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Don't go back. Stay"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":656.7,"endTime":661.32,"body":"out. Stay safe. So my name is"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":656.7,"endTime":661.32,"body":"Carl Knickerbocker. This is"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":661.32,"endTime":664.02,"body":"unapologetic parenting. I hope"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":661.32,"endTime":664.02,"body":"you can learn from some of my"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":664.02,"endTime":666.78,"body":"mistakes. I hope you can also"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":664.02,"endTime":666.78,"body":"learn from some of the things"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":666.78,"endTime":670.77,"body":"that we've kind of figured out"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":666.78,"endTime":670.77,"body":"over time and hopefully, the"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":670.77,"endTime":674.19,"body":"information that we share can"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":670.77,"endTime":674.19,"body":"help make your transitions in"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":674.19,"endTime":679.23,"body":"life be a lot more successful"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":674.19,"endTime":679.23,"body":"and a lot a lot safer."}]}