Rewiring Your Life - Boundaries, Self-Love, and Fearless Transformation | Yvonne Trost

Join Yvonne Trost, a former IT strategist turned Chief Happiness Officer, as she chats with Tiffanie about her extraordinary journey from the world of tech to personal transformation. After navigating a challenging divorce, Yvonne turned to yoga, meditation, and hypnotherapy, igniting a life-changing path of self-discovery and healing.

Explore the power of the subconscious with Yvonne as she shares how to rewire limiting childhood beliefs and step into a fearless, purpose-driven life. Through compelling stories and practical insights, she guides listeners on a “subconscious safari,” delving into past traumas and showing how to reshape your destiny.

This inspiring episode is packed with actionable strategies for setting boundaries, embracing self-love, and breaking free from life's ruts. Yvonne and Tiffanie remind us all that we are limitless—and the key to unlocking this potential lies within our minds.

Tune in for an uplifting conversation full of empowerment, transformative tools, and the inspiration to live a life of joy, authenticity, and freedom.

How to contact:
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Transcript

Yvonne Trost is a happiness coach and hypnotherapist

>> Tiffany: Are you ready to walk away with practical strategies, a renewed sense of purpose, and the motivation to embark on your own journey? Well, if you do, and you are, then you are in the right spot. Hello, my name is Tiffanie, and I'm the host of, True Crime Connections. And helping me with this today is my guest, Yvonne Trost, who is a happiness coach and hypnotherapist. Hi, Vaughn. Thank you for joining us.

>> Yvonne Trost: Thanks so much for having me.

>> Tiffany: Of course. What got you into. What made you want to be a happiness coach? That just. It sounds fun, that it makes me happy saying it.

>> Yvonne Trost: I know, right? I've given myself the title Chief Happiness Officer of my company. I'm like, that's the coolest title ever, right? so for 25 years, I was in business and IT strategy consulting and my actual journey. I never really wanted to stay in consulting. I just knew I didn't want to work at a bank or a, brokerage firm. So I'm like, let me try this consulting thing out for a while. And I thought I was going to do it for two years. Well, 25 years later, right, I was. I was still doing it. But what started to help me really wake up was a pretty scary, terrible divorce. And from that, my friend introduced me to yoga. And from yoga I found meditation. And meditation I found manifesting in quantum physics. And then I started creating a change in my life that a little over a year ago, last year, led me to hypnotherapy. And I just woke up in a very fast way. You know, I had started waking up, as I call it, know, from the social trance and trying to get all the external things and not really focusing on the internal things with my yoga practice. But when I went through hypnotherapy with a friend who was just training, right, I thought, oh, sure, you know, help me stop drinking so much wine and binge watching Netflix. Right? During the pandemic, oh, my God, work for me. I realized I'd been living a life that wasn't my own, and it was all based on fear of the unknown and fear of not being enough. And once I kind of made that connection for myself, things started to change very quickly, and I started to realize I had more to fear by staying small and in the little pond that was, although I felt safe, was getting pretty stagnant and unhealthy and got the courage to get excited about the unknown and launch myself into the ocean of possibility. And that's where I'm at today.

>> Tiffany: I love that I can identify with that so much. Me too. Like, I lived in my own little fear bucket that I created myself. And, you know, like, you're scared of what people are going to think or scared of just the unknown. And how silly is it to be scared of something they, first of all, you have no control over. Second of all, you don't even know until you try. So if you don't even try, you're already failing.

>> Yvonne Trost: Like, yeah, one of the, gentlemen who is a source of inspiration for me had said you, the, past isn't real, right? You can't go back to the past. The past isn't existing somewhere right now, is it? Like, can you just, you know, get in a time machine and go to the past or your car? Can you?

>> Tiffany: No, I don't want to, but no.

>> Yvonne Trost: So it's not real, right? You agree with me with that?

>> Tiffany: Yes.

>> Yvonne Trost: Can you get in your car and go to the future? Is that real yet?

>> Tiffany: No.

>> Yvonne Trost: No. But most of us spend most of our time suffering or worrying about things that either happen in the past or that we think are going to happen in the future, which neither of them are real. So there is a socially acceptable level of schizophrenia that we all operate under. So to your point of it being silly, it is kind of silly. Like, our lives are being ruled by things that aren't real, and they're only real in our head. Right. And so, Tiffanie. And if you're listening, I want you guys to know you're not your mind. You're not your body. You are that which observes or halves or controls it. But the problem is we lost control of those things, and we identify with them as who we are. So, like, Tiffanie, raise your right hand. I'm not going to have you, like, swearing or anything, but you have a hand, right? I have a hand. You can control it?

>> Tiffany: Yes.

>> Yvonne Trost: You, don't let your hands slap your face around like this, right? Very often? No. So why do you let your mind slap you around all the time?

>> Tiffany: Oh, that's a good one.

>> Yvonne Trost: I want people to think about that. If you're listening. Your mind is just another part of your body. It is not who you are. We haven't been trained. I tell people, like, we're more complicated than a rocket ship because we haven't cloned a human being. But nobody gave us the user manual or even the quick Start guide. Like, I'm sorry, but sex ed in high school did not teach me about my mind, body and spirit or how to operate the most valuable asset I have, which is me. So now that's what I'm doing. I'm becoming a student of the human being, a teacher of the human being, and helping people understand how their mind, body, spirit works so that they can control it, they can guide it, they can enjoy it, versus feeling that they're a victim or beholden to something outside of their control.

>> Tiffany: Absolutely. One of somebody said it's a quote. Well, they said, your mind is a liar. Your brain is a liar. And I was just like, that is so true. Like, we constantly tell ourselves lies. You can't do that. You won't achieve that. They're all gonna laugh at you. Nobody cares. Like, these are all the things that we feed ourselves.


Your subconscious mind just wants to keep you alive, right?

And they couldn't be further from the truth because people do care. People do need this stuff. People, you know, like, we got to stop.

>> Yvonne Trost: Absolutely. The woman that my partner I studied hypnotherapy under, Marissa Pier, wrote a book called Tell yourself a better Lie. And it's exactly that, right? Because your subconscious mind just wants to keep you alive. That's. That's how you're built. That's how the human being is designed. It's not meant to keep you happy, keep you healthy, keep you anything like that. You think, like, your mind should be on your side, right? It just thinks I have to keep you alive. So most of your subconscious mind is programmed before the age of 10. And your subconscious mind comes up with these things, we call them limiting beliefs or these programming. And how do you survive? How do you stay attached to a tribe? How do you get accepted? How do you get taken care of? You learn these things, and then by your time you're 35, 95% of what you say do think everything is driven off those programs that were written primarily when you were 10 years or younger. So imagine. Where's my phone? I don't, know where's my phone. But if you ever upgraded your phone, like, would it run very well? Would you get all the benefits from it?

>> Tiffany: No.

>> Yvonne Trost: No. So why do we think that our mind is anything different? And so, what I do, I tell people I'm a subconscious safari guide. You know, like, it's. It can be really exciting. Like, I want to go on a safari someday. I haven't done it yet. Other than Disney. I don't think that counts. I want to go on a safari. If I didn't have a guide, I would be terrified. Oh, that rhymes. I love it when I rhyme. I would be terrified, right? But if I have a good guide, I am so excited to go on that Trip, Because I'm going to learn something, I'm going to see something exciting. The same thing with your subconscious mind. I don't want you to think of the past, of, you know, even like big T trauma experiences, right? I don't want you to be scared of the past. I want you to get curious about what your mind did with those events. Because it's never the event or the person outside of you that has the impact on you. It's the meaning you give it.

>> Tiffany: Yes.

>> Yvonne Trost: And guess who gets to give the meaning? Sometimes it's not easy, but guess who gets to give the meaning? And that's why you can be supported by a guide where we go back and we think about what were those events? What meaning did your subconscious give it? That little you, the little Tiffanie inside, right? She just is scared and wants to be held and nurtured and loved and accepted for who she is. What meaning did she give that event? And then how do we help her and reparent her and bring her into today's world where you are a powerful, loving, caring, capable woman to give it a new definition. So you no longer let something that's not real, the past or the future, right? Dictate who you are and how you feel right now. Because your subconscious just wants to keep you alive. So the very problem that you have, whether you, like I used to drink too much wine or watch too much Netflix or get into like narcissistic, relationships where I just tried to be enough and please the person or any of those things, that was my mind's solution to something it feared was worse. My mind really, what I really wanted was connection, deep connection. And so my subconscious mind said, hey, this is familiar, you know what this looks like and at least you're not alone. So this is better than nothing, right? But it actually wasn't better than nothing. Nothing was healthier. When I went to said I'd rather be alone for the rest of my life than in this abusive marriage. I rather be alone than have my 7 year old son ask for a new daddy, right? But it took my 7 year old son saying that to wake me up. Because my subconscious mind kept saying, this is just how it is, right? People fight, this is normal. Life is stressful. Like I love my parents to death. They've been married for over 60 years, but they fought a lot. And I wouldn't say they had healthy communication or connection skills. And so I didn't know that there, was something better. And so my subconscious mind says this is normal. You're alive. This is what we're used to. So let's not. Like, your subconscious is the most risk averse part of your body. Right. So it's not going to take any chances. It's rather.


Virginia Satir: Self health is important for you. And self health probably just isn't important in general

What is Virginia Satir's comment? I'll try and get this quote right. People prefer the misery of certainty over the misery of uncertainty or something like that. Right. But that's where we get stuck. And if, you're listening and you think, oh, yeah, I'm not in the best relationship, or I, oh, yeah, I might watch a little too much TV or I might party a little too much, but if you're like me, that was me treating myself, I thought. But really, all those things that aren't good for you are just coping mechanisms and they're not your fault. Right. You weren't, you weren't born with any of them. So I just hope if you're listening like today, they say it's true, you change from inspiration or desperation. It took me desperation. I'm hoping that our, conversation today with Tiffanie gives you a little inspiration, even if just to take small steps to start setting healthy boundaries to figuring out why you're unhappy and then realize, you know, we just lock our own selves in our own emotional prison. But the good news is we also can find the key and unlock ourselves and stay out of there forever. And so the key is in your subconscious mind. So I want you to start exploring that, whether it's, you know, with me or somebody like Tiffanie or like you just do guided meditations that, focus on it. Just get started. Do not wait. Like, I was going to wait until my kids got out of college. Thank goodness the universe kept whacking me over the head to not wait to get a divorce until my kids got out of college. But I know that that's very common.

>> Tiffany: Yeah. Also, I mean, you don't want that example for your son. You know, you don't want him to be like, okay, this is what a healthy marriage is. This is how I should be when I get older. Like, that's not the example you're trying to set. You want to, you know.

>> Yvonne Trost: Absolutely.

>> Tiffany: Show them that you're stronger than that, you deserve more than that and you're worthy.

>> Yvonne Trost: Absolutely. You make such an amazing point. I tell my clients all the time, like, you think you're doing something for somebody else, but you're actually not doing them any service. Right. We think we've been taught, do unto others as you've had. Do you know you would have them do unto you. We've been taught, give, give, give, give, give, be of service, be of service. But when you don't love yourself or you don't put yourself first, you're teaching your children and everybody around you that self health is important for you. Right. And self health probably just isn't important in general. Right. Because if you're, if you especially your kids, like they don't, you know, if you're listening and you have kids, they don't listen to us, they watch us and they become us. So be what you want your children to be. If you're in a bad relationship, you don't get what you want, you get what you are. Be the person you want to be in a relationship with. Then you're going to start attracting that person. If you want somebody to prioritize, you prioritize yourself. If you want somebody to love you unconditionally, God, who doesn't want that? Right. It's really hard. But you gotta unconditionally love yourself. Even when you look in the mirror and there's like I say, I got a little bit more pinchy stuff than I want, I still gonna love myself because I know that I'm not my body. I have a body and I've just collected too much stuff in it. But it's not who I am. Right?

>> Tiffany: Yeah. It does not define you. That does not define you.

>> Yvonne Trost: Yeah. One of the things I've really been working on, well, my first was letting go of the fear of the unknown. Right. Unless you're in mortal danger. Right. Fear probably isn't the right emotion to choose at the time. It's a conditioned response. So if you find yourself fearing, if you find yourself judging self for others. Right. Those two. I've gotten pretty good. I wanted to. There's no such thing as perfect. I used. I'm a recovering perfectionist, but now I know there's no such thing. But if you can get rid of fear and you can get rid of judgment of self and others, you're pretty close to heaven right here, right now. The last one I've discovered, and this is probably like, this can resonate with a lot of the listeners. I didn't realize it, but now I'm seeing like, oh, have a little pity party every once in a while as a single mama. That happens, right. So what I would say is like, catch yourself if you have fear, judgment or self pity, don't, don't beat yourself up. Remember, we're letting go of judgment. But I want you to have compassion. Number One. Right. So I have this little easy way to remember it. Do you know the, Einstein equation? Right. Equals MC squared.

>> Tiffany: Yes.

>> Yvonne Trost: Okay, I've changed it a little bit. I don't think he'd mind. The energy you want in your life is equal to mindful thinking. Raised to the power of compassion and curiosity.

>> Tiffany: I think you would love that.

>> Yvonne Trost: Yeah. So mindful thinking, meaning, like, just take a deep breath, slow down, have compassion for yourself because there's a little you in there, and you're just raising that little you because it wasn't raised perfectly. Nobody was. I don't care if you had an amazing childhood. There's no such thing as perfect.


Yvonne says compassion can help you deal with anger and frustration

So there's always opportunity to grow. That's why our company is called Limitless you. And our website is Unlock Limitless you. Because I believe everybody is limitless. We just have to help you unlock yourself to find it. If you're mad at somebody or if you're, like, repeating yourself a million times to your kids, like, I sometimes have to just be like, okay, compassion, Yvonne. Compassion. Like, for my kids. I'm like, this is age appropriate behavior for adults. I'm like, they're just a little kid inside. I'm just little kid inside. This has nothing to do with the conversation we're having. It has everything to do with how we feel about ourselves. So it's a little hack, right? If you're not working with children, but you have an adult in front of you, that's upsetting you look at them as a little child because actually, that's the age of their subconscious mind, most likely. So that's the compassion part that interrupts that fight or flight or freeze and then go to curiosity. M. I wonder why I feel the way I feel. I was only born with the fear of falling and loud noises. This is not one of those. So what might have been the cause for me? Like, what am I really thinking about this situation? What meaning am I giving it, knowing it has nothing to do with the other person. It has everything to do with me. It's a really hard one. sometimes. But when you start practicing, it gets easier. So much easier to blame. How many times have you said, well, you made me mad, or you made me yell, or you made me. You made. No, they didn't. They can't make you. All those times I said it, they couldn't make me. This is the pot calling the kettle black. I walk my talk. I'm not judging. I'm speaking from experience. and once you take back that power, though, that's pretty amazing. Like, you think it's easier to blame other people, right, Than to look at your own self, but it actually is harder because you're giving away your power to something outside of you that you don't control.

>> Tiffany: 110%. Oh, my God. This was a hard one for me as well, because I am also a recovering perfectionist. And you know what happens when you're a perfectionist? You get nothing done because it's never going to be perfect. There's no such thing as perfect. So if you're waiting for perfection, you might as well never start because it doesn't exist.

>> Yvonne Trost: Yeah, yeah. It was like, you hear the progress over perfection. That's a real thing. But what I would say is, what I've learned is not to think so much about the outcome and to be in the process, to just be. To just enjoy. Right. It's kind of cliche about, like, be present, but it's. It's real. Just be like, we're not put on this earth to get to a certain destination of, you know, contrary to what all social media and our parents probably taught us, right? get married by this age, have kids by this age, have a house, have this many much money, have this kind of car, have this kind of body, have these kind of clothes, doing these kind of vacations. Like, social media is great to try and inspire people, but sometimes it can backfire. So get inspired, but do not compare or judge yourself. Right?

>> Tiffany: Absolutely. It's so easy to, like, look on social media and be like, look at what this person is doing or this person has or this and this. But what you need to realize is, a, it's probably fake, they're probably miserable, and they're probably putting on a front B, that expensive car they seem to be driving. How do you know they didn't rent it? I'm just saying, like, people are not who they seem to be all the time on social media. And we see that all the time. Like, this person was, like, on a pedestal, and then they, like, abused their kids or something. It's like, don't compare yourself to other people because you are exactly where you're supposed to be, and you have to keep working on yourself. You're allowed to have bad days. You're allowed to make mistakes. That's how you learn.

>> Yvonne Trost: Yeah, absolutely. And, guys, you're not alone. Like, I, When I, This is a long time ago, I did. I put pictures on Facebook because my family lives in Illinois and I live in Virginia. Like, so they could just see, right? But then after my divorce, I didn't go on social media at all because I didn't have the perfect Facebook family until about a little over a year ago when I started this new journey. I had never put a video on social media because I was so caught up in judgment. And so just know it's a process and we're all going through it and you're not alone. if you're like, I'm just not sure. Like, I think because if you would have asked anybody, they were like, oh, yeah, she's super confident. You know, she definitely loves herself. And when I met my partner, he's my partner in business and in life. And he's like, well, what was up with your childhood? Like, if you had a good childhood, you wouldn't have married that guy. And I'm like, I had a great childhood. What are you talking about? And then when I did the hypnosis, I realized I did have a good childhood. But my child mind gave meaning to things that weren't even that terrible, that made me think I wasn't enough. So I had to settle or I had to get to a certain spot by a certain time. And I should just take what I get because I might not get something better because I didn't know who I was or how to know what I wanted or to choose for me. Because I was always taught how to do for others, right? And I don't regret that. But now, like you said, we can continue to grow.


Self love quiz helps you think about your way of being with others

So it's really simple. It takes less than five minutes if you're just like, curious, like, I don't know, we put this really fun little quiz together. It's called the Self love quiz. If you go to unlocklimitlessu.com quiz, it's 12 questions. It'll take you five minutes or less. But it helps you think about your way of being with yourself and your way of being with others. Because I don't believe in, like, read, a book. And it applies to everybody. I believe in experience and in personal experience. And so it helps you think about what is your personal way of being. And then from that we'll give you information around how might you get curious and compassionate if there is an opportunity for you to love yourself more? And if there is, that's awesome because you get to love yourself more. And if you already love yourself a bunch, that's also awesome. Keep doing it, right? Like it's a quiz that no matter what grade you get, you know, I got grounded if I Didn't get straight A. So I'm sensitive around the grades. It's always an A. It's always. Actually it's always an O. It's always an opportunity, right? So. And then there's some other, really great. After you figure that out, I mean, you could schedule a call with me. There's a way to do that on the website, but there's a bunch of free like, resources. If you're listening and you're like, man, I just need a little bit of support, a little bit of insight. Like Tiffany's saying, just keep growing, keep learning. Go to the resources tab. So unlocklimitlessyou.com resources and I got a joy regenerator and a limiting belief lie detector and just all fun stuff that I wish somebody would have taught me in school, right?

>> Tiffany: Oh my God. I say that on so many of my episodes. Like if we could teach this shit, like when we're like in like middle school, high school, think how different our world would be.

>> Yvonne Trost: Amazing. So different. Even like now I was brought up, command and control your kids. Even when I was going through my divorce and my kids were acting out, it was totally appropriate. My family didn't know what to do because kids have never misbehaved. Like, they're like, you need to get control of your kids. You need to spank them. You need this, you need. No, no, no, no. I used to do that because that's what I read in all the books. But now I know better because there's better books. But what I've experienced, right? Because regardless of what the books say, you test it out. Don't believe anything anybody says. Take it, try it, experiment. See if how it resonates in your life, in your world. Once I started trying to like, shift from command and control my kids to like, like we were talking about earlier, just changing my way of being, learning how to love myself, how to communicate, how not to be like triggered and defensive and reactive as much, you know, I'm not perfect, but I'm getting better. My kids just started changing their emotional IQ went through the roof, or eq, whatever you want to call it. Like they will come up to me and say things that I'm like, these are teenage boys. And I'm just like, wow, that's amazing. My 14 year old the other day asked me, mom, do you take anything for granted? I'm like, huh? I don't want to, but I'm sure I do there. And he's like, yeah, like, because my ex husband has road rage he's like, yeah, people get upset in a car, but they should be like so grateful they have a car, they have money to buy gas and all this stuff. And I was like, wow. Just random table conversation with a 14 year old teenage boy.

>> Tiffany: That's amazing. You know why? Because they're watching you and they see that you have transformed. And it does. It's contagious. It can be because people want to be on your level. They see you changing, they see that you're happier, they see that, you know, I'm trying. This might not work, but you never know. And then if it doesn't, cool, let's try something else. Like it's okay for not everything to work. Like, look at Amazon, okay? They started it. Their garage, okay?

>> Yvonne Trost: Only selling books, books.

>> Tiffany: Now you can buy a casket. You could get a tiny house. I mean, what do you want? Like, they have everything. But it's trial and error if it doesn't work. Cool. Tweak it a little bit. Try again.

>> Yvonne Trost: Yeah. That is absolutely, absolutely fail forward, as they call it, right? So there's no such thing as failure in the way that you look at it or I used to look at it. Right. I thought I had to be perfect. I had to get straight A's. I had to be like my friend in high school who my mom thought was just like the perfect child and all the things. But if you don't try something, you never learn. Like, I had this boss that I used to work for. He's like, Yvonne, your greatest strength and weakness is you can look 20 steps out in 20 different directions and make sure that we're not going to hit any barriers or potholes. But he's like, you're spending all your energy preventing what we don't want. You're not spending enough time trying for what we do want. He's like, I want you to try something. I want you to like fall and scrape your knee and I'm not going to judge you for it. But I was, I never, I never had gotten that message before. Right?


Give up that judgment and fear. It is so freeing. It took me about 100 episodes to finally go to video

So to your point, just, just, just try and learn and then, then you teach others. It's okay to do the same. And on the pity part, like I, I sometimes now that I know how impactful your childhood is, I a little bit hyper aware of like how I raise my own kids. And like, I'm trying not to worry about messing them up even more probably than I already did with my past choices with the ex and everything. And my son's like, I just really don't Love it when you beat up on yourself or when you say, you know, you're sorry that you're not, you know, the mom that you wanted to be, or we don't have the family or I don't have the dad. He's like, I have you. And it bothers me when you say that. I'm just like, whoa, right? That's from a 17 year old whose father abused him. Like, he never would have said anything like that to me. He would never have felt open and could be vulnerable and communicate until I started doing that with them. So, again, be what you want. Don't. You can't get what you want. You have to be what you want. So be what you want for you and be what you want for your kids. Be what you want. Like, you want them to be able to be that way. To your point of you don't want them to say hell or high water. They should work their lives away in a job that they don't like. Hell or high water. They should stay in a relationship because divorce is bad and that looks bad. Whatever it is, like, give up that judgment and fear.

>> Tiffany: Yes. You can't live there because you are just. You're going to miss so many opportunities. Like, do you really. It took me about 100 episodes to finally go to video because I did not want to put it out. I'm like, people are going to be the worst and they're going to be mean and they're going to say this, this and this. And now, honestly, to y'all who are listening, I don't give a fuck. And it's liberating.

>> Yvonne Trost: It is so freeing. once I, stopped fearing and I just started being like, literally, you feel like you're almost floating off the ground because you're so used to carrying all these heavy weights. And that's almost. I would say 99.9% of all of our clients at Limitless, you. After we've done our hypnosis, which people like, oh, I don't do that.

>> Tiffany: Scary.

>> Yvonne Trost: I'm like, you're already in a social trance. This is a lot less scary than what you're walking around doing day to day. Some people go into a trance and some don't. Some people remember new things and some people don't. But every single time, there's a connection made between the meaning of what's in their subconscious with their consciousness so they have greater clarity and better control. And every single time, I'll say 0.99 because I don't have all the data and nothing's perfect. But they're like, I feel lighter, I feel freer. Because then you just realize all this stuff you've been worrying about and caring, number one, doesn't matter. Number two isn't even true. So if you feel like you're adaptive energy, or if you feel like you have a heavy weight, start exploring. It's not real. It's not. Yes, it's quote unquote normal. But normal isn't healthy anymore, right? We, we've normalized so many unhealthy things, we've almost made it popular. We've made popular so many things. And then it's like, who's got the biggest pity party? Who works the most? Who's got the toughest marriage? Who's got like. It's like, I don't watch the news anymore because it's all like, it's the, what do they say? Negativity sales cells. It's like we've incorporated that, incorporated that into our lives. But that negativity is like sucking your energy in your life and shortening your life. And it's increasing inflammation, low grade inflammation inside your body. That's why we have so much cancer now. You think, oh, life's stressful. It's just going to be stressful. That's just how it is. Well, that is the fastest way to your grave. So that doesn't sound healthy to me.

>> Tiffany: Or fun.

>> Yvonne Trost: No. So who cares what's normal? My kids are like, sometimes they'll be like, mom, you're weird. I'm like, I'd rather be weird than normal because normal is boring and it's not healthy.

>> Tiffany: Exactly. Yeah, exactly. I would really. So, hypnotherapy. I did take like a course. I got a certificate. I don't know if I went like the full way or whatever, but I just thought it was so cool. Like, you gotta bypass the critical faculty. Like, you know, like, you got to, you gotta make sure there's no resistance. And I think that is where I get nervous to actually try it on people. Because it's like, I don't want people to be like, it doesn't work. you have to let your resistance down. You have to at least try to make this work. You can't be like, it's not gonna work. It's not gonna work because guess what? Then it's not going to work. But if you go, open your mind to the possibilities.

>> Yvonne Trost: Well, even, even, when I have my first, it's a free discovery call, but that's one of the things that I ask people, like, can you believe that your. The change in your life is closer than you think and it's easier than you think. You know, so many people, it's normal to go to therapy for years and make minimal progress. It's normal to go to couples therapy for years and still not be happy. It's not normal in less than two months to completely change your life.


There's three types of change. There's instant change, right?

But that's what we do and what I would tell people. So I say, can you believe that? Can, you. Can you be open to it? If they're not open to it, then I say, we're not the program for you. And then I let people know. There's. There's three types of change. There's instant change, right? It's like, whoa. Like, there's cumulative change, right? That was more of mine. Mine was more, like, cumulative. Like, like, wow, never expected this. And then the third I also had is called retroactive change, where, like, six months later, you're like, whoa, I'm a different person. My life is different. What just happened? Like, you didn't. You don't even realize it until you're already down the road. And I've had clients have all three types or a subset of all three of the three. But to your point, you have to be ready for change. You have to be willing and open. And if you're not, then you stay where you're at. And that's. If that's what you want, that's fine. There's so many people out there. That's why I believe in attracting, not chasing. I'm not going to try and convince anybody to work with me. I want to attract. Because I don't have that much time here on Earth, right? I don't have that much time in my day. So I want to attract the people that are, like, ready to become limitless.

>> Tiffany: Who doesn't want to be limitless? I mean, God, I want every possibility there is. Like, I'm going to do amazing shit. And I know I am. how am I going to do it? Where am I going to do it? I don't know that yet. And I don't need to. It's literally just going to happen. That's another thing. We sit and we wonder and we worry about how, how is this going to happen? How am I going to get this item? How, how, how. Stop worried about the how, start working on yourself. And that how will show up.

>> Yvonne Trost: Absolutely. It's. I'm also a recovering control freak. Me and covering planner. and I thought Like, I did have control if I planned it all out perfectly. and then it was, like, miserable the whole way and, like, kind of pulling teeth. And sometimes it worked, but damn, was I tired afterwards. And I did not always give everything that I wanted. And what yoga and meditation have taught me to do is surrender. And you need to connect with the authentic you. Most of us don't know who that is. And it could be a lifelong journey to continue to evolve as the authentic you. But if you don't start, you'll never get there. But once you can do that, then it's focusing on, like, that purpose, that core, and believing as if, like, you just said, tiffany, what you want is already true. It's out there in the quantum field. It's waiting. You just have to attract it. And you don't have to know how. I could have not picked this path.

>> Tiffany: Me either.

>> Yvonne Trost: Once I let go of control and I just focused on how I wanted to feel. Right. And what kind of impact I wanted to make. Universe said, okay, here you go. Anytime I slip back into, like, this fear, trying to control or whatever, it, like, slaps me around a little bit and then reminds me, like, oh, yes, trust and surrender. And then it gives me these amazing signs, like, you silly girl, I told you it was all going to be fine. It's going to be better than fine. You just have to learn to trust.

>> Tiffany: And I think it's okay to ask, like, am I on the right course? Because believe it or not, the universe will show you. Yes. Like, there are so many times I wanted to quit this because I'm like, oh, my God, it's so much work and nobody cares. And every time I asked, I was delivered a message that, no, you have to keep going. Like, this is my life's purpose. And I know it because it has shown me that.

>> Yvonne Trost: Yeah. And, you know, I'm sure you're like me because I can see it in your. And feel it in your energy. Like, it doesn't matter how much you make if you're living your purpose. You're the wealthiest person on the planet, Right? We're doing. I have a tribe. So, we have programs where I help people one on one, but then also we have community weekly, group coaching. I call them masterminds, because we're learning to grow, grow, grow, grow, grow. And right now we're on this. I'm calling it our limitless Life compass, because as a recovering perfectionist, I get really perfect, like, at work. But then my health would suffer or my relationships would suffer. So it's like a personal balance scorecard.


Tiffany is passionate about helping people define what they want

Like you need to have a compass, but I can't set it for you. Tiffanie can't set it for you. You have to set it for you. So it's called Limitless Connections. You can read about it on our website too and join if you want. But the one that we're doing right now is on financial freedom. And most people, when they hear financial freedom, they think, oh, millions and I can do whatever I want. Maybe it also could just mean that you really focus on what it is that you want and you let go of the stuff that isn't that important to you so that you don't have as many expenses or you don't feel like you're commuting your life away to go into an office and sit in a cubicle or whatever it is for you. I am so passionate about helping people define what they want versus what they've been conditioned to believe they should want. Right. So I see in you similar to me, like I told somebody the other day, I'm like, I'm making a lot less money than I used to make for now I've asked the universe to try and help me out because I got two kids coming into college soon, one starting next year, but I feel the wealthiest I've ever been because I'm doing what I love and I feel like I'm making an impact and that's priceless to me. Like the other day we're on, Wednesdays and Thursdays at noon is when we do our tribe call. And we're just sitting there like, everybody's like, oh my God, this is amazing. And I'm like, I know, right? Can you go to Amazon and say, give me an amazing group of people that I can relate to that support me and that help me celebrate and that I grow with that. You, like, you can't go by that. Amazon's got a lot, but it doesn't have that.

>> Tiffany: At least not yet.

>> Yvonne Trost: Yeah, yeah. So you have to define what wealth is to you. And once you find it, don't let anybody else convince you of anything different. Just keep going. Like Tiffanie said, keep asking for signs and support.

>> Tiffany: You will get them, you will 100% get them. And then it puts a little pep in your step because then you're like, you know, you're starting towards that self doubt and now you're like, wait, no, pop my collar. I'm on the right track.

>> Yvonne Trost: Yeah, absolutely, absolutely. I feel like this conversation is a pop your collar kind of experience. I really appreciate it, and I love connecting with people that have purpose and passion and spirit.

>> Tiffany: We need more of this. God, if you look around, it's. It's a hot mess out there, but I refuse to let it bring me down with them. like, y'all want to be miserable, go ahead. But I'm gonna live over here in Tiffanie land, and I got, like, a merry go round going all day in my.

>> Yvonne Trost: Absolutely. I tell people to be selective. I got this T shirt for my teenager, and he's like, mom. You know, I always get, like, made fun of at school, but they're just so funny. He's a bit of an introvert. And it says, I'm not introverted. I'm just socially selective or something like that. But it's the same thing with energy. You know, I would sometimes get criticized that I live in a bubble. I'm like, I don't live in a bubble. I just choose the energy that I put out and the energy that I receive. Because before, it wasn't like I. I was just, like, bleeding all sorts of energy and had no idea people were like, we can totally tell when you're upset, right? Your energy. I mean, like, I tell people, skin is overrated. It does not hold in your energy. You don't even have to say anything, and you're exuding it. And so it's okay to be selective. There are billions of people out there. Not everyone was meant for you. So if somebody doesn't, like, support you or you don't feel, like, energized and loved after, you spend time with them. First communicate. Oh, hey, this is how I'm feeling, and this is why it's not your fault. This is a story I made in my head. Like on our joy regenerator. It teaches you how to get back to your joy once you. You know, if you. If you're triggered, like, you take a deep breath, right? You get into your Eagles MC squared. You have compassion for yourself. If you've gone through a program, you understand where it's coming from. You interrupt with gratitude. What are things you're grateful for? And then you have the conversation. And I would say, tiffany, it's not your fault. But when you said or did whatever it was, the stories that my subconscious mind made up in my head was that you didn't think I was good enough, or you didn't think I was smart enough, or you didn't think I was doing it the right way. And that made me feel yucky, that made me feel sad, that made me Feel angry, whatever it is. Can you please help me process this so that I actually really understand your intention other than just making assumptions and we can grow closer and healthier together. Like, those conversations go way different than the reactive way.

>> Tiffany: Oh, God, yeah. Yelling and all that does not get you anywhere.

>> Yvonne Trost: Resentment, pouting, all the stuff. Manipulating all the stuff I used to do. And so it's not always easy, but now with my partner, I. Conflict brings us closer. It brings us closer to ourselves because I speak my truth and my voice and how I'm feeling, and I can do it in a safe space, and he can receive it in a safe space, and then we can talk through it and realize it has nothing to do with each other and has everything to do with the meaning that we're giving. Whatever the thing is, and most often the story I make up in my head, he can't even imagine. He's like, where did. I don't even understand. And that's not you. That's not a unique instance, I would imagine, with most conflict in this world. Humans are terrible at about making assumptions. So we just have to start learning how to communicate better, which also we should be teaching in schools.

>> Tiffany: Yes. We need, like, a whole new curriculum.

>> Yvonne Trost: Absolutely.

>> Tiffany: We're shoving the wrong things down these kids throats. For real.

>> Yvonne Trost: Absolutely. Absolutely. Well, maybe that's our next mission.

>> Tiffany: I would love that.


Unlock limitless Universe helps people become their happiest selves before desperation hits

Yes. Like, come on. Like, let's make this world better and easier. Like, it's so. It's so much easier once you actually get in the flow of this. You're like, holy shit, where have I been?

>> Yvonne Trost: I know. I know. Was asleep for a very long time. An hour awake. And if you're interested in, like, waking up, just reach out. It's a lovely place to be.

>> Tiffany: Sure is. I would never want to go back to where I was, ever.

>> Yvonne Trost: You.

>> Tiffany: You couldn't pay me a billion dollars to live where I used to live in my head.

>> Yvonne Trost: Oh, I know. We have. If you go to our website, we have a, page of reviews. And, like, one. She's like, you could. You could cut me a check for a hundred thousand and I wouldn't give you back the experience you just gave me because I'm never going back. Right. So our program doesn't cost that much, but it, like, made my heart smile to be like, that's. That's the kind of value that we're delivering. We're changing lives so much that people like, You can't put a price tag on this. Right.

>> Tiffany: Oh, my God, I love that you just said that I always say that that makes my heart smile. I was like, oh, that just made my heart smile when you said that. I say that all the time. But it's true.

>> Yvonne Trost: It's so true. So if you're thinking, oh, I don't have the money to invest in myself. I don't have the time. Remember what we said? You don't not have the time. And once you wake up, you would. You would be like, oh, my God, that was worth ten, a hundred times what I actually invested in it. And I want to keep going because I'm limitless. And now you unlock yourself and you feel your power and you want to keep growing. So let's get growing.

>> Tiffany: Yes. Love it, love it, love it, love it. I'm going to make sure I put the links in the show notes so, people who are interested can come check it out. Was, there anything else that you wanted to add?

>> Yvonne Trost: I would just say, like, take the self love quiz. It's super simple and easy. And then book a call. Just go to unlocklimitlessu.com call. We can talk about anything. Whether you've hit a plateau or you're struggling with something, you know, people are like, well, who do you serve? I'm like, anybody that's a human being. Because that's what we do, right? This is about the human being. And although we have a myriad of challenges, it usually comes back down to your subconscious mind and some version of not feeling enough for some reason, because we get to the root of it. When you get to the root of it, all the myriad of symptoms and all the layers of the onion, they all just start fading away because you got to the root of it. So we pull the weed out at the root so it doesn't grow back. And we plant the seeds of the garden that you want your life to look like and feel like. And if you're like, hey, this is an awesome podcast. I love this kind of information. We also have one. It's called how to be Happier for Entrepreneurs. You don't have to be an entrepreneur, Right? It's all about healers and people that have gone through a transformation again, trying to inspire people to become their happiest selves before desperation hits. And if desperation's already hit, to know that you're not alone, right? And you shouldn't judge yourself. Other people have been there, and you're going to be fine. You just have to reach out and ask for help.

>> Tiffany: Yes. You have to be willing to take advice. You have to be willing to actually change your beliefs, your thoughts, all that. Because if you're not in it, you're wasting your time and ours. It's like, let's just be honest, you know, you have to want it.

>> Yvonne Trost: Yeah. Yeah. And we'll give you the experience so that you don't have to, like, be convinced to want it. You'll start feeling it, and then you can decide absolutely.

>> Tiffany: If anyone listening, if you know somebody who needs to hear this message, make sure you share this episode with them, because we just need to rebuild. We need to rebuild as many people as we can and just live. Help, happier, healthier lives.

>> Yvonne Trost: Absolutely.

>> Tiffany: Well, thank you so much for being here. I loved this conversation.

>> Yvonne Trost: I am so glad I joined. It's been great.

>> Tiffany: Yes. And like I said, I'll make sure I put all of the links in, the show notes so people can come find you.

>> Yvonne Trost: Perfect. And if you don't come find me, it's okay. Start finding yourself. Get some. Get some help, you know, find a book on your subconscious. Just get started. Don't wait.


Yes. Absolutely. Awesome. How long do you want to stand waiting in line? Like, let's. Let's go

>> Tiffany: Yes. The new you is right around the corner. How long do you want to stand waiting in line? Like, let's. Let's go.

>> Yvonne Trost: Absolutely.

>> Tiffany: All right.

>> Yvonne Trost: Awesome.