The WOFOYO Podcast
The WOFOYO Podcast
What we call love isn’t always love, and Scripture gives the test
Love with a spine—that’s what we explore as we walk through 1 Corinthians 13:4–7 and trade soft slogans for a tested standard. Paul sets the tone: spiritual gifts impress, but without love they’re noise. Then we slow down and let each phrase work on us—patient and kind love that resists hurry; humble love that refuses jealousy, bragging, and arrogance; steady love that won’t act disgracefully or keep score. The result isn’t a guilt trip; it’s a roadmap for growth rooted in God’s character, not our mood.
We tackle a tough tension many of us feel: the difference between love and approval. Real love doesn’t rejoice in unrighteousness, and it won’t baptize harm with warm feelings. At the same time, it doesn’t weaponize truth to win points. We talk parenting and leadership, where indulgence can masquerade as care, and how humility keeps us aligned with Scripture rather than our image. We call out virtue signaling and gossip—how public performances of compassion hollow us out, and how keeping confidence restores safety and dignity in relationships and church communities.
Finally, we lean into hope: love bears, believes, hopes, and endures—not with gullibility, but with discernment. Trust what aligns with truth; when words and actions diverge, address it gently, patiently, and without arrogance. We share practical ways to live this out—slowing our reactions, speaking plainly without contempt, guarding confidences, and choosing presence over performance. If you’re ready to move beyond vibes into a biblical, durable love that actually helps people heal, this conversation will sharpen and encourage you.
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Hey everybody, welcome to another Woe Fo Yo Short. This is C Dub. It'll last short. And I've never done this before. We covered First Corinthians chapter 13, especially talking about verses six through seven. We're going to expand that a little bit. We're going to do four through seven. And again, the context is Paul is talking about spiritual giftings. He's talking about as good as those giftings are, they're for everybody, they're for the building of the body and edifying of it. We say, Man, don't matter how good the gifting is, if you ain't got love, you ain't got nothing. It benefits you not. For love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous. Love does not brag. It is not arrogant. It does not act disgracefully. It does not seek its own benefit. It is not easily provoked. Does not keep an account of wrongs suffered. It does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. It keeps every confidence. I'm putting it to you, there's a lot of you that think you love and you don't. According to this standard, you have good feelings. There's a lot of virtue signaling out there. But I'm telling you, if you're using this as a standard, and we like in the body of Christ, and I am no different, we like in the body of Christ to pick and choose what we like best. We might play that game with ourselves, we might play those games with one another. God's not playing those games with us. They're standards. Is there forgiveness? Yeah, but you gotta acknowledge that you fell short of the standard, or else there's nothing to forgive, and everybody's just hunky-dory. Love is patient, love is kind, it is not jealous. If it's not patient, you're probably dealing with lust. I gotta have it, gotta have it now. Love is kind. I'll only do those things because I love you. It's not abusive, it's not jealous. So it's not about your ego. Love does not brag, it is not arrogant, it does not act disgracefully. So, virtue signaling. I love my child so much. I love this because I'm a good person, and I accept them for exactly who they are. So I'm not going to be a parent, I'm not going to raise my kid, and when their life comes apart at the seams, by the time they're 25, that's on you. Why? Because you didn't love. Yeah. It does not act disgracefully. It is not arrogant. What's arrogant? I can love so good, not even God will call it a sin because of my love. That's arrogant. You're loving those who you proclaim to love more than you love God. Again, this is not to belittle or berate people or treat them bad. It's the exact opposite. Because love is patient and love is kind. Not jealous. Love does not brag, is not arrogant. It does not act disgracefully. Well, I only acted out because I love you. No, again, that's lust. I only acted out because I love my child. Well, was it that? Or was it fear of loss? Which one was it? It does not seek its own benefit. Self-explanatory. It is not provoked, I believe King James says, it is not easily provoked. Part of the patience. You let things play out. You don't automatically assume you know the motive. That's a hard one for me. Man, if there's a human being on the face of this earth that could finish a thought in a sentence before someone gets the whole thing out, it's me. One of my flaws. Something that the Lord's working with me on. But yeah, that that flaw is there. It is not provoked, easily provoked, does not keep an account of wrong suffered. Ladies, verse 6, it does not rejoice in unrighteousness. Well, I love my child, and they made a lifestyle. They were just born that now. You now you're lying on God. And I just celebrate what they do, even though it's going against Scripture. And I'm not saying that you can't love your kid and love your loved ones and your relatives and your friends and be genuinely loving and patient and kind to them. This is not a license to treat people like crap. But at the same time, go, what you're doing here, I can't approve of. And some of y'all want to appear so righteous and so loving because a lot of you that I've come across, when they start doing this, you're dealing with people that are hollow on the inside. And rather than deal with my own issues, I'm going to celebrate all this messed up, mangled, hedonistic, mess of behavior. And not only am I going to say, Well, I accept you, I love you, but I don't agree. You won't do that. You got to celebrate it to the point where everybody has to agree with you, or now they're hateful. It is not rejoice in unrighteousness. There are a lot of you that are calling yourselves Christians that are saying, I love so hard that I can rejoice in unrighteousness. No, you can't. That's not love. That's good feelings, and it's enabling. It's enabling bad behavior. Why just love them? Okay, you can love people, but don't mistake love for approval. Standards. The word of God is the standard. There's grace when we fall short of the law. But first, God made sure there was a law. It is not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices in the truth. Well, the truth is I love them. I want the best for them, and I don't agree with what they're doing. Yet the love of Christ compels me to be compassionate toward them in the hopes that the love of Christ operating through me can bring them back into right alignment, and therefore he can use me as a vessel to touch their hearts. Man, that's rejoicing in truth. It keeps every confidence. Talked about this on the last short. If something's told to you in confidence, this is where the Catholic Church got their confessional idea from. Keeps every confidence. Something's told to you in secret, you don't go blabbing it. Another thing is, you gossips. Well, I just love them. I had to had to talk to somebody about it. No, you're a gossip. This also doesn't mean that just as long as you don't mention names and you get to infer a situation and describe perfectly what's going on in a hypothetical. No, you don't get to do that. Believes all things. And that was the subject of our last short. Man, believe it. As long as it's lining up, believe them. Hope's all things, hoping for the best, endures all things. So there's endurance. But also talked about you need to be guided accordingly when what they say and what they do doesn't line up. Then it's time to trust but verify, or find out where the disconnect is. And maybe if that is the case, then it does need to be addressed in love, in truth, with patience, with kindness, without arrogance, without acting disgracefully, then you have to address that. I want to encourage each of you in your Bible reading this week, read over all of 1 Corinthians 13. It's not passive. There are some complexities to that. It's a well-rounded description of love. There's a lot of facets to it, it does a lot of things, but it does not give permission and celebrate the doing of wrong. It does not bask in declaring how great my love is for people. Because about the time you start talking about it, I'm a compassionate person. I really am. I don't believe you. If you were a compassionate person, you'd go out and do it. Just show it. Shut up and do it. Too much virtue signaling, too much celebration of sin and iniquity, instead of just doing the simple act of loving God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all this all your strength, with all your might, and loving your neighbor as yourself. Go out there, love people, but love them biblically, and then grow in that love. Woe FOYO. Hey everybody, thanks for listening. We hope this challenges you and causes you to grow and grow in love. 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