Microwave Vs. Crockpot Mentality

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Chapters

• 0:00 Opening And Host Setup
• 1:02 Coaching Roles And Working With Teens
• 3:16 The Microwave World Problem
• 4:26 The Birria Tacos Story Begins
• 6:45 Crockpot As Life Metaphor
• 9:45 Sustainability And Resilience
• 12:40 Stabilization And Emotional Regulation
• 16:30 Gestation, Growth, And Patience
• 20:18 Preparing For The Feast
• 22:41 Consistency Always Gets Honored
• 26:06 Losses As Training And Intentionality
• 29:05 Hold The Temperature: Don’t Over-Tweak
• 32:15 Process Over Product And Tease For Next Episode

Transcript

SPEAKER_01: 0:05

Once you see what you actually are, that you're an infinite, limitless being, you'll see that nothing exists outside of you. I'm your host, Derek Grant, and this is the Pathway to Your Results Podcast.

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Bro.

SPEAKER_03: 0:27

Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Pathway to Results Podcast. It is your boy DG. Um, this episode, goodness gracious, if you don't cook, I'll break down kind of what each one is. But if you don't know what each one is, uh, that's okay. I ain't gonna, that's all right. We just you just go Google it, go chat, whatever you chatted up, go ask, figure out what it is. But okay. All right. So I told you all a story, I told you all many times, um, that I'm coaching. Uh I'm gonna, I'm gonna so where my son goes to school, they have an A team, they have a B team. So think about like varsity and junior varsity. So I'm like the assistant coach on varsity, and I'm the I'm the head coach on junior varsity. Okay. So uh there's challenges with both, right? Um, you know, when you're a JV, I mean when you when you're assistant coach, you don't really get to infuse your DNA in into it like you really maybe want to. So you just kind of gotta like make sure you don't undermine the head coach, but you also gotta like, okay, trust even put your DNA into it. But when I'm in the when I'm the head coach of the B team, we can run it however I want, right? So I say this because um I've always uh, you know, I have kids, so like I've I've coached my son's teams, but even before my kids were old enough, I was training kids. Uh even before I started training kids, I was playing for the Globetrotter, so we were entertaining kids. So I was always around kids and seeing kind of the mentality that they have, right? So like now I'm at an age where I actually get to be around a bunch of 13-year-olds. Now, I don't really remember when I was eight, nine. I can remember the grade, but I don't really remember how I was. I remember when I was in junior high. I remember when I was 13 years old. And sometimes it's hilarious just being around a bunch of 13-year-olds. You know, 13-year-olds, you can't say nothing. Let me tell you something. You can't say anything because they're gonna say something like, yo, chill, don't say that. Pause. I'm like, you're gonna pause on, how are you gonna pause on everything? I told you all, I want some candy. Yo, pause. Yo, 13-year-olds are gonna be 13-year-olds. Anyway, but my point of this is I get to come down to the ground level to see how they perceive the world, but still remembering how I perceived the world when I was 13, but then now looking at it from this state of this elder statesman who's bald and gray, who's 43 years old. Okay. So now, like, I get the best of both worlds. I get the exuberance of the age, sorry, that the youth of the children, but then also I have the wisdom of the old man, right? And here's what I've learned. And I always do this, I reflect with everything that I do in my, it's it's like how it pertains to my life, okay? I'm learning. There's a dying breed. There's a dying generation. Here's what I mean by that. There's a dying generation of people, because this is just the age of technology, who don't really understand that greatness takes time. It takes time, it does not happen overnight. Now I know. You can get anything you want overnight. I can go on Amazon and order something, it'd be here. Matter of fact, the same day. It can be here within hours if they got it in the warehouse. I'm hungry. I want something to eat. Go door dash it. It'll be here in 20 minutes. What the you know what my mom used to say? You better get in that pantry and go make you a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. You better go and get that hot dog and throw it in the microwave. And I start to think about, I said, wait a minute. We have a generation that's growing up right now. And I don't want to sound like the old man, but I'm just trying to, I'm just telling you what I see. We got a generation right now that think the microwave is the way to go. The microwave is a way, and there is a time for a microwave, but it's not always going to be to create sustainability. So here's the story. You know I got a story for you. So a couple, a couple months ago, I like to cook because I told you all this. I like to cook because I can't draw. This is the way I creatively express myself. I do it through cooking, I do it through basketball, um, I do it through cutting my son's hair. I cut his hair, I'd be like, all right, I'm gonna cut it this way. He's like, Dad, but I don't want to cut it that way. I'm like, listen, I don't have hair. I wish I could. If I could, my hair, I'd probably have a jerry curl, but I can't do it. So I gotta live through you, son. I gotta do it through you. But anyway, this is how I creatively express myself. So a couple months back, you know, I've been going back and forth to Mexico quite a bit. I don't eat meat. I'm a vegetarian, but that doesn't mean I can't live through people who do eat meat. So, uh, what do they call? Burrilla tacos? Burrilla, you know the where you dip them? I never had a burrilla taco. That came later in my life when I had already given up eating meat. But when I look at a burrilla taco, I sometimes say, I want a burrilla taco. So because I can't I won't eat a burrilla taco, I can make burrilla tacos and I can watch other people eat it who I care about, and that's like me ingesting the burrilla tacos. So I make some burrilla tacos, right? Now, let me tell y'all something. I didn't go to like culinary school. I learned how to cook like how most black folks learn how to cook, okay? I sat in the kitchen, I watched my mother and my grandmother cook, and I'd sneak in there and taste it when they weren't looking, and then I took what I tasted and watched what they did, and then I would go and replicate it. And this is how I learn how to cook. So my point of this is I don't use recipes. I cook with my heart. That's a later podcast that I'll get to at some point. I cook with my heart. So anyway, I'm gonna start making this burrilla tacos. So I go to the grocery store, I'm like, okay, I think I got most of the ingredients. I just start grabbing any and everything that I think will make it taste like it. And here's the deal, I ain't never tasted. You ever had that? How are you gonna make something that you ain't never tasted before? And you don't have the recipe. So I went and got some uh Chipotle peppers and a jalapeno, and I got some uh some steak and I got some uh what else? I got some adobo seasoning. I'm buying everything. I'm in the international, I'm getting everything that I think is if it's if it's Latin, I'm getting it. Okay, because I'm gonna make these burillas. These are burilla tacos. So anyway, I know that if I'm gonna cook these tacos, I want that meat to be just tender. I want the meat to be tenderoni. I want it to just be when you pick it up, it just falls like a piece of like a piece of lint in your mouth. But I know I can't do that in the microwave. I'm gonna have to do this in the crock pot. I don't think y'all pick it up what I'm saying right now. I got this goal, I got this dream that I want to come to fruition, and I know it's gonna take time. Now we're gonna eat dinner around six o'clock. I wanna make sure that I'm there for the festivities so I can watch. I can't start cooking that meat at 3 o'clock. I need to start that month at 11 a.m. Because we're gonna slow cook that. We're gonna put this thing on slow and let it cook so slow. But by the time it's time to eat, it's gonna be tenderoni bony. You hear what I'm saying? So I went ahead and started it, threw it in there. Now, here's what I'm gonna tell you. I'm gonna tell you what I put in here. You don't have to follow this recipe, and I actually advise you not to, okay? Because remember, I'm cooking with my heart here, so I can't tell you. I don't want somebody to send me an email, send me a DM talking about when you made that borea, that wasn't how you did it. I know that's probably not the way that you do it. I'm telling you the way I did it. I put a little bit of olive oil in there, a little salt, a little pepper, a little onion powder, a little garlic powder, uh, jalapeno, chipotle peppers. I even put some, I call it W sauce. What's your sheshire was your sheshire sauce? I don't know how you say it. You know what I'm talking about. Put some of that in there, right? And I got some uh uh beef broth, put it in there. Oh, and I got some garlic cloves and I threw in there. Um, I also put a white onion in there. Okay, I think that's about it. Right? So I threw all this in here. I know you can smell it right now. Your mouth's probably salivating right now. But anyway, I went ahead and threw it in there. And then I let it, when I put it in, how many times does this happen? I put it in, and I'm like, how come this don't look like what I saw on TikTok? Hmm? How come this doesn't look like when I saw the Mexican street food vendor on TikTok in Guadalajara and it made me want to have one then? How come it doesn't look like that right now at the beginning? Do you see what I'm saying right now? Y'all stay with me. This ain't nothing but a metaphor of life. You start doing something that you know is gonna take a while because you you, there's a lot of versions of you who you have to become to get to this drink. And you start cooking it, you start working it, you start from the beginning, and it don't look like it's gonna happen. I went ahead and put it in there, put the put the lid on it, and it's the beauty about a crock pot. You ain't gotta come back and check on it, really. You know that crock pot is gonna do what it does when it does, like it does it. You see how this works? That's one thing about a crock pot. I only do it probably about two or three times a year, but when I pull that crock pot out, that crock pot, I call her old trusty. That's her nickname. Old trusty is the croc, because I know she's gonna do whatever it's supposed to be. I can put a piece of bone in there. That bone is gonna be as tender as that steak by the time it gets done. She's gonna do what she needs to do. See, I'm not, see, my mom, so my mom grew up in South Carolina. Mom, I know you're gonna listen to mom, I love you, you know that. My mom had one of the, this is this is for all my southern, my southern women out there who was in the kitchen. She had a pressure cooker. You know, the ones with the thing on the top, and when it when it's done, you hear it, and you gotta go and tap it. She had one of them. I haven't quite graduated to that yet. So we gotta, we gotta use the crock pot. So anyway, it's time to eat. And I'm telling Carly, like, here's what it is, blah, blah, blah, here's what it's gonna look like. She's like, Oh, I can't wait. So anyway, make the tacos, boom. They look just like they did on TikTok. I said, okay. So she sits there and eats. She bites into it. She goes, This may be the best thing that I've ever tasted in my life. Now you know me. What do you think I said? You think I said, Oh, thank you. Or you think I said, You forgot who you married. You must have forgot. You thought you married a chef Chef Emerald Lagasa. You thought you married uh uh Bobby Flay, but nah, this is DJ. This is DJ. See, you didn't know when you married me I could cook. You didn't know that. See, I held that out. Now, let's bring this into life now. We had enough fun here. How many times do we do this? Now, what if I had tried to cook those tacos in that and that cook that steak in a microwave?

SPEAKER_02: 11:18

I had never cooked a steak in a microwave before. I ain't never done that, but I can imagine what it would look like.

SPEAKER_03: 11:25

As my dad would say, that steak would be like a piece of rubber in your mouth. You'd be trying to bite into it look like a cow chewing some cud, just back and forth, just chewing and breaking it down. My point on this is there are times when we need the microwave, and there are times that we need the crockpot. I'm here to tell you, the crock pot yields sustainability. The crock pot mentality yields sustainability. The microwave is when we gotta get it done right now. I gotta get this heated up. I'm on the go. This isn't the big one. This is to get me through this right now. So one isn't necessarily better than the other. It's just that one is required for different circumstances. So ask yourself right now, which one do I have for my goals and my dreams? Do I have the the microwave mentality or do I have the crock pot mentality? So I started to assess and look at my life, and I started to realize I've always had a crock pot mentality. Now we're raising a family, though, we're raising children who live in a microwave world. They get anything when they want, how they want it. So now when you actually have to work for something, when you actually have to grind a little bit, you actually have to put, as my father would say, you have to put a little bit of elbow grease in it, you get burned out. Microwave mentality will burn you out. The crock pot will build you up. You see how this works? People don't realize sustainability creates durability. The crockpot mentality is what allows me to be so prepared when I get to the top of the mountain. Because here's what we don't want. You don't want to get to the top of the mountain and fall back off. You don't get to the top of the mountain and then you weren't really prepared to stay up there. So we start to realize consistency showing up every single day with no results. I kept going back to that crock pot and checking it. Why is this meat not getting tender? How come the water's not getting dark? Sorry, the broth. Why does it not look like it did? Chill, that's right. Just chill. Let old trusty do her job. Let the crock pot do what it does, like it does it for TV. Just relax. This is what the universe is saying to you. Girl, why are you so stressed right now? Why you keep checking these seeds that you've planted? Why you keep wondering if it's gonna work? Why don't you just go ahead and settle in, get yourself a drink, kick your feet up, do what you need to do, enjoy this journey because the meat's gonna be done. It's gonna get tenderized. You ain't gotta worry about that. Do we see how this works? We could use another analogy of planting a seed. When you plant a seed, it doesn't just grow as soon as you plant it. You gotta keep watering it. But this is what I'm seeing right now with this generation. When you have a microwave mentality, you're naturally gonna lack resilience. A microwave isn't even resilient or consistent enough to be able to cook a steak. It doesn't have the amount of energy that's needed that can be drawn out over a course of time. Good God Almighty. We've talked about this already. So when you start thinking about your motivation as a microwave and your inspiration as a crock pot, this is why we had to go for the fuel source that could be sustainable over a certain duration. Some of these goals y'all got in 2026, that ain't gonna happen overnight. Not that it's not possible. It isn't going to happen overnight because you ain't gonna transform overnight. So now I got a goal, I got a meal that I want to uh uh accomplish here in 2026. It may not come till 2028. You know why? Because it took me two years to get to the frequency of the version of me that would be able to have that. There were so many things in this universe that had to happen to create the transformation in myself so I could become the version who would be able to receive. This is what a lot of people don't realize about our goals. This is what a lot of people don't realize about our dreams. You got the goal, you got the dream, you got to become the version of you who would be able to catch the dream.

SPEAKER_02: 15:38

Let me go ahead and say this again, because I don't think y'all understand.

SPEAKER_03: 15:42

Before you get impatient, before you start getting mad at this and that, be honest with yourself. You know good and well right now, you're not in a place to be able to catch that big goal that you had anyway. Imagine me taking a big old medicine ball that weighs 30 pounds, and I throw it at you. You ain't done enough push-ups. You ain't done enough crunches. You ain't done enough pull-ups to be able to catch this 30-ball coming at 30-pound ball coming in at you like that. But just think now if you were prepared here two years later. You can't even wait for that ball to throw that motherfucker. I don't care how you meant for you, can be you can you can shoot it out a cannon. I don't care. I'm prepared. I'm prepared. Do you see them? Do you see the difference in the mentality? So now, when we start to understand the crock pot mentality, the crock pot mentality is not focused on the end result. The crock pot mentality is just focused on right now. Right now. Right now, right now. Yeah, but it don't shut up right now. Yeah, but it doesn't shut your right now. But what if it shut up right now? Just focus on right now. Now here's what ends up happening. We're gonna have this thing that we call stabilization. Stabilization. This is one of the things I'm trying to teach my team right now, these young kids. See, these kids have these cell phones in their hands right now, all the time. My son ain't got no cell phone. He had one took it away and say, now we ain't gonna do that. Kids, my kids, my kids might be both the only two kids in school that don't have cell phones. You know why? You don't have a cell phone because I've learned, I've seen, I've watched. Because you're so used to getting something instantly, whether it's a dopamine rush, whether it's a product, whatever it is, you don't have the ability to emotionally regulate yourself at the level that is needed. So now you you bypass. And now when stuff gets hard, you cry. You get upset. You can't stabilize yourself. And if you can't stabilize yourself, how are you gonna stabilize your habits? How you gonna stabilize your habits if you can't stabilize yourself? How are you gonna put yourself in a mental and emotional state to be confident if you can't stabilize yourself? So now we understand this. The crock pot is what allows you to learn how to start stabilizing yourself. It allows you to start seeing what works, what doesn't work. Do we see how this works? So the the the issue, I told you with the last episode, a lot of people don't struggle with discipline, they struggle with knowing their why. I'm seeing that a lot of people quit and they give up because they thought the microwave was gonna cook it. The microwave ain't gonna cook it. The microwave, the microwave doesn't even have the uh the watts to be able to, it doesn't have the amount of energy that's needed. Now, you'll go ahead and open up Instagram, you'll open up TikTok, what else is that? You open up chat snaps, whatever it's called, Snapchats, you'll open it up, you'll go ahead and open up and you'll look at somebody else's life, and they will make you think it was a microwave. Don't you let these don't you let them lie to you. Don't you let and if it looks like a microwave, that meat's gonna be chewy like a microwave, too. You better believe it. So here's here's something that I realized consistent sustainability is a skill set. It's a skill set. See, my parents both came from growing up on farms in the 1960s in rural South Carolina. My grandparents were sharecroppers. So they whole, they my my mom used to say, she's like, I was really good at sports, but I wasn't allowed to play sports. I had to go back home and pick cotton. I wasn't allowed to. I wasn't allowed to. My dad said, Dad, can I play, can I play uh tennis? He said, Yeah. Yeah, you can play. If you can go ahead and pick these bales of cotton and go to school. Oh, and I ain't giving you a ride either. So if you can do all that, then go ahead. She obviously couldn't do it. But the reason why I'm saying this, when you grow up on a farm, you start to understand naturally. Like things take time to grow. It doesn't happen over overnight. When you plant those peas, when you plant those the string beans, when you plant uh uh uh anything, it takes time. It takes sustainable energy, it takes consistency. You have to water it, you gotta make sure it gets a certain amount of sunlight. You gotta, there's all of these factors that take quote unquote time. The same would be true in anything that grows in this universe. So hear me when I say this. Good God Almighty. I know you ain't trying to hear nothing I'm about to say to you. Do you know not when you were created? This universe cooked you and prepared you in a crock pot. It did not put you in no microwave. It didn't say, let's hurry up and get this done and get this over with. No. This life says she's so beautiful. His soul is so tender. There's a process that has to take place and it's gonna take time. So we're gonna take our time with this one. We're gonna take our time with this one. We're gonna take our time with this one. You need to remind yourself of this sometimes. The universe is taking its time with you. It's not because that you can't do it or it won't happen. It's so when you do come out of that crock pot, everybody's gonna say, Oh my goodness, this is the best thing that I've ever seen. This is the best thing that I've ever had. This is the most, oh my gosh, this person has changed my life. So when you start to feel the heat going up ever subtly in your life, you got to remind yourself, we in the crock pot right now. And we know anything that comes out of crock pot, it ain't never gonna be burnt up. It's gonna be just as tender-bony as it should be. Nothing will be off about it. Do we see how this works? So for everybody here, that microwave success, them days, is done. I'd rather be sustainable than be quick. I now look, I remember I was coming out of college. I was like, man, I want to get here, I want to do this, I want to be playing here, I want to be making this money. Now I look back on, I'm like, man, I ain't in no hurry. I ain't in no hurry. We're gonna get there when we're gonna get there. Now, my kids don't like it. They don't like it when I take the scenic route. Dad, why are you driving so slow? Why are we going this way?

SPEAKER_02: 22:28

Because we're gonna enjoy all this right now. We're gonna enjoy this whole journey.

SPEAKER_03: 22:33

Do you not know this is the same thing that your soul's doing? And now here's what ends up happening. When you have resilience, because now you're not, you've turned off your clock, we ain't in no hurry no more. You have depth. You have depth to you. And that depth creates durability. So now no matter what comes, I'm good. I'm good. I'm fine. So now I'm not in a hurry to grow this business and get this thing. No, for what? For what? Because if I rush, if I rush that, I rush my transformation. And if I rush my transformation, my transformation won't actually be sustainable. And guess what? You're gonna be still in the same loop eight months later. Dang, she's still talking about that? How can she still talk about that breakup? You were in such a hurry to get over it.

SPEAKER_00: 23:20

Nah, don't be in a hurry.

SPEAKER_03: 23:22

Crockpot mentality. So everybody, now we all want fast results, fast results, fast results. Nah. Only the slow systems really create sustainability. That's the order of this universe. That's the reason why it took you nine months before you could ever come out your mother's womb. Huh? You weren't you weren't born the day that you were conceived. Do you see? And how come is it the larger the animal, the larger the gestation period? The larger the dream, the larger the gestation period. Do we not see the framework here? It's literally the same thing. Slow yourself down. Stop being in a hurry. Trust and know that if you provide the energy that's needed, you will get to where you want it to be. You will get there. Just like with everything else. I know it's dark and you don't see, you don't see what's going on underneath the ground, but guess what? That seed is doing its thing right now. This seed is doing its thing. Just keep on watering it. The shell's coming off. It's breaking out of the confinement. The same thing with you right now. I know you're in the dark right now. I know it feels heavy, it feels hard, but guess what? The shell's coming off. You just gotta keep watering it. Keep giving yourself positive thoughts. Start being aware. Why do I feel this way? Make sure you surround yourself with others that are growing as well.

SPEAKER_02: 24:51

And now, you can be patient. You can be patient. See, my wife asked me, she said, How long did you cook this in a crock pot for? I said, You know good and well I cook with my heart.

SPEAKER_03: 25:03

You know that. There was a timer on there, but I didn't put that, I didn't need to. There is no time. I cook my heart. See, my heart operates from a place where there is no time. So I don't know what you ask me all these questions. That isn't how well we cook. But here's what ends up happening. When we take out time, you will only be patient. So I want you to think about what your goal was. I want you to think about what your goal is. Okay? And I want you to ask this question to yourself. If you knew and underline the word new, K-N-E-W. If you knew you were going to get there, would you relax or move just a little bit differently? If you knew you were going to get there, if you knew when you put that steak in that crock pot, it was going to be Tenderoni both. If you knew, would you be going checking on it? Would you be stressed out? Would you be worried? No, you know what you would do? Good God. I don't think you hear what I'm about to drop off. You go and prepare that table for the feast that's coming. I don't think you hear what I'm saying. You would prepare to receive it. Do you see how this works? You wouldn't be over here stressed out, worrying if it's gonna come. Let me take my shirt off. Don't get me hot out here. You would get yourself ready. You would be sitting, you get the napkins ready, you get the drink. Matter of fact, go and get one of them drinks that I don't ever drink because this is a special occasion. I know this motherfucker. I know it's coming. I know it's coming. Let me go ahead and yep. I'm gonna go ahead and get the uh, what they call that, the the uh, what is that, the sparkling apple juice, apple cider. I'm gonna go ahead and get that one, the non-alcoholic. I'm gonna get that. And I'm gonna drink it. Matter of fact, I'm feeling, I'm feeling froggy. Go ahead and get me some, I'm gonna make some guacamole too to eat with these tacos. Because I know this meat's gonna be so tender. You see what I'm doing? I'm already preparing myself for the feast, and I know it's on its way. This is what you were supposed to do. Everything that you do. Look back at what you've done. Look back at what you've done. You got a hundred percent success rate. 100%. You ain't never missed a target. Ever. Never. Never. Never. You was aiming at something else. The universe said, nope, there it is, right there. Dang.

SPEAKER_00: 27:18

What the f I hit that?

SPEAKER_03: 27:20

Yeah, you didn't even realize that that was what you were supposed to be aiming for, a hard headed behind living through your head. You're supposed to be living through your heart. Your heart's telling you to look over here. You was looking over there. You see how this works. So this is the last part of it. Don't just uh uh uh have a crock pot mentality and then be like, well, what do we do when it's done? No, start preparing everything, get everything ready because it's coming. It's coming. See, we have the microwave, I can understand we have a microwave mentality when you haven't prepared it because it's gonna be like that. But I'm just telling you, all your sustainability will be having a mindset that says, Well, there is no time. We talk about the tortoise and the hair. Tortoise and the hair. This is all the hair was. The hair had a crock pot mentality. Let me just show up every day. Let me just be consistent, let me just be accountable, let me just be resilient, let me just be persistent, let me just show up. You know what the hardest thing to do? I was I was thinking about my career, basketball.

SPEAKER_02: 28:18

I worked out for about nine or ten months every single day.

SPEAKER_03: 28:23

Every single day.

SPEAKER_02: 28:25

Not knowing if I was ever gonna get a contract. Let me go ahead and say this because I don't think y'all even understand what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_03: 28:34

You know how hard it is to show up every day for something, and you don't know if the payoff is gonna happen? Hmm. You know how hard that is? And then the payoff happens, everybody's like, oh, you did it. You know how many nights I cried myself to sleep? You know how many mornings I woke up and said, I don't feel like doing this. You know how many times I questioned, like, am I even really good enough? Am I just chasing a pipe dream right now? And then you do have negative naysayers. You have teammates that say, no, he ain't gonna do it. And then you start to wonder, like, yo, am I crazy? Maybe he was right. How many times has this happened in your life? And you question, like, can I even do this? Then I start to realize I live by a hundred-pound stone theory. You know what a hundred-pound stone theory is? We got a big old boulder and we got a little mallet. We keep hitting that, we try to break that stone. We hit it in the same place. 50, 51, 52, 90, 91, 92, 98, 99. Dang, it crumbled. The hundredth blow is what crumbled it. No, it didn't. It was them 99 times that you showed up and nothing happened. That's what did it. That's what was cooking it. That's what was breaking it down. When you showed up every single day and it didn't look like it was gonna happen, you still gave the same amount of energy you can get, you ain't you didn't get one paycheck for it. You were still helping and building your business and you wasn't making no revenue. And you still was doing it, like the version of you who was making revenue. Do you see how this works? That's how you create something. That's how you bring something in. Because here's the deal: this universe will always honor consistency. I don't think you hear what I'm saying right now. This universe will always honor consistency. Hold on now, let me finish. Both good and bad. So when you're consistently negative with yourself, oh, you best believe the universe honors that too. And that's the beauty of it. It's fair. It's fair, it's it's straightforward. I'm gonna give you both of them. You're gonna be negative, I'll give it it right back to you. You're gonna be positive, I'll give it right back to you. You're gonna be consistently looking at what you can't do, I'm gonna consistently show you what you can't do. You're gonna consistently say, I can do anything, I'm gonna consistently show you the infinite ways that you can do something. Do you see how this works? Holler if you hear me right now. This is the way life is. So now when you have this mentality, say, I'm just gonna show up today. That's all I'm gonna do. I'm gonna just show up. Well, what if you don't get the contract? I want here to get the contract anyway. I made a contract with myself to see if I could show up for myself today when I don't really feel like being here. And here's why. Because if I show up for myself and I really don't feel like being here, you know what that is? That's actually the muscle of discipline and resilience and consistency. And those are the things that I'm gonna be needing for anything in life, whether it's marriage, whether it's family, whether it doesn't matter what it is. I need those attributes in anything that I have. So I'm just using basketball right now as a way for me to grow and evolve. Do you see how this works? So I don't care what it is in your life. It doesn't matter what it is, it doesn't matter what it is, doesn't matter what it looks like. It could be a marriage, it could be coaching, it could be uh business, you could be you want to start, it doesn't matter what it is. You can use anything, anything as a way to develop your crock pot mentality. Anything. So I told the boys we lost two out of three games. I told them, I said, hey, look, they were upset, they were mad. I said, hey, yo, yo, yo, yo, hold on now. Why y'all upset? For what? For what? I know our goal is to win counties. We're not done yet. See, that's one thing you got to understand. One thing you got to understand about life, I'm not gonna get too much into this because this is probably gonna be another episode, but you got to understand that your losses in life, they really just teaching you how to be successful if you pay attention. If you stop feeling sorry for yourself, if you stop staying at that pity party for so long, but you can't stay at the pity party if you don't have a certain muscle of resilience. This is what I'm seeing. So, for everybody out here, you listening right now, you hear this? Be intentional. Be intentional. Be intentional. Think about the mentality of a crock pot. You know, I'm talking about like the actual crock pot. If a crock pot had a mind, this is what I think. Crockpot said, we're just gonna get to the temperature. I don't even know what the temperature is, let's just say it's 200. We're gonna get to 200 degrees, okay? And we're just gonna hold it right there. And we're just gonna hold it. And we're just gonna hold it. And I can just imagine like uh like all the components of the of the the like the the the heating coil and everything inside, like, yeah, but yeah, but but but but what if what if 200 is not hot enough? And the crockpot's like, no, trust me, trust me.

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Just get it to 200 and just hold it. We will do the job.

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And the lid's like, yeah, but I got this little hole in me, but what if heat gets out from this little hole?

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Just trust.

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That hole is supposed to be there, lid. That hole is a part of holding in this heat but letting a little bit out. This is all so divinely perfect. Just trust it. We just need to hold it at 200.

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But what if what if they come and check on the meat?

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It does not matter. Our job is to hold it at 200.

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Y'all, I'm gonna see, I'm letting y'all inside my mind right now the way I think. Just hold it. That's it. Just hold it.

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Just hold the vibration, just hold the frequency, hold the mentality. Yeah, but what if it's not working? Okay, if it's not working, then maybe you need to look and see what things to tweak, but otherwise get back to the truth. Get right back to it. Get right back to it. See, I don't change nothing until I see that it's not working. If I don't see results, I don't change nothing. I'm not changing it until I see results that I don't want. You see how this works? Think of it like a plant. Just because you don't see the plant growing, you don't say, oh, well, it's dead. No. I'm not gonna dig it up until I see when it comes up, oh, it's not alive. Okay, what do I need to do differently now? What do we need to change? You see? Sometimes we we we move too quickly. We change course before it was time to change course. I'm telling you from first hand example what I did. I'm not getting how come I'm not getting the views? How come I'm not getting the Okay.

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All right, I'm gonna leave you with this and I gotta I gotta go.

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Okay, you stay with me here, okay? You listen to this right now. I've told this story many a time, but I sat down and broke down really how we did it. Probably probably talk more about it in in in the next episode, but you listen to this right now. And I don't think anyone who's listening to this, maybe, maybe I'm wrong. Maybe I'm wrong. Somebody tell me. I don't know if anyone's listening to this that knew me before the podcast. Other than you, mother. I know. You're the only one. No, I'm just kidding. But here's my point. We don't see the beginning stages. We don't see when the seed went in the ground. We see the big old oak tree. We see the million followers, we see the million downloads, we see all of that. But here's what I realized because I went back and I was like, How did you do this? What did you do? I'm gonna tell you exactly what I did. I found what worked. I trusted myself enough to what resonated with me, it wasn't what it was aligned with me, to just do it. Just do it. Doesn't matter if the world never seen it, if it doesn't look like it, just do it. It doesn't matter if it doesn't get the views, just do it. It feels right. So I trusted myself, and then I did that over and over and over and over and over and over and over. I know it's boring. I'm gonna keep saying over till you get to the point. It's over and over and over and over. Okay, we get it, D. No, you don't get it. Over and over and over again, over and over again, with no results. It does not matter. That's not what I was doing it for. Who cares? And then when I started to see it go left, okay, now we can make some adjustments. Something's not working. And this is what we call trial and error. But here's my point: bare minimum, bare minimum. I'm telling you right now, and I can only speak from firsthand example. What I tell you in my life does not necessarily mean it'll work in yours. I'm just telling you what I've seen. When you have a crock pot mentality, there is no finish line now. And if there's no finish line, we haven't introduced time. And if we don't have time, you can fall in love with the process instead of trying to seek and get the product. And that was the magic of this journey. That you could actually fall in love with the making of what it was that you were trying to create. So now, I don't know, I mean, numbers are cool. That's great, yeah. But eventually you'll get to the goal. You got to the million. What was the best part?

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Shh.

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I'm gonna tell you this. Just figuring out what worked and what didn't. That's what I thought was cool. It's like a puzzle. Try to put it all together.

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I'll leave you with that.

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Because I got another episode coming out here next week. See, I'm leaving you with another cliffhanger. This next episode is gonna talk about how we actually put the puzzle together. And as always, you know I wish you nothing but the best on the pathway to your results.