UNFILTERED| Reflections: Season 3 Wrap-Up Q&A

Welcome to the final episode of Season 3 on 'How Do You Divine', where we lean into raw, unfiltered conversations. In this episode, Sanika explore a variety of thought-provoking topics based on audience questions from social media. Discussions range from withheld truths about politics and pop culture to deeper dives into cancel culture, AI's impact on media, and the blurred lines between activism, philanthropy and performative posting. We also reflect on generational activism, personal growth, and the evolving nature of social issues. Join us for a candid and heartfelt conclusion to the season.

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Speaker: 0:52

Welcome back to How Do You Divine a space where we don't run from the weight of words, but we lean into it and explore how they drive the way we believe, live, love, and behave.

Speaker 2: 1:09

In this final episode of season three, I this would not be curated, won't be as polished. We spent all season three putting together our studio album, and this episode is going to be a little bit more raw, little bit unfiltered, not not softened, not neatly packaged. So if you are looking for a clean, neat conversation, I recommend you skip this one'cause we about to get into it. Let's do it.

Speaker: 1:51

I asked you guys on both YouTube, Instagram, on all social media platforms, what questions you'd like to ask as we wrap up this season and following suit. As I said, they're all unfiltered, so I'm reading them here for the first time. Let's get into it. Question one, what is one truth you held backed on this podcast? You didn't want to deal with the fallout and what is that truth now? Ooh, coming in swinging. I didn't even realize that was the first question. What is one truth? I don't necessarily think I held back any truths during this podcast, but there are certain topics that I tend not to speak on politics, pop culture only because I feel like they're sensationalized. And honestly, it's not that deep. So that would be the only truth I think I've held back is that I don't lean into pop culture like many other podcasts and politics because I think politics are now being driven by everything but facts. So those are my only truths essentially. But everything else, it's here for you to dissect and listen to. Next question. Okay. Oh, interestingly enough. The next question is political. Do you think democracy, especially in the US, is flexible or finished and why? Of course, y'all would've picked up on the politics and came in with the politics questions. Do I think it's fixable? Absolutely. Um, do I think it's finished? No. I just think we're going through a time, and if I'm honest, I don't believe a lot of the discussions we have right now around politics are based on facts. I actually think a lot of them are based on feelings, and my perspective is I think we will grow a lot better as a community, as a country. We start to just focus on the facts. Emotions are very fleeting. It's like the weather one day is good, one day it's not. But if we vote and have discussions around politics purely based on the facts, what bills did your senator approve and vote for, and what bills they didn't, what, you know, what the actual initiatives and agendas that they're bringing to the government, then we can have a more productive conversation. Right now, unfortunately, I feel like it's a lot of. Feelings and less facts. So I don't think it's finished. I just think we're in a, in a mood. We're in a mood, the US is like a preteen girl at this point. Next question. Alright, oh my gosh. Another political question. Okay, this is the last one I'm gonna read, and if it's another political question, I'm gonna skip it. Which current political leader do you think actively is actively dangerous, and why not? Oh, I'm definitely not answering that one. I think there are a lot of political leaders, honestly, that are dangerous based on what they say and what they do. I choose not to name any, just because I just don't wanna be part of divisive conversations, not because I'm afraid to fall back. It's just. Intelligence is hard to come by these days, and ignorance is widespread, so I don't play in the dirt. No thanks. Next is cancel culture necessarily a corrective or modern public stoning? Not stoning, dramatic much. Um, where do you stand now? I don't ever think cancel culture was real. And actually I can give you a great example of why I never thought cancel. Culture was real. And I had this conversation the other day with someone and I used Chris Brown as an example. Were many of us disappointed during the time of Rihanna and Chris Brown? Yes, we were all disappointed for various reasons. Obviously, the violence is never ever condoned never excusable, blah, blah, blah. Yes, I say, blah, blah, blah. Not to lighten the discussion, but to make it clear that I think we're all aligned that domestic violence is never capital N. E, capital V, capital E are ever acceptable, but to cancel someone in their teen years for actions done as a teenager and never giving them a pathway for redemption and forgiveness is ridiculous. It's actually like modern day stoning in cruc, crucifying someone and not giving them the ability to be redeemed and grow and learn to be a better human being. So do I believe in cancel culture? Not really. I think people can be outraged selectively based on how they feel about an artist or a certain industry, but. We can mute someone and then give them space to come back. So I don't necessarily think cancel culture is a real thing. I do think that we do have selective outrage and over time, because we consume so much information in a week or so, we're no longer outraged by it. But when bigger things happen, that's like. Monumental in pop culture, like what has happened to Chris Brown? People tend to still want to hold onto it because essentially they wanna say the story, right? The scenario that happened with him and Rihanna forever ago is so much bigger than his career, which is not true. So going back to your question is cancel culture necessary is a necessary corrective. I'm gonna say no in terms of Chris Brown, but then there are other artists that are known for decades of abuse that I'm so glad we canceled. And let's just say we not stepping in the name of love no more. Okay. Um, next question. So not to be, to be fair, I don't think it's modern day stoning. I think there is a, a opponent of. Accountability that we use cancel culture to be a part of, but we have to be selective and clear about what we are outraged by and the why and make that communication as loud as the outrage. Noise is noise. And often noise has a longer shelf life than the actual. Offense. Just saying next, do you think AI in deep fake culture is killing authenticity in the media or is that just nossal just talking? This is actually a great question. I actually love, I have this question do and I wanna read it again'cause I felt like I didn't read it correctly. Do you think AI in deep fake culture is killing authenticity in media? Or is that just nostalgia talking. I don't think AI is killing authenticity in any way. I think AI is, again, a tool used to expand and explore how deep we can get with creativity. I do think when it comes to deep fakes and AI videos as. A consumer and as a community, we need to be mindful of the demand we create for AI videos. Like all things in economics, there must be in a demand for the supply to grow. So what do I mean by that? I know everyone has heard about the r and b artist, the AI r and b artist, which is not necessarily an AI r and b artist. It is. A female who is not using her likeness, but only her words to be an AI artist. And many people are still not happy with that because vocally they're using AI to promote this artist. But went off it in a tangent there. Just getting right back to it, if the demand for AI generated artists such as this artist become greater than the demand for what we would consider traditional talent, I'm just gonna use Whitney Houston for example, just because we can't put Whitney Houston against an AI for obvious reasons. That's when as a culture. It becomes dangerous because now human beings are saying that we would prefer to hear from an AI generated tool more than we'd rather see or hear an authentic voice on a mic. So do I think it is killing authenticity? No. What I do think is we need to be mindful of our consumption, which feeds the demand for AI generated creativity. I do. I'm worried about that, but that was actually a really, really great question. So no, I don't think it's killing authenticity in media. I think, again, as a consumer myself, as someone who works in marketing technology. I just would hope we become more mindful of the things we lean into versus the things that we scroll past. What do I mean by that? For example, one of the best campaigns I've seen in a long time was that Vaseline image, and if you know the image, you know what I'm talking about. It's like a little boy with his face all scrunched up and a hand over his face. That was such a beautiful, nostalgic. Image because every child of color, every single day had their mother slap Vaseline or a lotion all over your face, and you was unhappy with it. But when you was done, you saw that child and was like, that baby is loved. So to me, that was a beautifully executed message. It resonated. It was deeply relatable. There was no AI involved, like only a human being could have known what that image would've re would've done for the brand. But in contrast, they could have just created an AI video of a mom wiping Vaseline on her son's face in the car, or right before they left throughout the door. It wouldn't have resonated the same. Same concept, executed differently. As a community, we need to be mindful of execution and what we gravitate to. Because of that, I think AI and DeepFakes will be fine. Just again, question everything you see because it might not be real. Next question. Okay. What is one pop culture trend you think is ruining our collective mindset right now and one that's improving it? What is one pop culture trend? Hmm. What is, what would be considered a trend in pop culture? Would, are you? I don't know, because I think the word trend is so vague in a way because is a trend and trend in our behavior or a trend in something that we're seeing that is ruining our collective mindset. I think anything ruining our collective mindset is our lack of time management. Honestly. I put screen time on. All of my social media apps and sometimes I find myself 15 minutes more, 10 minutes, you know, ignore for the day. So to me, in terms of pop culture and consumption, I think that's what's ruining, ruining our collective mindsets that we are staring at screens too long, versus talking to human beings and going outside and touching grass. Okay, go touch some grass. But what's one thing in pop culture that is improving our collective mindset? One thing that I do love, that I feel like we're finally leaning into is coming together either at a conference, an event, a party based on our shared interest. I work in marketing technology. So I attend events alongside with marketing, technology, media and those things, but also in my personal life. I love that I am seeing more book clubs and culture con and all of these different spaces where we can come together and be a community that is learning together, laughing together and loving on each other in real time, in real life. So I'm not sure if that's what you meant user by this, the word cultural trend, but I think that's improving. I love to see more of us outside. So next question. Where do you personally draw the line between activism and performative posting, and have you ever crossed it? Good question. I tend not to lean into anything performative in terms of activism. I think true activism happens when cameras are not turned on and images are not being taken of what you do. But it's, to me, it activism is. You donating your time and your intelligence to people that don't understand, let's just say the census or voting or their rights as a citizen, or their rights as a parent. To me, that is a form of activism to donate your time and intelligence to the betterment of people within your community. I can't necessarily speak to drawing a personal line on activism and performative posting because I don't post anything about. My activism at all, just because I don't, for me, I don't believe it belongs online. I just don't believe a camera or anything needs to be there because I'm more concerned with everyone being comfortable and feeling seen and valued. So no camera necessary. But in terms of me, what I see on social media and what people post and, people donating and making gift bags, I'm totally fine with it. I don't ever, I don't personally feel like there is a line. What's performative and what is activism if you're helping someone, thank you, I appreciate it. God appreciates it. If you are doing it,'cause you're like, take a picture, take a ca. That's between you and Jesus. I don't, I just feel like that's none of my business. But I am happy to see when people are out in the streets and protesting and helping one another. And if their motives are based on performative and acceptance, that has nothing to do with me. I'm grateful for the outcome, so I don't, I don't necessarily have opinion if it crossed the line or not. I'm just grateful that you helped another human being. Next question. Has your position on any major social issues changed since this show began? What changed? First of all, I just wanna pause that. I'm shocked by the depth of these questions. I thought I was gonna get a lot of, I don't wanna use the word vain, but you know, more shallow light questions. And to be fair, there's quite a few questions here. So I just randomly grab, copied and paste them on this document. I didn't even read them. And if I'm honest, I didn't do it at all. Thank you so much I had someone do it, but I am really impressed by the depth of these questions. So again, thank you guys so much for taking the time to ask me these questions, for listening to the podcast, for supporting everything that I do. I'm truly grateful, and I don't just say that, you know, as like my performative. Thank you guys. I couldn't be me without you. It's just. It's important to me when I see people truly support this show, not only because it's my show, whoopty do, but because the content that I create is very conscious. It is not passive content. I rarely talk about dating and men versus women and pop culture. Did you see what Beyonce was wearing? You know, these easy discussions that happen in our space that, you know, everyone can digest and laugh and there's space for it. Let's be clear, I love me a pop culture conversation. Show myself. There is definitely space and it's needed to relieve the stress of life, but I am always so very grateful when someone's like, how do you divine? They're exploring words that, that's interesting. Let me hit play and download and watch. I am very grateful for that because it is the first step to acknowledging who you are and how you move through life and how. You affect others. So seeing the depth of these questions and the intentionality of these questions, I feel like I'm finding my people. Yay. This is cool. I'm excited. All right. Stop with the science walking sinica. Get back in sweat. All right. Back into it. And yes, I have a lot of. Voices that I use, different personalities. Let's not get sidetracked again. All right, here we go. Has your position on any major social issue, gender, religion, identity, politics changed since this show began, and what changed you since this show began? I think it's important to say that I started the show in 2020. First episodes were published in 2021. It was a different time, so I don't think any of my positioning on these social issues have changed the way I consume information has changed significantly since then. I am from the school of, in order for anything to be true, I needed three sources, three factual sources. To write an essay about anything. This was in high school and obviously as we grow up as adults, we don't need to be like finding, you know, source to make a thesis statement and all of that. Outside of academia, you just consume information based on where you're getting it from. Your CNN's, the Fox, the New York Times, wherever. And I think prior to COVID. I could read two different sources on one topic and feel satisfied. I'm like, oh, okay. This author is positioning the information this way. The other author is positioning the information that way, and from those two different perspectives, identify the facts of that topic and their perspectives and how the truths lived in the middle. Right now, if it's something that I truly. Care about, and I want to know the brax tacks on. Whew. I go into a rabbit hole. Sometimes I need five different sources to find out what truly happened for an incident or what truly transpired overseas or any major social issues. Now it requires a lot more searching. To ensure that my position on any topic is truly mine and not regurgitated from whatever source that I'm most comfortable with. And what also has changed is I don't consume as much information anymore. It's the truth. It's the truth. I, before the pandemic, I was definitely one of those people who listened to. The news, like, you know, as we were getting dressed in the morning and maybe a book in the car, but a little definitely radio, like started the car with the radio and, you know, I just consumed information more consistently in a way to stay informed where, but it was passive, you know, like I'm listening in the car, I'm listening here. Stopping. Yes. I used to buy the paper. I'm a little old lady inside girls. I already told you that. I like a little newspaper, a little magazine, a little tea. Put me out in the backyard, girl. I'm just good. I'm good. I'm a little old lady inside. So I consumed a lot more information in a more passive way'cause it's fun and I enjoy it. Now I have to be so much more intentional about consumption and to the point that. I actually don't consume as much information anymore. I'm so intentional about current events. What I wanna know, what the needle is not moving, like tap me when it makes sense for my to gain my attention. And, um, I'm learning to balance between the heavy content and fun content. I talked about this. A bit a few podcasts ago where I like reading books and I've learned to build in structure between my learning and my lavish, which are the two categories of books that I purchase, listen, and read. So I've gotten a healthy balance with my books and I don't buy the paper anymore. And yeah, so I don't think any of my social issues have changed. That's a very long-winded answer to your questions, but. The way I consume information definitely has changed since this podcast started, but I think it's a good thing anyway. Next question. Do you believe Gen Z's activism has real power and it's mostly aesthetically anger online? What is going on with all these political questions? I don't think anyone's activism is performative. I think every generation has. Move the needle in the way that is aligned with that generation. You know, like I think everyone's activism plays a key part in making the world better for everyone and not just your race or your area or your tax bracket. I think activism should be encouraged and not crucified, but just. Let's be mindful of the intent and not the execution. Yeah. Yeah. Next question. I'm gonna just scroll'cause this is very long and I think these up here are just too heavy. Let's get into some lighter topics. What's one? Unpopular but honest food or music take you. Standby be. Ah. They wrote, for example, Beyonce is overrated. Definitely disagree. Disagree. She is in my perspective, underrated. Give Beyonce two more stars. The nerve, the audacity on this document. No, seriously, I'm a Beyonce stand and I feel like anyone who hates Beyonce has no work ethic. Yeah. There goes my hot take. If you hate Beyonce, it is because you're a hater and you have no work ethic because you can hate every single song she's ever come out with, but you cannot hate on somebody who puts that level of work and dedication to their craft. Like how? That's crazy. That's like saying you hate Picasso. Excuse me, weirdo. Next or pumpkin spice propaganda. Oh yeah. I'm not here for any pumpkin spice propaganda. No, thank you. Keep it. Uh, gimme look. Nut me. Uh, Canda. No pumpkin spice. I'm not here for it. Anyway. Next, next. What's the funniest thing? You were one Sure. Was maturity. That was actually just ego in a bla What? That was a funny way to put this. Oh, I think that's a low shade. Let me read this question and I just, I'm gonna just see if it's a shade. What is the funniest thing you were one Sure was maturity. That was actually just ego in a blazer. First of all, I love Mia Blazer. I have 152 of them. So if that was a blazer shade, I don't care.'cause I love blazers. But what is the funny thing? I once thought was maturity, but was actually ego. People speaking loudly in meetings. Ugh. I'm not gonna say yelling because I don't think any professional actually admits to yelling in any corporate or professional space, but adults that cannot articulate. Their thoughts without yelling in professional spaces, I is yuck. I feel like my younger self used to be like, ah, that was so boss. They put everyone in the room on check. And now being older, I realize it's a huge sign of immaturity if you cannot articulate a conflicting thought. Without being aggressive. Yeah very immature. Not cool. All right, next one. What is your petty opinion? You will never surrender, no matter the facts. My first petty opinion is that I hurt. I hate the word petty. It is the cute way of saying immature. Cut it out. So, no, thank you. That, that's my, that's my answer to what, back to the question. What is the, what is a petty opinion? You will never surrender, no matter the evidence? And my answer is that the word petty just means immature, but it's cute and I don't like it. Um, yeah. Next question. What is one delusional dream you still keep alive and refuse to kill? Oh, I got a few, but I'm not gonna tell you them on the podcast. That'd be crazy. That mean I'm, I can't say it out loud. I have a few and then I, they're only delusional until they, it comes true. Okay. Two, two. Beat, beat. I got a few, so I ain't telling you any of them. I believe in execution. That's all I'll say. So every one of my dreams will be executed blo, and that was very Nene leaks. If you could delete one common human behavior from society just poof gone, what would it be? Oh, that's actually a cool question. If I could delete. I love this question. This is actually cool. If I could delete one common human behavior from society. Just poof. Gone. What would it be? Oh, that is such a cool question. Hmm. I have so many. If I could delete one common human behavior, so it has to be behavioral from society, just poof. Gone, what would it be? Brushing things under the rug. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. That would be, I would remove anyone's ability to brush how they truly feel about an interaction under the rug. Like they would have to, I don't wanna say confront because it just seems so combative in a way, but they would have to articulate how they feel about an interaction either during that time or shortly after. So your your ability to hide things will no longer exist. Take it right away. I love that. Yes. Ooh, all right. Next question is pop culture trend. No. One belief you hold that will get you dragged out loud. Why y'all trying to have me expose myself on this last podcast? A one belief you hold that could get you dragged and said out loud, I don't even know. And listen, if you need to drag me, please go ahead and make sure you drag me my cute boots. Okay. Okay. Um, one belief that would get me dragged. I don't know if this is a belief. But yeah, maybe it is a belief that you're not for everyone. Isn't meant for everyone. What do I mean is that every personality isn't meant to be adored by everyone. I think this perception of I should be liked by the masses is a fallacy. No one is loved by the masses. Think of any. Pop culture icon that you love that everyone could hate. So that's one belief that might get me dragged because I'm not for everybody and I don't think anybody is for everyone. It's weird. All right, next question. A lot of these were like really political, and I, I was shocked. I didn't expect that. Look at it. I was like, look at you with your intelligent questions. Well, excuse me. Um, here's a good question. You talk a lot about your Caribbean roots. Can you tell us more about where you're from and how do you end up where you are? That's a very long story that can't be answered in one question. I'm originally from Montego Bay, Jamaica. Born there and migrated to the states. When I was three or four years old, I was raised in Brooklyn, New York. For the majority of my life, went back to Jamaica to start high school. Did that first year and back to New York. I was, and I've been here ever since. So, and how did I get to where I am? I am where I am now. I don't know. I don't know how to answer that. That's a little vague, but I believe so deeply about the importance of. My roots in the Caribbean, as well as how I was raised here in New York City, is the melting pot of the world if you ask me. That question is very while specific, vague in a way, because I can't get that deep in one question, but that's me. I love it. Next. Next question. What is a green flag in people that no one talks about enough? That's a good one. What is a green flag in people that no one talks about enough? I'm, I'm assuming green flag mean go. You know how I feel about making assumptions, so I'm being clear about when or before I answer. Uh, I really wanna say authenticity, but I think that's too vague. But to me, what's a green flag in people that isn't spoken about enough is their energy, right? You can meet someone in person and know immediately when after two sentences, I don't really want to talk to you no more. Or if I wanna lean in and get to know you more and just, you know, build on this connection to become friends. And I don't think people talk about that enough. I think because we live in such a digital world, it's easily to access people online that we have forgotten how important and essential people's energy are. You can't hide bad energy. In my perspective and it helps you with your discernment. Having good discernment is pivotal and just like a muscle, you gotta get out there and talk to people to keep it. Yeah, in good standing. I need a discernment. Check it checkup. Okay, next question. If you could assign one mandatory class for every adult on earth, what would it be? I like these like. Dear John, questions, in a way, they're so funny, so I wanna read them again. If you could assign one mandatory class for every adult on earth, what would it be? My first, I used to, I don't know if you're watching this on YouTube, you saw my face, which was like my first reaction, but I thought it was mean, but I'm gonna say it anyway. My mandatory class would be hygiene. Okay. Yeah. You know. Hygiene. That would be my mandatory class, but that's a little bit mean. Let's try another one. Communication. I don't think everyone needs to be a perfect communicator, but I think it's important that you're able to articulate how you feel and your desired outcomes. So that's a class that I would say every adult should take the ability to connect with one another. What's one thing you think people pretend to enjoy but secretly hate parties? Oh, let's get into it Now. This is a hot take that they going to eat my ass up about, but I'm totally okay with it. I think people pretend to love parties and FETs. That can be redundant, but they secretly hate it because. Some as someone who's from New York and I'm Caribbean mega party in idea. All right. Some of them party here is so redundant. The only thing different is the venue and maybe hopefully three or four people, but nine times out of 10 outta seeing people in a party, they playing the same playlist. I think that's what irritates me the most. To be fair, I don't wanna like say this is like a DJ thing. There is a handful of great DJs and you know it's their party. You gonna have a good time. You're not gonna hear the same seven songs you heard last party. Because a lot of DJs juggle the exact same way. They know the par, the songs that's gonna get the crowd going crazy. Whatever. But then there are other DJs that really get in the crate, if you know what I mean. That's a real millennial vibes. When I say get in the crate,'cause I mean, I don't even know what I mean by the crate, but I mean, go deep in the playlist. Not just play the hot joints from now, the hot joints from 2000, but get deep in the crate and they pull the nineties, they pull the eighties, they pull songs from different genres. That's a good party, that's a good time. But a lot of these parties are very redundant. It's just like going to a venue to stand up and look at the people you looked at two weeks ago or last weekend. It's weird. So I think that's what people pretend to enjoy, that they really don't, because sometimes it's not giving, it's not a vibe, it's just something to do. No thanks. Next question. If you woke up with 5 million tax free tomorrow, what is your first irresponsible pur? What is your first irresponsible purchase? You will make 5 million tax free was my first irresponsible tax. I don't know, I'm, I immediately said property in my mind that's really, if I'm honest, as I read it, I was like, Ooh, property. But that's not really irresponsible. I don't really, I'm not big on jewelry. I love cute things, so maybe I'll build an additional closet and just buy a lot of pretty things and put in there, maybe some bags and stuff. But that's really it. I wouldn't, I don't know. I like trips and pretty things. I don't sorry. Not that fun. Um, what if the hill you would embarrassingly die on even if everyone laughs at you? There are so many. That is such a vague question. You gotta be more specific. I'm willing to die on many heels. I'm okay. If you could time travel for one hour. Just to watch something with your own eyes, what moment are you choosing? Oh, reading this question for the first time, what immediately came to mind was the moment my grandparents meant, which kind of makes me sad in a way. But really, if I could time travel, both my grandparents, my maternal and paternal grandparents, just because I love my grandmothers dearly, I would love to be a fly on the wall. When they met their husbands and when they met them, just to see like, you know, what they said to them to like,'cause both my grandmothers is cute as hell and fly as hell. So I just always wanna be like, how did you bagg her? I wanna know. So, yeah. Oh, that's sweet. That was such a beautiful question.'cause I didn't expect to think about that, but I would love to see the moments. Clint Reed pulled up on Lene Reed and the moment my grandfather pulled up on la, um, sister Laura, that would've been a moment. Yeah, that would've been great. I definitely wouldn't see that. What is a sign you instantly know? Someone has no self-awareness. I don't know if I know it's a sign. I dunno if I know if there's a sign. I dunno if there's a sign, but there are certain things that, like earlier someone asked me for green flags. I have certain red flags that I won't necessarily list all of them out, but someone's lack of self-awareness is not reading the room. To me, that's that is weird as an adult to not be able to read the room when you're talking to like a group of people or you're anywhere, it's very. Odd when you can't read a room, but some people just don't realize. So I don't necessarily feel like it's something to make them like a bad person. It's just growth at one point. Sometimes I don't read the room intentionally. All right, Oh, I almost forgot rapid fire. Okay, let's do rapid fire and then we'll close out okay\ all right. Rapid fire. Okay. Here are rapid fire questions off the top of the dome. I'm just asking. What is one thing you refuse to pretend to like anymore people? I don't. That's mean. No, let's answer that for real. What's one thing you refuse to pretend to, like, I don't know. Well, meals, I'm not a full meal lover. I do not like a whole hearty meal. We go out to dinner. I want apps and drinks and mostly dessert. So I'm not gonna pretend to like meals anymore. How about that? I don't like meals. One thing the internet has made people delusional about, Hmm, success clock it. One thing you miss about who you used to be, the rawness, but I'm glad I'm no longer that person.'cause I felt like. That was a bit mean, honestly. Is love more choice or more chemistry? I would say love is more chemistry because you need to know someone energy. Morals principle. It's all about chemistry. Hey boo. Hi Omar. Love you. Uh, do you think loyalty is still a real value in 2025? Absolutely. 20 25, 20 50, 20 72, forever. I definitely think there's so much value in loyalty, but I also think the way I define loyalty can be very different from how you define loyalty. And it's important to clarify what loyalty means to not only yourself, but the people you expect to be loyal to. Because sometimes, honestly, people don't expect loyalty. They expect obedience. Yeah. I said it. So they're sad. Um, what's something you judge people for? Quietly. Hygiene. Just, okay. All right. Uh, maybe I'm being a little too unfiltered, but seriously though, they have perfumes and things like, all right. Who do you have to outgrow to become who you are? Ooh. I wouldn't say who I think I have to outgrow. I don't think it's person dependent. I do think it's situational dependent. I need to. Outgrow the belief that everyone, I don't necessarily think everyone could come with me, but my expectation that people could grow there. I need to let that go, but it's all right then it's coming to an end. That's when I wrap it up. What is the most expensive form of denial? Whoa, this is supposed to be rapid fire. That seems deep. What is the most expensive form of denial? Ignoring maybe. That's a really good question. I actually really love that. I'm gonna be meddling on that for days. What is the most expensive form of denial? Pretending to not see what you've already seen. I think that's very expensive, and honestly, anything that costs you peace. Too expensive and also the pursuit to find out what your piece is. I'm sorry. I know this was supposed to be unfiltered and very like lighthearted, but some of these questions are really deep and I'm just, I'm never okay with accepting other people's bullshit for the sake of your wellness. In any space, form, anything. So we could be talking about a recipe and you can be like, well girl, you know, Billy likes peanuts, but you know, I might have a little allergy. Fuck Billy. Fuck Billy. Do not put that goddamn peanut in a recipe. So I know it's getting deep, although it's rapid fire. But I think these things are important. I think being unapologetically who you are. Does cost similarly to trying to conform to a version of you that you're not. So if you going, you gonna pay on the front or you gonna pay on the back how you wanna pay. It's all right. I'd rather pay on the back. Me and Jesus is good. Just speaking for myself here. I'm, I'm good. I'm good. I'll take it. I'll take it. All right, last rapid fire. Who is someone? Everyone praises that you simply don't get, Ooh, y'all really want me to name people on this podcast. Who is someone everyone praises that I just don't get? I would go with comedians'cause I actually love comedians and there's certain comedians that I really love and there are other comedians that I feel, ugh, that I feel like. Glorify ignorance and be like, okay, footie. No, but I'm not gonna name his names, but it's a male comedian and it's all I'll say next. Anyway, so that's it. The end of season three. No bow tie, no bow on top, no inspirational, sendoff, no. Join me next time with a smile and a fade out. This season was about definitions and really putting a stake in the ground. Billing a pillar of my creative universe, what it means, who controls it. What happens when we stop letting people in words define our reality. And if I'm honest, I'm walking away from this season so different than any other season, especially so different than how I started, because I let go of the belief that it needed X, Y, and Z to be my vision. I just invested in it myself. Season four is coming. We are still building, but it's going to be very different because each pillar in the universe feeds the other and like many things in life. We evaluate, we evolve, and we continue to move forward. I hope this podcast helped you question your belief system, not just what you were taught, but how you would like to show up in the world. I believe that a lot of the limitations that we have on ourselves are. Adopted from how people were told you you should be. How society told you. You can only be acceptable to be all based on words. So define your own life in a way that works best for who you are in this season.'cause guess what? Next season you might be somebody thoroughly different. You hear me? So thank you for listening to this episode of Unfiltered. How Do You Divine? Not see you on the next one, but see you next season. Bye. My daughter loves when I do this, this makes my daughters very happy. Have a good one happy holidays. See you in 2026 that's a wrap