Life's Not Falling Apart, It's Falling Into Place

Life feels like it’s falling apart when doors close and certainty disappears, but we see it as life falling into alignment. We talk through the liminal space, detachment, and trust so you can stop calling yourself lost and start reading what the change is really asking of you. 
• chaos and confusion as signs of transformation 
• the liminal space and why life stops making sense 
• spiritual relocation and shifting your frequency 
• comfort as an ego demand not a growth plan 
• environment shaping abundance or scarcity 
• losing an identity without losing yourself 
• detachment as the gateway to moving forward 
• the unknown as a womb and growth in darkness 
• watering the unseen with faith and belief 
• trusting signals over needing instructions 
• alignment replacing force and chasing 
• endings as blessings and rest as trust 
• becoming the MVP of your own life 

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Transcript

Cold Open and Welcome

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Once you see what you actually are, that you're an infinite, limitless being, you'll see that nothing exists outside of you. I'm your host, Derek Grant, and this is the Pathway to Results Podcast.

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Bro.

Life Falling Into Alignment

Liminal Space and Spiritual Relocation

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Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Pathway to Results Podcast. It is your boy DG. We are here. Couldn't be anywhere else. I guess if we listen to this right now, this is where we're supposed to be, right? This is where we're supposed to be. You are where you are, and you ain't where you ain't. So uh we might as well enjoy where we're at. I'm I'm seeing and hearing, what do they call it? The year of the horse. I've seen a lot of people's lives starting to kind of rearrange. Um, but for the positive, right? It's always for the positive, it's always for the quote unquote good, right? Higher awareness. But I wanted to think about, I want you to think about this concept because everybody's going through something. We're all going through something right now. I don't care who you are. Ushers, you can go ahead and close the door. We can go and get started. Uh, we all, we all, we all going through something. Not realizing that your life can never fall apart. Hmm? I didn't need to go ahead and speak, I didn't even go ahead and say, I'm gonna turn this into a sermon real quick. So whatever you got going, you better make sure you're ready. See, I thought six years ago when I was going through all this stuff, my life was falling apart. But now I can tell you six years later, my life was falling into alignment. You hear what I'm saying? Life wasn't falling apart, it was the old bullsh falling off. Right? So here's what ends up happening. When you are on your journey, eventually you will get to a point where life ain't gonna make no sense no more. It ain't gonna make no sense. It ain't gonna make no logical sense. Doors that used to be open will suddenly close. Relationships that were built a long time ago will suddenly start to fizzle. And we think, oh my gosh, life is falling apart, all these opportunities are disappearing. Oh, like, who am I? What am I? And we've talked about this. We call this the liminal, the liminal space. There's a rearrangement that's happening right now. See, we got to think about it like this. You've been working on yourself, you've been figuring out who you were, you've been doing all the work. And now you're at the place where uh life, this earth, this universe is like, okay, good, you got all the information. Now it's time to start applying it. It's time for you to start putting the pedal to the metal. It's time, it's time for the rubber to meet the road. It's time for you to do it like you do it when you do it like you do it for TV. It's not a it's not about talking about it, it's about being about it. And when this comes into your life, this is what we call transition. Transition, transition. So I know back and I look back in my life when this happens. The number one sign that transformation is about to take place is there's calamity and confusion. Calamity and confusion. Like I thought I knew what I was doing, but now I don't know what I'm doing. I thought I had so much clarity, and I started to feel this in my own life. It's like, yeah, we're gonna do this, we're gonna do this with social media, and do that, and all of a sudden I started to get confused. Like, what do I, what is it I'm doing? What am I? And I told you, I went I went on the ceremony. That's one of the things Mother I said. She goes, start celebrating yourself. Start honoring yourself. Meaning, what is it that you want to do? So I came back. Now, I'm a manifest generator. We're not gonna get into human design. I keep saying I'm gonna do a podcast on it, but we ain't gonna do it. But I'm a manifest generator. One of the core attributes of a manifest generator, basically, I'm gonna put this in layman terms. Uh, Monday we're gonna go left. On Tuesday, we're gonna go right, and then on Wednesday we might not go anywhere, and on Thursday we may go back right again. Okay, only to Friday to go back left. This is the way a manifest generator, it drives people around me nuts. But this is who I am on the core, on a soul level. Then I realize every time that I don't honor that, I'm going against my divinity. Now, it doesn't make logical sense. Well, I thought you were doing this, and now all of a sudden you're doing this. I know, but now I feel like I want to do this right now. So I gave myself permission to start doing this, and I started to realize what I used to do is I used to say that I'm lost. I don't know what to do. I'm lost. You ain't lost. Nobody's lost. What if you're just being relocated? Hmm? What if that's what it is? We've talked about spiritual relocation. What if you ain't actually lost? You just are relocating from one frequency, from one way of being, from one identity into the next. See, what you have to understand about this universe, good God Almighty. This universe is not going to prioritize comfort. That's one thing it ain't gonna do. It ain't gonna say, oh, well, uh, let's make sure she's growing and she's comfortable. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. That's your ego. That's the ego didn't want to let go of the identity. See? You see, see, what you asked for, what you prayed for was peace. What you prayed for was alignment. What you asked for was uh, please just show me the way. Cool. So you know what, you know what this universe says? Oh, oh, you got it, girl. Oh, we're gonna give it to you. Uh, but first we got to get rid of all the bullshit that don't match your future. You say you want peace? Okay, well, we're gonna bring up all the places that you don't live in peace.

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Mm-hmm.

Detachment and Letting Go

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We want you to feel that. Go ahead and touch that for a little bit so you can get so sick and tired of living like this. I'm so tired of feeling. This is what happened with me. I just want to live in peace. Why you won't live in peace? Because you're tired of feeling what it feels like to not be in peace. You see how this works? So it ain't nothing in life random. Life is not breaking randomly, it's removing your misalignment. Because here's the deal, you ready? Here's the issue. And I see this in my own life, I saw this in my own life. We sit here and we'll pray and ask for peace, but we still gonna hold on to chaos and misalignment. Hmm? You wanna be financially independent, you wanna have uh disposable income and be able to move how you want, but you still hold on to that scarcity lacking mentality. So guess what? This universe is gonna show you the scarcity and lacking mentality, not as a way of punishment, but to show you you still holding on to this. So I'm gonna point out what you don't have. So you can look at it from that perspective. Think about it. When something feels off, it's because it doesn't, it doesn't, it's not supposed to be in your life. Think about your body. My foot hurts. Well, why is your foot hurt? Because there's something wrong with it. It ain't supposed to be this way. The same goes for you internally as well. But in order to do this, you're gonna have to move. You're gonna have to transition. You're gonna have to transform. There may be a change of environment. I was just telling myself this the other day. You we've had many of talks. You're gonna be the sum total of who your environment is or what your environment is. And sometimes it's super hard to be successful and get to where you want to go because you don't have an environment that's conducive to that. Don't at me. You over here talking about you want to live in abundance, but you got people around you who will keep talking about how something's too expensive. You got you talk about you want to have more money than you could ever spend, but you have people around you who only badmouth people who have money. So, how in the world can you sit here and achieve that frequency when you are in an environment that says the complete opposite? Life ain't gonna let you do that. Life's gonna move you out of that environment. And that's the transition, that's the shift. But here's what we do we hold on to the older. Yeah, but I've known them since childhood. Yeah, that's cool. You have known this since childhood, but you ain't a child no more. You're not a little girl anymore, you're not a little boy anymore. You are now conscious and aware, and you say, This is how I want to experience life. That is you living from a place of autonomy and authenticity and sovereignty. They may not have that same awareness. So here's what ends up happening. You're never actually losing out on life, you're just losing who you thought you were. And notice what I said. It's who you thought you were. At one point, that is who you were, but you are now moving into a new part of you that this is not who you are anymore. See, you built an identity around your roles. We don't realize that we all playing a role in somebody else's life. We all have been assigned a role, and then we adopt that. Well, I'm a father, I'm the son, I'm a mother, and that's a role. And see, it comes with all of these paradigms and all these programs. Or we'll build our identity around a relationship, we'll build our identity around approval, we'll build our identity around expectations that others have for us. We will build our identity around what our culture says we should be. And when those things start to crumble, we think that we're falling apart. You ain't falling apart. It's called refinement. It's refinement. Anytime that you refine something, what do we do? We gotta put it through the fire to burn off the BS. So the key, people say, I feel lost. Good. Good. That means you're losing the version of you that you no longer are. You'll never lose yourself. You'll lose an identity, but you can't lose the self. The self was with you all of this existence. So, why is this important? Because this is why detachment is always going to be the gateway. Detach. Detach. What are they saying, Interstellar? You all know that's my favorite movie. I haven't watched it in a couple years. A couple months, sorry, not years, months, a couple weeks, a couple days, no. But remember, he said, I don't know what it was. It was Newton's Law, something said, in order to move forward, humans had to let go of someday. You remember when he was about to go in that black hole? And Dr. Brand was in the ship, and they were like, they were gonna go together, and then he detached.

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She was like, Where are you going? What are you doing?

The Unknown as a Womb

Trust Signals and Patience

Alignment Beats Force

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The only way for us to move forward, to move where we want to go, we're gonna have to let go. See, one of the first lessons when life is rearranging itself, it's letting go. Not because of what you had was bad. I don't want you to think, don't listen, we're not gonna, we're not gonna look back on the old life and the old idea and think it was a bad thing. It's because it no longer fits who you are becoming. Right? This is why it's super important. I keep telling you, you gotta trust. You gotta trust that you're gonna get to where you gotta be. You're gonna get to where you gotta be, you're gonna get there. Trust that what is meant for you, good God Almighty. Trust what is meant for you can't miss you. Say that to yourself. What is meant for me can't miss me. And what is le what leaves me, it wasn't designed for my future. It wasn't. So I can let this go. I can let it go now. You ain't gonna climb no higher gripping onto the ledge that was below you. You see? How am I gonna reach to for the thing above me if I'm holding on to the thing that was below me? And at one point that thing was above you too, the thing that you were holding on to, but you're not at that phase no more. So now here's what I hear a lot and what people say. And I just wanna I wanna I wanna speak life into you. Please know that on this journey of rearranging when life is getting everything in order, there's gonna be an element of uncertainty. There's gonna be what we call the unknown. Hmm. I know some of us in it right now. Some of us don't know what's next, and we feel lost. What do I do? Maybe if we look at the uncertainty of the unknown as a womb and we don't look at it as a void. Hmm? It's dark, yeah. But you hooked up to that placenta right now. You got that umbilical core, you still got your life force, you still got you still, you still connected to this divine mother, this universe. You still connected. But you're in the womb right now. So you left the old life, but the new life hasn't appeared yet. And I know the space feels uncertain. I know it. I know it feels silent, feels confusing, but you got to understand spiritually what's happening right now. You just moving down through the birth canal. And see, see, see, see, see. See, I've watched my two children be born. I've watched it, I've seen it. I've seen the miracle. I've seen what it what would when when the when the head starts to crown, right? When you start to see, like, oh my goodness, there's a baby coming. There's something. Eventually, what's going to happen? You're gonna start moving. You're gonna start moving down that birth canal, and you're gonna get a glimpse of that hair. You're gonna get a glimpse of that head that's starting to crown. And you're gonna start to say, oh my goodness. Oh my goodness, even through all of this, there was life. Oh my goodness, through all of this, there was life. Uh-uh, uh, uh, uh, the silence, the rejection didn't mean the abandonment. It actually meant preparation. It was preparing me for what was coming. Oh my goodness, I'm not lost. I was just incubating. Oh my goodness, this isn't insecurity, sorry, uh uncertainty. This is just the womb. This was the place that I was being recreated. Oh my goodness. This darkness was where transformation was happening. Oh my goodness, this darkness was the medium, the soil that the seed needed to grow. That's one thing people don't understand. Good God Almighty, y'all ain't trying to hear nothing I'm saying. The seed grew in the dark. The seed grew in the dark. The seed grew in the dark. Good God Almighty, the seed grew when there was no light from the sun. Why you think we put it underground? It is symbolically, metaphorically representing the same way that growth happens in your life. The only way you will grow is to go into the darkness. That's the only way. You gotta go underneath the ground, you gotta become the worm. You see, you have to be the thing that goes underneath. And see what a lot of people don't want to do is they don't understand and don't have the foresight and the wisdom to know that you ain't gonna spend all your days in the dark. There is no possible way. You can't stay underground forever. Eventually, you're gonna have to come up. Eventually, there's going to be a sprout. And here's the deal, you ready? Because people say, well, when am I gonna get through this? I don't know. This is so hard, it's so difficult. You better make sure that you still water it. You better make sure that you water it with positivity, you better make sure that you water it with faith. You better make sure you water it with belief. I don't need to see something on the outside for me to know that it's happening on the inside. And I know that if it happens on the inside, I don't need to see it on the outside. But here's probably the way it's gonna happen. I'ma see that mother on the outside. I'ma see it. And now it's no big deal. Cool. Now don't get me wrong. Oh, I'm gonna play the flute, I'm gonna ring the bell, I'm gonna honor it. You best believe. But this is normal. I'm not surprised. I went through my stage of incubation. I went, I was buried. I was uh look, I was buried down in that searle. See, I'm talking like I'm from down from Memphis. I just got from Memphis, but I got back from Memphis the other day. I'm talking like around around her, right? For all my Tennessee folk, around there, right? Sound like Glorilla. I can do it too. But here's my point this is normal. This is normal. You're going through a phase of life where it feels uncertain. This is normal. It's a part of it, and know that growth is coming. But here's what happens you gotta learn how to read the unseen map. Hmm? You gotta start to learn how this universe communicates. See, your mind, your ego wants proof. The soul moves based off of energy. The soul moves based on how it feels. So today I feel like I need to go left, but maybe the next day I feel like I need to go right. You got to understand about this universe. This universe doesn't owe nothing to nobody. So therefore, it don't need to explain itself logically. I look at my own children. I have my son do a workout. He'd be like, what's the point? Okay, look, I'll tell you this. I'll tell you what's going on right now. You ready? This is a microcosm of what we will do as humans. We went down to Memphis for this national tournament, right? So he got to see like the best of the best, right? And some of these kids, I'm not saying they're not in seventh grade. I believe they're in seventh grade. Some of the kids weren't 13 years old. I'm gonna go ahead and say that. Some of these kids had full-on chiseled jaws, they had uh back muscles, they had goatees. I said, Boy, how in the world are you 13 years old? But anyway, I digress. So I was I took my son, I told him, I said, look, you see kind of what it looks like. He goes, Yeah, yeah, yeah. I go, look, here's the deal. You're probably gonna need to start like eating a little bit more, right? This is the next phase because the biggest jump I've seen is from seventh grader to an eighth grader. Eighth grader looks like a man compared to a seventh grader. And I told him, I said, you can't still keep eating like you in seventh grade to become an eighth grader. You need to start eating more, right? So we're on day two. He's eating breakfast. I told him, I said, look, what's on your plate, we will make sure we put enough that it's gonna it's gonna feel uncomfortable eating it, but it's so your body can start having more nutrients, more calories that metabolize in the energy, so you can, you know, start to fill out whatever. So he had eggs in an English muffin this morning. And you know an English muffin got two sides, right? And he is at his eggs, and he's sitting there, he's I mean, he's eating it so slow. I said I said, listen, buddy, stop playing with your food, just go ahead and scarf it down right now. You're doing this for for nutritional purposes, just go ahead and eat it. And you know what he says to me? He says, now mind you, we on day two. He says, Yeah, but I haven't even grown yet. I said, Boy, if you don't get out of my face with that. I said, son, but now we laugh. Now you're laughing right now. I know you're riding in your car, I know you listen to this, you're laughing right now. But you do the same thing. Uh what you see, you straighten up real quick. Well, I've been I've been working on myself for three years, yeah. Three years is nothing in the whole grand scheme of life. That was like two days. You see? So I told him, I said, listen, buddy. And I told him, I said, look, I ain't gonna go back and forth with you about this, okay? Just trust me. Just trust me. Please. I got you. I ain't led you astray yet. Just trust me. Just eat your food, just eat it. Trust me. And he went back and he sat back down and he started eating it. And I said, when you grow and you're bigger than me, and you're gonna be like, Dad, I'm bigger than you, I'm gonna look at you and say, Yeah, but I told you so. I told you so. So, my point of this is this know that greatness takes time. Not time in the sense of what you like, it takes a long time. Time is just sustainable energy. The universe wants to make sure that you really are who you say you are. The universe wants to make sure that you don't go back to this lacking mindset. I'm the universe, like, I'm about to rain down on you. I'm about to rain these blessings, but I need to make sure that you don't switch up on me. I need to make sure that you're still operating at the same frequency as abundance when it comes to you. So I just want to make sure when we go through this liminal space, when you go through this time of transition, when you go through this time in the soil, that you don't switch up on me. That's why it's super important for you to trust and have the foresight. And please know this you don't have to understand everything on the front end. You don't. You can use intuition, you can use these synchronicities, you can use these subtle uh nudges that we have, these inner poles, you can use those because that too is the universe letting you know. Hey girl, just keep moving. I don't know, it just feels right. Just do it then. Do it universe ain't gonna give you instructions. It ain't you hear what I'm saying? It doesn't give you instructions, it gives you signals. But you have to trust when they come up. So this is where, like, I just look at it before I incarnated. My spirit already knew what the deal was. It already knew what it was. It already knew. I'm just carrying out the plan, I'm carrying out the mission. It already knew what it was. My job is. To trust that. My job is to get into alignment. Not alignment on the outside, alignment on the inside. And here's what I'm going to tell you alignment on the out inside very rarely will look like alignment on the outside initially. People say, oh wow, you were, you, you, man, look at what you're doing. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. It took me a while to trust this alignment on the inside. I was scared to write a book about healing the inner child. I was scared. What are people going to think? I still had this identity of I'm a basketball guy. I'm a basketball player. I'm a basketball train. What are they going to think? What is my own tribe going to think? Memphis, what do they think? What do you think, Derek? What do you think? What's aligned with you? And here's what I've learned along this journey. When you get aligned with yourself, your true self, that which you actually are, and it won't make sense in the world, you ain't gonna have to force nothing, you ain't gonna have to chase nothing. You ain't gonna have to try to control anything because you're in alignment. And now here's what ends up happening. We call this in the spiritual world, what he call this. Like life will just start flowing. I'll be in the flow state. Dude, are you in the flow state? I'm in the flow state, man. You ain't in no what you told me? You ain't in no flow state, you just aligned. That's all you're doing right now. You just honoring you now. That's it. And now that alignment will replace force. And here's what I've learned.

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Life becomes so much more simple. So much more simple.

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You gotta understand that that you force things because you were operating out of fear. You were operating out of lag. But the version of you attracts abundance, the version of you is aligned. They ain't forcing nothing. And here's the deal, you ready? Are you here? Can you hear me? Can you hear me right now? You can hear me? Okay, you can hear me? Good. Do you not realize that life is configuring to your frequency?

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The game is rendering to wherever the character is.

Endings, Rest, and Right Timing

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When you change your energy, life will recognize and reorganize around you. So that's why it's super important for us to make sure we do what I call the sacred yes. Sacred yes. You gotta say yes to the next version of you. And know with what comes with that? The shedding of the old. So I gotta say yes to the unknown. Good God Almighty. I gotta say yes to uncertainty. I gotta say yes to the growth. I gotta say yes to the pain that I may feel when I'm stretching. Y'all out here stretching, go and stretch your body, stretch your hamstrings out. Wake up in the morning and stretch. You're gonna feel a little tightness. Dang, this hurts. Dang, my dad will always say, I stretch muscles. I didn't even know I had. You didn't even know you had that back there, did you? Go and stretch it out. And here's what's gonna end up happening. All you're gonna do is start to become accustomed with the next version of you. This is what we had to say yes to. I know a lot of people right now that we say we want to do this, this, and this, but you have not really yet fully said yes to the next version of you. You haven't given yourself permission to be them. You haven't given yourself permission to be her, to be that. A lot of us desire more money, we desire success, we desire to have this abundant future, but we haven't said yes fully to that version of us. You know how I know it? Because we won't let go of the old version. You won't let go of your old habits. So that's how you know you haven't really said yes. Huh? Man, I want to do this, this, and this. Well, how come you're still doing that, that, and that? Don't uh huh. I know what you're gonna do. You're gonna tag me, you're gonna tag me, and you're gonna put on your store, you're gonna tag me on. I already know what you're gonna do. But why don't we just say yes to that doorway that's cracked open to that new life? That motherfucker, it's cracked, it's cracked open. But you don't know what's on the other side of that door. But you gotta go ahead and stick that foot in there. Go ahead and see if you can weasel yourself in there. And the key to understanding this is transformation will begin the moment that you trust that what's on the other side of that door is for me. What's on the other side of this wall is for me. What's on the other side of this pain is for me. So I get it. Yes. Life will go through seasons. Well, it feels it may feel chaotic. Maybe right now it feels chaotic. It feels uncertain. It may feel like things are falling apart. I get it. I've been through it, I'm going through it, it happens. But I remind myself, this isn't deconstruction. This is the divine rearrangement. That's all this is right now. It's just getting things in order. I'm not broken, I'm being rebuilt. I can look back on now. When I told you I went through this awakening, imagine going, some of us maybe, maybe, some of us maybe are. Imagine going through a spiritual awakening. And you have never even heard of a spiritual awakening. You don't know what it is. You have no idea. You have no clue. You grew up in a religious household. You don't believe in none of this stuff and never really synchronized. What the f what? And now all of a sudden you're like, what in the world is going on? I'm like, my life, there were many days where I'll just cried. I'm like, what is going on? I can tell you full certainty right now.

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I was being rebuilt. I was being rebuilt for this leg of the journey.

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But see, I didn't know this leg of the journey. You're being rebuilt for the next leg of the journey, so I know it may feel like right now. You got things that are happening in life, and you're like, what do I do? They're asking me to move. Uh my clients are falling off. Uh uh I don't know if my marriage is gonna make it. All of these things where you feel like life is crumbling. It's not ending, it's repositioning you. Your job is to trust, your job is to feel intuitively that all this stuff is moving me in the way that I'm supposed to be moving.

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Here's what we have to understand most blessings, most blessings come in the form of endings.

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See, you thought the blessing was gonna come in the form of something coming in. A lot of times the blessing is the form of something leaving. It's the form, it's the think about it. We look at a toilet. Imagine if you ain't never flushed that toilet. I know what you think. Well, my sh don't stink anyway. You uh you a lie. Yes, it does. Fill that toilet up enough. Fill it up. This is what ends up happening. We the life has to flush out your toilet. It has to flush out your life, it has to clean it. So this is just a part of it. But you have to have that foresight, that wisdom, that knowing while you are in it. While you're in it. While you don't wait for you to see a sign. Tell yourself, I'm gonna be making, I'm gonna make it. Here's what I do. I'm gonna tell you firsthand what I do. When I feel my life start to do this, I start to move into the feminine energy. You need to just sit down. You need to just rest. I know it's hard right now for you to rest right now because now what your mind's saying, yeah, but we gotta push our way through. We got to control our way. No, you don't sit your ass down. Sit down. Because now what you're doing is if you can sit down, if you can rest, you're actually moving in the energy of trusting. What you're saying and energetically, what you're communicating to this universe is I don't know how I'm gonna make it through this, but I know that there's a divine plan that transcends any understanding that I have, and I'm just gonna sit back and just watch and see how this works. And then when you feel those intuitive prompts, when you feel like, okay, I gotta get up now, I gotta get moving, do it.

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Do it. But I've asked you this question before, and we've talked about this before. What if you knew you were gonna be okay?

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What if you knew it was gonna work itself out? What if you knew you were gonna get that job, you were gonna get that position? What if you knew you not getting that job, you not getting that position, you not getting that client was supposed to be. I had a client, prospective client, reach out. I knew who she was, I wanted to work with her.

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She's like, I don't know if I can do it right now. My job is not to force it, I have to trust that maybe now is not time. Maybe now is not time.

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And it's hard sometimes because you don't have the ego, you say, Yeah, but I really want it. If it was supposed to be, you wouldn't have to force nothing.

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Hmm? You wouldn't have to force nothing.

Becoming the MVP of Your Life

Planting Seeds and Closing Blessing

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Think about how depressed an animal would be if it had this foresight. They say a lion only kills between 18 and 22% of the time. Those 18 and 22% of the time that it does kill, it was clearly supposed to kill it. It was time for that zebra to go. It was time. But imagine if it sat here over the 20, the 88% or the 78%, the 82%, where it's like, oh my God, I didn't do it. It didn't happen. Why? That's why you need Mufasa to up in the clouds to say, it was not time, my child. You were not supposed to get that zebra. It was not time. Trust in the circle of life. See what you got to understand, there's so many other things that are playing. There's so many things that are playing into the grand scheme of life. I'm gonna give you, I'm gonna give you something. I'm gonna tell you something, okay? This is why you should trust. I like to use my life as real life examples so you don't think I'm just saying stuff. If you think I'm just saying stuff, that's fine too, because sometimes I do go on rants, but I always try to just speak from a place of experience. I had a young lady who I worked with before I was even doing what I'm doing now. I was still in the basketball world. And I was training her, right, as a basketball player. She was the best female athlete that I've ever seen in my life. She was a she was like the first introduction. And she was, yeah, she was a junior in college, and we got to know each other. Junior in college, right? On the basketball court. And she was like unreal talent. And I'm like, yo, I don't really understand women's basketball yet to this level, right? But I'm like, she has got to be like, I'm thinking like the LeBron James of women's basketball, right? And she's just the sweetest soul, the sweetest, like purest, just, oh my goodness, like the best, right? So her junior year, we'll train her here and there. She went to school probably about three hours away from me. And then her senior year, she went through a tough time. Well, but when she went to her senior year, I was doing what I do now. So she reached out and we started working together, and I helped her for a little bit. But I see, I was still early on my journey. I was in a different place. I didn't know nothing about nothing. I was just intuitively, I didn't, I didn't have the awareness that I have now, right? So I helped her, and then she went off on her way, and then she was the number one draft pick of the WNBA. And then she won rookie of the year. And I said, look at you, girl. You really were who I thought you were. You really were, oh my goodness, you really first team all WNBA, WNBA All-Star, starter. And I'm like, yo, this is crazy, right? And I kept saying to myself, good God almighty, y'all stay with me. I'm gonna wrap this thing up. Usher, you can go ahead and start passing around the bastards. I'm I'm sitting here saying to myself, like, man, now I'm doing what I'm doing. I believe in myself, I accept myself. It's like, how cool would it be to work with her again? Now we text here and there, right? Like I'm talking about like once a year, right? Because I'm like, man, I know I could help her go to the next level, right? MVP conversations, right? Not just being awesome, you've done that. MVP championships. So I get a text from a number that I don't know who the number is, and this number says, I'm the GM of this team, and we have a player that I need you to work with. Now I know what you're probably thinking. Oh, it's probably this player that I've been talking about. So we hop on a call and he goes, Yeah, I have this player that, you know, I just want to see if you're open to it, what your prices are, et cetera. Because we're looking for like some type of mental development to support this player. I said, Okay, cool. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And the GM is like, this is the player. And he tells me the player's name, and I'm like, You got to be kidding. I said, I know her. He goes, really? I go, yes, I've worked with her before. I know her well. He said, Oh, this is perfect. So anyway. This took like five or six weeks. Now, five or six weeks seems like a long time, but what about when you have the person's number, you know the person, and I can't rush what the universe is doing. You see, what I could do is just sex say, hey, look, yo, what's going on? Blah, blah, blah. But I'm like, no, I have to follow the way this is moving, right? Now, the old me, I'm forcing it. I'm forcing it, I'm I'm texting, I'm calling. I might call her on Facebook, I might show a better place. Hey, you ready to do this? But see, I had to trust the way the order of the universe had everything flowing, right? So anyway, finally, happens. And I hop on a call with her, right? I haven't seen her, haven't talked to her in years. We hop on a call. And I still remember her, I still remember this. When she was a junior, now she's older now. I've been in the league for a while, and I'm like, and I look at her and say, you know what? I just want to tell you this. I started to get like emotional. I still tell her, I just said, look, my son tells me that this is called glazing, but I call this giving you your flowers. I want to tell you something. You had this even before you even knew you had it. You had this in you. I saw this back when I and I'm like, man, she really is. And I told her, I said, I just want to tell you, it is so nice to meet you. She looked at me like, what are you talking about? And I said, I've never met this version of you. I've never seen this version of you, but I knew I saw this version of you back seven, eight years ago. I saw it then. I saw it. So I just want to tell you, it's so nice to meet you. And I said, it's time for you to become who you really are capable of being. We're gonna wash away some stuff and we're gonna replace it with some new stuff. But mark my words, you're gonna be MVP in that WNBA. Watch. Trust and know. And here's my point. Because we all the MVP in our own lives. All of us. And just because you don't see it right now, it doesn't mean that it wasn't inside of you. But you have to start seeing yourself as the number one pick. You gotta start seeing yourself as first team, all me. See, we all should be the first team, first team, or the first pick of our own life. Start seeing yourself like that. And then here's what's gonna end up happening: the universe will conspire to see that you become the most valuable person in your life. So everything's in order. Everything's moving. I tell my son this all the time. He's the point now where Hudson, every time I say it, it's kind of a joke now. I always say to him, everything's going according to plan. Dad, oh my God, stop! I always say this it's all going according to plan, all of it. Trust and no, it's going according to plan, and you will get to where you were supposed to get to, as long as you give yourself permission to be who you need it to be. And know that, yes, you will go through seasons, and it may have been multiple times that you will be in the soil, you will be in the dark, you will be in the closet, you will be in the womb. But this is the place of incubation. This is the place where the caterpillar became the butterfly. This was the place where the feet, the embryo became the fetus. This was the place where the seed became the plant. This was the place where you developed. So go. Go. Go bury yourself in that circle. Bury yourself in that soil and start making preparations and plans for the sprouting. Because eventually, it's gonna have to show itself. And you know me. I won't be in the background ringing the bell and playing the flute. You know I'm gonna be back there. But along this journey, keep ringing your bell and playing your flute. And I wish you nothing but the best on the pathway to your results.