The Essence of Recovery Step Eight - Maturity

Chapters

• 0:01 Welcome And Core Principles
• 0:40 Recovery Freedom Scorecard Invitation
• 1:31 Recap Of Steps One Through Seven
• 3:17 Step Eight As Maturity And Willingness
• 5:03 Taking Responsibility Over Blame
• 7:18 From Self Work To Others
• 8:43 Listening Ahead And Owning Truth

Transcript

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Are you ready to grow up? Well, that's the essence of step eight, maturity. Welcome again to another episode of the 1% in recovery podcast, where we encourage you to laugh every day. To work hard, work hard in recovery, work hard in relationships, work hard in your business, job, school, just work. And to love unconditionally, put much more love out there and watch much more love return. Remember, recovery is beautiful. Your EQ is your IQ, and you cannot outthink an emotional issue. Now we encourage people to do because we want everyone to start jumping in and jumpstarting their recovery is to download the recovery freedom scorecard. It's on the website, lifeiswonderful. It's a free scorecard. What you do is you challenge yourself to implement and every day put in natural dopamine, natural serotonin, natural oxytocin, natural endorphins. You start to heal your brain. Start getting the neuroplasticity, the transmitters, the neurons to work the way they should. You should be should have cognitive abilities to do what you want to do. So download the scorecard. Life is wonderful. Now let's jump into this week's episode. This week's episode, we are now into the essence of step eight. We took a few days in between seven and eight. Yeah, we had an interview with gambler drug addict Al F. Now we're jumping back into the essence of the steps. Because people have to always, I've talked about the 12 steps explained, the original 12 steps, one word that describes the 12 steps. And now we're getting into the essence. You know, and let's go back over. I always like to keep doing refreshing because I don't know where you're tapping in. Is that step one is really about change. Understand change is coming. Step two is really finding out that you're safe because you're not going to change and it's not going to be long-lasting until you feel safe. And the other one, step three, is acceptance. You got to accept everything that has gone on, all the good and bad decisions you've made, all the different people that have been involved in your life, either staying in relationships, getting out of relationships, cutting people off, whether it's their own business or their own God. You gotta start accepting where you're at and then you can move forward. Which then jumps into step four, which is the investigation. That's when you start doing all the writing, you start putting everything down and understanding why we did certain things or why we need to move forward or how we need to be much more emotional. Because when we become emotional, that's when we get into step five, we heal. We heal, and we also go into step six, which is all about self, building the self back up. And now it's about turning point. Step seven, getting to other people, out, getting outside yourself. Seven is about others, start thinking about others, and step eight, even the way the way it's written, you made a list of the people that you would harm because you are now willing to love yourself to clean up everything that you've done. You love other people, especially your loved ones, family, friends, co-workers, bosses, anybody else that you kind of came in contact with, which you did harm and you do need to make an amends to, that is the maturity. You've got to be unwilling to just love them, just really love yourself, love the world and be because that's the only way to have that peace and freedom. We always say we're doing the steps to get peace and freedom, but it's not just as simple as, okay, now I have total freedom for my addiction. I have all this emotional intelligence. No, you need to do the work. Work the process, work the journal, work the therapy, work the coaching, work the steps, whatever that kind of work entails, you've got to start moving on. And step eight really talks about that's when you really start to be mature. When you're unwilling to put somebody's name, I mean, think about this. You're the only person looking at this list. And if you're unwilling to put their name on a piece of paper in a computer, that shows your immaturity, also shows your insecurity, and just shows you how much you live in fear. And you're unwilling to deal with whatever was dealt with. Uh more than likely, very few times everything's 100% one way or another. Uh usually when, especially when we're all adults, when we're adults and we get into things, uh, there's usually a part of all of us. But we've got to be willing to just take care of what we did. Stop worrying about what they did, even if what they did was much more egregious, what they was what they did was much more hurtful. Gotta be focusing on how can I just come to terms with what I did and just be okay with it and just be able to go, you know what, I did that. You're right. I or I didn't do that, or I said that, and finding out all the different ways that we hurt people, physically, verbally, sexually, financially, and especially just uh affecting their self-esteem, their ego, their confidence. Because all the way, what do we have? We have as just our who we are and what we can put out in the world in terms of then getting the most out of the world and doing things that fulfill us either from some type of uh job, profession, career, as well as you know, the people that we choose to love or already in our families and you know we continue to love or how we maintain that those relationships. But who else, what other lovers, partners, friends do we allow into our lives? And we stay around either by meeting up, phone calls, texts, you know, staying that connection because we always want to be around people that uplift us and move us forward. So a big believer in step eight is really starting about maturity. See, we're starting to move forward, we're moving this ball because we don't realize I said the first six steps are about self and getting yourself ready. The next six steps are really about others and being in other types of relationships. That is ultimately how the steps are. We got to do this kind of work to get because we gotta first we gotta realize, okay, there's other people, and other people are gonna be in our lives because we're social animals, we're human beings. But the other thing is, is now we have to figure out step eight is about maturity. And like I said, and I jumped into this uh before, but I, you know, to jump one step ahead. Step nine is about listening. If we really start to think about, think of others, be mature, listen, you will get a lot out of life. And then later on we'll get into the essence of step 10, 11, and 12. But it's all about getting outside your body. Start thinking of others, doing what you need to do. So maturity combined with listening will really get you over the hurdle because you'll actually figure out what needs to be done. So maturity is that I tell people just do you not want to take responsibility for what you did? I believe that 98% of the people do want to own up to who they are. Everyone says they want to live a truthful life. They want to have truthful people in their life, whether it's a partner or friends. Well, that also has to be looking at us in the mirror. Are we truthful with ourselves on what we have done, on how we've either been there for a loving relationship, how we've been there for family, whether it was as the son or daughter, or as the brother-sister, or as the mother-father, or the aunt and uncle. Uh you know, we have to look at our part in everything that we've done. And that way we can move forward. Uh, because that's how we get the total freedom. Once we clear things up with people, man, it just makes things like easier. You have no problem uh meeting up with them, especially Thanksgiving. We just came out of Thanksgiving, um, and it's a one way to uh deal with it. So I want everyone to uh put everybody's name on the list and understand it's about love, it's about other, it's about being mature, it's about taking responsibility, it's about doing the next right thing. There is so much wonderful things here about the essence of step eight. So with that, hope everyone has a good weekend, good end of the year. Understand life is wonderful. Everyone deserves recovery. And with that, we're gonna conclude this episode of the 1% in recovery podcast.