The xMonks Drive
What if wisdom had a voice and it sounded like this
Welcome to The xMonks Drive with Gaurav Arora, where soulful conversations meet real-world insight. Hosted by Master Certified Coach and founder of xMonks Gaurav Arora, this weekly podcast brings together a rare mix of CEOs, monks, psychologists, spiritual masters, doctors, and changemakers.
Together, they explore what it truly means to lead with purpose, live with clarity, and grow from the inside out.
From mindfulness and emotional mastery to conscious leadership, healing, entrepreneurship, and legacy, these episodes are more than interviews. They are invitations to shift your perspective and awaken your potential.
If you are done with surface-level talk and crave depth, truth, and transformation, you are in the right place.
New episodes drop weekly on YouTube, Apple Podcasts, and Spotify along with short, powerful clips to fuel your daily journey.
Come curious. Leave clearer.
The xMonks Drive
Sex Anxiety Is Ruining Your Intimacy – Overthinking, Fear, ED & Performance Issues ft. Aashita Khanna
In this powerful and deeply insightful conversation, we sit down with Aashita Khanna — RCI-licensed Clinical Psychologist, AASECT-trained Sex Therapist, and Founder of Kama Health India — to break down the truth about sex, intimacy, desire, anxiety, emotional safety, performance pressure, and modern relationships.
If you’ve ever struggled with low desire, sex anxiety, shame, porn pressure, relationship stress, communication issues, confidence in bed, or a disconnect with your partner, this episode will help you understand why it happens and how to move forward with clarity and confidence.
Aashita brings science-backed explanations, real therapy-room insights, and practical tools to help individuals and couples rebuild intimacy, heal emotional wounds, and create healthier, more fulfilling sexual and relational lives.
This is one of the most important conversations on intimacy, mental health, and the psychology of connection you will hear in India.
🔥 Topics Covered in This Episode
- Why so many people in India struggle with intimacy and sexual confidence
- Sex anxiety, overthinking, performance pressure & emotional blocks
- Porn vs real intimacy — its impact on desire, expectations & connection
- Sexless marriages & desire mismatch
- How to rebuild physical intimacy after cheating or betrayal
- Women’s sexual health: pain, fear, vaginismus, shame & body image
- Men’s issues: ED, low libido, stress, masculinity & identity
- Why Gen Z is “open” online but anxious in real life
- The role of communication in emotional and sexual closeness
- How hormones, stress, lifestyle and mental health affect desire
- Emotional safety, trust & connection in long-term relationships
- What a healthy sexual relationship really looks like
- How couples can build intimacy without pressure or fear
🧠 About Aashita Khanna
Aashita is a leading voice in India on intimacy, pleasure, sex anxiety and relationship wellbeing.
Through Kama Health India, she helps people move from shame and silence to understanding, healing, and deeper connection.
Instagram: https://instagram.com/aashitakhanna
Kama Health India: https://www.kamahealthindia.com
⏱ Timestamps
00:00 Introduction: The Biological Perspective on Monogamy
00:04 Historical Context: Ancient Practices and Societal Constructs
00:27 Case Study: Struggles with Conception
00:48 Meet Aashita Khanna: A New Age Sex Therapist
01:04 The Orgasm Gap and Its Implications
01:16 Podcast Discussion: Defining Cheating
01:34 Sexual Health Issues: Common Problems and Misconceptions
03:55 The Importance of Sex Education
06:48 Personal Journey: Discovering the Importance of Sexual Health
08:44 Techniques and Approaches in Therapy
11:58 Porn Consumption: Impact on Intimacy
15:26 Weaponizing Sex: Unhealthy Dynamics in Relationships
17:04 Legal Cases: Divorce Due to Sexual Dissatisfaction
20:11 Psychological Causes of ED
20:22 Defining Cheating in Relationships
21:09 Emotional, Physical, and Digital Cheating
23:13 Betrayal Trauma and Its Impact
23:34 Early Signs of Cheating
24:34 Dealing with Betrayal Trauma
28:56 Open Relationships and Societal Constructs
33:42 Sexual Health Issues in Women
36:24 Improving Sexual Life: Tips and Guidance
37:45 Conclusion and Resources
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Website: https://xmonks.com