"Sexual Intelligence: with Motivational Speaker Chef Golden

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Donald Perattis 0:18

I'm so excited. All right, so welcome to the Mind of the Exoticpreneur where defining your purpose is where the pride. Listen, I got the pleasure to introduce to youGolden GoldenBonafide Exoticpreneur. She is like the definition of what it is and what it ain't and what you need to become. Now, her communication game is on point. Her appeal is on flat and listen, she knows the industry in a way that makes me just blush every time I get around her because I don't know how to act because

Chef Golden 0:52

what

Donald Perattis 0:53

I can see about her is that she lives her life like it's golden and she moves in a spirit that just is undeniable. So what I want to introduce to some and let everybody else find out about miss, how do you want to say yourself? Sure. Chef Golden is in the building. I'm just so excited just to kick it with you and talk with you. Goldenit's been a time trying to get. Connecting,GoldenyGoldene was really trying to get in studio, but, Goldenlife is still going life and we got to keep making moves. So in the life of an executive, Goldenwe don't have excuses. We get things done. You feel me? You feel me? So with that being said, listen, welcome. Welcome. Welcome. Welcome. Welcome. Welcome. Thank you. Thank you.GoldenGoldenfirst thing first before, Goldenwe get all into it, GoldenGoldentell me about yourself. Goldentell me, GoldenGoldendenwhat got you in the game? What allowed you to transition and, GoldenWe'll just start there because we got some stuff.

Chef Golden 2:06

Okay, you say what got me in the game? What game? I'm talking about. What got you

Donald Perattis 2:10

in? I do many things. Yeah. So what got you in my favorite game, Goldenthe exotic entertainment industry that produced the exotic penureship that I met because, Goldenwe met in, Goldenthrough a mutual friend, through a mutual acquaintance. Yeah.

Chef Golden 2:32

Networking,

Donald Perattis 2:33

Goldenand just building our thing. You feel me? So

Chef Golden 2:36

yeah,

Donald Perattis 2:37

but yeah, it turned into GoldenGoldenwhen you get in a room with a kindred spirit, you feel me?

Chef Golden 2:42

Yes. Most definitely.

Donald Perattis 2:44

We own, we got the vibe and we see the game for what it really is. We don't got time for whatever else was going on, but we respect everybody's space. GoldenGoldenGoldenbut there, Goldenthere's people that's going to be, that's going to see you that don't, didn't know that you existed, but want to find out. GoldenGoldenif you give them a little bit of backstoryGolden on where you came from, it could, we could set it up for where you going on your path to greatness.

Chef Golden 3:10

So basically you want to know how I got into the sex entertainment business.Goldendenwhatever you want to call it, that's just to sum it up Goldenfor the masses. I hadGolden I had started an adult toy business selling adult toys and novelties back in 20, Ooh, 2009, 2009 is when I bought my first kit to sell adult toys. So I was hosting parties and things of that nature. HoweverGolden it was through Pure Romance and people would call and report my business stating that because GoldenPure Romance, they have all these different rules and you have to buy all these different packages from them. And before you can actually see your money, GoldendenGoldenI got tired of people calling me like you can't say certain things you can have men in your parties. I don't even remember those the main two rules that people will call on me about. GoldenGoldenthe last time someone reported me and they're calling me about what someone said about my party and I'm like, You keep referring to me as an entrepreneur, but yet people can call and report my business. This is my business. They should talk to me about my business, right or wrong. GoldenGoldenI didn't like that. Goldenthen I stumbled across a distributor who wasGolden based in California. Her name wasGolden Gracie. Gracie was a beautiful spirit. Goldenrest in peace, Gracie. I met Gracie just on some visiting a friend and walk in and. Through conversation, I found out she's a distributor. So I linked up with Gracie and I started being able to order all my things wholesale. So I was then throwing parties. So then I realized like in the business of selling toys, a lot of people don't understandGolden the important, not just the importance of toys and just how to use toys, how to introduce them to their mate, how toGolden enjoy them for what they're here for, Goldenhigh end experience. So I started hosting classes, teaching people how to use toys and I will call them demonstration parties. And we will always keep them sexy. So of course people will come in for, Goldensome will come with ill intentions, but most will come to learn and have a different type of experience. So I went from doing that since 2019, I would Goldenrent out bars and things of that nature and bring all the girls and the toys and show people how to use the toys on the girls. And it was the whole thing, a beautiful thing. So from there, but we were trying to like really low prices. So sometimes we would have people who don't know how to act in these parties. So from there to now I host upscale erotic experiences. And what that Goldenis, so we'll charge like 150 to 200 a ticket, and we'll create this experience. So we'll take a theme, and we will build on that theme to heighten the Goldenexperience that everyone will have once they come into the party. So you know how you have people come to parties and they be wallflowers, they sit back, like there's no such thing as that in our party. Because our girls is going to make sure that each and every person is having a great time and is coming out of their shells so that you can have an experience that you will remember. We also don't allow cell phones or cameras, no type of recording devices. And you have to sign a nondisclosure. Once you come into theGolden atmosphere. So we leveled the game up from just selling bullets and dildos to now hosting whole life experiences with entertainment, food, drinks, whatever. Games, just all types of things to bring people out of their shells, out of their shells and to show them a different side of themselves.

Donald Perattis 7:07

Okay. And that's Goldenso this, so what you're doing, what you've done isGolden effectively transition, Goldenhumble beginnings or starting off as an entrepreneur, even though you're going to catch a little BS Goldenand transform that into a exotic entrepreneurship, which is the echelon. GoldenGoldenof sexuality relationships and the spirituality thatGolden Goldenwe talk about actively on this show andGolden especially that is the message of, Goldenwhat I teach and what we talk about is exotic prenuership, where that you can embrace your sexuality, where you can embrace your relationship, and you can embrace your spirituality without the repressive, regressive energy that

Chef Golden 7:54

you seeGolden around us. Sex is really taboo for a lot of people. It's two things that everybody expects you to know how to do really well. And especially if they're men, we expect you to know how to make money and we expect you to know how to have sex. And if you can't do that, then you're frowned upon. But that's also the same two things. That's also the same two things that no one wants to teach you. No one wants to teach you how to for real get money. And no one wants to teach you how to have sex. So how is one supposed to know what and how to do? Outside of experience because you have people Goldenwho don't like to be touched or have different things that they don't like so they can't have certain type of experiences.

Mr. HG 8:37

Absolutely.

Chef Golden 8:37

So how else you need a teacher you need a teacher to learn how to make money you need a teacher to learn how to have sex.

Donald Perattis 8:45

So it's interesting that you said that becauseGolden the question is, what has been the most prominent teachers in your experience? Because Goldenstatistically, Goldenmost men learn sex through watching, Goldenvideos. You feel me? Just getting on the internet, Goldenmaybe you might be able to talk to your boy or, Goldenit's Goldenweird to talk to your parents, Goldenfor Goldenmost people that grew up, you really don't have those type of concessions. And, Goldenas a male, we really didn't have those conversations. We was more talking about, did you get it? You feel me? Did you get a sample? Did you find out what it was all about? Did you get Goldenthat sauce, GoldenGoldenand figure it out. Do you feel me? WhichGoldendenby me beingGolden Goldenraised in a veryGolden restricted andGolden religious household, Goldenthat became GoldenveryGolden strategic on finding out how to make it work and how to make it happen.

Chef Golden 9:50

So I didn't choose this industry. This industry chose me.

Donald Perattis 9:54

Okay.

Chef Golden 9:56

Every since I was a young girl, and I'm not a victim of no type of molestation or fornication or not fornication, but what is it called? Incest or anything like that? I'm not a victim. I'm not a victim of any sexual trauma. I was never, Goldentrafficked or anything. There's women out here who have real stories GoldenThat they could come on here and tell you about how sex chose them like sex purely chose me I remember as a little kid. I have always been interested in Sex or in something in my vagina and my boobs or what is happening? What is that? I remember back in the day to remember we on cable the nasty channel. Yeah.

Donald Perattis 10:39

Yeah. Yeah. GoldenYeah,

Chef Golden 10:42

I'm talking like four and five years old like after everybody is asleep You I'm in there watching the nasty channel. Like I don't know why I'm just Actually, the lights, the dancing, the movement, the penises, the titties, like everything, like I'm just watching. Goldenand it wasn't that I even knew that it was, I knew that it was wrong. Cause I remember Goldenhearing my uncle come in and hurry up and changing the channel, acting like I'm sleep or something, or, Goldenhearing my parents coming and hurry up and acting GoldenGoldenI wasn't watching what I was watching, but they'll see the light. So they'll be like. Who is in here doing something they weren't supposed to do? GoldenGoldenGoldenand I was just going to sleep around, Goldenso I knew that it was wrong and we were always taught about not to let people touch private areas of your body and what's right and what's wrong. But I was just so intrigued since a little girl. So I have no real explanation as to why besides God gave me this gift.

Donald Perattis 11:52

Okay.

Chef Golden 11:52

So now that I understand the power in sex, now that I understand the energy in sex, now I'm truly grateful for the gift that I have and I'm not so much embarrassed or care about what other people think and say about me. In this wholeGolden duration Goldenof my life that I've been out here doing this.

Donald Perattis 12:14

So GoldenI, true to that, causeGolden you said Goldensome key things that GoldenGoldenI want to GoldenGoldenexpand on. One thing you said that GoldenGoldenGoldenGoldentheGolden it chose you. And the fact thatGolden you were interested in something that considered was bad, but yet you, as you mature, you learned that it had a power behind it. GoldenGoldenone of the things that I express upon and expand upon Goldenand the bookGolden enter the exotic manure, there isGolden four stages that we talk about inGolden you call your sexual journey. And the first stage, which is what you've literally identified and clarified, which is sexual exploration. So even though there are people out here that exploit that space, but in the natural form, in the traditional principle of it, there is a, Explorators place that you're going to be where it's just literally, you're just freaking curious, right? You want to learn about something that is a part of you, a part of your body. That's natural. That's normal. You're supposed to have these emotions, these feelings, this associationGolden spiritually, it has zero to do with the religiousGolden rapGolden repercussions or religiousGolden Issues that, Goldenthat are put on it, but yet you experienced that and you, and it allowed yourself to progress. Cause once you learned the power, whichGolden we go through, which isGolden sexual transmutation GoldenGoldenandGolden Goldensexual transformation,Goldenand the last isGolden sexual divinity where that now you understand who you are and who you are as a sexual being. GoldenAnd then who you are Goldenas a human being, Goldenworking in this industry, if you're choosing to, or understanding yourself so that you can at least relate and connect with in your, with your relationships and with

Chef Golden 14:13

those who are, and with those who I am sent to lead. Because it's a lot of women who are being abused sexually who need to understand their power. And I'm not talking about being raped or anything. I'm talking about married women who sexually. I know plenty of women who have never even experienced the orgasm and have plenty of kids. So Goldencome on, you never had an orgasm. Are you kidding me? Why did you keep making kids? Goldenoh, you could just do without you get what I'm saying? If it's not pleasing to me I can do it out. That's not do that again. So So for me personally, I have GoldenI mean I have orgasm likeGoldenI can teach orgasm, GoldenI believe I can teach themGolden but to just show people that it's not nasty, it's not dirty, it's notGolden you're not promiscuous because you want to have sex and enjoy sex, right? Or if you are promiscuous, it doesn't make you a bad person. Golden Golden Goldenyou know what I'm saying? Goldenlike, where do you think Christians from, LeBron, all these things, where do you think the little Christians keep coming from?Goldenthey're not falling off the sky, God bless you, placing them here, you're having sex, so the question is, are you enjoying the sex that you're having, or are you just laying there being a cum dumpster, or a pumping bag? Because if that's the case, then you're a slave,

Donald Perattis 16:01

right? And you're a

Chef Golden 16:02

slave to someone else.

Donald Perattis 16:03

And that's interesting becauseGolden I've been, so I've been studying and properly educate myself. Can

Chef Golden 16:10

I pause you for one second while I go get the door?

Donald Perattis 16:15

Okay, so we are here and we just get, we're back. After a slight pause, and we want to welcome to the stageGolden Mr. One hell of a guy. GoldenGoldenwelcome, my fellow co hostGolden in the mind of the Exoticpreneur. And just bring it back to you, Ms. Chef Godin, who has went deep into herGolden Exoticpreneurship and her sexuality, being a full woman who likes toGolden have orgasms. As well as of

Chef Golden 16:49

course, that's what you heard.

Donald Perattis 16:53

How to have orgasms as well as teach them how to better connect with their partners and they're having better, moreGolden healthier relationships because we have now, there has been an active disconnect inGolden the relationship compatibility and connectivity outside ofGolden GoldenOn the pleasure in and a connectivity in due to the fact that I can comfortably say after doing extensive research up to this day of not allowing women toGolden express themselves and not be considered justGolden colorfully statedGolden Humpbacks. Humpbacks. Golden, whiGoldenm, learning Goldenthat has been a well over mill, a millenniaGoldenof sexual oppression against women that was dominated by men where that I understand, and I do stand on the principles of cooperation. and sexual compatibility. I do get into that. And from a religious point of back, I also stand on the principle of having a cooperative space. But we know from the ancient that men and women worked together. They were side by side. They wasn't subservient to each other. Only into this day and Goldenera where that, that has been now frowned upon and then grossly manipulated. To, Goldensuppress what women naturally control, field, and actually managed since the beginning of time in that space.

Chef Golden 18:49

I'm going to have to ask you to run that one part back. You said men and women sexually were compatible. Goldenthey were side by side as it was. Yes,

Donald Perattis 18:59

there was equals and what day was their functionalities and their functionality was different.

Chef Golden 19:05

What day was that?

Donald Perattis 19:07

Oh, that was back in ancient times. That was the original. So Goldenif you go all the way back to the originals, he committed as in Goldenthe beginning, Goldenthere were men, they were with the men and women were depicted as together. There was never separate in regards to their identity. They were always considered, Oh,

Chef Golden 19:29

it's like a couple, you always had somebody that's opposed to women are more being more independent and solo Goldenat the day is what you're referring to,

Donald Perattis 19:39

right? So that's in that context of that now, women be coming out

Chef Golden 19:42

of the suppression.

Donald Perattis 19:44

Yeah. Goldenso women being their ownGolden GoldenAdvocatoGolden, has been the new era and a normalization of that part, which is the definition of the, ofGolden is the progression of the exotic prenuer, becauseGolden Goldencontrary to the public opinion, women still control access to sex, even though menGolden produce the seed. Through the sex stack that creates the garden. So we can go all deep into that one. Yeah.

Chef Golden 20:17

Goldenwe,

Donald Perattis 20:18

another thing

Chef Golden 20:20

podcast you sexual,

Donald Perattis 20:21

but Goldenon this part, no different topic we really wanna tap into and we, and really what GoldenGoldenthe main purpose of this stuff is sexualityGolden sensuality and the relationships. We really don't have that we need to have. You feel what I'm saying? Golden. AndGoldenenhavingGolden Goldenmy, my brother and my sister in the game who has done things in, on both ends GoldenGoldenof the spectrum. Goldenwith this, I want to invite onGoldenldenMr. One hell of a guy, which I need him to step into the light and stop being a shadow right now. Because Goldenhe, the shirt is shining, but he's definitely

Chef Golden 21:00

incog, he's shining. And I'm

Donald Perattis 21:01

feeling the snatch university because Goldenwe out here, Goldenfocusing on being fit while we slinging that shit. You feel me? Golden. And I'm always gonna be with, to define my purpose and where we're pride, you feel me? However, we wanna see the eyeballs, you feel me? Okay.

Mr. HG 21:18

I'm on another cuff. You ain't got,

Donald Perattis 21:20

GoldenwhatGolden Goldenwhat I want to actuallyGolden Goldentransition to is.GoldenGoldenthe relationship, marriage, and the polygamy space where that some are against it, some are with it. I respect it. Goldencause I'm all for marriage Goldenand I, and now from educate myself on what. What the benefits is and what the public draw, what the public stigma is. I am even Goldenmore for it than against it based off of who I want to, how I want to position myselfGolden Goldenas I progress further, because one thing I can learn, one thing I can attest from my own real life experience. Once you've been a man of means and of. a certain stature. It's not that I'm not, I can not. Commit to one woman is the fact that mattered that the balance came in when I had two women working collectively together. It was like, we took care of things a lot more effectively because their pressure wasn't all on me. It wasn't all on her, but it was literally a tune for, and a lot of people had a problem with that, but I'd still think like a level headed businessman where that you got to have administration and you got to have marketing. Those are two separate different entities. And then you got the central. Person, which is the CEO. But when you work together with it, like administrations handle this thing. So that's like Goldenthe inside part, the paperwork, right? Then you got marketing as the outside and handling the things that are attracting people. Then you've got the CEO that's handling both the, where that the referee is now creating a Trinity. Or it's a constant flow because in a triangle, you got. Continuity, which creates a circle, which creates flow, which is the mathematics on that part made it made sense to me where that's Goldendude, I'm two and I'm through, I don't need to have Golden25, 30. I am. I'm not trying to go biblical like Nick Cannon. You feel my

Chef Golden 23:27

mom always told me that a man can have as many women as he can afford.

Donald Perattis 23:31

Today

Chef Golden 23:32

is that it's a lot of broke men thinking that they can have multiple women that they do not have to provide for. Or be accountable for. So now you have chaos. And another thing is, a lot of women would not have a problem with sharing their men. In real life, like real secure women, we wouldn't have a problem with sharing our men, it's just the fact that most men are not very transparent, and they're not transparent, because they get a thrill out of sneaking. And if they sneak, that's the thrill that they're seeking. GoldenThey can have a woman and say, okay, yeah, you can get a, you can have another woman or you can have a girlfriend or whatnot, but I want to know her. Cause then they're here comes the control thing. They don't want to be, they don't want you to know her. They want everything to be a very secretive so that they can always have that adrenaline rush Goldenwhen they're with that other woman.

Donald Perattis 24:28

So I do agree with that. GoldenI just want to spandle down just a little bit and I want to have bro tap in because he is,

Chef Golden 24:35

he lined up like he had something to say,

Donald Perattis 24:37

the fact that no, and this is my, this is just my perspective GoldenGoldenfrom my mind of being an operatorGolden in that space. And experiencing

Chef Golden 24:51

it,

Donald Perattis 24:53

I never understood, GoldenI don't stand on the principle that men should need to stink, should need to sneak on something that's natural if you're honest, like I don't have drama because I'm honest. I don't have drama because everything is on the floor where they, you're given the option to choose. Golden

Chef Golden 25:15

but admit, having a drama free life is Goldenboring.

Donald Perattis 25:19

That is the other part that I'm boring. Because GoldenI'm on my tips,

Chef Golden 25:26

but it's boring

Donald Perattis 25:27

is boring in this. When I was younger, everybody was like, you're boring. But Goldenwhen IGolden when I'm older, they be saying women now Goldenthat wanted to be, because I can afford your lifestyle. I can afford everything. The thing is, you don't have nothing to talk about. You ain't got, you can't complain. When are we going on trips? We having a good time. We out of state. We doing this, that, and a third. Whereas.Goldenyou can't relate to your sister girl who's sitting here saying my nigga was cheating on me. He was treating me like shit. I'm likeGolden I don't want, you don't have that problem. Just

Chef Golden 26:02

to create some contrast because once we get to arguing and stuff, now I'm feeling something right. Everything was just always hunky dory, perfect. And no woman want a man that no other women want. Like what? Don't nobody want this nigga? So what the fuck I'm doing here then?

Donald Perattis 26:18

GoldenGoldenso make that make sense. Now, it wasn't like a brother wasn't getting offers. It just, I enjoy, I was already good. GoldenGoldenwhen I'm good and I'm content, I'm like, what the fuck? Goldenwhy break something fucked up? But I've learned that there are women. And men who just like drama, they like to have something to complain about, talk about. And maybe that's just my mind as being a Aquarius. We avoid thatGolden like the plague. We like, I don't do drama. I pay for peace. You feel me? And with that piece, let me pass it on to my fellow Aquarius. It's a hell of a guy. Listen, I pay for peace. That's all I can say. I can't. I

Chef Golden 26:58

had

Donald Perattis 26:58

a trip. I paid for

Chef Golden 27:00

her to leave. I don't want nothing after this transaction. I paid for her to leave. Listen,

Donald Perattis 27:06

Goldentime is money and I don't want to devalue you on no form or fashion. So I will help you with your transition wherever you need to go.

Chef Golden 27:15

Where are you going next?

Mr. HG 27:17

GoldenY'all both had some key points. I was listening to both of y'all. That's why I had to, I want to listen to everything, but I'm going to say it like this. She had a valid point where a lot of guys want to sneak. You know why? In my own perspective, my own opinion, the reason why they sneak because they have insecurities. They want to be the man, but at the low key, they don't want to be the man, but they want to keep what they got inside that vault. If it makes sense. So basically you have a good woman, you understand what I'm saying? And Goldenshe don't deal with Polygamy me or this and a third, Goldenyou do, you can't force a person to do something, which they doesn't want to do, but she make you feel comfortable enough to say, this is mines. You might feel like they do it right now. To this day, this is your wife. At the end of the day, you look at it as white, this title, you're white. She don't know the guy, the other side, Goldenhey, sometimes it might be stressed. I want to put my hand around your neck while I'm hitting you. You know what I'm saying? Long strokes. Certain situations. GoldenGoldenYou don't want to dog your

Chef Golden 28:24

wife. You don't want to dog what you keep at home. Goldenyou dog the rental cars. You cherish Goldenthe cars you keep in the garage. The luxury cars.

Mr. HG 28:34

Any different. Or it might be more problems inside the household. But if I go out and go sneak into it and let it be, I ain't got to come home with the BS. You feel what I'm saying? Until it, if it doesn't.

Chef Golden 28:46

But what about when you having so much fun in the doggish ways that you start gathering feelings Goldenfor that thing that you dog, you start caring for it.

Mr. HG 28:57

And you can care for it. But the thing about it is, what's more important, home or doggies?

Chef Golden 29:04

But who you asking? This brain or that one?

Mr. HG 29:07

That, and that's the thing. It's just, and then that

Chef Golden 29:10

also factor in maturity of a man.

Mr. HG 29:12

Yeah. It's the maturity, but it's three brains. It's that brain, this brain. But it's this brain right here, this one that counts because see this brain right here? Yeah. I wanna go home. This brain right hereGolden man, fuck it. I wanna go do this in third. But you gotta think about this brand right here. What's long term? Jeopardy. But you have to be honest.

Chef Golden 29:30

You're the first man. But you're the first man I ever heard say that there's a third brain right here. I never heard and I'm assuming that you're either speaking from the heart or your spirit, but I never heard most men only think they have two, this one and that one. No, you have

Mr. HG 29:49

three. And the thing about it is everybody live because I can see a female right now. GoldenOh my gosh, she's so beautiful. I give her the business. But. As me right here, I was taught. So look, don't touch. I want you to have a conversation when I don't care how beautiful she is or how much I think she a queen to send third. I don't know her mindset. And I don't want to take that chance because even though she looked good on the outside, the inside might be damaged. Now you're like, I'm out to hit it. She like, Hey, I'm with it. But now you got, you don't want to spend enough time with him. You don't give him no attention. I need you to do X, Y, and Z. You like, Oh man, what the hell I got my ass into.

Chef Golden 30:29

So

Mr. HG 30:29

you Voices five steps ahead of the game, instead of one step, and that's what the first brain you was talking about, not the second or the third, which the third should have been the first, your spirit and your heart,

Donald Perattis 30:44

you

Mr. HG 30:44

know what I'm saying?

Donald Perattis 30:45

From the Mind of the Exoticprenuer speaking from just the one hell of a guy, I got to love it. I give a shout outs where I get flowers Goldenon camera and off camera. You feel me? I love it. This isGolden the purpose of opening these discussions because, Goldenhe stayed in on a space is this isGolden when we talk aboutGolden sexual transformation, the sexual transformation is that part of the heart, that part of the spirit that, that I no longer want toGolden be intimate with just your body. I don't want to just be intimate with just Goldenthat part of your mind. I want to be intimate with your total being. I want to be intimate with your spirit and that connection, which I've only legitimately seen. They portrayed it. They was crazy as they portrayed it in movies. But I've only seen it like in real life with those 30 and 40 year old relationships, those 30 and 40 year old marriages who've been there and done that. You feel me? The ones that, that doesn'tGolden that didn'tGolden worry about what's he messing around, what's she messing around. It's like y'all been through the trenches already. Y'all didn't understood the assignment and y'all knew that y'all wasn't going to give up on each other just because it got a little difficult. Just because y'all was going through the phases. You know what I mean?

Chef Golden 32:04

Or you got lazy and you settled. So the thing is about this conversation with you two guys is that you guys are on different levels. You guys are not on the same mental capacity as the masses. So having this conversation in higher vibration or in deeper knowledge than most people is not really going to be anyGolden contradicting orGolden GoldenWhat's the word I'm looking for? I'm not going to really debate or go against anything that you guys are saying. You get what I'm saying? As opposed to you have to step out of where you are now and go back to where you came from. That mentality of where you came from because the people who you're going to be addressing has not gotten to where you are. So in order for you to help them get to where you are mentally and spiritually, then you have to go to where they are to meet them. So speaking from where you are now and your understanding of now is beautiful. Thank you, black man. I love it. But in real life, these niggas ain't where y'all at, let's be for real. And when GoldenI speak not only from the knowledge that I have obtained. And in the spirituality that I have attained, but I also speak from that girl who I came from,

Donald Perattis 33:28

my

Chef Golden 33:28

understanding of her, who she was, what she felt, what she thought. You know what I'm saying? Because it was a time Goldenwhere I thought I was supposed to just be somebody's pumping bag. And I was supposed to let this man come and do whatever it is he felt he wanted to do to me. And that was me being a good woman, whether I was enjoying it or not. That was me being a good woman. That was me in a relationship for years and I wasn't sexually satisfied. That was me in a relationship and got a whole baby from a man who could never even tell me that I was beautiful or never caressed me or Goldennever do anything that made me feel like a beautiful woman.

Donald Perattis 34:09

Amen.

Mr. HG 34:11

You get what I'm saying. And I was signing my adoption papers right now because that's my big sister. I just said Dr. Hurt on his podcast. It's hilarious. I just adopted you. I just adopted you.

Donald Perattis 34:22

He just adopted you. See, everybody, Goldenonce you get around a golden lifestyle, it's just, listen. It's golden, baby. You just get adopted quick, don't you? She just got that spirit, don't she?

Chef Golden 34:32

That's my problem. These niggas always want to put me in a box. They want to take me and make me there. We are expanding the family. This is my golden. No one else can have

Donald Perattis 34:42

it. We are expanding the family. Listen, do you understand we, we expand, we don't contract, you feel me? So you are now a part of Goldenthe family of the exotic prenuer ship family, where that now we're going to keep expanding. You're going to get, we're going to get some different talks. We're going to get some different walks. You feel me?Goldenit's exciting to see. Goldenso it's amazing that you did say about, Goldenspeaking to that part where men have. Where some men have gone and most of them are scared of because, and I can speak from that space because I know I was ultra simp. I was, and I say that not as a derogatory, like most men address that as a derogatory, like he was simping, which, Goldenin definition, I say, you just had too much sympathy forGolden Goldenemotional space when you needed to use a more logicalGolden stoic space. Because I was the oldest of 10 kids, but yet I was raised predominantly for the first for majority of myGolden upbringing toGolden teenager, adolescence, teenager around women and the angry side of that. The. When you're working with, when you have a father who is a true alpha male, who did all of the providing, who handled his business, but he wasn't for that bullshit. But yet you had a mother who I love dearly, who wasn't used to that, wasn't prepared for that, where she looked at my father as in a lot of waysGolden the check, but that is not who she was attracted to. And I've, from the education, Jim. Learning doing that error where that even to this time frame of just Goldenlooking at men who can cut the check, not the ones that you're attracted to.

Chef Golden 36:31

That's that part I was telling you about settling. You're talking about, Goldenso that's the settling part. Because yeah, great grandma and grandma. GoldenCause you looking for stability bills.

Donald Perattis 36:39

GoldenThe bills need to be paid, not your feelings. GoldenAnd that was the strategy.

Chef Golden 36:44

And you're pumping bad. That's why they had 10, 12 kids. Exactly. And he had kids down the street because he couldn't afford to pay the rent in two households.

Donald Perattis 36:52

Yeah. And now since the time has changed and matured, I think their time has matured. And I believeGolden it has met. Into a meeting ground where they're now women have financial and emotional equality and sexual maturity men have a form of sexual maturity and Equality as in earning potential. So now y'all are like meeting in the middle. It's like I got a bag You got a bag now. This is now y'all

Chef Golden 37:20

don't like this no more And now y'all don't like this no more.

Donald Perattis 37:24

GoldenGoldengoldenso this is where this platform Goldenis bridging that gap. So this is a part of the platform that's bridging the gap. This is where we talk about the depth of the middle sideGolden which brother said, the spirit side where thatGolden what's the defining factor? GoldenGoldenif you got two big, when you got whatGolden Goldenwhat's it impregnable space when I'm a movableGolden Goldenforce. Goldenthe only thing Goldenthat could make that shit work is respect.

Mr. HG 37:51

But see, it's another thing to it though. Okay. I'm gonna break it. I'm gonna go to your biblical terms, the seventies to sixties. So

Donald Perattis 38:04

this is called facts in History, that actually timeline. I can't make this shit up.

Mr. HG 38:12

Thing though, back in the day, right? That's different from right now in this terminology. I love my black women. I ain't gonna lie. I love my queens. I love em. Adult. Listen,

Donald Perattis 38:20

I love they dirty drawers. I will help wash them bitches with 'em,

Mr. HG 38:24

however. But see, the thing about it was back then, if grandma had four or five babies by granddaddy, right? Golden. And he had the two side. You ain't leaving this household nigga, you gonna pay these bills. I'm gonna do what I do and we gonna raise these kids. Golden. Golden2024 is, oh, you had a baby outside this motherfucking marriage. Oh, you got to get the fuck Goldenon divorce. I say this because it is yes. Black women can hold a day off. That's facts. They have something to prove, which you always do. But see, the thing about it is they never sit down with their spouse. Nice. Blame it on the females. I'm blaming on the males. Males always feel like I got to be the out. I got to do the same. Boom, boom. When you stress me, I'm gonna go hit the streets, go pop somebody and come back home. You never know. She might get your buddy. We don't notice. You never know. She might say, you bring baby girl home. We don't notice. But by you feeling like how she may think you can't think for the woman as well. It makes sense. And at the end of the day, the thing about it is, While you over here trying to create a atmosphere to make sure she good, but you do what you do. She might be making sure that you have an atmosphere where both y'all are also amazing. So the part is, hey, listen, I know you're working hard, baby. I ain't here to stress you. You dig what I'm saying? I get what you're going through. What you just say, sis. I just got a chick and she had to go. It's in and out. You feel me? What's your goals? What's your avenues for you trying to be a if we can be compatible. So while I'm dealing with as my team, here, I'm saying, and you can be compatible with me as well, where we can build, then we can have understanding everything.

Chef Golden 40:23

I hear that.

Donald Perattis 40:24

So the key thing is understanding. So the key thing I'm hearing is comprehending is the understanding did well also look at. I also see that for, and I'm, and this is a question I'm asking, what are the qualifiers forGoldenthat level of cooperative energy? Now I have, I can give you the story of how I got it on my end because, Goldenmy energy naturally gives off and I'm aware of it. I'm fully conscious of it. Like when you meet me in person and you feel my energy, Goldenyou, I give you very good guy energy. Loveable spill your guts, trauma vibes. Like you just basically say, Spill your guts, trauma. Like I'm just, I give off completely nice guy. I know my energy is like that because I choose to bring positive, progressive energy to you. GoldenUnfortunately, just in the environment that I've been around and most of the people that even on the way GoldenGoldenon a more progressive space where people who got money, they're not comfortable with that energy yet. They still Goldenlook at it with a high level of apprehension. So

Mr. HG 41:47

because

Donald Perattis 41:48

of that.

Mr. HG 41:49

I don't give a fuck how much money you got. Money don't take care of insecurities,

Donald Perattis 41:54

Goldenso the fact that GoldenI have to let them know like you got to secure yourself when you're in my presence because I presented myself as

Chef Golden 42:05

intimidating. That's intimidating and they can't do that. They do the work. That's just be secure because you're told them to be secure. You're intimidating, and then at the same time, you're all cute and cuddly and shit. So they looking at you, and the bitch is just talking to you and shit, and I got all this money, here go this little ass nigga, walking in here, smiling and shit, got all the bitches telling him all his problems, and he fucking all the hoes, and here it is, I gotta pay for it, and he fucking them for free. I'm intimidated by you, sir. Get the fuck off of over here.

Donald Perattis 42:41

Wait a minute. We all paying for it just in different ways

Chef Golden 42:44

and different aspects. Oh, that's a whole nother podcast topic, but let you say what you said. Listen, now take me for instance. Okay. Now I on purpose choose to not be in a relationship where I need that person. And that is major red flag for men, women, period. Cause Goldeneven me, sometimes I'd be like, Oh, you don't need me. You know what I'm saying? I have to check myself. However, if I want to be with somebody because I want to be with that somebody. I want to love you, whatever we going through. I want to love you. I don't want to be here because I can't afford my rent. I don't want to be here because I need some help with these bills. I don't want to be here because we got to raise these kids. I want to be here. I want to choose you every single day. And I want to know that you're choosing me. Every single day. So I want to make sure I got my own shit together. I want to have my own bag together. I want to have my own house, my own life. And if we rent it out, an Airbnb, Goldenwhatever else we do, but I want to come with something because I don't want to go into a relationship where I am dependent. I'm a dependent. Or I'm codependent because I have seen a lot of women who had great men who had their own bag and were still codependent. And that's not something that I choose to do because then something happens. Cause a lot of them are like, Oh, if he leaves you, or if he get another family, he do this. No, that ain't always the situation. What if you go to jail? What if he die? What if he become physically unable? Then what are you going to do? Now you're forced to either leave this man or bust the fuck up. But why do that? Goldenyou could just already be bust the fuck up and then y'all can come in here and take over shit together. Now I go and try to have that approach with a man who I think was grown men and they're intimidating because they need me to meet them. And if I got it all and I'm doing it by myself then what I need him for?

Mr. HG 44:53

And they still don't understand the factor. They still on it. That's why I love you. That's why you my big sister right now. So

Donald Perattis 44:59

check this though, Goldenwhat's funny that you're standing and what I do and what, how I jump in is out. I'm going to add to that by giving you to some form of light reference that people can find. So what you just described is literally. In the Bible, in Proverbs 31, where that she serves herself as being queen over, orGolden she manages her vineyard or harvest through her servants on her own, which in translation means she has her own shit. She met, she comes with her own bag because she possesses a level of intelligence and competence. So it requires

Chef Golden 45:42

you to let your game even be in her curriculum. Exactly. Because I'm not looking for you. You have to show me that you him. Because your car is not impressing me. Your house is not impressing me. That's your shit. Where you at here? Where you at here?

Donald Perattis 45:59

GoldenGoldenthere, now let's go a little further on that. So there's a point.

Mr. HG 46:04

I don't know. Before you do what you do, I got to say this. I always hear that men don't find good women. I can't find a good one for X, Y, and Z. This, that, and the thirdGolden boom. Now, when you find a good woman, now you get intimidated. Now this is a factor.

Chef Golden 46:22

You want to, oh, you want to do the same routines you did with the bad women. You ain't trying no new routines with this different type of woman.

Donald Perattis 46:30

That trauma dumping. So that's a two way street. Women trauma dumping.

Chef Golden 46:33

I'm sorry. I'm sorry for

Donald Perattis 46:34

interrupting.

Chef Golden 46:35

I can't hear you.

Mr. HG 46:36

You ask for your blessing, but not when you get it, you don't know how to receive it.

Chef Golden 46:41

Golden

Mr. HG 46:42

This is the part I'm gonna talk about. So now, like I said, I'm just telling you. Okay, look, I'm coming with my own this, my own that, my own this. She's not asking for nothing. She is asking you. This is why I used to teach the females I used to be around. If we're not gonna ever be together, folks, you're gonna learn something from me. And this is what you're going to learn at the end of the day. When you go into this world, when a guy see, excuse my friends, I'm about to say, fuck your ass and your titties and all this shit. And you look on your face, no makeup on. You heard what I said? No makeup, all natural. The thing about this, what can you do for me that I can't do for myself?

Chef Golden 47:16

You asking me?

Mr. HG 47:18

Goldenthis is why I used to sell females. I used to deal with it. What can you do for me that I can't do for myself? So if a guy wants to shoot at him, this is what I used to tell him. This is the question you got to ask, because guess what? You got your own house. Your own business. You got everything that you want in your life. So what can you do is upgrade and I'll break it.

Chef Golden 47:38

That's what I bring. My energy will give you peace.Goldenguess what I give you? Motivation. That's what I give you. A safe place. I give you a place to unwind. I give you a place where you can relax. And guess what? The foundation over here is strong enough for you to take a break. Have you ever had a break? Have you ever been

Donald Perattis 47:56

like,

Chef Golden 47:56

I ain't got a break? Have you ever been like, Oh, I don't gotta go. I can take this whole week off. You ain't had that. So don't try to treat me like you gonna treat old girl and them over there because you ain't experienced this over here and you can't get nowhere over here with that type of mentality.

Donald Perattis 48:12

Listen, that's the way thatGolden that's the way theGolden ministers describe heaven in her.

Mr. HG 48:19

Yeah, but not just that, but guess what? When he think he for everything you said was right, but when he felt like he's falling off, guess who the female do? She's the backbone guy. So when you already seen him crooked, I'm picking your ass up. We a team. Sit your ass up straight. You got this.

Donald Perattis 48:38

GoldenThat part. That part. Now, we Every black man is a black queen. The thing. Goldenwe trying to find out, and this is why I'm putting it out there. Goldenwhere they at? Where do they congregate? That we where? That the good men, not the alphas. 'cause the alphas. We know where y'all at. You know what I'm saying? Me? Y'all out here running. Y'all out here bullying motherfuckers or running shit, however y'all move. No, but I respect

Chef Golden 49:11

there's some good, I know a lot of good men. I know a lot of good men and I know a lot. So Golden

Donald Perattis 49:17

Goldenthe question is, when do you allow yourself. To feel again, once you're in the presence of a good man and a good woman, when y'all are in the presence of each other, when do y'all allow yourself to feel again? It's a question.

Chef Golden 49:38

Oh, Goldenthat's a whole nother healing process. How we spoke on how y'all got to where y'all are spiritually and emotionally. That's the whole story. I have.Goldentaking the time to heal, I have taken the time to recognize things within myself that I didn't like or things I wanted to change about myself. I've done shadow work. Listen, I dated women just to see how it is to date women. And I did everything out of the

Donald Perattis 50:06

trenches and she's GoldenI can tell you

Chef Golden 50:07

everything is an experiment for me. So I'm like, all right. Goldenoh my God, she was, Goldenfucking nerve. You hear me? Where is you at? What is you doing? Why you didn't answer your phone? So I don't do that stuff. No more. I don't do those things anymore. It ain't fun when the rapper got the gun. Oh my god. I changed so much stuff just through that little experience. Goldenyeah, I don't, I can't. Goldenleave me alone. For real. You stressing me out. And I was sitting there GoldenI'll be doing this? Oh my god. You should be

Mr. HG 50:43

at the phone. Stuff. And I'm gonna say it like this, you have to find self. So what I mean by that is this, every relationship is something different to be for the next relationship. Si. You can go ahead and cook clean, you know what I'm saying? Get the bag, whatever. Like you said, where you at? This, that, and the third. Me, I'll be like, okay, this nigga crazy Co for Coco Puffs. But the thing on the male version, you dig? Get what I'm saying? Like I'm coming home every day. I have dealt with insecurity women. It's GoldenI'm doing this, but I had to tell my sister this recently. I said, you know what? She's GoldenI always do this for men, and this, and third, and GoldenGoldenwoo. And they always fuck. I said, you know why? Because you're not finding the right person supposed to be in your life. You're going through the obstacles that you want to deal with in life, because you have a distraction.Goldena person that you want, and it might not be the

Chef Golden 51:36

person you feel the same attraction.

Mr. HG 51:41

You see something that attracts you, but it might be the bad habit for you instead of saying, you know what, they let this be, this might be over here on the right side, said the left side, you got to find what's right for you. So when you like

Chef Golden 51:54

try something different,

Mr. HG 51:56

Goldenwifey bias, he

Chef Golden 51:57

don't

Mr. HG 51:58

know what that is. Okay. What you doing? It might be the Diggie nigga that might be getting you the same vibes. You're like, I don't know about this nigga. No, that's a very sad

Chef Golden 52:07

nigga. You might get that.

Mr. HG 52:11

That jet flew out. You might be the mother on the island. You can go ahead and relax yourself, stretch your arms out a little bit, you know what I'm saying? But the thing about this, can't nobody love you like you love yourself, but at the same time, can't nobody love you like you love yourself, but at the same time, a person gonna appreciate a woman that doesn't know how to love herself, and vice versa. Ain't a woman. Love a man. I love itself and appreciate women. 'cause you can't appreciate your mother, your sister, your niece, your auntie, or your grandmother, because at the end of the day it's called roots. It's like a tree. You gotta understand your heritage,

Chef Golden 52:50

where you come from, how you was raised, what's the soil you was planted in. That's very important. You could take the same D, same DNA or the same tree seed planted in two different soil. One is striving and live for years. The other might die in a few months. Soil that you put in, however, if regardless to the soil that you was planted in, if you still standing here today, then it's your responsibility to make sure that you're nurtured is your responsibility to make sure that you grow is your response responsibility to know who you are and that self love thing that you said, and knowing by itself is the most important thing. Because once you know who you are, then you know what direction you want to grow in a leaf. You know that you need to experience different things and where you come from the foundation, like you said, is more really important because GoldenDon said, he was raised religious and church and, Goldentwo parents and shit, like what I had, like Seven daddies, you hear me? Mom had me at 15 years old. She had me at 15. I'm the oldest of 10 siblings, okay? 10 10 gang. Listen, seven by my mama, five with my daddy. I'm the oldest of 10 siblings all together, right? Goldennow with that being said, my, my soil, even though my mother was a very, is a very loving mother. We're so close in age that she can really just get cheap. I don't even know Y'all Goldenlike sister mama. That's my sister. That's my sister. My mom is my sister real life. That's my mom So I live the same generation Consideration now, I'm only 15 years only me. So that's how over friends in

Donald Perattis 54:43

Y'all in this, y'all literally learning the same shit.

Chef Golden 54:45

We learn it while watching her go through all this stuff. So we learn everything. But guess who, guess what? Guess who brought me weed? Guess who introduced me to sex? Goldenguess who was raising, who was, now my mom wasn't raising me to be a prostitute, but everybody else around me is telling me about how I better not get this coochie up for free. You get what I'm saying? And you better not be out here sleeping around these niggas, you ain't got nothing coming, and he can't do nothing for you, and he can't do this, he can't do that. And then y'all look at us now as mature adults, and we never changed Goldenour mind frame, because we never knew that the soil we came from was tainted. Then we out here selling pussy for 40 bucks because the pussy is appreciating the older you get, the more kids you have, Goldenlet yourself go. And not a bitch that's just giving the shit away, two for one. And we want them to have the mental capacity to understand that they're worth more and that if they want a hug, then they have to be more and love themselves. But how can you love yourself whenGoldenyou can sell it for 40?

Donald Perattis 55:50

Wow. SGolden, is hundred. It's crazy. So GoldenI wanna pull up some, I wanna bring up someone. Goldenso when I originally reached out, GoldenGoldenthere was a thing that was ret trending. Now mind youGolden her name isGolden Jasmine cashier. Golden. She's a former adultGolden Goldenperformer who been married now for a few years. Golden

Chef Golden 56:16

Happily.

Donald Perattis 56:17

Happily. GoldenLike he chose her, like they chose each other while she was in the game and then they got married and she basically gave up that lifestyle, that energy, the income. They still are able to maintain a successful income, lifestyle, so on and so forth. She became basically found religion because she wanted it. GoldenGoldenand they projected aGolden now a happily progressive marriage and which sparked this conversation in the first place. Goldenin a lack of colorful words, but the holes. Or whether the inner, the formerGoldenthe formerGolden or activeGolden GoldenGoldenGoldenall

Chef Golden 57:04

the hoes I grew up with are getting

Donald Perattis 57:07

married. A lot of them have gotten strong marriages, veryGolden committed marriages to their husbands. AndGolden and going on to be great. It

Chef Golden 57:21

made me mad. I miss my whole face,

Donald Perattis 57:23

GoldenGoldenlike I

Chef Golden 57:24

could have did it. I could have did it at

Donald Perattis 57:27

this point because it's amazing. GoldenGoldenGoldenso catch GoldentheGolden Goldenthe perspective on this. You got women who been in the streets who have been actively publicly known as being out there and they're still getting wiped up. Faster than the women that are conservative, that are trying to boss up, level up, whatever the freak the situation of, and they're still being rejected or they're not being chosen to get that site Goldenthat contract sign, knowing that they're saying, claiming like, Hey, look, I got this, that, and a third. And we're in the guy is Goldenthat still don't matter. Because Goldenyou don't do what? Goldenwhat you was explaining on Goldenif you're bringing peace, nurturing the other energy that makes it I bring the

Chef Golden 58:17

too, but I know I'm rare, so I know. Goldenyou gonna turn them all up?GoldenI'm not speaking from my experience energy. Feel like you cheating.

Mr. HG 58:32

This, I'm a Melzarkian Insanity, still to this day, right? I'm in love with you now. You feel me? And at the day, I have females come shoot at me. True story. See, the thing about it is, I sell a fantasy. I ain't selling no dick. I slaying dick like dope on stage. But I'm not slaying a dick for real. So my thing, if you're married, I don't even want to do that shit. I have a situation with myself, where I feel like this. If I was ever to get married, I don't want that thing to happen to me. If you buy respect women, and I have a reason where I taught what's wrong, what's going on, Kamali, see, I don't say lies by being a mills. I can attain her. They sit up here and sell my soul. This made me different. Dime P brought me back to Detroit. Am I right Dime P?

Donald Perattis 59:26

I politely asked.

Mr. HG 59:29

Yeah. I told him the fact. I was in Texas on the back of me and everything. He's Goldenbro I need you back. I said okay back. But I was blessed with a gift where to understand people like you do. You feel me? Like you said you were blessed. Strong black woman. I love you. That's why I said I doubt you was my big sister. You a strong black

Chef Golden 59:53

woman. Thank you.

Mr. HG 59:56

Here we go It's

Chef Golden 59:59

crazy that when you hear Goldencause people said to me a lot, like my brother, I like traveling stuff and he'd be like, I was worried. Cause you know, over there, they don't like strong black women. And it's Goldenevery time I hear that I'm a strong black woman, a part of me feel likeGolden a little scaredGolden

Mr. HG 1:00:20

Oh, am I

Chef Golden 1:00:20

too strong? Goldenam I, you know what I'm saying? Goldenah, A little bit.

Mr. HG 1:00:27

If you look at slavery times, there's always been a strong black woman. And the thing about it is, they try to, it's a great

Donald Perattis 1:00:36

part of our culture. Always been. Like, we wouldn't, Goldenwe would never understand the universe in a spirit without our women. Goldenwe wouldn't, we weren't able to decipher that because the access to the universe is through women. Even though we plan to see

Chef Golden 1:00:52

we get enough topic to we supposed to be talking about why they choose the whole right. So we get to

Donald Perattis 1:01:00

that. So why they choosing, Goldenso what is yours? So what is your things? Because, Goldenwe can get deep on why they choose the book.

Chef Golden 1:01:07

We're going to get deep on everything. It's going to be fine.

Donald Perattis 1:01:10

Golden, so whyGolden so on a surface level, GoldenGoldenI've heard a lot say on a surface, it was the, GoldenGoldenbecause GoldenGoldenshe know how to throw that thing even better. She know a man's body better. GoldenI think it's deeper than that from being around them. And seeing how, once you get past the superficial stuff, and mind you, this is backed by the historical fact that these are also the women that graduated to exotic penurship, meaning they are on a different echelon than the average chick who are just out here wildin Or the bottom feeders who are just out here surviving. These women are thriving. And they're speaking

Chef Golden 1:01:58

from up there, but that's not your audience. Your audience is loving everybody. GoldenGoldenbut the women who we're talking about is not the same women who Goldenare millionaire, the six figure women who's out here who have. This I ain't talking about but the

Donald Perattis 1:02:15

women get it then women and turn that they didn't transform In the

Chef Golden 1:02:20

erotic world is not getting it. These women come from trauma.

Mr. HG 1:02:25

They're not Golden

Chef Golden 1:02:28

What is love? The way that you feel that's what you said. What is love? That's mine. What is love? Love is an action

Donald Perattis 1:02:41

It's a verb. I don't know.

Chef Golden 1:02:44

I think love is a is an action. You show Goldenlove is things that you do

Mr. HG 1:02:50

Golden

Chef Golden 1:02:52

GoldenThat's what love is.

Mr. HG 1:02:55

I respect that. Ask me the same question.

Chef Golden 1:02:58

What is love?

Mr. HG 1:02:59

Love is a being. Love is a high power. Love is you. Love is me. See, the thing is, we're programmed to have certain things to say what we should do, what we should not do, what we should believe in, what we should not believe in. What we should have characteristics of and it's not really characteristics of the thing is, how do we build? How do we have unity? How do we understand how to have a balance? Because everybody go through things every day in their life. But how do we balance everything out to understand? I'm proud of you. You're proud of me. We're going to match this together.

Chef Golden 1:03:40

Give me like two seconds.

Donald Perattis 1:03:46

Go ahead. Continue.

Mr. HG 1:03:49

So at the end of the day is, how do we build when we're in unity together? You have to map out a plan to understand that we all are one unit. Unity is elevation. Elevation is learning the process at the understanding. Every day you wake up, you got somebody to hug that you can breathe on. Reprogram yourself. Not toxicity, but understanding. The one that's knowledge and understanding. We do a number of codes. We can do a lot of things when it comes to these understandings. But the thing about the more GoldenLove who you gonna love on, respect who you gonna respect, breathe who you gonna breathe on. At the day, tap in. When that time comes, tap in. That's what people don't have. Too much jealousy, too much toxicity, too much misunderstanding. You think you better me, she thinks she better me. No, it's none of that. How can we build together? How can we break everything down and sit at the table at the round table and say, Hold on, let's take GoldenGoldenthis out, and this out. Place the scene, this scene. And let's get it.

Donald Perattis 1:05:17

So what is your, so is, are you describing a solution to this issue?

Mr. HG 1:05:23

Goldensolution

Donald Perattis 1:05:25

and

Mr. HG 1:05:27

relevation.

Donald Perattis 1:05:29

Okay.

Mr. HG 1:05:31

Because the thing is, since I want to say 2012, it meant toxicity. I watched the whole world change around

Chef Golden 1:05:46

me. Goldenyou've been

Mr. HG 1:05:48

to church. We heard about relevation. What's it called? Relevation. Some shit like that.

Donald Perattis 1:05:55

Revelations. Relevations.

Mr. HG 1:05:56

Relevation. I don't call it revelation. What is it?

Donald Perattis 1:05:59

Revelations.

Mr. HG 1:06:00

I don't call it revelation. Because you know why? It was supposed to say elevation. How about that one? So the thing about it was, music changed, everything changed around us. And they said it was going to be a time where it comes from around where everything switches. But who paid attention? That's my case. So now since we know we're on this platform with this situation who gonna be the ones to change and put the switch back on to have elevation.

Donald Perattis 1:06:38

We are

Mr. HG 1:06:40

correct.

Donald Perattis 1:06:41

We are. We're going to challenge. The men and women to challenge themselves and get some, start allowing yourself to understand yourself. Start having thoseGolden addressing your sexuality, addressing your spirituality, because like they, we talk so much about spirituality andGolden the energy around us, but we still try to. Ignore our sexuality and the direct connection that it has Goldenin theGolden the whole that it can potentially become, have over us if we don't properly and healthily communicate,

Chef Golden 1:07:27

embrace, Golden

Donald Perattis 1:07:29

if you feel this way and you have thatGolden GoldenGoldenGoldenthatGolden connection, then. Let's talk about it. Let's communicate. Goldenif I and you, we're not just talking just freaky talk. That's one thing we can get. We're going to go there because we, Goldenquite naturally, if you're, Goldenmessing with somebody and y'all getting into Goldensome level ofGolden studying this or commitment that y'all going to have that freaky talk. During before,

Chef Golden 1:07:57

Golden

Donald Perattis 1:07:58

Goldenbut then there's the other side of GoldenGoldenGoldenif you're literallyGolden hitting with intention, instead of just hitting just to hit, Goldenand you're progressing past that stage, which is where we're in challenging men to move towards and women to, toGolden allow grace with where that you're going to, we all have to go, we all want to go to that explorative space. That is a part of the nature. Then we're going to go through the transmuted space, which is we're projecting idea versus a reality. GoldenBut then at that point, that tug of war has now come to a place where that y'all going to be able to communicate in a way that allows y'all to cooperate. And consummate your relationship a lot more Goldenhealthily, healthy, so that y'all can, so that the sexual transformation can happen organically versusGolden independent. And

Chef Golden 1:09:01

I just want to put my family

Donald Perattis 1:09:02

in it.

Chef Golden 1:09:03

Yeah. Can I say how, why I think that the entertainers and strippers are getting married faster?

Donald Perattis 1:09:12

Absolutely.

Chef Golden 1:09:14

I think that those women specialize in catering to a man. I think thatGolden I think that most men that they are, that, that will, that is confident enough to take a woman who has been a porn, a successful porn star. I think thatGolden those be successful men. So when you have a successful man. And he sees a woman who knows how to cater to him and please him, then she's serving her purpose. So not necessarily just sucking his dick and fucking on him, but Just being attentive to him as well as I believe that a lot of these women who are in this industry And I know you said that there's a lot of successful women who got it all together and just do it for the art of sex And things of that nature and I agree, but the majority of them women come from trauma So a lot of them women need to have a safe place So if this man is willing to love me and know what I've been through and where I've been and what all I've been doing and he still want to love me and call me his own, then I'm going to do everything in my power to make sure that he feels my love and the way I know how to show my love. So Goldenit makes sense when you understand the product. You know what I'm saying?

Donald Perattis 1:10:40

If you understand the product, you know how to take care of it properly. Golden

Mr. HG 1:10:44

You know what I mean? There's two ways. If a real woman understand who she got, she understand what her life's going to be. But also, not just your game, my game as well, my mail's like a container. I call it insurance policy. It get deeper than that. So insurance policy is this, at the end of the day, when the gang gone die, I need somebody that's going to be there, that's going to love me for me, understand me for who I am, that's going to do everything for me. So you're right on your game and I'm bringing on my, it's a yin yang. It's a lot of things that people don't talk about. So you would do with any pressure to make sure that if you do want to have kids, anything like that, that they're going to be good. And you was so comfort yourself and make sure that they have a better life because Goldenyour trials, your triplets and your past, even though, Goldenyou went for door, he got locked up for 15 years, but he was doing about 30, 40, 000 You still pop them, but same time you were there with the geek, but come from the strip club to same time. I remember you and I know vice versa on both ends. The thing about it is you have to know self and what your worth is. That's why I say hit different. Self and worth Goldenis this. Yeah, I know I can go ahead and be the baby girl right now as myself. I could be in a mess and everything, but is it really worth it? There was insecurities. Doing with the nonsense. Judgmental nonsense. See what I'm saying?

Chef Golden 1:12:34

Golden

Mr. HG 1:12:35

Goldenand he's a team of entertainers. I ain't gonna say strippers, cause I don't like strippers. They feel entertainers that I know, that I love. That's the word

Chef Golden 1:12:42

we use.

Mr. HG 1:12:44

You feel me? Where they live with big houses, this and third. But now, you saw your soul. For what? Cause he love you, but the parents don't respect you. The family don't respect you. They know where you come from. Now knowing that you are a good woman. But not knowing that your background is, but at the end of the dayGolden Hey, look, I got a good man. He loved me for me, but the same sound of him for him. They looking at you. I met you now who you are.

Chef Golden 1:13:17

I agree. So I haveGoldendenI get categorized. I getGolden what's the word I'm looking for. People put labels and titles on me. I get in the club for new skewers. I get, I, it was even times when they felt like I was a whore. You know what I'm saying? And it wasn't never because I was actually, I've always been comfortable in my sexuality. I've always been okay with talking about sex, I always love sex, if there's sex there, I'm there, I want to see. Goldenn

Mr. HG 1:13:51

we're gonna keep it sexy. That is. Who don't love sex though? They act like

Chef Golden 1:13:58

they love sex. Okay, it ain't that they don't love it or like it is there they don't feel comfortable talking about it Like we're talking about it. We're talking about the same people who don't even masturbate. They don't even know they own body You get what I'm saying? Oh, I don't

Donald Perattis 1:14:15

know. It could be the same people that do but they're ashamed that they

Mr. HG 1:14:21

I don't know. I'm not talking about they can tie a up though and suck a They can tie a up though. He's supposed to hit the Goldenyou gotta think about what you're saying. It's GoldenI'm

Chef Golden 1:14:33

telling you what they say. I encounter these people all the time.

Donald Perattis 1:14:38

When you see like all the

Chef Golden 1:14:39

time, they don't know like they don't know their bodies. They don't know. They know more about the person they with than they know about their actual self. Yeah, so what that mean? I don't have people tell me you want me to you want me to do it myself Oh, that's nasty. Like it's nasty that you just slept with three niggas in three days, bitch That's what the is nasty. What you talking about? You touching yourself is nasty. How is that nasty and you still ain't even had an orgasm. Goldenyou need to learn how to make your coochie come before you get to sharing it with other people. I encourage jacking off. I have teenage son. I encourage them both to jack off. I even bought pocket cookies because you need to know your body before you go sharing it with somebody else.

Donald Perattis 1:15:26

I

Chef Golden 1:15:26

can make myself come in Golden30 seconds and it could take this nigga two hours to get me there. But I can do it in 30 seconds.

Mr. HG 1:15:35

But see you're right though, but see the thing is That's why I love what you just said. It's the difference between making love and fucking. Making love is, you have to find her G spot. Every female's G spot is different. Some might be a thigh, some might be a tip, some might be a little bit further. It ain't about

Chef Golden 1:15:55

It's actually just multiple G spots. There's multiple G spots in a woman's vagina and some may be a little more sensitive in other women Goldenthan all of them. But All of us, Goldenwe have multiple G spots in our vagina. You right.

Donald Perattis 1:16:12

Multiple erotic zones. GoldenGoldenGoldenGoldenGoldenit's GoldenGoldenGoldenit's the part that you said and I just want to center it because I know we got to wrap it up a little bit. The fact that. When they're, when you're just having intercourse versus making love with the spiritual and sharing

Chef Golden 1:16:30

the spiritual connection

Donald Perattis 1:16:31

Each other. Yeah, as y'all becoming intimate versus just humping which normally is dominated by the man in most cases of that space Where that they're just humping to get what they got to get off and Move on because Goldenyou're not even valuable enough and it's amazing when these women who have put themselves on a platter stone, put themselves on a platform where they're now Goldenthey're worship because a lot of people keep it like you're like on one side of the coin and GoldenI'm going to probably pull up the clip later. They'll once of the clap they damn you. And curse you for being open and honest about yourself. Then on the other side, you got another class of people that are respecting for it. Cause at least I know what I'm buying. And if you're looking at this from a commercial point of view, Goldenand from a point of viewGolden hey, if you trying to get choses, how are you gonna get chose by being, while people finding out what they're buying. So many people are buying something they don't even know what the fuck they got be. And then it'd be some bold it be bold. Yeah. When we likeGolden we know what she's on, or we know what he already know, what he at,

Chef Golden 1:17:39

to get outta it, You know what I'm saying? So now you can make that honest

Donald Perattis 1:17:43

decision because you know what you got.

Chef Golden 1:17:46

So like I was saying thoughGolden Goldenwith me, like people have tried to put so many labels and titles on me that I had to show the world. GoldenI'm so much more just because these are things. So I'll just back up. I put myself through college. I went to college when I was 27 years old. I was two kids andGolden I didn't even have, At 27, I didn't even have a high school diploma. I decided to go get my GED after I had that second baby. Cause I always been a hustler. I ain't never, wouldn't on never no paper shirts. So when I had that second baby, it Goldenwas like, Oh man, what am I doing? Two kids.GoldenIt was easy to transport and carry with this one. I got a whole nother baby out here. So what I'm gonna do with my life was my question. So I went and got my GED. I turned right around went and got myGolden went right to college. Soon as like GED papers weren't even printed yet, I was already enrolling into college. To the point where I went to the GED place and got the transcript saying that I passed, but they supposed to put it in the mail and send it, but I would have missed the deadline to get in my classes. So I went and put it in the college mail myself and told the ladies to go check the mail. That's how I got job

Mr. HG 1:18:53

GoldenGolden,

Chef Golden 1:18:54

Golden so

Mr. HG 1:18:56

I know we gotta go. I

Chef Golden 1:18:57

did all that. I did all that. GoldenGoldenand in the process, I'm a certified chef. In the process of me going to school, I'm selling plates, right? GoldenHowever, I was selling toys first, so all my conversation and post and everything on social media, it's all vulgar. All. Manish, nasty, however you want to categorize it, right? However, sex sells. So not that I was actually having sex with people or even having encounters. I'm enclosed in my bed by myself or with my two kids making these posts. But I created a reputation that makes me look like I'm a whore because I have sexual knowledge, right? I have sex appeal. I can get on here, post sexy pictures, post my body, I'm not ashamed of nothing about myself. So that makes me look like a whore. However, so in most people, closed minded people, they see a promiscuous woman, a whore. But to a wise person, a person on a different level, a person who actually takes the time to get to know me, I have so many other things about me. Like you guys see on the podcast, I'm very intelligent. I have a bachelor's degree in science. I sell life insurance. I'm an authorized life insurance agent. I write annoying, The greatest gift of all, outside of the toys and hosting upscale erotic parties, I'm doing credit shit. I'm a fucking teacher, for crying out loud. I teach kids all fucking day. But the greatest thing of all, I got two fucking kids that I'm raising amazingly. GoldenI got a whole college kid right now, on a full rath scholarship, and we're not talking about for sports.Goldenyeah, these sexual beings, these, and I'm a hustler, and I'm a motivational speaker. And, yeah, these sexual beings are more than just sex, and more than just for your pleasure. You know what I'm saying? I can be for your mental state, for your body, for your heart, for your health, for your love, like I could be for so many more things. So I think that it's very important that we have any discussions because people need to understand that we are so much more than what Goldenwhich your, what your level of perception is.

Mr. HG 1:21:03

I still

Donald Perattis 1:21:04

need to find out his entrepreneur. Cause you just operated in the highest levels.

Mr. HG 1:21:07

Definitely did. Let me just say, put it back on there. Don't be. I just have to get on there one more time.

Donald Perattis 1:21:12

Cause you keep saying we talking to dumb folk. No, you are a definition of what the fuck happens when you actually learn yourself, align your mind, your body, and your spirit to now attract all of the gains despite the shit that goes through. It's going to happen. Some people do attract trauma. Some people just got born into it. But that didn't Goldendictate your outcome. Goldenit

Chef Golden 1:21:37

wasn't easy. Of course it's

Donald Perattis 1:21:40

not. GoldenGoldenif it was easy, then everybody would do it. But it would make you feel different. That would make you walk with your definition of where we're prior. That's the whole essence of this shit that I love. And you just got me hyped up because I got to let you get started. Cause GoldenGoldenI'm the organizer. I know.

Mr. HG 1:22:04

First of all, I gotta say this shit. Thank you for being you. How about that? Purpose, an understander, a queen, a god, a mother, a leader, and a foundation. No matter how many paths you went through, you still fought through it. You went through a journey where people, I know this shit for a fact, that people say I'mma go back to college. Nah, you said the first child, the second child, the third child, you did it. You dig what I'm saying? Now, on top of that, you got your bachelor's. Man, you did so many incredible things.

Donald Perattis 1:22:40

Got the insurance, gang. Get your insurance. Goldenwe both out here writing annuities, signing IUAs. You better learn how to protect yourself and your family. We'll get it to that financial side. Sex and finance. Get it together.

Mr. HG 1:22:52

Let's go. You a teacher. You a leader. You a motivational speaker like us. And I just want to say thank you for being you. You feel me? Thank y'all. No, you understand, we really thank you for it and keep going and keep grinding and we got your back. It's not so many females I ever met in my life as queen say, cause GoldenI listened when the ball dropped down on me, I picked myself and I got this. I got it. And guess what? And we thank you for who you are. And I appreciate you.

Donald Perattis 1:23:28

Thank you. I appreciate that. How can they get a hold of you? What is your, what's your tax, your bags on the, how they talk to you on the social media? You got to make sure we get that type thing. Let's go.

Chef Golden 1:23:38

Yeah, listen.

Donald Perattis 1:23:43

I'm going to keep my comment to myself because GoldenI'm still by my nickname is still the gentleman because my other boy was going to say, I know what he was going to say. He's going to say what that mom do. But I'm the gentleman. So I'm just going to say, Goldenwhat's your social media tag? How they can tap in on your good food. Cause you, you cook with love.

Chef Golden 1:24:05

GoldenI do, but I haven't, I've been exploring and elevating. It's time for me to elevate to a new level. So I'm creating a new journey as always. Goldenyou can always hashtag chef golden and all my stuff will pop up for you. Goldenif you're looking for motivational, inspirational things, you can go to tick tock. I'm Chef Golden on TikTokGolden Agolden Lifestyle, which you can put in Chef Golden and pop me up. GoldenInstagram and Facebook is where I am just me. And that is GoldenGolden Alicia Randolph. Golden Alicia Randolph Facebook. And my Instagram is connected to that at Agolden Lifestyle as well. But that's where I just pretty much put everything out there. GoldenAnd just, Goldenhappy and happy. And I'm taking this motivational thing to a whole nother level. I'm creating this. Platform. I know me and you doing some things. We even did a couple of events already on a motivational tip. Goldenso that's it. But I am a leader. I am a teacher and God has chosen me to step in this position. Goldenand I'm not going to lie and act GoldenOh, I got it all together. I'm scared as hell. I'm so fucking scared, but I'm gonna keep going and I'm gonna do it. Because Golden

Donald Perattis 1:25:23

Goldenit all makes sense. That's all you do. You step into your purpose. Just define it. Just define that by purpose. And you just, yeah, Goldenthat's the mind of the exotic manure. We ain't got time. We ain't gonna figure it out because we don't know it all. But when we do, we, once you get purpose, it's on purpose. Now you just got to work in it. You feel me? And brother, how do they get in contact with you real quick? Hit them up, man.

Mr. HG 1:25:51

Yes. You be more careful. How about that one? Say what? P Contact?

Donald Perattis 1:26:01

No, Okay, so bookings will go through me. You are know. Y'all can always find me at Donald Tus. D-O-N-A-L-D-P-E-R-A-T-T-I s.com. You can Google me. You will find me. It's not hard. Let's put it like this. Goldenwe are in a space where that we're defining our purpose and we're in a reply using the gifts and abilities that was given by God that was donated by God and weGolden and we leverage, we were given the privilege to level up and encourage people that are, that have been silenced, that have been repressed, that have been trying to beGolden censored, but yet they still have that yearning. Goldenit's one step. Goldenthings that one meeting people know is that energy cannot be destroyed. It only can be transferred. And in this space, we have been transferring and transmuting that energy out to you to understand that you're not alone. You can't understand yourself. And as all spiritual and religious space says, it says, know thyself. GoldenSo that you can become the best version, right? And that only can work when the mind and the body work in alignment to elevate the spirit, not take it away. And with that being said, I need Goldenall to stay healthy. Let us all become wealthy. I want to personally thank my homegirl, my sister, Mr. Mrs. Chef Golden, my brother from another mother, Mr. One hell of a guy. We are

Mr. HG 1:27:31

out of here. Peace. I ain't real quick.

Donald Perattis 1:27:34

Say it, Nick. Yeah.

Mr. HG 1:27:36

Guess what? You just messed with the guys. We got shit to do. That's right.