Henny Nights
Henny Nights
A Lil Transparency ft @simonebnfree
Use Left/Right to seek, Home/End to jump to start or end. Hold shift to jump forward or backward.
Feel free to send in questions or responses
Support/Subscribe/ Buy merch from the podcast: https://linktr.ee/jwhitetheprez
Gaming, Drunk Nights 4 Loko's, Funny Questions and A Lil Transparency about New Chapters and a Reality Check. Enjoy the show.
Follow Randi:
IG/Twitter: SimoneBnFree
Podcast: https://msha.ke/simonebnfree/
Red Light Special: https://www.patreon.com/
Transparency - 2 Chainz & Lil Wayne & Usher
https://music.apple.com/us/album/transparency/1712747991?i=1712748426
Gaming and Childhood Memories
Speaker 1yo , what's good , let me back the fucking mic up . Hold on , yeah , yo , what's good . Welcome back to another episode of the henny Nights podcast . As always , I'm your host , your brother , jay White . First things first . Henny Nights merch . If you want that , click the link in the show notes , that little link , tree link that'll take you to the merch store . That'll take you to anything Henny Nights related , and then you can go there and get your crew necks , your t-shirts , your hoodies . It's still cold as fuck here in St Louis , but it's about to be , you know , sundress season , the yams going to be , yammy , my favorite time of the year , you feel me . So , yeah , get your t-shirt , get your crew neck , you know , and live your best life with the Hittin' Ice merch .
Speaker 1I appreciate you can subscribe to the Hittin' Ice podcast . Wherever you're listening to this at , make sure you hit that subscribe button , make sure you rate the show , make sure you share the show , make sure you tell your family or friends about the show . And again , I appreciate the support . So , now that I got the damn show notes out of the way , I have a returning guest to the way . I have a returning guest to the podcast . She is playing Sims Chill out Playing the Sims so much she ain't got no room on her laptop .
Speaker 3Wow , why you have to bust me out like that . I mean , if you're trying to start a GoFundMe to give me a game NPC , then just say that .
Speaker 1I mean , hey , I'll Contribute to you . Know the real housewives , meet me world or whatever the fuck the language Is that they be . They be talking . But yeah , it's the homegirl . You know being free , randy . Um , but yeah , it's the home girl . You know being free , randy . The mom is back on the Henny Nights podcast . How are you ?
Speaker 3What's up ? What's up ? Yeah , breathe , if I'm your favorite . That's what I thought . Um , life is good . Life is good . Chill on me and my Sims , though , but I will say now , I know how men be feeling after y'all have like a player history and somebody teach y'all shit . And I tell you , my heart was broken the other day because I thought I lost . I have like 120 hours , 120,000 hours worth of Sims play and I thought I lost everything . So I understand how y'all feel .
Speaker 1Let me just say that so are you playing as like you made yourself , or like you made a whole fucking universe ?
Speaker 3Yeah , so basically I delete all the white people because white people can't exist in my world , even if they pretend . So I deleted all the white townies and somehow Sims just be sprinkling extra ones in there still , but if I see them I delete them . And yeah , I just create like my own , you know , families or whatever . I don't keep it a being . I play it Like . I play like through the storylines , storylines sometimes but I really what really really gets me going and that ain't really the purpose of the Sims , but it's what I love the most is I love like gutting houses on there and redecorating them like completely like that's my thing , like building like these and decorating like these beautiful ass homes .
Speaker 3Sometimes I'll do gameplay and sometimes I make up these really bad storylines or really good . Um , it just depends on my mood . But yeah , that's like the thing I love to do , like in my downtime . Like I'm not I don't watch a whole bunch of tv , I don't be in the clubs and stuff , but like that's the one thing . That's like when I got some free time and I really want to just woo some , I'm going to fire up my Sims .
Speaker 1This nigga . Did you say game or play , or ?
Speaker 3game play . Game Game .
Speaker 1Bruh , I'm serious . Like you got bloods in Bloods in Crips .
Speaker 3No , no , no , no , no , no , no . There's no . Well , they have clubs on there . I think your Sam can join a club , but there's no gangs .
Speaker 1Okay , hey , I just had to ask because I'll be seeing folks on TikTok . Know um , folks on Tik TOK and stuff like that . Like you said , they have whole storylines and stuff like that .
Speaker 3You can like with . Like I said , there's different mods . So I'm assuming that there's mods out there that you could probably . You probably could that , um , cause they have like a strip club mob , like it's a lot of stuff you can do with the sims . Um , a lot of it is not like baseline . It does require like all that outside . You know mods and stuff , but it's fun . But , yeah , me and my little um , me and my little macbook , uh , she can't take it no more . So I gotta get to get like either a gaming I thought about a gaming laptop but that's not . I don't really want that . I either just want to a custom build , probably just a custom custom build desktop is where we're at this point .
Speaker 1Yeah , see , you might as well with the Sims , you might as well get into the GTA one too , because they do the GTA role play too .
Speaker 3I'm excited for the new one . A lot of people don't know that about me . I think I've just been talking about it a little more lately , but I'm a little bit of a gamer . There's another . There's like this African folklore one coming out . I can't think of the name right now , but it looks really exciting that I want to play too . So yeah , you know I ain't into the 2K and all that , but I like a little gaming , like his and hers gaming , gaming setup , like that's my type of carrying on .
Speaker 1Give me that , give me that , yeah , so did you grow up playing video games , uh , yeah , so yeah , I think my very first one .
Speaker 3Let me , I ain't trying to age myself too much , but I , motherfucker , was playing atari out here I think my first one was a Sega Genesis , I think Okay .
Speaker 1Okay .
Speaker 3So yeah , but that was how I entertained myself . I grew up in an only child household , so I had plenty of shit to keep myself busy and real shit . Yeah , video games was definitely like something that I started playing very early .
Speaker 1Yeah , my siblings are older than me , so like that's exactly what I , you know , grew up doing was fucking playing video games by myself and like my cousins and stuff would come over and stuff like that . But I always was like hella imaginative you know what I'm saying like with , uh , action figures and stuff like that , like doing a essentially it's role play , you know what I'm saying .
Speaker 3But your imagination goes so far when you're at that age , like anything you could think of I had . I love stuffed animals and I wanted to be a teacher . I was in there having class with my stuffed animals . Like , yeah , I kept myself very entertained .
Speaker 1Facts , facts . So I ain't mad at it , I'll contribute to the funds . You know what I'm saying . Get you a PC , get you a PC that can handle that bandwidth . You know , what I'm saying . You'll be stuck in your mansion . For real , for real Chill out . But no , it's been a minute since I . Well , for one , it's been a minute since a nigga did a podcast , so let me life be like say that life be life and for sure .
Speaker 1But uh , it's been a minute since I've had you on the podcast . So before we get into like I mean we always gonna have fun , we're gonna talk our shit or whatever but before we get into into the real life and shit and that , whatever , I wanna play a quick game . Here you go . Alright , man , I wanna play a game . I wanna play a quick game . It's one of my favorites . It's a question game or whatever , because I let people ask me questions and shit like that . But I also have question games . Nigga's gotta have to get together for like a kickback or some shit so we can play this in a big ass , play these games in a big ass group . But um , oh shit , hold on my bad . Can you hear me ?
Speaker 1yes okay , cool , cool , cool . So niggas gonna have to play these games at a kickback . But I got like question games or whatever , and so I picked six questions from a variety of different games for you to or for we'll both answer them , or whatever . It won't be just one-sided . Okay so it's six questions . You have to pick between one through six four hold on stop my bad , my fucking siri on my laptop keep like popping up like what do you want ?
Speaker 3Siri , annoying man . She always there when you not talking to her and when you actually are talking to her .
Speaker 1She be acting dumb as hell right , like I didn't say hey , siri , but no six questions or whatnot okay , four , number four , all right number four all right , let me see here . God damn it . Or whatnot ? Okay , four , number four , all right . Number four All right . Let me see here . God damn it . All right , tell the Henning Gang listeners about the first time you ever got wasted .
Speaker 3The first time I got wasted . I don't remember that long ago .
Speaker 2Nigga .
Speaker 3Do you know how long I've been drinking ?
Speaker 2Nigga .
Speaker 3Oh my God , I honestly do not fucking remember the first time I was wasted Boo . Nah , just playing . I'm going to go back as far as I can remember Boo .
Speaker 1Nah just playing .
Speaker 3I'ma go back as far as I can remember . How about that ?
Speaker 1That'll suffice . Nigga , That'll suffice
Wild Nights and Lessons Learned
Speaker 1.
Speaker 3So the year was 2007 . And I was me and a group of like my homies were just going out . We everybody had like me and a group of like my homies were just going out . We everybody had like they nigger with them . That night we had this is so horrible , oh my god . We had booked like a row of hotels . Basically we had like six hotels lined up because we're not sharing our room , if my nigga with me , you know . So everybody had them and they man in their room . We started pre-gaming in my room . It wasn't even my birthday . That's not the first time I've been the one to get the most wasted when it's not my birthday , but we're not gonna talk about that it'd be like that .
Speaker 3It wasn't my birthday , but I got so fucked up I never made it to the club . I didn't make it out of the hotel now the fuck that party is ? I later found out these people were not really my friends and the first indication of that was they posted the pictures of me on social media and I was like , don't get me wrong . I've taken pictures of my friends drunk before , but it was never to post them . It was to be like , look at y'all , look at your goofy ass , look at how , how drunk you are , but never to post them . So when those pictures were posted at me , I was like , yeah , this ain't really a group of people you want to hang with . But yeah , it was . I think I woke up , ate some cold pizza and went right back to sleep .
Speaker 1But a time was had . Cold pizza Not . Y'all had a little freak neck set up Six rooms .
Speaker 3Basically because it was like everybody decided that they wasn't going home and whatever dude we was dealing with at the time whether it was a relationship situation or whatever but we went on that we're not fucking and sharing rooms . Those two just don't go , even as college kids . I don't get down like that . What other people do is their business , but nah , everybody needs their privacy . I never made it to the . I never made it out the hotel room yeah , um , I don't think I .
Speaker 1I don't have . I've never had a moment where I've gotten so wasted that I didn't make it to the club . Now , have I gotten to the club wasted ? Yes , have I gotten ? Have I gotten wasted in the club ? Yes , like the first time . So I was making fun of you , but I don't think I really got wasted wasted until after I graduated from high school , oddly enough , in 2007 . Yeah , because we wouldn't be drinking anyway . Yeah , yeah , facts , facts .
Speaker 1My boy , phil , was the one that really had the access to the liquor , because Phil is a year older than us . He would finesse and get us liquor . But I'll speak to two times where I got , like , really , really wasted , um , the first one that immediately comes to mind is the first time a nigga had a four loco . Um , god damn , god damn , oh my god , you want to talk about death in the can , nigga , um , and it was some shit that you know my homeboys who were living in Atlanta and going to school in Atlanta . They had already knew about it , so they come back to the crib for the summer and it was like yeah , nigga , let's get lit off . Four locos . And niggas was like what the fuck is a four loco and should have known something was wrong . When you go and buy the motherfucker and it's like eight bucks or something , something cheap , something really cheap and so easily accessible . And so we bought . We got fucked up off .
Speaker 1One can Like it's a tall boy , it's enough to go around . You know everybody get their own . You know little cup , and it is what it is . And I got tore up off that little cup . I is what it is . I got tore up off that little cup . I got fucked up . Bruh , the night was a blur . It was just a random fucking Friday night during the summer and I remember I used to , I wish to work on campus at , also at the little the theater that's up there and shit , and so like the night was a blur . And then the next day niggas , niggas is texting each other and like bro , bro , I'm hurt , I'm down bad . I don't remember laying on the living room floor like Lord , that whole confession and come to God moment you be having . I swear to God I'll never fucking do it again .
Speaker 1I swear to God , lord , if you see me through this , I would never do another fucking bad thing in my life . That four local had me so goddamn humble bruh , and it tore up your stomach . Yeah , it tore up your insides , bro you ain't no business drinking Four Lokos , no business , Like . I'm talking about it's like 3pm at this point and I'm still tore up Like , and I never touched a fucking Four Loko again after that shit . That was the first . I never touched a fucking Four Loko again after that shit , that was the first .
Speaker 3I bet the fuck you didn't .
Speaker 1And last time . Then another time that comes to mind is when Niggas was in 609 . For my God , I had to be my . I know it had to be my 22nd to 23rd birthday . Yeah , I be my 22nd to 23rd birthday . Yeah , I learned my lesson about mixing light and dark liquor that night . Oh .
Speaker 2Oh .
Speaker 1Man , I thought I was big grown . You feel me Mixing ? Went to my homie crib when she lived here . Yeah , sam , shout out to Sam Her crib . Uh , when she lived here , it was , yeah , it was . Yeah , sam , shout out to sam her crib . Pre-game , that her crib . Um , and we in the car . We know we like three , three cars deep , heading to 609 and I'm drinking bacardi , uh , bacardi lemon . I'm drinking Bacardi lemon on the way to the club . Then get in the club and like everything , from straight to the points to fucking Patron margaritas , to fucking Hennessy and man , them niggas had to sit me down in a booth and and like , like , like a little baby bird , force feed me water , nigga to like to save my fucking life I swear , I swear .
Speaker 1And then what's fucked up is I was too fucked up to continue to kick it , but my homies wanted to continue to kick it and so they drove over to Edwardsville in Illinois and they went to a house party and left me in the car . Left me in the car and then one of the motherfuckers right one of the motherfuckers from the house party was like yo , y'all got somebody in your car . It's cold as fuck outside .
Speaker 1And so , like they came outside and brought me a blanket and so yeah , they left me in the car and kicked it at the house party and shit , and then they drove me back to the crib and they had to ring my doorbell to get my wife to answer and they would carry me up to my porch .
Speaker 1Shout out to having real friends , bro . They held me up until she opened the door . Shout out to having real friends . She opened the door and was like get your drunk ass in here . She grabbed me and pulled me in the house
Reflections on Love and Life
Speaker 1. When I say I was hurt that next day in the bathtub on my fucking Mario wine and shit Like that made me think of another time too , oh my God .
Speaker 3So somewhere , it was somewhere between 2009 , 2010 . And it was just . I was in , like I was in a really good place in life . I was depressed as fuck . I didn't feel like anything was going in life . I had went to , I had let my mama talk me into joining the army knew my ass , I had no business in nobody's army , so I had left , came back and my uncle had . My uncle had passed away , so a lot of my family was in town for my uncle's funeral . So we decided we was like just gonna go out . You know , kind of just . You know woosah , so we go out . This was a period in time when blue motherfuckers was my jam . Anybody who knew me see randy , send her a blue motherfucker . So I started the night off with the blue motherfucker . First problem if you're starting with the blue motherfucker , that needs to be your only drink .
Speaker 1Real nigga shit .
Speaker 3I started with that . Then the night's going on I'm feeling myself . Then saw somebody , uncle , at the bar . He like let me buy y'all some drinks , bet okay , had another one . So at this point we two blue motherfuckers in , and you know , those one never made small , they was always big boys yeah so now I done had two and two and I'm really feeling it .
Speaker 3So then it's time for me to buy my own drink . So I go to the bar and the bar is like oh , you got to spend this much to use your card . Ok , you ain't said nothing , but a word . Give me a , walk me down and amaretto sour . I decided that I wasn't't gonna walk back to my family with two drinks in my hand , so I downed one of them , hoes , right there at the bar . Then I went back to my seat with one drink .
Speaker 3What I remember is oh , what a fashion choice . Do you remember them ? Tall ass timberland boots , literally boots with the fur that came right up under the knees . I had them on . I remember knowing that I had to throw up , but tilly like to have my cousin take me to the bathroom and she was trying to sit me on the floor and I was like hold up . She was like what ? She was trying to see me on the toilet and I was like , why would I sit on the toilet ? Because then I'm gonna throw up on the floor and if you make me get throw up on my boots , I'm gonna whoop your ass . That's what . That's what I cared about in that moment . So I was like I would rather sit on a dirty ass pulling bath on floor and then just throw up in the toilet . Either way it wasn't . She was like no , we're not doing that , like because you're going to be mad when you come to . You're going to be mad that I let you sit on this dirty ass floor . I don't care about them boots . So anyway , I don't remember how anything got out of me .
Speaker 3I get back to the table and apparently , speaking of dirty ass floors , apparently I laid my black ass down on the goddamn dance floor . Just lay it down , so my family gets me up out of there . Because they was like all right , bitch , you're done embarrassing us . My cousin's husband comes to pick us up . And they made me stick my head out the window because his truck was literally brand new , like just peeled the plastic off , and they was like Randy , we love you , but if you throw up in this goddamn truck ? So they had me held my head out the window until we got to their house . They didn't live too far away from the club . I get to their house and I crawled to bed .
Speaker 3I crawled hey real nigga activity , it be like that Woke up the next day , had to get myself together because it was again . Family is in town . So everybody look for Randy at dinner and my cousin talk about something I'm just so disappointed in . You Girl shut up , but it was a time . Yeah , I was going through a lot at that time . I was just down to drinks time . Yeah , I was going through a lot at that time in life , I was just down to drinks . But yeah , what a night . What a night .
Speaker 1Fun fucking times .
Speaker 3I'm glad that I was with people who love me and care about me , though they wouldn't go letting nothing happen to me . But what a fucking time to be alive .
Speaker 1Yeah , pick your next card six all right , let's see here . All right , if I'm running late , what's most likely to be my excuse for running late ?
Speaker 3If you running late , yeah , and some cheeks .
Speaker 1Real shit though .
Speaker 3Oh god , this is what happens when y'all have Guy friends . They are real life terrorists Um .
Speaker 1Hey , I'm definitely gonna make time to crack . I'm definitely going to make time to crack . I'm always going to make time to crack , I swear .
Speaker 3Let me think of another reason Catching the rest of a game , yeah .
Speaker 1That's fair . That's fair , I don't know . That's fair . Okay , all right for you . For you , it'll either be you fucked around and like didn't really want to go , you didn't really want to go . You didn't really want to go and be like I'm not going to hold you , I'm going to take a rain check , or your ass got too high , god damn it yes , absolutely niggas , be over here stuck . Stuck , stuck High as hell . So those would definitely be the two for sure . Yeah .
Speaker 3Alright .
Speaker 1Number two Alright number two , okay , two , all right . Number two , okay , how can I phrase this one ? Oh , I know how to phrase this . What would this chapter of your love life be called ? Preparation ?
Speaker 3Ooh , nigga said preparation Okay .
Speaker 3I just feel like I'm in this stage where , like I've put out in my prayers and in the universe and all that , like what I want , what I desire , and I , in the meantime , I've just been working on like being a better me , like just all around , um , I feel like , with whatever it is like whether it's a romantic relationship , a job , whatever the case you have to be ready for whatever it is that you pray for , so you have to prepare to receive um , what , whatever it is , so that you don't , you know , you don't let it slip through your hands . I feel like that's where I am now . Okay .
Speaker 1I'm not mad at it . For me it would be . I'll keep it a buck with the song that I posted when I posted a picture . For those that don't know , I put it I found a new muse . I'll put it that way I found a new muse . It's been for everybody that know . It's been a long time . It's been shit . It's been . It's going on four years now .
Speaker 3So she passed , so she fine , yeah , I synced her , she fine .
Speaker 1Yeah , more like that . Synced her , synced her . You know what I'm saying ? Damn , I forgot that shit . You hella did it yeah . And so , yeah , so it's just dope being in this space . Um , I have to learn to . Um , I give give her all the grace in the world . You know she's patient as fuck , for sure . Um , it wasn't any pressure or anything like that . Everything just kind of happened naturally .
Speaker 3But um , I love that for you .
Speaker 1I had to have grace with myself and not being not feeling guilty , because I'm at a point in my life where these are things I talked about four years ago and , due to circumstances out of my control , the person that I thought I was building that with is no longer here , and so now that I'm here , it's like damn . We talked about this .
Speaker 1We talked about you know the work that I was putting in with school and you know , trying to get to the point in my career where I'm at , where I'm doing something that has impact , and then stuff with the podcast , and there's just all these things . And now you know , I got a new , you know passenger along on this ride and she's like she's , she's actually experienced some shit . Even you know , in the . You know from the , the , the beginning stages to this , you know what I'm saying and it didn even you know from the beginning stages to this .
Speaker 2You know what ?
Speaker 1I'm saying and it didn't , you know , scare her away or anything like that . You know she was like life , life , be life . And it was yeah , and she was there , didn't judge anything . Like nigga , like in this whole process , like nigga lost job , lost a job , you know a lot of changes , a lot of identity changes . Then to come out on this other end and to , like I said , have a new teammate , you feel me , it's been dope . I would say I found a new muse . You know what I'm saying .
Speaker 3It's dope .
Speaker 1She spoiled his fuck .
Speaker 3What women in your life aren't .
Speaker 1Spoiled his fuck , but it's not a bad thing , it's a good thing . Yeah , all right . You only got three more left .
Speaker 3Okay , five I can't say All right , you only got three more left . Okay , five , five .
Speaker 1I can't say All right , tell me about your worst date . That goddamn sinister ass laugh . Oh my God .
Speaker 3Niggas should die . I'm going to tell you no , die . I'm going to tell you no because I'm going to tell you Worst date . I've pretty much , for the most part , gone out with men who are gentlemen , but this one in particular , killer . It really wasn't even the date itself , because we had great conversation , great chemistry and everything . We ended up extending our date because we were having such a great time . The problem came once it was time for the date to end . We had , by the time we had finished like hopping around to different spots . He had got pretty far from his , from where he parked . So I was like I'll just drive you back to your car , like me not thinking nothing of it . Ok , we had just had a really great time .
Speaker 3This Negro pulls his dick out when he gets in my car , just pulls it out , just pulls it out . I can laugh about it . I can laugh about it now . But it's that he had the audacity to pull his dick out on me . Like I'm gonna need people to not be so overly horny , like that's . That's a complete turnoff .
Speaker 3And the kicker is had you played cards , right ? You was probably real close to sniffing them , but you decided like I can't , I can't deal with men who move like that , like it . It's a complete turnoff . Yeah , he had . I had to get to him the fuck . Thankfully he wasn't on no , like extra weirdo shit , and it didn't take much for me to get him up out of my car , because that's also another thing like y'all would , do , not y'all . But you know , men will do shit like that , and then it can turn very ugly when a woman is like nah , I'm not'm not on that . Thankfully that was not that situation . He was crazy . But he went that crazy to where he ain't accept my no Right and yeah , yeah , like I said , I can laugh about it now , but that was like .
Speaker 1That's some badass shit .
Speaker 3yeah , Honestly , but I can laugh about it now , but that was like that's some badass shit , yeah , honestly . But I can't , I'm going to keep it a bing . I really haven't had a lot of bad dates , like I said , after the fact , whether there be a date two or we get down the line and been dating and been dating and folks start doing this , that whatever . But actual dates , like they be they , be they be cool . And if it wasn't , I feel like it was so long ago it wasn't worth me remembering , so I really don't remember yeah that's real
Speaker 1yeah worst date . I think I've told this story before , but like it was like it was the opposite of that . She didn't pull her titties out or nothing like that or whatever , although I had a situation like that happen where I went on a date with a friends with benefits situation and you know it was , you know catching up and stuff like that . You know it wasn't nothing crazy , but catching up and stuff like that , it wasn't nothing crazy . She definitely pulled her stuff out , her titties out , but was like , yeah , we can't do nothing though what I was kind of like , huh .
Speaker 1She just wanted to thank you , yeah , she pulled her stuff out . Mind you , we're in a car parked and I'm like , okay , if you're on that type of time , we can go .
Speaker 3Why are you missing your titty out in the car if you ain't ready for action ? That's weird .
Speaker 1We'll have to bam . But you're like nah , nah , nah , nah , nah , nah . We can't do that . I'm not here for that . You're pulling your damn titties out , you want to make out and all this shit . What ?
Speaker 3She's a goofy Okay .
Dating, Music, and Intimidation
Speaker 1Worst date I had was definitely I don't remember where we went . It wasn't nothing crazy . This was back in high school college days for sure , Definitely college days .
Speaker 1Motherfuckers ain't got a lot of money to their name , so we probably went to somewhere like applebee's and some shit but , um , yeah , after that , like I wasn't , it was like I said , it's the opposite , I wasn't really trying to be on nothing , right , not because like I didn't find her attractive or anything like that . It was just like I'm just , you know , you , you try to try something different . You try not to be a horny ass teenager or whatever .
Speaker 3If I can wait a little longer .
Speaker 1Yeah , you know what I'm saying , because , lord knows , I don't need you being like so that's all you see me for . I don't need that stress .
Speaker 3If I'm honest and I say , yeah , then what right ?
Speaker 1right , exactly . So we get back to the crib or whatever . And you know I'm like , well , you know I had a you know good time and stuff like that , and I go to get out the car because she drove and she was like she hit me with the like , so we not fucking if you gotta ask babes . I was like huh , she's like so you're not gonna invite me in , we not ? We not fucking . I'm like I wasn't even trying to be on that .
Speaker 3I ain't never had to ask a man if he wanted to invite me in , if he wanted to invite me in If he don't invite you in babes .
Speaker 1When I say she got so fucking mad at me , bruh , oh wow . Oh , there's everything in the book .
Speaker 3You said she was trying to throw it , but you ain't catch it .
Speaker 1Motherfucker , you ain't shit . We went to a fucking raggedy ass Applebee's and da , da , da , da , da . I'm like nigga . Applebee's back in the day was like not the Applebee's , it was now . You know , what I'm saying .
Speaker 3Applebee's in high school . Was that girl For ?
Speaker 1real , for real , and so I was everything . So I got off the car . I mean , eventually we did cross that line , but um , yeah , bro , I had never had that happen to me ever . I was like it took me , it was taken back by it and I'm not gonna hold you . It was , that was different . Um , but I haven't had , luckily I haven't had like dates that like really went to like shit , like that . It was always something that like after effect made it weird . But yeah , those two moments .
Speaker 3I'm grateful for that . Yeah , people tend to , you know , act like they got some sense while they out in public with me , and I love that for me . Um , yeah , okay , what numbers I got with one , and I love that for me . Yeah , okay , what numbers I got with One and six .
Speaker 1It's only two cards left . I wouldn't keep it . I lost count .
Speaker 3Oh , okay .
Speaker 1One Give it here . Where is ?
Speaker 3it .
Speaker 1You can only stream one album for the rest of your life . Which album are you streaming ?
Speaker 3Oh my God , damn One .
Speaker 2One .
Speaker 1Only one .
Speaker 3God damn , this is hard . Do y'all know how much music I listen to , how many different artists , oh God . It's a good question because I was going to say something that technically could be right , but I knew in my mind it went right . So I ain't even going to play you like this but , you know , I'm going to say it anyway because you can't make me choose . I'm going say it anyway cause you can't make me choose . I'm gonna take it back to the early 2000s and I'm gonna cut me a mixed CD .
Speaker 1Nigga it's your fucking Kazaa Bear Share head ass . Go somewhere . Bruh fucking Lime Wireire headass .
Speaker 3Oh my God , because do I really have to choose ? God damn , I just feel so heartbroken . If I don't choose right , it's because there's so many right options for me , and it would change . Fuck it , self-titled Beyonce , because I'll be here all day trying to pick one .
Speaker 1Okay , I ain't mad at it . I'm in this penthouse half naked it's real for you , naked . I told y'all niggas that was my shit . I stand by it . That's a good one .
Speaker 3That one still gets heavy . It's in heavy rotation over these ways . But you can ask me the same question tomorrow and my answer will be the same .
Speaker 1Right , right , right . I feel you . I feel you . I'm not mad at it . Oh man , what album could I ? I could only stream one album . I'm kind of similar to you . I could go with a variety of different albums , because there are certain albums that made me feel certain ways for sure right yeah , um , I'm trying to think about like key moments of my life where yeah , that's a good question .
Speaker 3Let's see here I was a mixed CD burning ass nigga back then too so I'm like everything , and even now I mean we just playlist , we doing the same thing with playlist facts , facts , facts , facts , real shit , god damn .
Speaker 1Okay , um , I have to pick one .
Speaker 3I have to pick one but I thought of a second one too , after you think of your first I , I got , I got two that come to mind for sure .
Speaker 1One is definitely graduation that's a good one um , that was freshman year of college . So like , yeah , my freshman year , summer after I graduated high school and first year freshman year of college was just a blast , a fucking time . So graduation and my other one would probably so graduation and my other one would probably be this is hard , this is hard . What's your other one ? You say your other one .
Speaker 3Summer 2008 . Motherfucking Carter 3 . Okay , what was your other one ? You say your other one , summer 2008 . Motherfucking carter three okay okay the world , the world . I didn't give a fuck about anything . Life was up . I had the . That was one of the most fun times of my life . When that album came out , you couldn't tell me nothing , almost knocked my sound system out with like , yeah , that was a really , really feel-good album .
Speaker 1Yeah , damn , this is hard . This is fucking hard . You created this chaos . I know , right , because I'm thinking of just all the you know what I'll go , just because this is a St Louis podcast , through and through , I'll go country grammar yes yeah , I'll go country grammar . Yeah , I'll go country grammar . That might be an easy way out because there's so much music out there I'm forgetting shit . But yeah , yeah , so I'll go that , all right . Last question is what do you think is intimidating about me ?
Speaker 3That's not a good question to ask somebody who knows you , because I don't find you intimidating . I really just feel really down to earth as do , so I feel like if anybody is truly intimidated by you , they pussy .
Speaker 1So what's crazy is like outside . When we were growing up , when me and me Mars Elliot Phil was growing up , motherfuckers thought I was an asshole . You do have a resting bitch face . And that's what thanks a lot . But that's why because my face like where I'll be out , I'll be fine , I'll be chilling .
Intimidation and Financial Realities
Speaker 1Niggas be like when I buy niggas , I'm obviously including everybody my motherfuckers .
Speaker 3be like damn what's wrong with this nigga ?
Speaker 1Yeah , that's just how you look out , I'll be like nothing's wrong with this nigga ?
Speaker 3Yeah , that's just how you look out . I'd be like nothing's wrong with me .
Speaker 1I'd be chilling . Dog , I ain't bothering nobody , you feel me , but yeah I've . I was like damn that nigga mean . I'm furthest thing from it , literally not . That's why I'm like furthest thing from being fucking mean . I'd just be chilling .
Speaker 2I'd be be chilling . I don't be , I don't be I don't , yeah , I don't be moved .
Speaker 1I don't be moved by certain shit . That's what it really is .
Speaker 1It's just like you're also not a person who just be talking , just to be talking like if you don't have nothing to say you're not gonna say nothing , you just don't observe that's the other part that , like I think irks has irked people in the past , like if I , if you're , if you've said something , why would I repeat what you just said ? Like especially , especially if I agree with you like yeah , you're right , like I got . I got nothing to add to that shit , so yeah , I don't , I just don't be repeating it yeah , I don't know , I don't talk , just to talk , you know .
Speaker 1but yeah , okay . So what I would say would probably be intimidating about you now is that , now that you've done the work , motherfuckers can't move you off your fucking uh , your , uh , your pillar , you , you that's another way of saying standing on business , but I didn't want to say that but motherfuckers can't move you off your , your pillar . Know , I'm saying , not saying you're on your high horse , not saying you're on on that shit , but like you've done the work , you've done the things that you needed to do to become the version of yourself that you wanted to be , and like I can see that being intimidating to others or whatever , who don't know you you know , I'm saying so it's fair .
Speaker 3I received it , um , and I I do think it's valid , like it's , if you , if you , if you yourself haven't done the work and you're still moving in this , in this cloudy space of I don't , I don't know which way is up and which way is left , which which way is right Somebody who does seem like they do could be I do understand how that could be intimidating . Or , yeah , you can't sway this person's like . No , I said what I said , I feel how I feel and this is what it is I receive . That is what it is I received , that I'll take that .
Speaker 1There you go . Yeah , that was the game man it turned out . I didn't realize it was going to be in the game that long , but it turned out good .
Speaker 3That was cool . That was cool .
Speaker 1Before we get out of here , I want to tell y'all broke niggas and broke bitches something .
Speaker 3You got to chill out , man .
Speaker 1Look bro , it's fucking hard out here , motherfucker inflation the government don't give a fuck about this . And y'all are insisting on having these fucking gender wars and these fucking salary wars , when the average fucking American , which is more likely you , is not even making the fucking amount of money to match them high ass standards that you have in a requiring of somebody . So do whatever you gotta do to get your funds up , to get your fucking house order in order to take care of your mental and take care of your fucking chickens .
Speaker 1Do whatever the fuck you gotta do , but be realistic about it but be realistic about it and make sure that you can fucking give what the fuck it is that you are asking for and why y'all be on the internet on Beyonce's internet having these conversations .
Speaker 3I need some of y'all to remember that your salaries are public information . I be shitting the fuck up , though . I just need y'all to remember that some of y'all work for entities that literally have to report your salaries Publicly traded entities . Niggas know what you make . While you , sitting here , talking about some , my man have to make 300k , sweetheart , sweetheart , you don't even make 75 of it .
Realistic Expectations in Dating
Speaker 3What we doing , what we doing now , let me say . Let me say I do .
Speaker 3I do not fault people for saying , hey , this is how my lifestyle is , this is the lifestyle I'm accustomed to . So I want a partner who , too , can't afford this . That is fair , but I do not believe in and and I've I've had conversations with women who disagree with this Everybody is allowed to believe whatever they believe , but I come from a belief system that I don't . I don't believe in looking to a man to do way more than me than I can do for myself . And when I say way more , because should your partner be able to introduce you to new things ? And when I say way more , because should your partner be able to introduce you to new things , absolutely , I'm here for that . I welcome that . I want that . I receive that . That's cool .
Speaker 3But it's like some of y'all be going a little bit too far with your air quote requirements , requirements and it's like , sweetheart , I need you to be fucking for real , because let's also keep in mind that a lot of people date within their , their tax bracket or just in their , in their , in their social circles . So if you are a , if you make a 30 , 40k , like annually , you're likely not going to be in rooms with millionaires . Baby , I'm not saying you can never meet one , but the probability of you meeting one is very slim , because what spaces are y'all going to be in together ? Boo-boo , I need y'all to meet . They're going to be in the club , remember're gonna they're gonna be in the club .
Speaker 1Remember , they're gonna be in the club popping bottles and shit you know , realistic and I'm not .
Speaker 3I'm not saying don't shoot for the stars , because as much as we say , you know we're not . We're not saying this , we're not saying that somebody is gonna listen to this and they're gonna feel triggered and they're gonna be ready to tussle . Let me tell you what you can't ever do with two St Louis finest , it's tussle with us . That's what we're not going to do . I also don't fight you , goofy bitches , because I actually have things to lose . I send you to jail . That's what we do over here .
Speaker 1When motherfuckers be talking about that , they be specifically talking about entertainers and ballplayers and motherfuckers that are celebrities and the shit they see on instagram never move down and come save you , and again , if that's your inspiration in life , cool beans , babe .
Speaker 3but I need you to understand that again , the probability of that happening is very slim . Be realistic about about where the where the men you attract are , and let's I mean we can y'all get on my nerves with these conversations , y'all . Y'all really do . They're old and they're tired , cause what you could also do is do what works for you and stop telling the internet about it that that's also an option .
Speaker 1No , I gotta be publicized . You know what I'm saying . I just needed the platform . I just needed the platform . I already had a plan , I just needed the platform A motherfucker is not gonna want you out here . A motherfucker that you're chasing , that's in this quote-unquote tax bracket , is not gonna want you out here , just saying whatever the fuck ever . Yeah you talk too much , you're going to be a fucking liability . Who wants a fucking liability ?
Speaker 3If a millionaire were to come get you shut the fuck up . You talk too goddamn much . That's half of y'all problem . Now I see too much on the internet that I have no business knowing . Why do we know these things ? Why do we know these things ? Y'all talk too much . I don't like that . I don't like that , but I really do think that people need to be more realistic . Um , because it comes off as you don't really want true partnership . Um , we , we have seen , we have seen the statistics , like we've , we've seen the numbers and we know like , wow , you might not know exactly what the people around you are making . Most of us know , like a range of like , what our friends are making , because we I mean , the easiest thing to go by is how they live most .
Speaker 1I don't really know anybody who is just living well beyond their means , I think or just look up your fucking job title , or that and look up that , look up the average or whatever city you in that job title makes , and then boom um , so I think so again .
Speaker 3I don't think that wanting more is is wrong , but I think that a lot of , even when it comes to money and just a number of things I think that's part of why this like dating now is just so jacked up is because people have very , very unrealistic expectations . And if somebody , if I'm , I'm I obviously don't know how that feels to men , but I can only assume if men are like hey , you know there are . There are a population of men who do believe in being providers . There are a population of men who do believe in being providers but say they're looking at these tweets and they're like , oh well , dang , I thought my 60K job was doing something . Not she want me to make triple this . I barely made like I don't . I don't think y'all should do that . Like , if you miss mamas , if you don't want a man who makes 60k , then guess what ? Don't entertain a man who makes 60k . But you could keep waiting around for that millionaire baby .
Speaker 1You might be single for the rest of your life I mean , they could get on the dating app that you know the millionaires be on . It's a fuckingting process to get on that motherfucker though .
Speaker 3They ain't just going to let anybody get on there .
Speaker 3They don't do that because that also requires work . It's like you're not the package you think you are . I was trying to find another way to put it , but you're not the package you think you are . I'm not even trying to be shady again , I'm just being unrealistic . Y'all be shooting well outside of your league with all these made-up ass requirements and you look and sound the fuck stupid . He can't like I . I saw somebody one day and they and I I wanted to think she was trolling . I really wanted to think she was trolling , but I honestly think she was for real . She said that a man , in order to take her out on a date first date that she needed she needed money from him for her hair , her nails , an outfit and an Uber . Are you bitches smoking crack ?
Speaker 1Transactional .
Speaker 3Is it crack , what , what ? That kind of shit be pissing me off because I'm like , I know y'all are not serious , but there are so many women who think like that and it's again . Do you want partnership or do you just want somebody to come over here and take care of you ? Because those are two different things . If you're in partnership with somebody who really cares about you and is really about you , you're going to be taken care of in multiple ways , but you also got to be taking care of them in the ways that they need to . It's reciprocity . But y'all be like , nope , I'm going to sit here and do nothing and I want you to give me the world .
Speaker 1They're going to sit here and do nothing and I want you to give me the world . They're going to leave here with something . He or she going to leave here with something .
Speaker 3And I'm like are y'all okay , are you okay ? When's the last time you went to go sit on that , lady couch , because y'all aren't okay and I just be sitting back , you know ? You know , scrolling reading these goofy ass comments , I don't engage because I'm like I don't , I don't , I don't have them type of problems , like I date who I want to date , I don't date who I don't want to date . It's as simple as that .
Speaker 1I don't know it's the be realistic part , yeah , but it be fucking people up . You can have your preferences , but be realistic dog , but we living in a fucking GTA server anyway . So I don't , I don't give a fuck all this shit is stimulating .
Speaker 3One day it's gonna blow up .
Speaker 1GTA server like a motherfucker . So whatever , I just wanted to get that off my chest because y'all be having life fucked up .
Speaker 3They do , they really really do .
Speaker 1Yeah , so , but yeah , tell the folks where they can reach you at and you may respond to them , you may not .
Speaker 3Well , you can find me on Twitter at I think it's Simone being free . I be changing , look y'all , I be changing shit up . But yeah , you can find me on Twitter at Simone being free . That's Simone the letter B , the letter N free . You can find me on Instagram at being free pod . That's the letter B , the letter N free pod , and my lovely co-hosts , candice and I , are coming at y'all monthly with topics on healing and self-love and self-care and all that whoop-de-whoop . Healing and self-love and self-care and all that whoop-de-whoop . And yeah , if you catch me on any other social media platforms , it's because you got lucky and you found me . But yeah , that's all you know . I heard just living life trying to be better one day at a time . I'm about to go to the gym , crank one out .
Speaker 1Yeah , life is cool , yep , and I'll put that all in the show notes so y'all can slide through and , you know , shoot your shot at the . You know the million dollar woman .
Speaker 3You feel me , I didn't tell y'all . Stop letting me lie to y'all when it come to me , I didn't tell y'all . You feel me , you know , are coming to the work for you . I like bearded men and you got to be taller than me . I'm 5'6" , so we can start there . Yeah , and I like my men thick .
Speaker 1Alright , so can we not ?
Speaker 3I mean , mean you started . I was over here chilling , but since you , if you want to send them my way , you got to send the right ones my way . That's all I'm saying .
Speaker 1I feel you . But yeah , all her information Will be in the show notes . So make sure y'all tap in with her , check out the podcast , check out everything she's doing , and until next time We'll holler at y'all . Tap in with her , check out the podcast , check out everything she's doing , and until next time we'll holler at y'all later . Peace , bye .
Speaker 2Bye , I don't wanna be a secret transparency .
Teach You Everything
Speaker 2When you look at me , you know I can teach ya . Teach you everything , show you everything . I can't even lie sometimes . I ain't shit , but I'd die for you . Now that's some real shit . I finally got one to make him say this my shit , she so thick . It's kinda hard to say skinny dip . Joint ventures . Put the cribs in rotation . Yeah , I'm cuffing . Put the pussy on probation . She need suntan lotion for this vacation . You might get a postcard from this location . It's so hard to reach . Don't know what you're really lookin' for . Tell me , if you need to Tell me , I'm the one you're lookin' for . Don't wanna be a secret Transparency . When you look at me , you know I can teach ya . Teach you everything , show you everything .