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That is completely"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":613.5,"endTime":617.55,"body":"okay. So again, my name is Carl"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":613.5,"endTime":617.55,"body":"Knickerbocker. This is"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":617.58,"endTime":623.01,"body":"unapologetic parenting, where we"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":617.58,"endTime":623.01,"body":"try to tackle these high"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":623.1,"endTime":627.99,"body":"conflict controversial. nobody"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":623.1,"endTime":627.99,"body":"really wants to talk about their"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":628.02,"endTime":632.46,"body":"issues and deal with them in the"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":628.02,"endTime":632.46,"body":"most realistic ways. 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You can be"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":652.2,"endTime":655.89,"body":"freed up from abuse, you can be"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":652.2,"endTime":655.89,"body":"freed up from the headache of"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":655.89,"endTime":660.51,"body":"having to deal with them. And"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":655.89,"endTime":660.51,"body":"you can define the standard of"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":660.51,"endTime":664.92,"body":"life that you want for yourself"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":660.51,"endTime":664.92,"body":"and carry that into the future."},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":665.46,"endTime":668.49,"body":"That is what your kids need."},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":665.46,"endTime":668.49,"body":"Your kids need you to be"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":668.52,"endTime":673.8,"body":"operating at your best parallel"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":668.52,"endTime":673.8,"body":"parenting allows you to do that"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":673.95,"endTime":677.04,"body":"trendy, trendy, trendy co"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":673.95,"endTime":677.04,"body":"parenting where you have to"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":677.04,"endTime":682.56,"body":"compromise yourself and pose"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":677.04,"endTime":682.56,"body":"nice nice for pictures. That is"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":682.56,"endTime":687.69,"body":"not what is really really good"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":682.56,"endTime":687.69,"body":"for the kids. It is very rare"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":687.69,"endTime":692.73,"body":"that that is actually a viable"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":687.69,"endTime":692.73,"body":"option for people so let go of"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":692.73,"endTime":697.65,"body":"that image and be realistic. It"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":692.73,"endTime":697.65,"body":"is okay for you to cut ties and"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":697.65,"endTime":698.94,"body":"go do your own thing."}]}