WEBVTT 00:00:01.624 --> 00:00:02.004 Hey, what up? 00:00:02.004 --> 00:00:03.870 It's Mark Carter on, the pastor of Fierce Church. 00:00:03.870 --> 00:00:04.892 Welcome to our podcast. 00:00:04.892 --> 00:00:07.209 I'm so pumped that you're able to join us today. 00:00:07.209 --> 00:00:16.728 I hope this encourages you, inspires you, strengthens you, gives you hope to keep pressing on, and it's my prayer that this sermon gives you a more expansive view of God's love for you. 00:00:16.728 --> 00:00:17.870 Enjoy the message. 00:00:20.065 --> 00:00:23.954 I want to talk to you today about what to do when our heart breaks. 00:00:23.954 --> 00:00:30.376 We've been in this series called Marriage Medicine And this is the very last message of this series. 00:00:30.376 --> 00:00:33.185 We've got a ton more online, a bunch of stuff on our YouTube channel. 00:00:33.185 --> 00:00:35.634 If you want to go search marriage, you'll find a bunch of marriage stuff. 00:00:35.634 --> 00:00:37.216 But this is the last one for a while. 00:00:37.216 --> 00:00:42.929 But it occurred to me that I've never preached on what happens if the medicine doesn't work. 00:00:42.929 --> 00:00:47.343 What happens if it doesn't work to take the medicine anymore? 00:00:47.343 --> 00:00:48.225 What if it's too late? 00:00:48.225 --> 00:00:50.353 What if that relationship is over? 00:00:50.353 --> 00:00:53.545 What if the divorce has already happened? 00:00:53.545 --> 00:01:02.267 What if the promises that we were hoping for and maybe even believing for and doing everything we knew to do for, what if those are gone? 00:01:02.267 --> 00:01:07.844 now And now all we have is a broken heart and an empty heart. 00:01:09.328 --> 00:01:13.501 I want to make you two pitch two ideas to you as we go through this message. 00:01:13.501 --> 00:01:18.030 The first one is this a broken heart doesn't mean that you're damaged goods. 00:01:18.030 --> 00:01:21.804 A broken heart doesn't mean that you're damaged goods. 00:01:21.804 --> 00:01:37.206 I encounter people all the time who you know they've been through some kind of relational turmoil and something on the inside kind of wilts, and they begin to shut down And they start to see themselves as like well, you know, i'm kind of like a damaged thing now, like I've got issues. 00:01:37.206 --> 00:01:42.025 I'm messed up And let's be clear, we all got issues And nobody not got issues. 00:01:42.025 --> 00:01:45.801 But they begin to like, categorize themselves differently. 00:01:45.801 --> 00:01:48.989 Okay, well, i don't know if that is really for me. 00:01:48.989 --> 00:01:54.977 I don't know if I can believe anymore, i don't know if I can have any optimism, but I want to encourage you today. 00:01:54.977 --> 00:01:58.206 A broken heart doesn't mean you're damaged goods. 00:01:58.206 --> 00:01:59.188 Here's the next one. 00:02:00.129 --> 00:02:04.188 You can still achieve your purpose, even when your dreams can't come true. 00:02:04.188 --> 00:02:10.383 You can still achieve your purpose even when your dreams can't come true. 00:02:10.383 --> 00:02:14.169 We've all got a picture, don't we? 00:02:14.169 --> 00:02:18.586 We've got a picture of what life is supposed to be like or was gonna be like, or should be like. 00:02:18.586 --> 00:02:27.883 And you know, maybe that's well, you know, here I'm gonna graduate and then you know we're gonna get married and then the kids, and then on the way we go all the way to retirement. 00:02:27.883 --> 00:02:33.237 And sometimes our dreams come true And it's awesome. 00:02:33.237 --> 00:02:37.935 And sometimes it's just gonna take a long time for our dream to come true. 00:02:37.935 --> 00:02:39.099 Sometimes it's a lot of hard work. 00:02:39.099 --> 00:02:40.242 It's more work than we thought. 00:02:40.242 --> 00:02:42.590 Sometimes it's more perseverance, more patience. 00:02:42.590 --> 00:02:43.681 We got to push through. 00:02:43.681 --> 00:02:45.145 We need some other people's help. 00:02:45.164 --> 00:02:48.442 One of the greatest Bible examples of this is Caleb Caleb. 00:02:48.442 --> 00:02:53.664 His dream didn't come true until he was 80 years old And I just believe that gives all of us hope Like, hey, man, there's still time. 00:02:53.664 --> 00:02:59.266 He was 40 when he didn't get his dream to come true And he waited 40 more years And it was just as strong. 00:02:59.266 --> 00:03:03.123 He and Joshua, they're the only ones that lasted And he saw his dream come true. 00:03:05.067 --> 00:03:12.706 But then sometimes the thing you thought was gonna happen just it's not gonna happen because that's not what God wanted to happen. 00:03:12.706 --> 00:03:15.860 That's not what's going to happen. 00:03:15.860 --> 00:03:18.448 And there's something in us, there's a dream that begins to die. 00:03:18.448 --> 00:03:21.485 And what do we do when that dream begins to die? 00:03:21.485 --> 00:03:23.311 And we find ourselves? 00:03:23.311 --> 00:03:25.236 we say I didn't picture this. 00:03:25.236 --> 00:03:44.768 I didn't picture finding myself at this point in life alone, and you've seen this For some people this begins to fester And it begins people get angry And they're like I'm irritated, i'm frustrated that this didn't go the way that I want. 00:03:44.968 --> 00:03:47.240 And sometimes they're even a little bit frustrated with God. 00:03:47.240 --> 00:03:52.896 Sometimes they're themselves a little bit to blame, sometimes it's somebody else. 00:03:52.896 --> 00:04:00.789 You know they were involved and they were a part of it and they didn't do their thing And they kept oh, they just wouldn't stop and they wouldn't leave it alone. 00:04:00.789 --> 00:04:03.139 And then they just let go. 00:04:03.139 --> 00:04:08.133 And sometimes that that was partly our fault And sometimes it wasn't our fault at all. 00:04:08.133 --> 00:04:23.629 Sometimes it looks really promising But then they never texted back And they never called back, they never wrote a note, they never did anything like that. 00:04:23.629 --> 00:04:32.687 And then when you asked them about that, like oh, i think maybe you misunderstood or you know that wasn't my narrative, you know like it was pretty much your narrative when your hands were all over me. 00:04:32.687 --> 00:04:33.781 I don't know what happened there. 00:04:36.827 --> 00:04:48.257 And yet somehow it's just not coming together like we thought it was And sometimes even when we took vows, it's not ending up the way that we thought. 00:04:48.257 --> 00:04:54.269 Nobody as a little kid dreamt someday I'll be divorced, like they didn't think about that. 00:04:54.269 --> 00:04:56.581 But that's where some of us find ourselves. 00:04:56.581 --> 00:05:02.920 And what's even more infuriating and difficult is when it seems like everybody else is getting their thing. 00:05:02.920 --> 00:05:08.524 For everybody else it's coming true, so like they have my dream. 00:05:08.524 --> 00:05:11.291 Like how did she get with him? 00:05:11.291 --> 00:05:12.548 She is such a. 00:05:12.548 --> 00:05:14.555 What is he doing with her? 00:05:14.555 --> 00:05:25.629 You know, like I'm doing it right, i did it good, i was doing it by the book, but they didn't do it by the book. 00:05:26.711 --> 00:05:33.716 Or even though we both did what we could, for some reason, man, it just one thing led to another and then we were kind of out of control. 00:05:33.716 --> 00:05:35.278 And then you're not even paying attention. 00:05:35.278 --> 00:05:35.884 Everything's so hard. 00:05:35.884 --> 00:05:37.348 It's like being in a cage full of knives. 00:05:37.348 --> 00:05:38.312 And then it was. 00:05:38.312 --> 00:05:45.454 Here I am and I'm all cut up and my heart's all cut up and I Don't even know if I can move forward anymore. 00:05:45.454 --> 00:05:50.435 And if that's you, i Just want to say I'm sorry. 00:05:50.435 --> 00:05:55.216 I'm sorry that that's where you are and I don't know your specific pain. 00:05:55.216 --> 00:05:58.154 But we can all imagine each other's pain. 00:05:58.154 --> 00:05:59.059 I mean, you hear about somebody. 00:05:59.059 --> 00:06:01.728 You can imagine what that's like, even if it's only for a few minutes. 00:06:01.728 --> 00:06:04.536 You can imagine the difficulty and the hardship of that. 00:06:07.226 --> 00:06:22.829 But I want to let you know That the people that came before us, the people that followed Christ, the people that were used by God to write down the inspired words of scripture, and they passed it on to us How you can bring that out, thanks. 00:06:22.829 --> 00:06:30.975 And they passed it on to us and then, down through the centuries, they passed it on to us. 00:06:30.975 --> 00:06:35.771 Every one of those people Had dreams that didn't come true. 00:06:35.771 --> 00:06:42.389 Every one of those people had stuff that they don't, maybe this and then no, then it didn't happen. 00:06:42.389 --> 00:06:46.776 See, god uses people whose dreams don't all come true. 00:06:46.776 --> 00:06:49.735 Now we want to be like Caleb, we want to push forward. 00:06:49.735 --> 00:06:51.884 I mean, i really believe this is this is New Testament. 00:06:51.884 --> 00:06:54.492 I mean like we should believe every chance we get. 00:06:54.492 --> 00:07:04.314 We should know I'm taking this, i'm digging in, and even the New Testament points out that there's some things you're you're just not gonna get because you You're not willing to believe God again. 00:07:04.314 --> 00:07:12.293 But then there's the other version, where it's just not what God wanted to happen And we're like God Do you know about my dream? 00:07:12.293 --> 00:07:16.615 He's like oh, i know, i just had something else. 00:07:16.615 --> 00:07:20.185 Every one of those people down through the centuries that lead right up to us. 00:07:20.185 --> 00:07:26.158 They weren't cursed, they were chosen. 00:07:26.158 --> 00:07:35.117 They weren't broken, they were blessed, even though not all their dreams came true. 00:07:35.117 --> 00:07:41.831 They didn't like the hand that they were dealt, but they decided. 00:07:41.831 --> 00:07:44.711 Somebody online say decided, type, decided. 00:07:44.711 --> 00:07:53.384 In the chat They decided I'm gonna trust the dealer even though I don't like the hand that I've been dealt. 00:07:53.404 --> 00:07:55.404 Let's look at some examples. 00:07:55.404 --> 00:07:58.754 We'll start with Mary. 00:07:58.754 --> 00:08:00.641 Many remember Mary, the mother of Jesus. 00:08:00.641 --> 00:08:01.865 Okay, her life is totally turned upside down. 00:08:01.865 --> 00:08:07.079 She's like a teenager and she gets this news. 00:08:07.079 --> 00:08:08.081 You're going to have this on. 00:08:08.081 --> 00:08:08.964 It's gonna change everything. 00:08:08.964 --> 00:08:11.081 You're gonna be rejected. 00:08:11.081 --> 00:08:11.584 Your reputation is gone. 00:08:11.584 --> 00:08:15.399 Man, like, everybody's gonna be talking about you, probably for the rest of your life. 00:08:15.399 --> 00:08:18.935 And then, once she even has the child, she's told get this prophecy. 00:08:18.935 --> 00:08:20.524 Yeah, how would you like to hear this one? 00:08:20.524 --> 00:08:25.360 This one is gonna cause the rising of and falling of many in our country. 00:08:25.360 --> 00:08:26.764 And, by the way, a sword is gonna pierce your own heart. 00:08:26.764 --> 00:08:30.225 How'd you like to read that in the fortune cookie? 00:08:30.225 --> 00:08:33.837 That's what's spoken over her. 00:08:33.837 --> 00:08:34.299 Oh gosh, i saw. 00:08:34.299 --> 00:08:36.871 A sword is gonna pierce my own heart And yet she's called to walk through it. 00:08:36.871 --> 00:08:43.582 And this what she says Luke 138 Behold the Lord's bondservant may be done unto me. 00:08:43.582 --> 00:08:47.085 According to your word, it wasn't her dream, but she embraced it. 00:08:47.164 --> 00:08:48.028 Then there's John the Baptist. 00:08:48.028 --> 00:08:48.711 Remember this guy? 00:08:48.711 --> 00:08:50.760 400 years, he was prophesied. 00:08:50.760 --> 00:08:54.736 For 400 years, this forerunner to the Messiah was supposed to come and he finally comes. 00:08:54.736 --> 00:08:56.162 And I'm thinking he might, he probably. 00:08:56.162 --> 00:08:57.548 It's gonna go Pretty well for him. 00:08:57.548 --> 00:09:03.933 I mean, this whole time everyone's been waiting for him And he has, like you know, 20 minutes of fame. 00:09:03.933 --> 00:09:09.350 And then one of his disciples come up to him and they're like hey, man, um, yeah, everyone's starting to follow Jesus. 00:09:09.350 --> 00:09:14.424 And just you know, like John, he doesn't know this yet, but he's, he's just a few steps away from getting his own head cut off. 00:09:14.424 --> 00:09:16.092 He's gonna be violent. 00:09:16.092 --> 00:09:16.716 That wasn't his dream. 00:09:16.716 --> 00:09:22.950 But even when people start to not follow him anymore, he says John, 3, 27. 00:09:22.970 --> 00:09:26.465 A person can receive not even one thing unless it's been given to him from heaven. 00:09:26.465 --> 00:09:31.403 He's like, look, this came, this didn't come from me, and so God wants to take it away now. 00:09:31.403 --> 00:09:33.169 Let him do it. 00:09:33.169 --> 00:09:35.812 Let him do it. 00:09:35.812 --> 00:09:41.575 And then, most important of all, jesus, he's in the garden to get some any. 00:09:41.575 --> 00:09:49.203 He's about to be arrested, he's about to be tortured and crucified And bear the sin of the world and he says I mean I think it's important that we know that he said this. 00:09:49.203 --> 00:09:51.673 He says, father, if you're willing, remove this cup from me. 00:09:51.673 --> 00:09:57.597 I mean he asked for this, not that he's asking. 00:09:57.597 --> 00:10:01.692 Just like you've asked for some things to not happen, jesus asked for something to not happen. 00:10:01.692 --> 00:10:09.100 That Was it. 00:10:09.100 --> 00:10:17.864 He's like this dream, but if it's your dream, god, if it's what you want Yet not my will, but yours be done. 00:10:17.864 --> 00:10:19.268 And here's what happens. 00:10:19.288 --> 00:10:21.937 We see people you've seen them, i've seen them, we see. 00:10:21.937 --> 00:10:40.029 But we see people begin begin to when they Begin to sense, oh, i'm losing control again, oh this isn't gonna go the way that I wanted it to, and they just begin to panic and they begin to resist and they begin to push back and they just go into kind of like flight mode or fight mode, and What they're really doing? 00:10:40.029 --> 00:10:43.384 they don't mean to do it, but they're trying to control their circumstances. 00:10:43.384 --> 00:11:17.989 They're just trying for this to never happen again And sometimes they reject everybody and other times they, because their their worth has been so attacked, they just say yes to everybody And they just give themselves away and they don't respect what God made them And they do this thing that we all do To a degree, and it's we try to manipulate, we try to control, we try to control the outcomes of our life In such a way that we're not even really listening, we're not even caring whether or not What God wants is actually about to happen. 00:11:17.989 --> 00:11:21.503 But then we see other people, and you know these people. 00:11:21.503 --> 00:11:26.299 These people Are in our church. 00:11:26.299 --> 00:11:37.124 There's people Yeah, their dream did not come true And it hurt, just like it hurt you, but they decided You know, i'm still gonna believe God for opportunities. 00:11:37.825 --> 00:11:38.808 I still think God can do something. 00:11:38.808 --> 00:11:42.284 I didn't, i didn't plan on this, i didn't want this, but I think God can still do something. 00:11:42.284 --> 00:11:47.240 I think there's more to the story. 00:11:47.240 --> 00:11:50.610 Maybe I think maybe God is so in charge that he saw this coming And that maybe he knew my dream. 00:11:50.610 --> 00:12:02.744 But he has a better dream And he's gonna use the pain, just like the Messiah experienced, to bring me into his perfect will. 00:12:02.744 --> 00:12:09.288 And so they remain open and they don't allow themselves to become cynical and they don't allow themselves to become bitter. 00:12:09.288 --> 00:12:19.825 Now, something that takes folks out when it comes to this Is they just have some wrong presuppositions. 00:12:19.825 --> 00:12:23.865 There's a phony deal that is made sometimes. 00:12:24.524 --> 00:12:28.120 When my wife Kenzie and I were in college, we were together. 00:12:28.120 --> 00:12:32.056 We did a summer of summer stock, okay. 00:12:32.056 --> 00:12:32.979 So we stayed at our, our school. 00:12:32.979 --> 00:12:35.370 We were both acting majors at the time and we decided, hey, we're gonna stay and do some shit. 00:12:35.370 --> 00:12:40.712 That means you do a bunch of shows really fast, okay. 00:12:40.712 --> 00:12:46.589 And so all this, this group of people, were all living together off campus and they were all living together Off campus and there's no campus foods. 00:12:46.589 --> 00:12:51.346 You got to go and you got to go to places like Aldi and you got to buy this nasty Knock-off stuff. 00:12:51.346 --> 00:12:51.668 Okay. 00:12:51.668 --> 00:12:55.255 So it's stuff like Dr Thunder and not a Coke. 00:12:55.255 --> 00:12:59.664 Okay, and I had one taste of this Dr Thunder. 00:12:59.664 --> 00:13:00.908 I'm like never again. 00:13:00.908 --> 00:13:04.554 And I threw it down and in Jesus name, I've never had that again. 00:13:04.554 --> 00:13:05.937 Like I will not touch that junk. 00:13:05.937 --> 00:13:12.725 Okay, now, if you like that, hey, it's America, you can like whatever you want to like, but for me it was a vow. 00:13:12.725 --> 00:13:14.332 I'm never doing this again. 00:13:16.485 --> 00:13:21.745 Those ones are easy to tell, though It's so bad that it's like oh, that's pretty easy, that's not the original deal. 00:13:21.745 --> 00:13:25.701 But there's other things that are ah, they're close though, okay. 00:13:25.701 --> 00:13:29.510 So, right here, i've got crisp rice. 00:13:29.510 --> 00:13:38.442 It's not rice crispies, it's not, but my kids like it Like they eat it. 00:13:38.442 --> 00:13:41.787 You know, it's not even like we've given them knockoff cereals that they spit out. 00:13:41.787 --> 00:13:42.321 They don't. 00:13:42.321 --> 00:13:43.105 They don't like this stuff. 00:13:43.105 --> 00:13:44.464 They're like yeah, we'll eat that. 00:13:44.464 --> 00:13:51.750 It's close enough to rice crispies that they're like eh, might've fooled me, i don't know. 00:13:54.340 --> 00:13:59.346 There's a problem, though, when we get to a version of the gospel, a version of the message of Jesus. 00:13:59.346 --> 00:14:01.307 When it's really it's just a fake thing. 00:14:01.307 --> 00:14:04.825 It came in a wrapper that we thought that looks like the gospel, but it's not really the gospel. 00:14:04.825 --> 00:14:19.883 And here's what characterizes that particular gospel It's since I did God must, since I did, since I did this and I tried this and I went after this and even my heart was right And I made a deal. 00:14:19.883 --> 00:14:24.307 Since I did God must, and we just gotta understand I get that. 00:14:24.307 --> 00:14:25.129 I've made that deal. 00:14:25.129 --> 00:14:28.025 We've all gotta know that's in us. 00:14:28.025 --> 00:14:36.447 We'll make deals that God is not making, but that that even tastes a little like it, because you're still trusting Christ for forgiveness. 00:14:36.447 --> 00:14:37.945 But that is not the gospel. 00:14:37.945 --> 00:14:40.083 That is gospel adjacent. 00:14:41.659 --> 00:14:47.744 There is no God that says I'll never allow good things to happen or bad things to happen to good people. 00:14:47.744 --> 00:14:53.091 You say, why does God allow bad things to happen to good people. 00:14:53.091 --> 00:15:02.246 Well, just consider this The best person there ever was. 00:15:02.246 --> 00:15:04.706 The worst possible thing happened to him. 00:15:04.706 --> 00:15:08.538 That's the nature, that's the way of the gospel. 00:15:08.538 --> 00:15:12.812 And see, when Jesus invites us, he doesn't invite us. 00:15:12.812 --> 00:15:13.899 Hey, if you do, god will do. 00:15:13.899 --> 00:15:15.004 He invites us. 00:15:15.004 --> 00:15:25.899 Hey, come to me with your broken heart, and if you lay down your life, i will give you a version of life that you've never experienced before, and I'll make your whole life count. 00:15:25.899 --> 00:15:32.958 You'll trade in some of your plans, some of your plans, some of your plans and some of your plans, and you'll be able to do that. 00:15:32.958 --> 00:15:36.322 You'll trade in some of your plans, some of your dreams, some of what you want. 00:15:36.322 --> 00:15:38.565 You trade that in and I'll give you something better. 00:15:38.565 --> 00:15:46.186 And sometimes it's just a consolation of more of his presence, and sometimes it is it's open doors and it's rewards and all that kind of stuff. 00:15:46.186 --> 00:15:49.610 But Jesus says here's the deal about the deal. 00:15:49.610 --> 00:15:53.745 The deal is, yes, you give me your sin and I'll forgive your sin, but there's more to the deal. 00:15:53.745 --> 00:16:01.807 The deal is when my plan isn't your plan, you choose my plan. 00:16:01.807 --> 00:16:06.107 When my plan isn't your plan, you choose my plan. 00:16:06.107 --> 00:16:06.802 That's the deal. 00:16:06.802 --> 00:16:18.308 That's the deal that Jesus is making And he said if anyone would come after me, let him deny himself, pick up his cross daily and follow me. 00:16:20.000 --> 00:16:20.682 Well, deny himself. 00:16:20.682 --> 00:16:22.684 So we didn't reckon that that included some of our dreams. 00:16:22.684 --> 00:16:27.504 That included some of the stories that we wanted to be told about us. 00:16:27.504 --> 00:16:33.547 So let's spend the rest of the message talking about three different scenes in David's life. 00:16:33.547 --> 00:16:35.947 This is a lifelong lesson, man. 00:16:35.947 --> 00:16:40.722 We gotta learn this over a lifetime, because you'll get it now, but five years from now you'll get it deeper. 00:16:40.722 --> 00:16:44.227 We get it, but then we gotta get it again. 00:16:45.940 --> 00:16:48.268 David, he's kind of like he's a young celebrity man. 00:16:48.268 --> 00:16:49.889 Okay, so here's the guy. 00:16:49.889 --> 00:16:59.066 He ran up to the line He took on Goliath, the enemy that's taunting the entire nation of Israel, calling him putzes He is talking smack dude. 00:16:59.066 --> 00:17:01.505 And David, he's just basically a kid. 00:17:01.505 --> 00:17:10.145 He runs out there and he says this is in God's name, in the name of the God of the armies of Israel, today I'm gonna cut your head off. 00:17:10.145 --> 00:17:12.787 And he's not afraid, not because he's powerful. 00:17:12.787 --> 00:17:20.911 He runs at him with a slingshot right in the head, cuts his head off and things are going pretty good for him for a while. 00:17:20.911 --> 00:17:22.305 Then he marries a princess. 00:17:22.305 --> 00:17:23.162 Can you believe that? 00:17:23.162 --> 00:17:25.625 He kills the giant and marries a princess. 00:17:25.625 --> 00:17:27.326 That's like a true fairy tale. 00:17:29.380 --> 00:17:36.922 But then it gets not so good because the king, his father-in-law, is starting to get jealous because people are singing David's praises. 00:17:36.922 --> 00:17:41.189 And so the king, the mad king, begins to chase him down. 00:17:41.189 --> 00:17:43.450 He starts to throw spears at him and David is freaking out. 00:17:43.450 --> 00:17:47.348 And David, the one who trusted God so greatly, he goes on, the run man. 00:17:47.348 --> 00:17:49.589 He's running, he doesn't know where to go. 00:17:49.589 --> 00:17:52.751 And so he goes to his friend, a Himalek. 00:17:52.751 --> 00:17:54.249 He's the high priest. 00:17:54.249 --> 00:17:55.650 He comes up to the high priest. 00:17:55.650 --> 00:17:58.794 He's like hey, man, i'm kind of on a special mission. 00:17:58.794 --> 00:18:05.867 I don't know why he lies, but maybe he doesn't want a Himalek, maybe Himalek's in it, he's gonna turn me in, we don't know. 00:18:05.867 --> 00:18:07.733 But David's, some of his men are with him. 00:18:07.865 --> 00:18:13.593 And here's where we pick it up 1 Samuel 2, or 1 Samuel 21, 8. 00:18:13.593 --> 00:18:16.991 David said to a Himalek now is there no spear or sword on hand? 00:18:16.991 --> 00:18:21.332 For I brought neither my sword nor weapons with me because the king's matter was urgent. 00:18:21.332 --> 00:18:25.554 I can't imagine to like some of David's entourage. 00:18:25.554 --> 00:18:27.590 You know they're like what is David doing? 00:18:27.590 --> 00:18:29.236 Why is he lying? 00:18:29.236 --> 00:18:30.108 David doesn't lie. 00:18:30.108 --> 00:18:32.605 David's the Psalm writer man. 00:18:32.605 --> 00:18:32.987 What is he. 00:18:32.987 --> 00:18:34.789 That's not who he is. 00:18:34.789 --> 00:18:37.085 I mean, that's who we are sometimes, but that's not who David is. 00:18:37.085 --> 00:18:38.892 I wonder why he's doing this. 00:18:40.546 --> 00:18:44.834 The priest said the sword of Goliath the Philistine whom you killed in the valley of Eila. 00:18:44.834 --> 00:18:46.932 Behold, it's wrapped in a cloth behind the ephah. 00:18:46.932 --> 00:18:50.871 If you would take it for yourself, take it, but there's no other except it here. 00:18:50.871 --> 00:18:52.569 And David said there's none like it. 00:18:52.569 --> 00:18:54.207 There's none like it. 00:18:54.207 --> 00:18:54.709 Give it to me. 00:18:56.065 --> 00:18:58.994 David's trying to manipulate the outcome. 00:18:58.994 --> 00:19:01.994 I mean, i could see. 00:19:01.994 --> 00:19:03.184 Maybe you know. 00:19:03.184 --> 00:19:08.109 That was the sword that he grabbed And after he threw that, slung that stone and the Lord made it hit dead on. 00:19:08.109 --> 00:19:09.631 He took it and cut off Goliath's head. 00:19:09.631 --> 00:19:12.571 And so maybe he looks at that and there's maybe some identity in there. 00:19:13.204 --> 00:19:19.513 He's like that's the sword that reminds me I can do this, even though the king is chasing me. 00:19:19.513 --> 00:19:20.366 I got this. 00:19:20.366 --> 00:19:24.526 This'll help David. 00:19:24.526 --> 00:19:26.573 What are you doing, man? 00:19:26.573 --> 00:19:28.871 He's like this proves my worth. 00:19:28.871 --> 00:19:31.536 And we all like that. 00:19:31.536 --> 00:19:35.991 We go back and forth Like one day we're full of faith and another day we're like, ah, we're freaking out. 00:19:35.991 --> 00:19:36.574 What am I gonna do? 00:19:36.574 --> 00:19:44.708 And I gotta arrange the situation, i gotta save the day and I gotta find a way to get the dream to not die, cause David had a dream. 00:19:44.708 --> 00:19:47.171 He was prophesied Samuel came, you're gonna be king, you're gonna be fine. 00:19:47.171 --> 00:19:49.326 And David says, no, the dream's about to die, cause I'm about to die. 00:19:49.326 --> 00:19:52.336 Saul's gonna get me. 00:19:52.336 --> 00:19:53.829 And so he's taking it into his own hands. 00:19:53.829 --> 00:19:58.830 And this is a real moment of shame, cause everybody sees it, everybody watches it. 00:19:59.625 --> 00:20:06.845 Well, david takes the sword, and then Saul and his army show up And they're like a Hithifal did you help David? 00:20:06.845 --> 00:20:08.061 And he's thinking that was a good thing. 00:20:08.061 --> 00:20:10.673 Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, help them, give him that sword. 00:20:10.673 --> 00:20:16.233 And they proceed to kill the entire village, including 85 priests and all their wives and children. 00:20:16.233 --> 00:20:16.895 They kill them all. 00:20:16.895 --> 00:20:19.893 And David hears about it, and so he's. 00:20:19.893 --> 00:20:21.365 Can you imagine what that's like? 00:20:21.365 --> 00:20:25.113 You, taking that sword, got 85 people and all their families killed. 00:20:25.113 --> 00:20:31.005 That's heavy, that's dark, that's a weighty thing to carry. 00:20:32.714 --> 00:20:37.075 His decision to try to control the situation led to bloodshed and humiliation. 00:20:37.075 --> 00:20:40.244 Well, david, he comes out of it. 00:20:40.244 --> 00:20:42.865 It's cool as you read his story. 00:20:42.865 --> 00:20:48.483 He comes out of it and his conscience begins to get pricked again and he does things God's way And he's letting God fight his battles. 00:20:48.483 --> 00:20:52.499 He's like I have the chance to kill the king a few times, and I'm not even gonna do it, i'm gonna trust God. 00:20:52.499 --> 00:20:54.325 God will get me where I'm supposed to go at the right time. 00:20:54.907 --> 00:20:58.703 But then he becomes king, and he's getting a little bit older and he's got so many skills. 00:20:58.703 --> 00:21:02.069 He got so many organizational and emotional and administrative powers. 00:21:02.069 --> 00:21:05.851 Like he is putting the nation together, he's getting rid of a lot of their enemies. 00:21:05.851 --> 00:21:07.790 But one spring he's like you know what? 00:21:07.790 --> 00:21:10.307 I'm good, i'm not going to war this spring, y'all go. 00:21:10.307 --> 00:21:12.589 And he hangs out and has an affair. 00:21:12.589 --> 00:21:15.249 He doesn't just have an affair, though. 00:21:15.249 --> 00:21:24.070 Instead of running to God and trying to help you know, get God's help to get out of this messy situation he's in, or somehow remedy it or make restitution or something. 00:21:24.070 --> 00:21:31.349 He has the husband killed, and he hardens his heart toward the Lord, and he's got his fingers in it again. 00:21:31.349 --> 00:21:32.788 He's like well, i'm just gonna have to fix this. 00:21:32.788 --> 00:21:34.709 This isn't the dream. 00:21:34.709 --> 00:21:36.431 The dream's about to like, get off the rails. 00:21:36.431 --> 00:21:37.348 So I've got to fix it. 00:21:37.348 --> 00:21:44.548 I've got to get in on this and make sure we're all good, and of course that doesn't go well, and he is convicted. 00:21:44.548 --> 00:21:46.431 But, man, it's a tragedy from here on out. 00:21:46.644 --> 00:21:55.351 The story of David was all up And the Lord speaks to David and he says I would have done much more, haven't I already given you all this? 00:21:55.351 --> 00:21:59.509 But I would have done much more if you would have just obeyed me. 00:21:59.509 --> 00:22:02.992 And so the rest of David, like David, is still king. 00:22:02.992 --> 00:22:06.990 But there's this judgment that is coming, this impending doom that is coming. 00:22:06.990 --> 00:22:09.869 David doesn't know necessarily exactly what it's going to look like. 00:22:09.869 --> 00:22:23.326 Well, years later, david's son, absalom, raises an army and marches on the city And he's trying to break in to kill his old man because of some failures that he legitimately did have as a father. 00:22:23.326 --> 00:22:29.695 And so here comes Absalom into the palace And David's got some of his friends and some of his crew with him. 00:22:29.695 --> 00:22:32.050 David's like we can't beat these guys, let's just go. 00:22:32.050 --> 00:22:34.451 And so they're on the run again. 00:22:34.451 --> 00:22:39.829 Here he is again, probably in his 60s about this time, and he's a fugitive again. 00:22:39.829 --> 00:22:41.474 And it's dark. 00:22:41.474 --> 00:22:44.431 His future is looking dark. 00:22:47.404 --> 00:22:48.585 Second Samuel, 1523,. 00:22:48.585 --> 00:22:53.633 While all the country was weeping with a loud voice, all the people were crossing over. 00:22:53.633 --> 00:22:56.012 The king was also crossing over, the book key drawn. 00:22:56.012 --> 00:22:57.971 So they're about 20 miles away from Jerusalem. 00:22:57.971 --> 00:23:03.951 They're going over this little body of water And all the people were crossing over toward the way of the wilderness. 00:23:03.951 --> 00:23:22.507 Now, behold, zadok that's a high priest also came And all the Levites these are the people that they have to be around to carry the ark, carrying the ark of the covenant of God, and they set down the ark of God And Abiyathar came up as another priest, until all the people had finished crossing over from the city. 00:23:22.507 --> 00:23:25.827 See, before they left, they're like, oh, we got to grab the ark. 00:23:25.827 --> 00:23:31.830 And in their mind, the ark is kind of like it's got power, man, the ark is going to give us a victory. 00:23:32.144 --> 00:23:43.272 In fact, if you go back to the beginning of first Samuel, this was the major first problem, as the Israelites were treating the ark of the covenant as some kind of a lucky charm, some kind of a talisman. 00:23:43.272 --> 00:23:44.386 And it really was. 00:23:44.386 --> 00:23:49.912 You know, it's a piece of furniture, it's a box where God's presence was supposed to dwell when he's in the midst of the temple. 00:23:49.912 --> 00:23:55.848 But they're treating it just like, hey, if we got this, it's kind of like enemy repellent And it'll just kill all of our enemies. 00:23:55.848 --> 00:23:58.829 And you know, god's not going to be down with that. 00:23:58.829 --> 00:24:01.189 And sometimes we do that. 00:24:01.189 --> 00:24:04.286 We're like, hey, if I just do a little bit of this Jesus stuff. 00:24:04.286 --> 00:24:08.269 God just got to have my back And we're carrying him around like a talisman. 00:24:08.269 --> 00:24:14.351 Well, i did this And even sometimes in marriage or in a relationship, we're like, oh, i don't even know why. 00:24:14.351 --> 00:24:21.012 We went to church a little bit And we even tried the Bible study And we gave, and I don't know why God didn't. 00:24:21.012 --> 00:24:24.071 And we're starting to think well, because you were thinking about him like a talisman. 00:24:24.071 --> 00:24:28.213 You were thinking if you just gave yourself a little bit of Jesus, he'd just make everything OK. 00:24:28.213 --> 00:24:29.346 And that wasn't the deal. 00:24:34.218 --> 00:24:37.046 David's been trying to manipulate these outcomes all this time. 00:24:37.046 --> 00:24:43.075 He's seen bloodshed on account of his attempted situational rearranging. 00:24:43.075 --> 00:24:46.075 He's been completely humiliated before. 00:24:46.075 --> 00:24:48.075 Check this out verse 25. 00:24:48.075 --> 00:24:52.864 And the king said to Zadok return the ark of God to the city. 00:24:52.864 --> 00:24:59.075 If I find favor on the sight of the Lord, then he will bring me back and show me both it and its habitation. 00:24:59.075 --> 00:25:01.964 But if he says I have no delight in you, then here I am. 00:25:01.964 --> 00:25:04.502 Let him do to me as seems good to him. 00:25:04.502 --> 00:25:05.718 Can you imagine? 00:25:05.718 --> 00:25:11.419 They're carrying the ark And David's looking at him and he's just like guys, set it down. 00:25:11.419 --> 00:25:11.820 Set it down. 00:25:11.820 --> 00:25:14.078 Who are we kidding? 00:25:14.078 --> 00:25:16.839 That's not God. 00:25:16.839 --> 00:25:21.703 Yes, that is the holy piece of furniture, but that's not. 00:25:22.737 --> 00:25:25.304 We can't force God to do what we want him to do. 00:25:25.304 --> 00:25:27.882 God is going to do what God wants to do. 00:25:27.882 --> 00:25:29.761 God has his own plan. 00:25:29.761 --> 00:25:35.075 He is God and we are not God And he's going to do what he wants to do. 00:25:35.075 --> 00:25:36.720 And so he used to get sick of it. 00:25:36.720 --> 00:25:41.821 on the third try, after a lifetime of trying to get this lesson, he's like what are we doing? 00:25:41.821 --> 00:25:44.075 We're trying to control this situation again. 00:25:44.075 --> 00:25:46.863 Why don't we just let God have the day? 00:25:46.863 --> 00:25:53.902 Why don't we just take our dream and say I wanted this And I don't know why we're here. 00:25:53.902 --> 00:26:00.817 I don't know why my son is raised up an army to kill me, but here we are, but I love him. 00:26:00.837 --> 00:26:11.038 Verse 25, he said if I find favor in the sight of the Lord, if I find favor in the sight of the Lord, have you found favor? 00:26:11.038 --> 00:26:17.920 Because, even though David is wishing and hoping and believing, maybe he's found favor with God. 00:26:17.920 --> 00:26:24.424 You have found favor in that God has brought you to Jesus. 00:26:24.424 --> 00:26:28.382 I'm going to say it again because it's way deeper than the amens I got. 00:26:28.382 --> 00:26:31.449 You have found favor. 00:26:31.449 --> 00:26:31.973 David wanted favor. 00:26:31.973 --> 00:26:33.640 You have found favor. 00:26:33.640 --> 00:26:34.824 It is here. 00:26:34.824 --> 00:26:39.500 You have found favor if God, the Father, through the Holy Spirit, has brought you to Christ. 00:26:39.500 --> 00:26:43.035 And Jesus himself declares this John 6, 44,. 00:26:43.035 --> 00:26:50.743 No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws him to me And I'll raise him up to life on the last day. 00:26:50.743 --> 00:27:03.444 Jesus says unless God gives you the privilege, unless he alerts you, awakens your understanding, awakens your understanding that you need me, you won't even know you've truly found favor If you're beginning to realize I am a sinner that needs a savior. 00:27:03.444 --> 00:27:07.644 There's a penalty due for my sin and I have nothing to pay it with. 00:27:07.644 --> 00:27:14.707 And there's someone who loves me so much he willingly wants to pay it if I found favor. 00:27:15.537 --> 00:27:17.599 There's this old illustration, gosh. 00:27:17.599 --> 00:27:19.035 It's probably from the early 2000s. 00:27:19.035 --> 00:27:21.541 It's a Kirk Cameron illustration, so maybe you've heard it. 00:27:21.541 --> 00:27:22.263 Just flow with it, man. 00:27:23.897 --> 00:27:39.075 There's these two people going onto an airplane and they're both given these giant packs for their back And they're told hey, man, why don't you just sit in the normal-sized, you know seat and wear this pack, and it's gonna make all the difference, alright? 00:27:39.075 --> 00:27:40.097 So the first one. 00:27:40.097 --> 00:27:42.806 He's like oh great, so something's cool gonna happen because I have this pack. 00:27:42.806 --> 00:27:46.140 And he sits down and he's trying to get comfortable, but he really can't. 00:27:46.140 --> 00:27:49.055 He's knocking the people next to him and they're like what do you do, man? 00:27:49.055 --> 00:27:52.282 Other people begin to ridicule him because he's like what are you, you moron, why do you have that? 00:27:52.282 --> 00:27:53.087 What are you trying to do? 00:27:53.087 --> 00:28:00.015 He can't go to the bathroom and so he just he's kind of steaming for almost an hour, like why do we even have this stupid thing? 00:28:00.015 --> 00:28:02.075 And he gets up and he smashes it down. 00:28:02.075 --> 00:28:04.013 I don't even know why he took that. 00:28:04.013 --> 00:28:06.075 This isn't what I signed up for. 00:28:06.075 --> 00:28:08.482 I thought it was gonna have a better flight. 00:28:10.198 --> 00:28:17.377 Well, the other man who's given the backpack it was the same size, same backpack, only he was told. 00:28:17.377 --> 00:28:23.420 Just, you know, this plane is going down and there's a parachute in there. 00:28:23.420 --> 00:28:27.605 It is your only hope to survive this plane ride. 00:28:27.605 --> 00:28:30.964 So that man, he's got the same pack on him. 00:28:30.964 --> 00:28:33.002 He's sitting there and he's delighted. 00:28:33.002 --> 00:28:38.482 He's like yeah, it's a little uncomfortable, but I don't care, because I know what this is really for. 00:28:38.482 --> 00:28:43.522 It's not to give me perks, it's not just to make my life awesome, it's not to be extra cushy and extra comfy. 00:28:43.522 --> 00:28:47.704