Happy Doc Student Podcast

How to Feel Good About Feedback with Dr. Kelly Stewart

March 10, 2021 Heather Frederick, PhD Episode 18
Happy Doc Student Podcast
How to Feel Good About Feedback with Dr. Kelly Stewart
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Show Notes

Ask yourself: 

  • How do I receive feedback?
  • How do I find space?

 Dr. Kelly Stewart holds a Doctorate of Education in Educational Leadership and Innovation with a specialization in Curriculum and Policy from Arizona State University.  

Why does feedback feel so bad? 

  • We aren’t used to it; the educational system does not train us to revise the same work over and over, so we take feedback personal.

Things to remember:

  • Feedback does not mean failure
  • Feedback is a GIFT
  • Approach feedback with curiosity 
  • The point of feedback is to move you forward
  • Your committee WANTS you to finish! (no one wants to DELAY you)
  • Your committee’s job is to give you feedback
  • The doctoral journey is a GROWTH process
  • No one was born knowing how to write a dissertation
  • An email sent in haste cannot be taken back
  • Use affirmations: “My writing is improving with each revision.”
  • You are playing “Dissertation Jenga”

Tips:

  • Do not panic
  • Breathe
  • Name the emotion so you can process it and move through it 
  • Talk about the situation in the 3rd person
  • Know when to step away and get perspective (DO *NOT* SEND AN EMAIL TO ANYONE ON YOUR COMMITTEE UNTIL YOU HAVE PERSPECTIVE)
  • Identify how you find SPACE
  • Put a sticky note on your computer that says: “Dr. [insert your name], Remember that your committee loves you and wants you to finish. If you feel yourself stressing out you will: [ fill in the blank with how you find space]).
  • Read ALL comments 
  • Do the easy fixes, then mentally group the comments
  • Ask for help from your Chair in terms of managing the feedback
  • Ask for a Zoom/Skype/phone call – it can change everything
  • Trust the process
  • Learning how to receive feedback is a PRACTICE – you are GROWING

Committee members: Communicate with your students about the receiving of feedback.

“It always seems impossible until it is done” – Nelson Mandela 

“When we know better, we do better” – Maya Angelou

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” - Viktor E. Frankl

Additional resources
1. Ladder of Inference (Senege): https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newTMC_91.htm
2. Growth Mindset with Carol Dweck: https://youtu.be/hiiEeMN7vb
3. Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence https://www.ycei.org/ - Mood meter: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qj6AIczvDhg &
4. Episode #12 Is Meditation a Waste of Time with davidji:  https://www.buzzsprout.com/1547113/7485712
5. Episode #16 Why Reason & Logic Will Only Get You So Far with Anna Yusim, MD:
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