Orgasms in Recovery, Stopping the Loneliness

We explore the concept of "orgasms" beyond the bedroom as metaphors for peak experiences of joy and contentment in everyday life. By understanding these intense feelings of pleasure, we can transform our approach to recovery and pursue greater emotional fulfillment across all areas of life.

• Orgasms represent intense feelings of joy and pleasure that can be experienced in many contexts beyond sex
• Physical intimacy produces oxytocin, but so do 20-second hugs, 6-second kisses, and skin-to-skin contact
• Food can create peak experiences of joy through extraordinary flavor combinations and culinary discoveries
• Exercise and physical activities can produce "sports orgasms" when you hit your stride or reach the zone
• Travel to new destinations can trigger overwhelming sensations of joy and contentment
• Professional accomplishments like landing contracts or launching projects can generate similar euphoric feelings
• True freedom comes from finding contentment in who you are, what you do, and who surrounds you
• Honest self-assessment forms the foundation for identifying and pursuing your sources of joy
• Life ultimately revolves around beliefs about God, experiences of love, and feelings about money and sex

Join our Facebook group Recovery Freedom Circle to share your experiences and discover more ways to find joy in recovery.

Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome to 1% in Recovery
• 1:20 Understanding Orgasms Beyond Sex
• 3:34 Finding Joy in Everyday Experiences
• 7:02 Living Your Best Life
• 9:04 Seeking Multiple Forms of Joy

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:01

Oh, we all search for them. Talking about orgasms Talking about orgasms in and outside the bedroom. We're talking about recovery, talking about loneliness. Listen in Welcome again to another episode of the 1% in Recovery podcast, where we encourage you to laugh every day. Work hard, work hard in your business, in recovery, in your relationships, in school. Just work and to love unconditionally. Just put much more love out there and you'll see a lot more love return. Remember, recovery is beautiful. You cannot outthink an emotional issue and your EQ is your IQ. Join the Facebook group Recovery Freedom Circle. That's where we as a community get to help people talk about recovery, work, the steps. If you have a question about the steps, if you want to just share an accomplishment, a dream, a goal, or there's something that you do want to achieve as well as something that you're struggling with, let the community help you With that.

Speaker 1: 1:20

Let's jump into this week's episode Orgasms. Now, when that word is heard, we immediately think about sex, and it is important, if you are going to engage in sex, to have orgasms. You want the female to have them and you want the male to have them. You want the female to have them and you want the male to have them. But truly, what is an orgasm? An orgasm is a feeling, and when we talk about recovery, when we're talking about living your best life, we're talking about your EQ, we're talking about your feelings and your emotions. And so an orgasm is this intense sense of pleasure, this joy that just goes through your body and it feels wonderful, especially if you're connected with the other person and you guys are sharing something magical. It does improve your mental health. Having intimate, awesome, great sex can enhance your relationship because it does help your mental health. It lowers anxiety, it lowers depression and improves your immune system. It just gives you a certain sense of peace. So I encourage people, if you're in a committed relationship, to engage in, to engage in sex, to make love, because it does help in your overall well-being. And that's what we're trying to do is to increase our EQ and increase our amount of peace, serenity, joy, contentment.

Speaker 1: 3:01

But here's the thing Since, to me, the overriding emotion around orgasms is joy is where else can you feel joy? Because here to me also, within a relationship, orgasms is really an extension of oxytocin, and that's one thing that we constantly talk about. We need that bonding hormone and, like I say now, if you engage in sex, whether that's penetration or that's oral sex, that which will usually end in hopefully both to have orgasms with your partner where nothing is secreted. You can have a 20-second hug, you can have a six-second kiss and you can cuddle naked body to naked body. Those are all forms of oxytocin. You will get the same effect.

Speaker 1: 4:01

It's ultimately what you're trying to do is to bond with another person, and when we're talking about orgasms, we can also talk about bonding with other people outside a romantic relationship. We're talking about family. It could be parents, it could be kids, it could be siblings, but it also could be best friends and you're bonding at some type of level, and that's why those 20 second hugs are so, so important. You can have an extended hug with anybody, but how do you get other types of orgasms, like? We're talking about intense, overwhelming joy, which will then produce contentment in your body. You will smile all day. You'll probably smile the next day.

Speaker 1: 4:48

What I'm talking about is things that bring you joy, like for me, if I eat something fabulous and you count what you would call those food orgasms. There's like you don't need sex, you could just be just content in what you ate, and as a foodie and I know there's plenty of foodies out there that search for that ultimate meal, that experience. Whether that's a dessert, whether that's with meat, whether that's with vegetables, whether that's with some other type of dish or some other combination, including whether that's got cheese, whether it's got some sauce there's something that can be so magical in something that you put in your mouth and you eat. But I find joy in other areas or I find orgasms when I just had, and I had an awesome workout the last two days and I get just sense, I get pumped up because I feel strong, I feel my muscles and I tell people all the time you can get, when I used to train for marathons, there'd be some runs where I was just clicking. I was just like on another level. I think people can get that. Whether they swim, they cycle, they're playing a sport, whether they're playing basketball, soccer, softball, whatever it is you can get into that zone. That is what I call just a sports orgasm.

Speaker 1: 6:19

Travel Travel's another one. You get to an exotic place and you just like open your hotel room or you're on the beach, you're in the mountains, you're in the big city, something like that. That to me, can be very orgasmic. Travel can do that. It just brings people joy and things that can happen if you land a big contract, you're at work or you finally come out, roll out whether it's your website, your app, your system, your course something that just gives you that overwhelming.

Speaker 1: 6:54

I'm a big believer in finding ways to find joy and content. Like I say, those are the two driving emotions for me, and I believe if you truly want to have freedom in your life, freedom to me is content in everything you do and who is in your life, how you wake up each day, how you attack each day and live each day and how you move forward. There is nothing better than truly living the life that you want. So I always talk about in the system, the recovery freedom circle, that it all begins with honesty. That it all begins with honesty. Do you truly know who you are? Are you comfortable with your past and what you want to accomplish in the future, which will then dictate what you're going to do today and be open and honest with yourself and then just go for it.

Speaker 1: 7:52

Do what you need to do to live your best life and who you want in it. You can have your family of origin, but there's nothing like having the family of choice, as well as who are your best friends. What type of business or career do you want to be in? Whether you're being the boss or you're in a big organization, you can find contentment in each in any way to make money. And then it's just about the people around you, love and your spiritual.

Speaker 1: 8:28

I always say life will always come down to what your beliefs are around God, how you feel love, what your beliefs are around God, how you feel love and do you feel that you're getting enough money and sex.

Speaker 1: 8:46

That's in your life. Those questions always come up and they will always be driving relationships and people. So I encourage you to seek out orgasms each and every way, in and outside the bedroom, because that is the way to live. To say, man, I just had an orgasm today and I plan on having another orgasm tomorrow, this week, throughout this whole month, the rest of this year, and I encourage you to make a list of all the different types of orgasms. I'll actually start something within the Facebook group Recovery Freedom Circle where I'm going to talk about orgasms and I'll list my orgasms on how, what I can actually get. You can have multiple orgasms, hopefully sexually, but also a food orgasm, a sex orgasm, a travel orgasm, a workout orgasm, something money-related orgasm, mmm, mmm, mmm. Nothing like feeling joy and peace. With that, we're going to conclude this episode of the 1% In Recovery Podcast.