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infused with love and intention, our episodes will inspire those who are ready to shift their soul path into alignment with its divine purpose. You are not alone on this journey. Welcome to episode five of season two of two spiritual mamas.
I'm Alicia. And I'm Shelby.
And in this episode, we will dive into intentions and why we even set them
How is an intention different from a wish a prayer or even a goal? So we're gonna just start with the English language and kind of dissect this word to be intent on something is to be focused. So how can we choreograph our intentions to be focused? With all parts of us included? Alicia, how can we bring our soul, our mind our hearts and our physical beings and you know, our, our physical goals into this intention setting? These are rich, rich things that we're about to do. So what would you say? Like if I said, Oh, I'm gonna wish about this, you know, that, to me feels like you're giving over your power. You're just gonna put the wish out there and take it away. You know?
Yeah, I'm careful with that word. Because when I'm texting someone, oh, you know, wishing you well, even or whatever the like, it is sort of a flippant thing. You're like, I'm just gonna throw this to the wind. Let's hope it happens. Right? You're putting it out there in a way that is
it's not very grounded. Right? Yeah, there's, there's no backbone behind it. prayers. On the other hand, wonderful things, prayers to me. mean I'm asking the divine I'm asking my my ancestors or some of my angels to to help me out. You know, I am sending my prayers to my animal spirits are whoever it is that you subscribe to for your higher power. To please help me out with with this, because it's sometimes for me, a prayer is something that's bigger than what I can physically manifest. And so I am asking, please give me a little bit of support here.
Right? We're asking for assistance from our divine source to gift us or support us in some
way. There's a bit of extra direction there. And then of course, we have our goals. And as everybody knows, you know, I'm a gymnastics coach goals are a huge thing in my world, at least I know you have your own set of goals as well. Goals, to me seem like a very regimented, recorded kind of a of an action plan. You know, right.
It's very earthly.
Yeah, yeah, it's very third, what do we call it 3d. And they're wonderful. All of these things are wonderful. But we want to dive into intentions and why is it so important to to do this, you know, we do this a lot in circle when we sit in ceremony, and we want to create a vessel. Alicia, you do it in your moon circles, I do it in my medicine circles, you know, what is what is the true intention that we're going to set and then carry forward? Because it's not always just in that moment? And that's what I think the value of an intention is. It's it goes beyond that moment. So let's go.
Yeah, we're gonna weave it all together.
Oh, I love weaving. I love that. Weavers. Who? Yeah. Weaving? choreographers? Yes. So the co creative choreography, this is what we wrote down. I love it. The co creative choreography between your desires, your actions, and the spirits that guide you. So it is a conglomeration is that a word of all of what we've been talking about. So becoming an artist in your own future. I love this term. I love this idea of painting it of Korea choreographing it of a being apart the direction that you want to head into
there's a beauty in that At and, you know, bringing in that essence of what is your passion? What is your desire? Why are you even setting this intention, those usually come from a deeper, more soul connected place. For me it feels really embodied to set an intention that is meaningful for how I want to create in the world.
Absolutely. And for me, we have this little analogy of like, if you were to make this wish, and you, you know, I'm going to go into like a potion making or a stew, let's talk about a stew, okay. And we put some broth on. And that's it. And there's your wish, and intention is going to be I'm going to add some carrots to this, I'm going to add some meat to this and some potatoes. And before I add those potatoes, I have to wash them, and I have to peel them and I have to cut them. And then I'm going to stir it and I'm going to watch it, I'm going to change the temperature a little bit to adjust it. And I'm going to walk away for a little bit. And then I'm going to try it out. And then I'm going to think I have to let this sit in the fridge overnight, it's gonna be even better tomorrow. There's just there's so much texture. But there's also so much involvement in intention setting, which I find brings you a lot more balance and a lot more sustainability in the end result than just wishing for something or having a simple goal. This is a real like life changing, sustainable change that you want to make into your life. So do you have one in mind, Alicia, that you have set recently? I'm putting you on the
spot. I know you totally are. And I well, I had an intention for the beginning of the year in 2022 that was calling in the sisterhood. And I had had our like rekindling and we'd finished season one. And we were kind of on that pause and we'd attempted we talked about this last episode we we'd attempted a season two and stop start. And my intention was to weave together a community of women that felt purposeful and passionate and creating a community. And so I did some work
with sounds rich to me. Yes. Yeah. I
love how your stew sounded so deliciously rich. Let's throw some salt in We gotta throw herb. Oh, yeah. Like that. My intention was and I really felt called by spirit immediately one setting that intention and even like thinking about it in the December the month, the year before, was, you know, how am I going to feel led and guided to create this sisterhood. And sistership circle is a organization that I've been watching and following for years and years and years, Tanya is just so well spoken. And I've been following her. And there was just one of those activation moments towards my intention. And I joined the the mastery level program and being involved in that has created sister bonds and an understanding of the feminine, that really helped me to fulfill that intention. So I have my imperson circles here now. And that's something I haven't done since before the pandemic we got online to do the moon circles, because of the pandemic and the challenges of distance and how we wanted to have, yeah, a community that stretched across and to have those monthly intentional setting times because we know how powerful it is. So absolutely, yeah, that was my big one for the year of 2022. And for each month, I am always going back inside to see where I want to refocus and what I want to put my energy towards, to co create with the divine flow based on timing based on stars and moon alignment and what is going on energetically around me
and what so I would love for you to speak to timing like you just mentioned. You know, your your intention is to be in this feminine circle, to be speaking from your heart and to really be empowering other women. And you just went through this big shift where you had to you're stepping away from a position but the day before, right? Oh my You're you're you're being fed energy that's going to bring alive this other part of you. So I just want to speak to that that we have to pay attention when we set these intentions. You're not alone in the intention setting because you are part of intention setting is the prayer work? And so here you are being gifted. You know, you called me and you were like, pretty upset. And I'm like, congratulations. I'm so excited. And you're like, Oh, okay.
Yeah, no, I knew. So I got some big news that changed my life. And I know when these things happen, it's funny because actually, last month, I did some work with the goddess hecka Tay or hochkar tay. And that's what I was working with. In 2017, when I got my big life shift change, again, around the same, you know, business that I work with Gaia herbs, and my, my education around natural health, and wellness. And life changing, right. So I, the day before, was working with my soul coach, because I'm a soul coach for others and do a lot of one on one coaching and group coaching. But I have my mentors as you do to right God and our teachers and medicine keepers that we collaborate with. She was doing a business program, and I had signed up going Yep, this is this is definitely the thing I'm supposed to do next for this next year. And the day before I got the news that everything was changing, I was already setting a plan. And a strategy, very woven together with the energetics of how I want to bring my gifts to the world for this next evolution. And my intention, being focused on this divine feminine embodiment. And this balance between masculine feminine and really working with women to empower the feminine on this planet is a huge mission of mine, and I set some really big intentions. And the next day was like, Oh, here you go. Now you have all the time and space in the world to make that happen.
And honoring that maybe you wouldn't have done that for yourself because it's slightly terrifying. In the
back of my mind, I was going I wonder, I wonder when I couldn't let go of this other sales job, like how long is this gonna take 24 hours? Not even.
And being grateful for that, you know, was Yeah,
on to worry. And that's the thing too, you might set an attention and not realize how the magic of the universe will coalesce and what will happen to create that space for you to step into that and I felt divinely supported. I felt like okay, the universe trusts me that I can do this right now. And this is why I'm here I am. I know it's it's not a very typical mindset, but we're trying to show you that there is a different way to live. It's so much more peaceful through living it this is yeah, I felt a sense of peace all day long. Even though I had essentially just lost my job, you know, kind of
Yeah. You know, right. In peace spoke with this in the last episode of embracing the unknown and finding the safety. And yes, in the unknown and arriving at that place in your heart and in your soul and trusting that where I am today is where I'm supposed to be and I can handle what's coming up. And not only can I handle it, but I can dance with it and I can create this this wonderful. Choreography i love i Apparently I need to dance today.
Do I certainly. Yeah. I that it's the medicine to move my body when the shifts happen? I absolutely, yeah.
So where am I trying to go here, I just want to understand, like the process of the steps that happen once you set these intentions, and I love what you mentioned earlier about every month, you know, you're gonna set the intention for the year. But every month you want to check back in and acknowledge the process. This is where our spiral comes in. Right? This is where it's like, how have we been going around and going around? And what are the small accomplishments we've made and the small gifts we've been given. Starting to see we were talking about shooting stars earlier so I want to throw this out there. When whenever I'm I have a wonderful hot tub. So I'm outside a lot more in the winter months. And whenever I see shooting stars, I don't think oh, what's my wish? I think Oh, what was I just thinking about? Because to me a shooting star is as an affirmation. It's the university and like Hell Yeah, girl, keep go when that's it, you know, or like the other day huge and I don't need to go into it. But I have this spectacular thought about my future and this gorgeous bald eagle flew right over me and I was like, thank you. Right Thank you for affirm. A message. Yeah. And so so like collecting your little treasures along the way, oh, there's a rabbit that just ran across my path as I'm driving or, oh my gosh, I turned in the sun, the sun was reflecting off the clouds like that it's all a part of this, like we are a part of this giant woven fabric. And so how do we start to see the world and this majestic way that, that there's gifts for us, and there's affirmations and there's hills to the Yes.
I think speaks to that artistry that we were bringing in the beginning of the beauty, recognizing the beauty, celebrating the beauty, celebrating the things that feel difficult and challenging, as well as the things that are affirming and beautiful. And recognizing that you are on your path. And everything is happening for your highest good, even though it might not feel like it like losing your job or having your teenager be oh my god, I'm not even gonna go into that right. I'm
not gonna start that way. That is a another episode. We keep saying that, though, about the teenagers. So I think we're gonna have to dive in pretty soon.
Yeah, it's true. Yeah, all children of all ages have their challenges. And as mothers, we recognize that you can set your intentions for your kids, and what you wish for them. But there's a level of surrender and letting go, that is required for all intentions, right? Like, you're setting your focus on a particular path. And through working towards those goals, like weaving in spirit and prayer and all of it, that there is still a surrender that needs to happen to allow it to unfold in the way that it's meant to.
Yeah, a giving over of controlling it. And, and just writing it is really important. And I know earlier, when you were speaking, there have been times in my life that I think the universe was waiting for me to set the intention. And so the minute I did, it was like, oh, we'd like today, like now. And yeah, and I've gotten these affirmations before, like, it's about time girl, like, we've been waiting for you to shift into this. And so things might happen quicker than you than you realize. And we were just speaking to that with your job.
And that's the co creative aspect, right, like spirits ready to get you on that next right thing, but if you're not ready, or if you are ready, and you put the intention out there, but the the universal flow around you, the other people that are and things that need to fall into place to make those things happen. It's all divine timing. And I think that's, you wanted to talk about the indigenous mindset, and shifting that perspective. So maybe,
yeah, I mean, I think I hit on it a little bit with just recognizing what's in front of you and, and what is being presented to you and seeing it as a benefit. Seeing it as a gift. Even the tough stuff, you know, like the people that come into your life at that time, what they're teaching you, and how that might contribute to your success toward your toward your goal or your intention. I think what I want to go into is, is the part when the stew is in the fridge. When you're letting it set in, when you're letting it become really, I don't want to say marinated but becoming a stable foundation becoming.
There's almost an alchemy that happens where they are not always doing. Yeah, for something that letting it sit is part of the divine timing.
Right? Yeah, becoming a part of you becoming a part of your foundation like that, again, is with the intention. You're, you're allowing it you're checking with it every day, every week, whatever it is, you're on this spiral, you're revisiting, and you're acknowledging, oh, this has become more normal for me, this has become more settled into my bones. You know, I walk differently. I walk with this mindset now. And so you can receive at a more sustainable level. You know, you can when you're being given these gifts, you can take them in and hang on to them. It's not going to, you know, like you've just talked about the open palm, it's going to stay because you are the vessel that is able to receive it now. So honoring those little steps you make inside of your big intention is really important. Because we want sustainability we want it to like you're saying Alka It's like, you're changing the chemistry of your own body, to receive the information, so that you can grow into that human being and that that spirit that you want to carry forward.
Oh my gosh, there's so many levels and layers, like I want to use so many analogies right now. I love the firt. The first one I'll speak to, and sun is coming through my window, and there's rainbows on my ceiling. This is so great. The the energy grid that we have, you're talking about this foundation, and I see it partly through astrology. And through that language of like these, this is the energetic blueprint you're given to work with. And then things shift and change the planets move. And we get these new alignments. And when we shift into new alignment with something, it's like, oh, we actually need to shift the foundation of what we want to build. Because, you know, say it's a two storey building and you want to build a skyscraper, the foundation needs to be reinforced, or changed, or I don't know anything about buildings. So this is my analogies, I'm like, Okay, how would that work? I don't know. But the energy of it is in alignment with what I'm trying to say, right? I'm sure you'd have to do something different to the fact
you want me to toss in gymnastics. And
I was also thinking about birthing analogies, and let's go birthing ourselves. And that, you know, like you were saying, that takes time for things to grow and mature into the right stage to be born at the right time. And, you know, just through the growth of the baby inside of us the even if it is the intention, like I love using the analogy of birthing an idea of birthing your intentions out into the world, right, it takes some time to integrate in how that structure needs to be formed and what you're going to nurture it with, right? Like, what are you going to eat? What exercise? How are you going to structure those elements to? To keep that intention in mind? And maybe this is the daily practice is having that intention monthly or, you know, annually, however, even you know, a five year plan, I especially with children, right? We've got these bigger goals, longer term plans. But coming back to the daily, and what is it that you're nurturing your practice with? Is it reminding yourself of that intention? Every morning and meditation practice lighting a candle and stating that intention, so that you are like vibrating in your cells? All the time? A reminder, oh, yeah, universe is working with me on this. This is a co creating creative process. What do I need to do today? And this could be the next topic here of the difference between doing what do I need to do today? And being the receiving aspect of how am I going to be open to the signs and the direction from the universe when my friend calls and, you know, I was shocked yesterday at all of the alignment of friends and support that I received when I got that news, how I held it and sat with it. That mindset that I remembered from the day before Well, I set this intention and here it is, you know, allowing those little things to be a balancing between the being and the doing.
You know, what's coming up for me right now is how about if everyone who's listening your intention for the next month is to witness what you receive, you know, like, to every day say, I am gonna say thank you. Instead of Holy crap. Are you serious? You know, when something comes across your plate. I just had this experience with one of my one of my littles, like, she's seven years old, and I gave her a correction. And she rolled her eyes at me and I said, oh, oh, we are not going to be able to do that honey, you know, and she rolled her eyes again. I was like, oh, shoot this, you know, I have to address this. And I finally said to her, Sweetheart, I'm here for you. I am not criticizing you. I'm here for you. And when I give you a correction, I want you to start to just say thank you, Coach. Thank you Coach Shelby. And that will slowly shift or hopefully quickly shift your understanding that I'm here for you. And then you won't have this kind of annoying reaction of rolling your eyes.
That's the biggest message we could even say in this whole podcast. Episode is everything is happening for you. Yeah, that is A huge mindset shift.
Yes. And so let that be a way to practice intention setting as I, you know, I'm going to practice this. And I'm going to forgive myself when I fall back to my old patterns. And the next day, I'm going to wake up and I'm going to light my candle and set my intention that today, I will be receiving all that comes at me as a gift. And just keep practicing it until it becomes sustainable until it becomes something you don't have to practice anymore. But you've embodied it, you know, and I see that, again, going back to gymnastics, but I have so many levels, and I have some of my older girls come and talk to my younger girls sometimes and say, we don't even have to think about what it feels like to do a back handspring anymore, we don't have to think about a back handspring on the beam, or there's no more fear anymore, it has just become embodied. And we are not just accustomed to it, but we celebrate it, it's a joy, it is now joyful to do this, instead of where you're like, oh my god, can you spot me out this this is like, Oh, I've been worried all day about having to do this night, like, you will move through it. And, and so set that. Honor the birthing process, what we're just saying, honor the stages and, and respect, you know, like, Alicia and I were just talking about the teenagers, and we have to allow them to be teenagers, they are not supposed to have the adult mindset right now, you are exactly where you're supposed to be in the thick of it. Yeah, and think of it. And if I could share an evolution for my own self, and you know, and when we, if you go back to the directions, and this is how I live my life, I filter everything through the seven directions. And, you know, we were just talking about planting the seeds, that's the east and you're you might be in the east for a while with some of your, your goals, visions, dreams, because I have to water they have to blossom enough to start to bring fruit and, and the fruit is the flame. And that's the that's the south where you're really alive. And you're able to have a lot of rapid growth, I was recognizing Alicia that I have been in the South for quite a while. Like, like over a decade, here I am in like a primary part of my life where I was transformation, transformation transformation, you know, go back to the east plant another seed transformation transformation. And, and I recognized in a recent ceremony that I am finally graduating into the West, where into this, like authentic adulthood where I've embodied the major parts of who I want to be as a human and as a spiritual being. And now I can like rise from within my own self, and do the work, bring the work from my inward self to the world. And that is part of the adulting that's part of the harvest right of the West. So beautiful. It's so thrilling. So really just honor all the steps that you're in. But remember that the intention setting involves honoring all those steps and involves continuing to feed a little bit of water here. Oh, a little bit of fire here. Oh, a little bit of wind shifts things up, you know, a little bit of prayer, a lot of acknowledgment, some discussion, call your friends, you know, talk about the intentions. I love setting intentions in a group. There are so many times that I'm like I have to speak this out loud right now. So it will be more powerful. It is
powerful. It's magical. If you're listening to this podcast while you're driving, speak it out loud, What's your intention, you take our challenge and set an intention to notice and be grateful for everything that comes to you each day. And be aware of that mental state of connection to how you want to do in the world and what you receive and how that you know doing versus being balanced can create so much alchemy within you and harmony. Yeah, you were speaking to the sustainability aspect of adulting to just really being here now. And I felt like that when I turned 40 I'm like, oh, that there she is I've been waiting for her to show up. And I do think it comes with experience and time and like we always say we are doing the work and we're trying to just you know in this kitchen table talking through these ideas and how we live them share with you all how it is you know how it can be how it can be different.
In so rewarding.
So so rewarding. Yeah the the amount of peace that I felt yesterday to not have worry creep in and fear around finances and just to really deeply trust the universe was doing this for me and not to me was huge. Like, I don't know that I've ever had anything that enormous happened to me without it rippling out any level of fear in me.
Congratulations, Alicia,
you Yeah, I feel capable. I feel supported. I feel supported by the way I have structured my life with the people I've chosen with the way I view my connection to the divine and the way I am open to receive from source. Yeah, it's, it's pretty phenomenal. Please join us on this journey. We're, we're always here in community, we've got our online community with the moon circles, we've got soul coaching, very transformative, 28 day process that is supported with a group. And yeah, we would love to hear your thoughts and response and what your intentions are. Please put it in the comments. I don't even know where you're going to listen to this. But I know that there's ways for you to reach out to us and we'd love to hear what is it going on for you? And how are you missing?
Before we go, I want to throw out two things that just keep popping in my head about wonderful intentions are self love. Oh, yeah. And that this could be easy. You know, we have a this is a whole nother podcast. But we've been given this idea that you have to suffer to change, you have to suffer to grow. And that has been my intention for the last, I'd say seven months is that it is not. I'm not going to suffer. This can come with ease. And holy moly, is it wonderful. So beautiful, really flows. So thank you. So wonderful to be be inside of it too. So if you're already at this place where you're receiving and your you know, the intention we kind of throughout it everybody's step up and I'm just going to offer you that one because that feels wonderful. And it's something that one of my my shamanic teachers taught me and I was like, Huh, what? What a good concept. I'm gonna give it a shot. And it's so fruitful. So that's my last two cents for everybody.
I love it. Thank you Shelby. I love you so much. You're so your radiance and your insight is just so valuable to me are such a queen of embodied feminine and how you're living it and the way that you direct the young next generation. I'm just so proud of you and so grateful to be
oh my gosh, you're making me blush. Thank you, Alicia.
So grateful to call you my sister, my beautiful sister.
I receive all of your love and I mirror it right back to you, sister.
And we mirror it back to all of you. Thank you for being here with us. If you found us then you are in the right place for where you are in your life to feel the same way so yeah.
Celebrate your life.