What Is Normal Will Find You

We break down manifestation as a practical skill by reverse engineering real results, from building a body to building belief. Through stories from our son’s Nike EYBL run and our daughter’s cheer nationals, we show how clarity, frequency, and new standards create a new normal and a real legacy. 
• manifestation as internal change before external proof 
• reverse engineering outcomes by identifying the causes 
• setting clear destinations without debating possibility 
• teaching kids to earn it while still being guided 
• preparation meets opportunity through consistent daily reps 
• focusing on frequency, effort, and aggression over stats 
• avoiding “losing before you play” by ignoring odds 
• using success leaves clues to level up after wins 
• falling in love with the process and the discomfort 
• building self-worth by normalizing bigger rooms and standards 
• creating family legacy by establishing a new normal

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Transcript

Infinite Self And Manifestation

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Once you see what you actually are, that you're an infinite, limitless being, you'll see that nothing exists outside of you. I'm your host, Derek Grant, and this is the Pathway to Your Results Podcast.

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Bro.

Reverse Engineering Real Results

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Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Pathway to Results Podcast. It is your brethren, your boy, your guy, DG. I'm gonna talk today a little bit about some personal stories. This is center around the centers around manifestation. And how how manifestation is not something that's there's a mystical side to it, but it doesn't have to be mystical. If you make it practical, it makes it so much more simple. Um and what I found is reverse engineering makes it easier, like looking at how you did something and then reverse engineering it. Um to me, the best the best example of manifestation is the physical body.

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Right?

Clarity First Then Earn It

Preparation Meets Opportunity In Memphis

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Physical body. You transform a physical body, you don't realize that that first took uh a transformation internally. It first took a mindset shift, right? What you see in my body physically was what I changed on the inside first, meaning I changed my relationship to food, I changed my relationship to the pain of working out, the adverse. So all of these things took place in the unseen. And then now you see this over the course of six, seven, eight, nine weeks. Uh, you see that physically. So if we look at the microcosm of a body, you can start to figure out now how you do this in all of your life. So here's what I'm doing. I'm 43 years old, and I'm taking all of this knowledge and information that I have. One, I'm applying it to my life, but then I'm also helping my children do this. See, I'm I'm teaching them how to create their life the way they want. So the first thing that you gotta do, we've talked about this many times, you better make sure that you have clarity on the destination. You better make sure you know where it is that you want to go and what you want to do. Right? So sometimes we don't know what we want to do, but we can use our surroundings to gather intel to see where it is that we need to go or what we want to do. So, for example, my son plays, he's in seventh grade, and he plays on something called the Nike Junior EYBL, right? Really sounds really fancy. All it just means EYBL is the elite youth basketball league, right? But it's a national circuit. And Nike, you know, Nike, they got plenty of money for marketing and advertising and all that stuff. So they do it like big. So if you're on a Nike team, there's only in seventh grade, there's only 80 teams across the whole country, right? If you're on this team, like you're like the best of the best in your surroundings. Well, in order to get on it, you have to basically be invited to a tryout. I told him the plan this year, I said, look, here's the deal. I want you to start earning your own stuff. Okay. And all my dads out there who coach their own kids. There's a fine line between helping your kid, but then people thinking, like, oh, well, you're just doing it for my kids. No, and anybody who knows me, oh, you're gonna earn your stuff. You're gonna earn it. I will help you, I will help develop you, but you will be the one who does it. So his six going into seventh grade year, I had a team called Team DG Mindset. Of course, how fitting, right? We go to tournaments, people be like, What is DG Mindset? I'm like, Well, you better ask somebody. What are you talking about? You don't know what you act like you don't know. You better ask somebody. But anyway, I told him, I said, look, here's the deal. Seventh grade is when you want to get on like a sneaker circuit, right? Because we were just kind of an independent team that I put together, bought jerseys, and said, But you wouldn't be on a team that's on the Nike circuit. Well, there's only two teams in the state. And ironically, the team that he wanted to get on, we played them three times. And we beat them. And I tell him all the time, I said, you know, you got to be aware of when you're playing a team, you're not just playing that team, you may be also trying out. Why am I saying this? Because you never know how everything plays into the whole of life. You never know who that person is who maybe that waiter one day, that waiter who is is maybe spilled your food, the way you meet them, they may end up being the CEO of the company that you maybe go apply for 10 years later. I see this happen all the time. So now, here my son is, we get done. I told him, I said, look, I'm gonna break the team up. Every player has to go figure it out, right? I, you know, I'm your father now. I'm not gonna coach you. I'm gonna be your father to help you and guide you. Say, you want to be on the EYBL, you want to be on Nike Circuit? I'm gonna help you get there. I'm gonna show him and steer you and help you and develop and all that, right? So they had, he got invited to tryouts and he tried out. And he made a team. And then after he made the team, because I'm excited, I'm like, I'm gonna be dad. I get to sit on sidelines, I ain't gotta coach him. And they say, well, we're looking for a coach, and we think that you'd be good. He's like, we don't let the director's like, we don't let dads coach because we don't want them to be biased. But we've noticed with you, you don't treat your son any different. I say, well, I do treat him different. I might be on the other end, though. I might be, I don't know, I'm on the other end of the spectrum. But I tell him, I said, yeah, I I always I my I tell Hudson all the time, I'm gonna be fair with you. Meaning, I'm gonna be on this side and I'm gonna be on this side with you. When you do well, I tell you do well. When you're not doing what you need to, I'll be the first one to tell you. That's what it means to be fair. So anyway, they're like, do you want to coach? And I'm like, man, I thought I was out. I thought I was out. So anyway, I said yes. We had our first tournament. Now, this first tournament was the national tournament where everybody crossed the country. There's 80 teams, right? We're in Memphis, Tennessee. And we're down there. Now, leading up to it, this was this date was circled. It was March 6th, 7th, and 8th. We knew this was coming. Sometimes in life we don't know when the next thing is coming. But I told my son, I said, here's the deal. We got a four-month plan to start preparing. Okay. We're gonna prepare for this. What do we say? When preparation meets opportunity, that's what success is. So I said, here's the deal. You're gonna be getting up early, and when you get home from school, you're gonna be going down in the basement, we're gonna work out, we're gonna do all these things. And there was a bit of fighting. He didn't want to do it at first. But then after about two or three weeks, it became normal. And then it got to a point where I'm gonna be honest, I had to do some traveling. I was tired. He said, Dad, are we going, are we going downstairs in the morning? Are we gonna work? And I'm like, Yeah, we'll be down there. I'm tired. But I started to see it became his own. So why am I saying this to you? We had clarity on the dates of what we were working towards. You need to have clarity on where it is that you're working towards in life, right? What is it that you want? Where do you want to go? What is it you want to be? What does that look like? You need to have clarity on that right now. Don't you start to bring in whether or not it's possible. Please and thank you. Do not start trying to figure out is it possible on the front end. That's not what it's for. Your job is to say, here's what it wants. Here's, I want a private plane. Okay, cool. Start right there. You want a private plane? That's enough in and of itself. That will give you direction. Life's going to help steer you. Don't think you go from zero to uh to 100, you're gonna be at a private plane, okay? Because life does not move linearly, right? You may be, I don't know how to show itself, but you understand what I'm saying. Okay, so now here we are. We get down to Memphis. And I told him, I said, okay, you have goals, right? What are our goals? He said, I just want to make sure that I'm aggressive and I don't want to be passive, and I want to make sure that I play hard. Perfect, good. You're learning. We're not outsourcing our goals. Okay. You know that if you play hard, you're aggressive, you play the right way. If you do all these things, your outward production will be at a high level. Okay, so here's what ends up happening. A lot of times we say, Oh, I want to score 15, 20 points. I want you'll never score 15 or 20 points trying to score 15 or 20 points. I want to make a million dollars. You're never gonna make a million dollars trying to make a million dollars.

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My advice to you ask yourself, what are the causes?

Focus On Frequency Not Outcomes

Success Leaves Clues For Next Level

Peach Jam Goals And New Standards

Cheer Nationals And Loving The Process

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Mindset, emotionally, self-worth, self-concept. What are those things that I need to do or become that would support me making a million dollars, that would support me scoring 20 points? I told him, I said, look, scared money don't make no money. Scared money don't make money. You go out there and you're afraid and you're intimidated and you're scared and all this, the ball isn't going to find you. How in the world are you gonna score 20 points scared? Sorry, we were in Memphis, scared. How in the world you gonna score this and you're afraid of missing? That's two different frequencies. You see, how in the world are you gonna have abundance, but yet you still operate in the scarce in the frequency of scarcity? So I told him, I said, How about this? Focus on the frequency. You see what I'm doing right now? I'm teaching him universal principles, y'all. Focus on the frequency, just focus on that. So now your job is to mentally and emotionally be aligned with the version of you who's just a straight dog. That's your job. You ain't gotta produce. Because here's the deal. I told him this. I said, I would rather you be uh uh uh three for 13 or 1 for 20, and you were being aggressively and emotionally and mentally, you were aligned, than for you to be 0 for 2 and be passive. You see. So making sure that it's not what you do, it's how you do it. That's what matters more. So we get down to this tournament. I told him, I said, look, my goal as a coach, as an assistant, we're gonna go down here, we're gonna run the shop. We're gonna run the show. We leave they had the rankings of all the teams. And I'm saying to myself, I'm like, I know we're one of the best teams here. I know basketball. I know we we play defense, we play together, we play hard. Now, do we have the most athletic team of the biggest team that passed the eye test? No, but we got something that you cannot quantify through science. We got this thing called uh, what do they call that thing? Heart. Sometimes we refer to this as that dog. Sometimes we call it that mutt. Sometimes we call it, you know, you know what for those of us who know, you know what I'm talking about. We got that thing that Mike Jordan had. We got that thing that Kobe had. We talk about this, what do you call the Mamba mentality? Huh? You can't quantify the Mamba mentality. I don't look and say, oh, he has 4.5 points of Mamba mentality. You can't see it. But you know it when it's there. And that is what we have. So I told him, I said, look, I don't know. He's like, what who are the teams we play? I said, it really don't matter to me. You know good and well. I don't focus on nothing on the outside. Good God almighty. Some of us spending more time and worrying about who we're going against and how many people are applying for the job and how many other people in the world are coaches and how many followers he has. You know it doesn't matter if you lock into you. It doesn't matter. Do what you do when you do it, like you do it for TV. Focus on you. So I told him, I said, look, as a coach, I'm not worried. I ain't worried about what no other team's doing. I'm asking, are we being and doing what we know we're supposed to do? If we do that, it's gonna be a long night for these people in Memphis. First game, we play a team from Virginia. Don't know anything about them, heard about them though. They were really reputive. Reputive. Is that a word? Did I make a word up? I may have just made a word up after that. Reputive. They had a reputation. Okay, right? They had a reputation as a good team. I told the boys before the game, these are a bunch of 13-year-old kids, and sometimes this happens, right? I said, Don't you lose the game before you play the game? Don't lose the game before you play the game. What do I mean by that, y'all, when I say that? Stop looking at the odds. Stop looking at it from a place of being real, realistic. Stop looking at it and saying, Well, nobody from my family has ever done this. You know, somebody told me like they have a client. I said, You want to be an all-star? They said, Yeah, but nobody in my in my with my salary has ever been an all-star. I had another client tell me, Oh, I want to be MVP, but nobody's ever been MVP who's a guard. Oh, so you already beating yourself. You already lost. How are you gonna do it? How are you gonna do it if you don't believe that it's possible? So I told the boys, I said, don't get caught up in these names. Don't get caught up in all this stuff going on, all this hoopla and all that. So I told them, I said, look, because I asked a couple of them, I said, You nervous? They're like, Yeah, we're nervous. I said, it's just basketball. It's the same thing you play in your driveway, it's the same thing. The only difference is there's a lot more lights and a lot more people, but at the end of the day, it's still the same thing. How about this? Just focus on you, do what you gotta do. Man, we went out there and beat the brakes off this team. We beat the brake, and then, oh Lord, oh my goodness, good God. How many times did this happen? You were a little afraid, you were a little worried, and you stepped up and you did it, and then you got proof that you could be who you thought you were. These boys were looking at themselves saying, oh wait, hold on. I thought this team was supposed to be good, and we beat them by 30. What if we really are who Coach been saying we are? See, this is the other thing as a mentor as these boys. My job is to put the battery in the back, right? My job is to make sure and make them, when they look in them, they may be little kittens, but when they look in the mirror, I want them to see big old black manes. I want them to see big old big lions, mufasa, simba, uh-uh, uh, that type of energy. And I told myself, y'all are the real deal. As long as you do what you know you need to do. So now here's my point. That first game, they beat this team and they were like, we really are. I said, be careful though. Be careful. Because here's what'll end up happening. You'll achieve a little bit of success and then you'll stop doing what got you to that point. You hear what I'm saying? This is why I tell my son this all the time. Just stick to the script. Stick to the script. I said, here's the plan. Here's your CDAs. Just be consistent in that. These are the causes that produce the effect. So I asked the boys after the game, what did we do that allowed us to be able to do this? See, this is what I talked about a couple weeks ago with a podcast where we talk about success, leaves clues. You gotta be able to look back and see what did we do that allowed us to have this result. Focus on that now. Just do that. And they said we played together, we played hard, we played defense. Bing, bam, bong. Thank you. Let's just do that tomorrow. Second game. Beat them by 20. Third game. Had an early game, so we struggled a little bit. We won that one by 15. Last game, we win by 20 something. You looked at the point differential. We played four games. It had the points allowed and points scored. In four games, we beat all of our opponents by 99 points. That's almost averaging beating a team by 25 points. Now, for us, I don't know if you know about basketball. If you beating a team by 25 points, that other team might as well go ahead and go home. Might as well go, might as well go ahead and go home. We're in a completely different league. So here's my point the tournament got over with. It's over, it's done. And then they came out with the ranking of all the 80 teams across the country. And when we went into it, nobody knew who we were. We weren't in the top 20. And when we left, we were top number, we were number three. Now, what if? What if? See, this is the beauty of working with children. These boys look at me as an authoritative figure. They look at the head coach as an authoritative figure. They look at us and they say, well, if you believe we can do it, then we think we can do it. And we all had somebody in our lives that were like that. So I realized the power of I can make you believe something before you believe it yourself. And don't let you see proof yourself. That just cemented that belief. You know what we call that? We call that conviction. So we have that was the goal was to get into Memphis. And I told my son, I said, here, we're working towards Memphis, but we're going to use Memphis as a way to gather intel, to gather information. So I said, okay, we made it to Memphis. What did you do well? What do we need to work on? We went through everything. And I said, okay, can I give my input? He goes, yes. I said, we got to become more athletic and we got to put a little bit more weight on. We got to become a little bit more athletic. I saw kids, they were doing stuff. I'm like, dang, I didn't even know a 13-year-old could do that. So I said, now we see where it's at. We got to get back to the lab. We got to get back to the drawing board. We got to go back in the soil. We got to go back into the darkness. We have to start transforming. We have to up everything. So now we know what we have to do. And now guess what? They have something that we call Peach Jam. It's called Nike Peach Jam. Now, Nike Peach Jam is like making it to the NCAA tournament. Only the best of the best make it. So we have between now and the end of May to win a certain amount of games to make it to Peach Jam. I told the boys, let's go ahead and circle your calendar. Go ahead and circle. I think Peach Jam is uh the 3rd through the 13th of July. I said, go ahead and get you, go ahead and do what you need to do. Tell your parents to start getting the reservations, get the plane ticket, whatever they're going to drive. You might as well go ahead and start planning to go to Peach Jam. You see, you see, see, I grew up, I grew up that that would be being cocky and that would be being arrogant. That's what I, but I told these boys, I said, you have to understand, you have to cast the bait out in front of you, and then you work towards it. You have to see what the goal is, and it may feel far off right now, but you have quote unquote time to start preparing yourself for it. So, yes, say that you want that private plane. Say that you want to fly uh or you want to have this mansion or you want to have this business that's a hundred million. Say that right now and give yourself the time to start working towards it. See, I tell these boys, I said, we got to, are we where we want to be? No. But I tell you what, we're trending in the right direction, but don't think that there aren't things that we need to work on to keep moving towards that. My mom used to always tell me, don't rest on your laurels. Meaning your work isn't done. We had transformed to the version of us to go and do what we did in Memphis. Now we have to transform to the version of us to do what we need to do to get to Peach Champ. And you start to see that this was a microcosm of life. I talk about my son a lot. I don't talk about my daughter only because I understand basketball, but she does cheerleading. Now, I've talked about this before. For all my cheer moms and dads out there, Dash is real. Oh my gosh, when you leave a cheer, it's like you need a uh uh, you need a you need like a detox energetically. I'm telling you, it is so music is so loud, it's so light, but my daughter, she loves it. She loves it. And I always try to champion my kids when they love something. When they love something, you can't be great at anything that you don't love. You can't. And she loves it. I don't know how to do it. My body don't flip and bend and do all that stuff, and ain't nobody looking up underneath me trying to hold me up. Ain't nobody gonna do that with me. But I support her. So she went to a tournament down in Atlanta, a tournament. You see, see what I know? And it didn't even call it a tournament, a competition, excuse me. And this is like the biggest of the big, and I couldn't go. Carly went, and she was telling me, she's like, there's so many teams. She's like, this is how big it is. This is all one building. She said to walk from one building, one part of the building to the other, it would take 15 minutes. I'm like, what? And she sent me a picture of all these people, and I'm saying to myself, all these people in one building, this has got to be a fire hazard or something. Where's a fire marshal? Please, this is a lot of people. But anyway, this was nationals. This was the best of the best. Now, one thing I haven't told you is my daughter goes to cheer practice five days a week.

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Two of those days, she has practiced for four and a half hours. Now, I have to say this. Because you can only do something that much if you love it.

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And sometimes as a parent, as an Uber driver, I'm like, Dang, we gotta pick her up. What time? Wait, I dropped her off at 10 in the morning. You mean she ain't getting off until four? Wait, what? How in the Well, you know what? When I pick her up, you know what she says? I wish I could stay longer. I said, dang. So anyway, the amount of preparation, I love this gym that she goes to. Shout out JPAC, JC Phelps Athletics Center. Shout out JPAC, y'all are doing all right. But the level, the standard to which they do everything is like, they understand, you're gonna call about the DG mentality, they understand it. They know that you can't be great at something if you don't put the time in and you're not uncomfortable, and there's consequences, and then there's a level of discipline. This is like top notch. So I told my wife, I told Carly, I said, Y'all going down to Atlanta with all these teams, y'all gonna win the whole thing. She's like, Yeah, no, I think we will. I know. I said, I know, I'm not, I'm not thinking, I'm telling you, like, if they had it on fan duel and you could bet on it, you better believe I'm putting some money down and they're gonna go down to nationals, they're gonna win. And she said, Well, why do you why why do you say that? I said, Because they have the habits that support them being national champions. They have a standard that I ain't never seen, I ain't never seen it this young. So she was giving me updates because we were in Fort Wayne, Indiana. She was down in Atlanta. First day went good. Yeah, they did blah, blah, blah. They're in second place right now. And then she called me up, she said they won. I said, Y'all national champion? She said, Yeah, we won. We beat every team. I said, pay up. Pay up. I wanted it. One, two, pay out. I knew, I knew it. And I got back and I told my daughter, and we sat, and she was so proud of herself. She was so proud of herself. I said, I know you're proud. And we're gonna ring the bell. We're gonna ring the bell for you winning the championship. But please, please, please, please, please, please know that that championship, while it's important, that's not what mattered. I said, Let me tell you what mattered, because I know you forgot. Y'all remember the episode, it was a while back, maybe a year ago. She was so accustomed, she was at a previous gym with a previous team, and she basically had outgrown it. And she wanted to go to the next level. In order to go to the next level, guess what she had to do? She had to switch gyms. She had to leave her friends. And she cried and it was sad and she didn't want to. And I told her, I said, listen, you've outgrown this container. You're so much better and so much more. It's time for you to go to the next level. And she was scared and she was nervous and it was all these things. I told her, I said, this is normal, but please know it's all gonna be worth it. Trust me. And when I was laying her down to bed and she had her little medal that she won, they got a jacket, got a blanket, and all this stuff for winning nationals. I told her, I said, remember when we had this talk that it would all be worth it?

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Here you are. You're here.

Worthiness Mirrors And Family Legacy

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You did it. So for you, you right now, listen to this. I know you're waking up early, you putting in the time. Some of us may be going on our walks right now, right? But look at the results. Look at the change. You've been getting up, you've been putting that work in, you have that new workout program, you're doing something that required change. You soar, as the kids would say, you soar AF, right? It's hurting, it's painful, it's hard. But you know it's gonna be worth it. It's gonna be worth it. And now, like when it becomes worth it, that's when you see the proof. And guess what that does? It gives you momentum now to go just a little bit harder. A little bit more. I'm gonna push now. I know it works. Oh, it's over. And that's what we call buying in. That's what we call buying in. So we've been talking to this, my son's basketball team about buying in. You gotta buy in. You gotta, the boys are bought in now. They're bought in. They know, okay, if we're uncomfortable and we do what's hard, we will see the results. So for you in this journey, on this, this, this, this life, the reason why I wanted to do this podcast was to show you that it's not just us as adults, it's with children too. The natural order of us to transform and change is we have to be, you know, have clarity on where we want to go, and then we have to have a belief that it's even possible. And then we got to be willing to put the time and the energy into it. Okay? And don't let it be where you fall in love with the process. Fall in love with that process, it's over with. So I told my son, I said, We're getting back to drawing bar. I said, fall in love with this, fall in love with this right now. So when we work out, and I had him doing legs the other day, because I was like, we gotta get more explosive. And the, you know, when you do legs, it hurts. The burn is like no other burn, and really, like, oh my goodness, like, I ain't gonna be able to walk tomorrow. While it was burning, he's like, ah! I said, fall in love with this right here. Fall in love with this. Because if this is what you fall in love with, it's over. It's over. You'll go as far as you want to go. Because now you know that the pain is actually just a part of the progress. So that's the microcosm for life. If you fall in love with these tough seasons that you're in, those down days, because you know that this is just the pain, that's a part of your progress, and you use it for what it's intended for, and you gather the intel and you see what do I have to do? What did I do to put myself in this position? What did I, what do I have to do to get myself out of this? What is this trying to teach me? When you start to do that, you're gonna start winning games by 25, 30 in your own life. And now, here's the deal. You walk around with a little bit, what do the kids call, aura? Huh? You're gonna have a little bit of different swag, a little bit of aura. It's gonna be, you're gonna start seeing yourself a little different, right? You're gonna start to celebrate yourself a little more. And I'm gonna I'm gonna close you with this story. So I'm teaching my son all this. My you know, a 13-year-old kid. So we went to one of my clients' house, played as an NBA. We went over his house for dinner. And I brought my son with me. I wanted to bring him. I said, You're coming with me. We're going over to his house. Now we go in there. You want to talk about opulence. He walks in the house. He's like, dang. He's like, this is, he's like, I ain't never seen no neighborhood like this. I said, yes, son. This is so we go over there and, you know, my client, he has a chef. So the chef's making dinner, and he was like, dang, you don't have to cook to free. I said, yes, son, yes. Don't worry. This is what like you'll be able to get to this one point at one at one point in life. So anyway, I'm taking him and we got back in the car. I said, Do you know why I bring you to these things? You know why I'm doing this? You know why I talk so much? He goes, why? I said, because so it's normal to you. So it's no big deal. Because if something's normal to you, that means you're worthy of it. It's no big deal. So we were sitting at the table, my client was like, he looks at Hudson and he goes, Yo, Hudson, like, what do you think about all the stuff your dad like tells you and teaches? He goes, he's like, he just like says it like all the time, you know, a 13-year-old boy. And he looks at him and he goes, Do you realize that people pay your dad to learn this stuff? He said, Your dad has helped me so much. He's like, you hear it every single day. Now, a 13-year-old, he don't want to hear none of that. He don't want to hear none of that because I'm just dad, right? So, anyway, tournament's over with. We're going to the airport and we go to get something to eat. Sometimes it's challenging when I take my children somewhere and it's just me, if I'm being honest, because I eat one meal a day, right? So, like, or not even just my children, anybody. Carly always tells me, make sure you don't put other people on your feeding schedule. They need to eat. They are people who eat two and three meals a day. So I'm like, all right, Hudson's like, Hudson said to me, he goes, Dad, I'm starving. I said, okay, let's go get you something to eat, right? You're right. Let's go. So we go to Chili's and we sit down and we sit in Chili's and it's packed, right? It's packed. And we sit next to a uh a family, two chick, two kids, two adults, and this lady like plants, she looks, and I can see her out of my peripheral. She looks at me and goes, Oh, I'm like, are you okay? She goes, Oh my gosh, I just bought your book yesterday. And I was like, Oh, word. Of course, I look at Hudson. Hudson's like, oh my gosh, here we go. Here we go. She looks at Hudson and goes, Do you know your dad? Your dad? And he's just like, Yeah, okay, yeah, he's dad. He's he's the one who wakes me up playing this freaking flute. He's dad to me. But here's my point.

unknown 28:39

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 28:40

And I was, we had a great conversation, me and the lady. Uh it was really, really cool. Uh, but I told my son, I said, Do you realize what this is? It's not about the lemon. It's cool that she said hi, she brought the book. And, you know, before I'd been like, oh wow. And I was appreciative, I'm grateful, I'm thankful. But I'm just kind of like, yeah, cool. Thanks. Thanks. Really great to talk to you. I said, this was a mirror. This was she was a mirror. She sees me, and my ability to be able to receive it mirrors how much I receive myself. I said, and this happened like five times over the course of the weekend. Every time Hutton was like, oh my God, I said, Do you see now how it's becoming normal?

SPEAKER_00 29:24

Hmm? It's normal now. And he goes, Yeah. I said, that's because now I know that I'm worthy of it. I'm worthy to be seen.

SPEAKER_01 29:36

So I said, everything that I'm doing with you, everything that I'm teaching you, to create a new normalcy, this is how you create, this is how you create uh legacy in your family. Establish new normals in your life. Take your kids to the nice restaurants. Do things, take them on a vacation. Now the stuff that you always do these things. Because here's what ends up happening. This will become their new normal. This will believe what this was will be what they are worthy of. And now you've just changed the trajectory of your family's lineage. And that's what we call legacy. I went and looked up the etymology of the word legacy. You know what it meant? It meant something along the lines like to complete a mission. To complete the mission.

unknown 30:18

Right?

Make Dreams Normal Final Charge

SPEAKER_01 30:18

Comes from the Middle English word of legeshe, legesh, I don't know how to pronounce it, but the complete, to start and complete a mission. Your mission was to create a legacy in your children's lives by exposing them to a new normal, a new standard, a new way of living, a new mentality, a new emotional state, a new level of regulation. We don't snap out, we have conscious conversations. We don't sit here and point fingers, we point the thumbs at ourselves and ask ourselves, you see, you're teaching your children differently than what you grew up with. And now when you do this, this will become their new normal. And you'll be dead and gone, and we won't remember that version of you. You may reincarnate as somebody else, but the legacy will live on. Oh wow, it was her. It was my great-great-grandmother who started to introduce Mindset Mondays. And we would sit down and talk about our dreams and our goals. And now my great-great-great-grandkids do the same thing. We saw her journals and everything, you see. You just create a legacy. So there's no boundaries, there's no limits to what you can do to create legacy in your life, but um that any children, anybody coming up under you, you have the opportunity to help them establish a new normal for them.

SPEAKER_00 31:37

And here's the deal make your dreams normal. Know that you were worthy of it.

SPEAKER_01 31:44

No monetary amount, no accomplishment, you're worthy of it. You're worthy of it. If a human created it, you're worthy of it. You have the capacity to be worthy of it. You may not see your worth right now, but that was the journey. You got some work to do. We'll see you at Peach Jam, though. You better believe we will see you at Peach Jam. And I'm sure I'm gonna have a podcast to do with you here in July when it's time, but we're starting to work towards it. So you start working towards your Peach Jam. And as always, I wish you nothing but the best on the pathway to your results.