that I have the fuel source that's sustainable, and the only fuel source that's sustainable is inspiration. Inspiration, inspiration comes from the Latin word spray rare, which means breath. It comes from the same Latin root as spirit, which is eternal, all that is, the light that lights up all of mankind, the alpha and the omega, the thing that exists outside of space and time, the real you. So now, if this is my why, meaning I just want to see how much of myself I can see. And you see what we call that? We call that self-awareness. Good God Almighty, I don't think y'all hear the words that are coming out right now. Self-awareness. Self, we know another word for self, it's spirit. So I just do everything now to increase my self-awareness. That's it. That's all it is. This is my motivation. I want to climb that journey. Literally, I want to go climb that mountain because I want to see who I have to become. Because who I have to become in that process, that's actually going to increase my awareness of the self. And the awareness of the self is my awareness of spirit. The infinite part of me, do we see how this works? So here's what ends up happening. I see this happen so often. We go to do something, but it doesn't have enough meaning. It doesn't have enough meaning to us. The meaning, the thing that means the most should be you. You should mean the most in your life. So this is why it's super important. I have to make sure that uh uh whatever it is that I do, whatever the goal is, I gotta make sure that I do it from my heart center. I gotta make sure that it's aligned with my heart. See, what's aligned with my heart may not be aligned with your heart. See, yo, your soul, your soul. It had came with a completely different purpose, a completely different set of passions, a completely different, unique uh divine makeup. So you got your own passion. You better make sure you follow that heart because the heart already knew. I heard somebody say the other day, they said it was the oldest organ in your body. I said, I never thought about it like that. The oldest organ, good God Almighty, the oldest organ in your body was your heart. So therefore, what do we say with age? Wisdom comes with age. So that mother, that thing already knew it was none but a wise sage that knew all that it already needed to know. But see, we've tried to follow logic. See, logic is purpose. Intuition, soul-led uh uh uh uh goals are based in the heart. The heart. So that's why we talked about, you know, a couple weeks ago. Follow your heart, listen to your heart. So I told my son, I said, You remember when I took you on that five-mile run? You guys remember that when I y'all remember that episode. If you don't, I suggest you go back and listen to it. I said, you know why I did that? I said, he goes, Yeah, so I can like do something hard. I said, no. That was part of it. But the only reason why I wanted you to do something hard, because I knew the amount of transformation that was gonna take place. Think about it, we ran for almost an hour. Think about how tired you were and how hard it was. At one point, you even said to me, Dad, I'm dying. I said, Well, we all are dying. The day you was born was the day you was on your way out. So you're not lying, but you ain't gonna die, you're gonna be all right. I said, Do you remember how you felt for days and weeks after that? He goes, I felt like I could do anything. I said, Yes. Do you see why, though? Do you see why? Because you transformed. You did something that was difficult, you did something that was challenging. And here's the part, and I said, I said, look, I apologize, man. You didn't, your only why was because daddy was telling you to do it. You didn't really have an intrinsic why, but you were barring my energy. But I said, You're 13 years old now. You can start to have your own goals now. You can start to have your own dreams. I said, I wish I would have known this when I was your age. I didn't start to have dreams and goals probably until I was like 16. And by then it wasn't too late, but it was kind of too late. I said, you can start to have your own goals and your dreams. And just make sure that whatever you do, the why is always inside of you. You can use the outside to measure it. Sure. Let the money, let the let the fame, let all that stuff be a measuring stick, but don't let that be the fuel source. And now here's what's gonna happen. When you re uh meet obstacles and adversity and struggle and all these things, you're gonna be able to push through it. You're gonna be able to continue on. See, that's what people don't realize. The reason why a lot of us, especially this younger generation, don't even get me started right now on this. We struggle with being resilient because we don't have a strong enough why. See, when you get on your journey and you start climbing up that mountain of life and you walk working towards that goal, you're gonna get distracted. Things are gonna come up. You're gonna look at the bills, you're gonna think about how far you have to go, you're not gonna recognize how far you've been. And here's what's gonna happen. You're gonna grow emotionally fatigued, you're gonna get weak, you're gonna get tired. At this moment, it is important for you to remember why. If you gotta be, I even tell people, it's okay for you to do things for your family, but then what are you gonna do if your family ain't there? Then what's gonna happen? Do it for your family as the measuring stick. Do it so when when you accomplish it, when you get there, they're gonna be so proud of you. But please do it for yourself. Do it for yourself because yourself is what will always be with you. See, now you have an intrinsic motivation. And here's what happens, what I what I what I've learned. If you lack the why, you're gonna be less resilient. You're gonna be less consistent, you're gonna be less disciplined. You're not gonna be able to really handle failure. You're gonna usually quit instead of adapt. So your why will be everything. Everything. Now I want you to think about what your goal is for 2026. We're still kind of new, if you're listening to this. Pretty relatively, we're still within January. Why, why? Why? Why do you want to accomplish that? For what? Why? What's your why? Really ask yourself that question and be honest. That's what we call accountability. Accountability is the ability to account for yourself, aka be honest with yourself. And there's nothing wrong if it's an extrinsic thing. Because that's a start. But let's see if we can move that back inward. Get it back on in there. So I know for me personally, I didn't realize that I was doing this in my life, but I've always I like I like doing hard things. I always have. I love to do hard stuff. I've always been that way. Probably because my parents maybe do hard stuff growing up. So I just became just, I don't know, got etched in my DNA. I like to do challenging things. I love, I'm, I always tell Carl, I love a good challenge. I love me a good challenge. You know, you know, you know how rappers, you know how rappers have like their, the producers have their tagline, like uh you hear like uh if young metro don't trust you, like you hear that, or you hear like uh I forgot who the other people are, but they have their taglines. My tagline, if I was a producer, was would be I love a good challenge. That's it. When you hear that, you know DG is on the beat. I love a good challenge. So I will purposely put myself in situations to be challenged. Why? Why though? Because I know with a challenge, it's packed with new information. Good God Almighty. I don't think y'all hear nothing I'm saying right now. Every time you have a challenge in your life, the challenge is just information that you haven't yet digested. I don't think you hear what I'm saying. So now here you are. Think about it like this: you in the school of this life, this universe. You're in school, and here you are, a new situation comes and you haven't learned yet. So this situation, this challenge, actually has the lesson inside of it, has the information. And here's what we do know information is what produces transformation. See, you see how this works? So I know if I have something that's challenging, it's not actually challenging, it's just a treasure trove of information that I haven't figured out yet. And once I figure out this information, meaning I synthesize it, I break it down, I figure out what it's trying to teach me, I see what I need to do differently. Now, once I've extracted the data, we can start this process of transformation. And notice what I said process. It's not a it's not a definite point. That's what a lot of people think, I think sometimes. We think that it, oh, I transformed. You ain't Never transform. You are transforming. So we never actually grow up. We're growing up. You see how this works? You'll never be done. So now I know that. I got to make sure I have a sustainable why. You feel what I'm saying? I got to have a sustainable why because this is a game that won't never end. I'm never going to be done with this game. So I got to make sure I got a why that is so just uh uh uh uh uh uh uh infinite in its source of energy. This is what's gonna drive you forward. And then here's what happened: these goals, I ain't worried about these motherfucking goals. I ain't worried about these goals. Please, let me go, let me go ahead and apologize right now in advance. I am sorry if I ever made you think that the goal was what was important. I'm not chasing these goals, I'm chasing who it is I have to become to accomplish these goals because that's where the satisfaction comes from. That's where the fulfillment comes from. You see, here's what's gonna end up happening. You're gonna get the the the dollar bucks, the dollar bucks in your uh your account this year. You're gonna get you're gonna get the promotion. You're gonna get all those things, but that isn't what you're most proud of. You're proud of who you had to become to show up today. Because you remember yesterday when you were worried, how are you even gonna show up? You remember yesterday when you put that product out and man people bought it. Not one person bought that thing. When you put yourself out there and said, I'm gonna start a retreat, and nobody signed up for it. And then you showed up again the next season and you launched it, and you got two people to sign up. Those two people, you just jumped 200%. And it wasn't about those two people that signed up. It was who you had to be to show back up for yourself. Do you see how this works? So I want you to look back on your life. Look at all those times where you wanted to give up and you didn't. Now look and see why you did it. Why didn't I give it up? How come I didn't stop? Because my why was too much. I'm telling you all right now. If I start crying, I apologize in advance. I remember seven years ago now, seven years ago, when I was in the lowest of the low, wondering how am I gonna do this? I had to find a why. I had to find a why. I had to find a why that was so sustainable because I was so far down in the ditch. Matter of fact, I wasn't even in a ditch. I was down in the casket. They just ain't poured the dirt down on it yet. I wasn't done. They just hadn't poured the dirt, but I was sitting there six feet down. I'm like, how am I gonna do this? How am I gonna do this? And here's what I did. I made a commitment, a blood oath to myself. I don't know when I'm gonna leave this game, but we're gonna figure out who we are along this journey. And that was it. That was the motivation. That will be it until the game is over. I check out and I take the jersey off, I take the shoes off, and I say I'm done. We're just gonna figure out how much of ourselves we can see and know in this existence. Well, Derek, how will you know when you get there? I won't know. I'm getting there. Every day I try to learn myself just a little bit better. So that's why I go sit in the dark. That's why I go and climb a mountain. That's why I go and uh uh uh uh uh sit and do uh sit in ayahuasca and sit and throw my brains up and do all this. That's why. Because I want to know who I am. And I realize that every journey, every goal, every mission that I embark on is just an opportunity for me to better know myself. An opportunity for me to understand myself, you see. And now you start to see that everything was just a microcosm, just like a basketball game, a football game, a soccer match. It's a game. Each experience was a game. And just like that basketball game, playing against a different set of defense, a different jersey, you're trying to figure out who you really are against this defense. Who am I when this guy guards me? And here's what ends up happening when you start playing enough teams, you start seeing enough situation, you start learning the framework of how to extract the data, the information, now you start to see transformation. Girl, I could transform in three months, but it takes people 10 years. You hear what I'm saying? And now I want this thing on fast forward. And don't you let you, don't, don't let your motivation, sorry, don't let your why be inspirational. Don't let it now be that you're doing it from the place of, shoot, I'm just trying to do everything from alignment. That's all I'm trying to do in this season of life. And now here's what ends up happening. You over here uh uh pulling from the well of inspiration. You over here got a why that's sustainable. You know what's gonna end up happening? Your behind is gonna start to be inspirational. You're gonna start to be the beacon of light. Everybody's gonna start looking at you and commenting, like, damn, how come everybody wishing me happy birthday on my happy birthday post? Girl, do you not know? They was just looking for a reason to give some of this light back to you. That's all it was. That's all it was. They've been waiting all year, but they didn't have the courage to go ahead and say, girl, I see you and I support you. I know your post right now is a little different than what you was doing a year ago, but I just want to let you know I support you, but I'm a little scared myself because I don't want my family to be thinking anything crazy about me. So I'll wait till it's safe to say happy birthday to you. But I'm gonna go ahead and put a little bit of energy into it and say, girl, you mean so much to me and this world's a better place because of you. Damn, all you had to say was happy birthday. Nah, I had to go ahead and pay you back for all the inspiration you gave me while I was watching from the background. You see how this works. Do you see? So for everybody here, be your own inspiration, be your own why, be your own reason. Because here's what I'm gonna tell you this, okay? There's a lot of people who are watching you. And they don't live in your house. And they're not your family. And you best believe you may not be in their bedroom or at their coffee table or at their dinner table, but they talking about you. And they're talking about you and all the positivity that you bring to this world. And they're talking about you because the impact that you give them. They're talking about you because of that conversation that you had that was no big deal to you, but goodness gracious, that gave them the fuel that they needed to go and start that business. That gave them the fuel to speak up in that relationship and get out of it, knowing good and well they should have left ten years ago. My point of this is if you knew how much you mattered, truly, you wouldn't need a why outside of yourself. So, this is the way I think of life now. I owe it to myself to do it for myself. I owe it to me. I owe it to me for all those past versions that had to carry all that stuff that they walked with, all those past versions of me that lived in survival, that wondered if it was gonna be enough, those past versions of me who questioned whether or not life is even worth living, motherfucker. I owe it to you. The fact that I'm here right now, I'm doing this for you right now. You hear what I'm saying? Do you see how this works? And here's what we have to understand. You are the future version right now where you are to those lonely, distout, I'm making words up. I don't even know if distout is a word, but you get what I'm saying. Those versions of you who wondered what it could do or who it could become to get to where you at right now, the future version is the same thing in your life right now. It's the same thing. So let this be your why. I ain't gonna quit. I ain't gonna give up on me. You know why? Because the past versions didn't give up on me for me to be where I'm at right now. So I damn sure ain't gonna do it for the one who's who's coming. That's why I'm not giving up. That's why I'm not stopping. Yes, it's hard. Yes, it's challenging. But you know what? I love a good challenge. You know what it is. Worst thing is gonna happen is we're gonna transform. And now, here's the deal. When you make transformation, your obligation, it ain't nothing but ascension. That's all it is. It ain't nothing but expansion. That's all we're talking about. We're talking about the game of expansion now. You will expand at rates like no one has ever seen. But please, please, please, please, remember your why. Remember, that's what we pull from when the days when it gets hard. I told you all when I climbed that mountain, had to climb the uh the Everston 29029 event. You know, I trained hard for it, trained as hard as I could. Ain't no hills, ain't no mountains of Indiana. Ain't no mountains in India. Matter of fact, me and my son were driving up to Fort Wayne for an AAU tournament. They had a billboard and said the majestic mountains of Indiana. I said, they lying like a moon, he take that thing. There ain't no majestic mountains in Indiana. There's hills. There's hills, but ain't no mountains. So when I was training for that, there was a hill not too far from where I live that I would go and train on. And I'd just run up and down, I get a weight vest, run up and down that. I do lunges in the backyard, try not to step in my dog's poop, but I'd do that. And then when I got on the mountain, I was cool. I mean, you've heard this story. I was ready, I was good. And then I got so fatigued and so tired. I couldn't remember my why. I couldn't remember my why, and I never will forget this as long as I live. God bless her heart. Sweet, sweet Carly Sue. I called her up crying. I said, I can't do this. I can't do this. I can't do this. She said, listen, you will regret more giving up than you will trying and falling short. She said, Don't give up on yourself. Don't give up on don't do that. Don't give up on yourself. I got a snot rolling down my face, tears. I'm Yeah, you're right. Yeah, you're right. You're right. I don't give up on myself. She let me borrow her energy for a little bit. She let me borrow her uh ener uh her why. I said, yeah, that was the why. That was why we did this. We just want to see who we become. I say, I forgot. Because the body got tired, the mind got weak. This is what your why does. And here's the deal, you ready? I finished it. I did it. And I didn't do it stumbling across. I did it with more energy than I had before when I started. Why? Because you remembered your why. So for everybody here, all my entrepreneurs, all my go-getters, all my athletes, all my human beings out here that's chasing, chasing the next best version of themselves. Don't forget why you're doing it. You can have a reason, you know, I'm doing it for my kid, I'm doing it for my family, I'm doing it, that's cool, that works. But even that isn't sustainable. Because those two things, those, those things are outside of you too. And remember, this universe did not create you to be live outside of yourself. Find your why. And let the why be something that cannot be measured. You can't you can't measure. Well, I'll know when I know you. No, you won't know. You won't know. That's how I know this is the right why. And then guess what? We're gonna see each other at the top of the mountain. I'm gonna see you at the top. We're gonna do a little dance, a little shindig. I might do a little two-step, you know what I mean? Just bow my shoulders back and forth a little bit, you know what I mean? But we're gonna see each other there. And then we'll look back at each other and we'll say, This is why we did it. This is why. What was your why? Shoot, your why was the same as my wife. I know, yeah. Don't forget. You have a you have a mission, you have a purpose, you have your passions. They're uniquely yours. But make the commitment to yourself this year that I'm gonna figure out who I am, I'm gonna figure out why I am. I wanna know why I did this. Why'd you do that? I don't know. Nah, that's unacceptable. Figure out why. Because now you learn yourself just a little bit better. When you learn yourself better, you know yourself better, you trust yourself a little bit more. Now when you trust yourself, you can start to actually dream. You can actually start to uh have goals that are quote unquote bigger than they've ever been because you trust yourself. I trust my fuel source. I know my fuel source, and I'm never in a hurry now. See, I ain't got that fuel source. Matter of fact, we'll just do another episode on it. We'll do a piggyback. I'm gonna go ahead and end this. I'm sorry you gotta wait till next week, but I'll go ahead and end this because I got another episode coming in. Cliffhanger, I know. But as always, you know, I wish you nothing but the best. The pathway to your results.