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Grief, Grace, And Saying What Matters

• C-Dub and Bones

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We reflect on why growth requires discomfort, why a life should be defined by love rather than its last day, and how speaking what matters now prevents bitter regret later. A personal story of a father’s passing, a family rift, and a recent tragedy shape a simple call: say the words while you can.

• comfort without challenge stunting growth
• remembering a father by conversations and respect
• the pain of unresolved conflict at a funeral
• tragedy as a mirror for urgency and honesty
• speaking love now as a spiritual practice
• making the most of uncertain time
• showing the love of Jesus in word and deed

We hope this encourages you to reach out to those you love and have those conversations you need to have with those who matter most.

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SPEAKER_01:

Hey everybody, welcome to another WoFo Yo short. This is C Dub. You know, I was going to record a short talking about some things that Bones and I discussed in this week's episode, and talking about churches that won't proclaim the name of Jesus, and it's just this general God idea and some of the things that can happen with that. And I was going to touch on that. I was going to touch on the fact that the comfort gospel, if all you are is comfortable, then you're never growing, and there has to be some kind of discomfort, pain, soreness to cause you to grow. The thing is, I just said what I had to say about that. You know, I got off work the other day and I had a message from my aunt and just said, thinking about you this day, want to let you know I love you.

SPEAKER_00:

I go, well, that's neat, but why?

SPEAKER_01:

And I realized that it's been two years since my dad passed. And the fact that I forgot it actually made me happy. And I'll tell you why it made me happy. What defined my father's life was not his death. And not that we always agreed on everything. We had a great relationship. But looking back on it, what defined my relationship with my dad was my relationship with my dad. When I think about my dad, I think of all the conversations we had. And when he went to be with the Lord, as well as went to be with my mom, who's with the Lord, I just go, I am grateful that what defined my dad was not the fact that he died, or how he died, or anything like that. As I meditated on it just a little bit on the drive home, I got to thinking, you know, we had said everything there was to say. There was not a whole lot of regret there. It was a life well lived. It was something that there was no bad blood. There was I'm not saying we didn't always agree on everything, but we respected each other. We had those conversations on why. There was nothing left to be said. Just the love. I know it sounds weird. It made me happy that that I'd forgot it, that it wasn't some big milestone of, oh my God, here comes the day and and dreading it. I got to thinking about over the past 30 years, I've seen my share of funerals, loved ones passed on. I can tell you this, one of the most bitter things that I've seen is I remember had an uncle died. And when my uncle died, had him and one of his sisters, they could fight and argue like cats and dogs. And I just remember seeing, you know, everybody knew my uncle was going to pass. And everything that was said between me and my uncle needed to get said. But everything that was said between him and that sister didn't get said. And I it just it stood out to me because it's one of the first times I remember somebody weeping bitterly. And I I go, well, there's some things that are unresolved. There were some words that could have got said that that you wish you had. You can't take aback. Time is time, and that is what it is. But I want to encourage y'all. Um, had a I'm not going to get into their business, but I had some uh friends and coworkers that experienced a major tragedy. And one of the things that makes this tragic is the fact that, man, I I look at them, I I look at look at the I contrast that with what I experienced with my dad of being able to say everything. And in their tragedy, there's so much that they don't get to. And that's that's a big part of what makes it tragic, is you think you have time, you think you have another opportunity, or we'll talk about that tomorrow, or we'll discuss that. You think that opportunity's there, but it's not promised to you. So I just want to encourage you, this is not something super spiritual, a little bit reflective, but make sure, because you really don't know the day or the hour that the Lord's coming, and you don't know the day or the hour that you're gonna pass.

SPEAKER_00:

You you don't know the day or the hour that your loved ones are gonna pass. So make the most of what you have.

SPEAKER_01:

You know, you're you're on this planet, we're we're sojourners, we're journeymen on this planet.

SPEAKER_00:

We're created for other things, we're spiritual beings.

SPEAKER_01:

But make the most of the time you have here. Have those conversations, whether they're disagreements or not, say what needs to be said. And as always, as much as you can, use every opportunity to show the love of Jesus Christ. Might be tough love in some situations, but show the love of Jesus Christ to those you care about, and even some that you know. Make the most of it, folks. Woe foyo. Hey everybody, thanks for listening. We hope this encourages you to reach out to those you love and have those conversations you need to have. You can always check us out at woefoo.org or subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or over, or even check us out on YouTube. For bones and myself, just the seed of reminding you that if you're going to grow, you got a woefoyo. Get in the work for yourself.