"Cosmic Love & Sexual Mastery: A Conversation with Erotic Medusa"

Erotic Medusa on Love, Business, and Balancing Masculine/Feminine Energy with Ricky Johnson

In this episode of Mind of the Exoticprenuer, the host interviews adult performer and entrepreneur Erotic Medusa, congratulating her and Ricky Johnson on their new baby and discussing their relationship dynamic. Medusa describes a unique, deep love where they support each other’s careers, share creative ideas for scenes, and manage insecurities through trust, with “home” and family as the priority. They talk about planning quality time around busy schedules, maintaining financial independence, and staying best friends despite normal disagreements. Medusa emphasizes emotional intelligence, balancing masculine and feminine energy, giving a partner space to decompress, and using reassurance and accountability to protect vulnerability and respect during arguments. She shares how they met in LA and quickly moved in together, and closes with where to find her online (Instagram: spiritualmedusa; Twitter: erotic_medusa; major platforms as Erotic Medusa).

00:00 Intro & Welcome
01:12 Love & Partnership
02:07 Open Relationships & Trust
03:35 Work-Life Balance & Family
06:34 Masculine & Feminine Energy
09:55 Vulnerability & Communication
10:51 Ego, Astrology & Compatibility
15:27 How They Met
19:30 Stamina & Intimacy
20:16 Adult Entertainment Industry
23:09 Closing & Where to Find Medusa

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:18

It's been a long time coming. Yes, I've been seeing I've been seeing so much of your work. And then congratulations, first and foremost. Oh, the baby, yes. And all that and all that beautifulness. Um, I didn't even did the intro right yet. Um Welcome to the Mind of the Exoticpreneur, where cosmic consciousness meets sexual mastery. I'm with if you look into her eyes and don't turn to stone. The Medusa, the queen, the the goddess herself. Thank you. Thank you for taking the time out fucking. Um sometimes you just get a little nervous when you're a little bit of a child. Yeah, I'm like, all right, I'm gonna go. You know, but the fact of the matter that um one, you are a goddess.

SPEAKER_03 1:08

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 1:09

Uh two, you walk and you carry yourself in such an elegant way that I see why. See why he put he left left all the answers there and saying, listen, you. You right there. So um if you can, if you will, uh share what's that like having a man that you that loves on you like you love on him.

SPEAKER_03 1:30

It's a different type of love. Like, I don't even know how to express it. I feel like he has me wrapped around his finger in a way that I don't know. Like he's yes, sir. Like that's you know, and I I love supporting what he does. Um, I try to give him the max amount of love, and then in return, he supports me as Medusa. Yeah. Like all of the girl girl content I do. Or if I have an idea for a boy girl and he's like, let's execute that, like our Valentine's Day, Ricky's room scene. Yeah, yeah. Like I was just like, oh, I want to do something with flowers. And he was like, Oh, well, let's make it this way. So he still supports me as a person as I'm able to support him. And at the end of the day, like, I love it. Like, you know, I I'm not nervous to share him with the world. I enjoy sharing him with the world, and he comes home to me. So I don't know how to explain the love. It's it's it's unique, it's different, it's deep.

SPEAKER_00 2:23

It's it's real. It's real. You know, um, I was just talking to the ladies at waifu.com and they were sharing with me, uh, because one of them has been married uh 37 years. Oh, I love that. Right? Yeah, and the fact, and it was she was sharing with me, um, allowing your partner to uh explore, but knowing that you were exploring with him, yeah, broke all those insecurities that you that may have been festering, like a little piece of like, I don't want them, I don't want that, but you like, no, it's all good because as you said, he's coming home to meet and he's good. This is home, this is safe.

SPEAKER_03 2:58

He's taking care of me, he's taking care of our baby. He every time I have a complaint at or need something, he makes sure he gets it done. So, like, he at the end of the day, his goal is for me to just live my life and be happy. That's all he's told me. He's like, whatever you need to if I can make it happen, I will make it happen.

SPEAKER_00 3:15

So isn't that what all the men all men technically want to do? Yeah, make their woman happy. We don't know how a lot of times, because they always say, like, we can never make you happy.

SPEAKER_03 3:29

Well, we have a lot of wants and needs, and I I am very needy, but I feel like he really feeds into that. Like I'm I am like I have a lot of complaints sometimes on things, and he'll be like, Well, here, you have it now, and I'm just like, okay, now I gotta sit down and be quiet and like love on you more.

SPEAKER_00 3:46

So it's it's almost like being spoiled, but in your own universe, yes, so to speak.

SPEAKER_03 3:53

Yes, outside of Ricky and Medusa, we are our own people, we have an actual family, and so we also try to cater to that. Like, we really do set aside time with our baby. Like, we look at our calendar, we're like, okay, what can we do this month? You know, and and quality time is my love language, and as is his, because he's so busy. So, like, we he plans so far ahead in his calendar, which like months, like almost a year ahead. So it really does give us the opportunity to be like, okay, now let's plan within these dates that I'm open and available. And then he's also moved his schedule around to where he does a bulkload of work at one point of the month, and then the rest of the month is just me and baby and families. Right, right. I feel very prioritized, like, you know.

SPEAKER_00 4:40

You're saying something key there. So, so if I was to take this as because I'm so so one of our um podcasters is loved over lust, and it's all about relationship health. Yes. And especially when the biggest things that most people have an issue with is infidelity and money. Yes, right? So the fact that y'all check it off, yeah, check it off, like you know, having your own money, but then having his own money, yes, and then y'all having a combination, um, it's one thing. So it's like, all right, well, we ain't gotta worry about that. Exactly. Now it's the other part. Exactly. Do we really like each other?

SPEAKER_03 5:11

Yes, exactly. Like, do I really like that? We're we're a normal couple, we we fight, and then there's moments where we're like, do we even like each other? But then like something will happen within the hour, and we're just like, that's what I like about you, that's what I love about you. And so that's dope.

SPEAKER_00 5:26

So so it's safe to say that's your friend. That's your best friend.

SPEAKER_03 5:28

That's my best friend. Yeah I tell him something before I tell anyone else. That's dope. Like, even if it's over text message, even if it's a phone call, I'm like, babe, call me. Like, I I yearn to talk to him more than anyone else. And I have best friends, yeah. But I'm gonna tell him something first before I miss back.

SPEAKER_00 5:46

So there's the thing. Um, seeing the world from I can't say it, but I gotta say it from the top down. Because you know, y'all at I consider the adult entertainment a performance um industry Mount Rushmore of all games. Because you're second to like the the software developers of Silicon Valley. Like basically, whenever they bring out something, you're the first, y'all the first industry to implement. So, from that context and that perspective, seeing the world from your perspective, your view from the top down, but now you can see how things happen. Because y'all are on a large platform, y'all are major deal, big deals, y'all are like uh uh Ariana and uh ASAP, type of shit. You feel me? But not the not the same dynamic, but that level of famous. Yes, you feel me, and the in the tentativeness. So you said some very key things. He's attentive, um, you're able to um communicate with them well, and he's able to reciprocate. So, how important um is uh emotional intelligence to outside of uh in relation to like being the masculine?

SPEAKER_03 6:50

Because you know, you are a businesswoman, so yeah, I feel like everyone has masculine and feminine energy. Um, so the way I carry my masculine energy will never be him. Like he's a workhorse, he can stay up till like five o'clock in the morning, take an hour's sleep, and then get back to the grime. Dang it. Me, my masculine energy might look like a little bit different. So I'm not looking to be him or to challenge his masculinity in any way. I'm gonna be my masculine, and if I need help, I'm gonna go on my feminine. I'm gonna ask for help so that I can then receive it and then take action, which is the masculine energy. The action is the masculine energy, you know. So I feel like I'm not looking to block someone's career or to be in their way at all. And a lot of times also I feel like ask less and allow him to come to me with whatever he's got going on. Or I'll just like don't probe and pry, like, how what's your day looking like, babe? How can I support you today? And then he'll reciprocate it. How can I support you today? Especially because we have a baby. Yeah, so like there really isn't like a challenge in the masculine role because of our work or personal life. It's just you balance it, you have to understand who you are, and then also don't like project any negativity onto someone else. We're gonna honor it, you know. And I mean, like I said, we're not and like I said, we're not perfect, and in our disagreements, it's where we learn to communicate, it's where we learn like his big thing is I need a lot of space, not because of me or anything. He's like, I have so many businesses that I'm running, I have so many people that I'm meeting, and sometimes I need a space to like to get in here and not even just decompress, yes, but also figure out the game plan for everything that I've got going on. So I have to learn to not look at his mood of when he's in here and take it personal. Give him space. That might look like a day, that might look like two, and then when he comes back, he's like, Oh, babe, look, I've got X, Y, and Z and going on, and I thought about this, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. So, you know, it's just give him space.

SPEAKER_00 9:00

Say that again for the people in the back when they talk about I'm gonna get up close and personal. Say, you understand. Now, she is drop dead gorgeous. You hear me? She's drop dead gorgeous, she's she's fully feminine, fully boss lady, and she's stepping in a mask, and she is telling you. I want y'all to understand this when he said, She said she's telling you if he's in his mindset on his masculine energy. Okay, I gotta make sure the people understand where we're coming from. That is not personal, not personal in his creative space because creatives need time to be creative, be creative, and it looks different from how I'm creative.

SPEAKER_03 9:41

Yeah, his is like he's got a whole bigger thing going on. So I'm like, okay, what do you need today? You need space? Got you.

SPEAKER_01 9:50

That's the key. That's the key. I can trust you for hours and days on end.

SPEAKER_03 9:56

See, um, I love letting him lock in. I'm like, I do it, baby, because my when he locks, when he locks out and he comes to us, me or my family, he locks into that. Yeah. And then he'll give in so much energy. So I'm like, lock in, baby, lock in however that looks like to you.

SPEAKER_00 10:14

So with that being said, how do y'all manage vulnerability in the gate? You know what I mean? Because that's a you know, that's our biggest hangu.

SPEAKER_03 10:24

It's like if we're vulnerable when you that turns into a it can. But then at the end of the day, when me and him first used to argue, it was the vulnerability being tested and not being held. But over time, we've learned to say key words like, I'm not looking to argue with you, I still love you. So even though we might be at each other's throats, once we start reminding each other, and it might be a big moment, you know, but someone is gonna remind either he's gonna do it or I'm gonna do it. And we're like, hey, I I love you at the end of the day. And then then we start to hear each other. Because sometimes, you know, ego isn't gonna be a thing. I have a huge ego, he has a huge ego. What's our sign? I'm curious about it. He's my sister's sign, so he's an Aquarius, and I'm a Leo.

SPEAKER_00 11:18

Yeah, 29th of January. Hey, hey, look. Yes, I'm gonna get on the 30th. Yeah, and then him and I know it. Yes, okay. And y'all is uh Leo. So I'm a sending her sign. Yeah, because my my um my best friend, 10, 12 years old, she just walked by the little agent, Leo. Yes, we've been locked in for 12 years, never having a problem. Like, I don't like when you when you get it, when you get it, if I'm a boss, I and your boss, why are we getting each other's way when we're doing boss shit?

SPEAKER_03 12:01

And a lot of us, like, we have a different morals and principles. And because I'm an astrologist, right? I I learn I know science. One of uh our makeup is we're always gonna have to meet in the middle with our morals and principles. Yeah, yeah. And that's where a lot of the vulnerability is being tested. But once we've learned over time that let's get our argument out, but also I'm not trying to argue with you. I love you. And so, like, let's actually hear it. It gets to a point where we hear each other and then we bring empathy and compassion. It's just ego is usually in the way, you know. But once you get through that, every relationship is gonna have a moment, every relationship is gonna have a miscommunication. It is how you learn to do it in the tough disagreement moments that make all of the difference. It builds respect. You know what I mean? Emotional respect, vulnerability respect.

SPEAKER_00 12:58

Emotional respect, vulnerability respect. Yes. Because I'm big on respect, especially when you walk into this ego-driven space. Yes, you know, respect is everything outside of everything, anything.

SPEAKER_03 13:09

And it's quick to lose it, you know, call each other names or whatever. Yeah. So then that's when you have to be like, hey, you know what? I take accountability. And that's when sometimes when we're in arguments, you know, that emotional vulnerability vulnerability may not be respected. At some point, we start apologizing because we're like, okay, I hear you. What I said might have hurt. And then that's when we go from this to like this, and then now we're hearing each other. We're taking accountability, we're apologizing, we're learning what not to say, what might trigger someone into their own feelings. So the next argument, what what are we trying to accomplish? Is our accomplishment to hurt each other and take all the previous arguments, things we've learned, and throw it into this one, or is it to learn what this what is this argument about? And let's, you know, move forward from it.

SPEAKER_00 13:51

Sometimes I I mean, and this is just me personally trying to comprehend because Aquarius Energy, yeah, you know, we're in our head, but we're more of like we're we're notorious for the unemotional, the nonchalant. Very, very nonchalant. We care a lot, but yeah, we like, all right, why are you tripping? So the capacity of uh processing, yes, and seeing that uh we're willing up just as much as you are in regards to our feelings, and we're trying to channel it before it becomes uh disinstructive and destructive. Um how do y'all genuinely actually get into an actual argument? Because it's like when y'all are doing so much active, it's like how do y'all got time to argue?

SPEAKER_03 14:37

Um, I mean, you can make time if so you can make time.

SPEAKER_00 14:43

Yeah, listen, I'm with the smoke at any time of the day, buddy.

SPEAKER_03 14:47

I want to smoke, baby. But uh, no, we're both very spicy. So sometimes it could be us early in the morning just waking up on the wrong side of the bed. He's not a morning person, I'm not a morning person. We've had to learn about that about each other. And so how we battle that is uh we we make an attempt to say good morning. Oh say good morning as many times as you need for the other person to receive it. Because I do, I will wake up and I'm just like, please stop talking. And that could just set me off right there. Like, stop talking at six o'clock in the morning, and also our baby wakes up really early. So that that triggers us right there, where we're just like, Yeah, that capacity.

SPEAKER_00 15:23

I've been there, I know exactly what that capacity is.

SPEAKER_03 15:25

But we've really like we've had conversations out of that. So it's easy to trigger an argument, uh-huh, but just as easy it is to trigger an argument and not have the time for it, we can have the time to be like, hey, this is not what we want right now. So it can get we're once you know somebody, you know what to say to piss them off.

SPEAKER_00 15:45

Where did you realize this is the one that you wanna kind of like take this journey? Lock in with? Yeah, is it like lock in?

SPEAKER_03 15:53

Because I heard it a million times, but I love hearing it's just when it's like you meet a million people, yeah, you know, and sometimes it's like hi bye, hi bye. It's a blur, you know. But then you meet someone and you're just like, and their energy just really stands out to you. And so how we met was such a an interesting, you know, I feel like the universe kept pulling us back together. So we met outside of a testing center and uh cutting edge in LA, right? And I was frantic because it was about to close. And all I see, I'm running up and down the hallways. I'm like, where is this? They don't have the numbers on the door. What is going on? And I'm a very easily emotional person. So I was freaking the fuck out. And then I see someone standing out in the hallway, and I'm like, hi, hello, can you help me locate this building? And he's like, Oh, it's right behind you. Opens the door for me. And for me, I don't didn't really see his face, didn't hear his name, didn't know who he was. And I'm like, oh my God, that was so sweet. You held the door open for me. Then a week later, we're at X-Biz nomination party. He comes up to me, he's like, Hi, I didn't forget to formally introduce myself. I'm Ricky Johnson. And I'm like, oh my God, you held this door open for me. And like, it was just like this lock we had. And I was like, Who is that? And he walked away. I was like, Oh my god, who is that? And so, like, I had to do my own, like looking him up and stuff. Come to find out he already knew who I was, but I didn't know who he was. And then a week later, it's a Friendsgiving party, and we bump into each other again, and so it was just his energy just kept standing out to where I just felt like I need to get to know you. Like, I who are you? Like, I feel like I've met you before, but I haven't. Like, why are you so interesting? Like, it was just so much that like I felt very just drawn to him, and then we hung out, and uh we we also did work together, collabs together, and then we would talk after the collabs, and the energy was just fire, the energy was just fire, and we just kept building on that. And I was just like, Yeah, I can I can do this. And I was telling him what I wanted. I was like, I'm looking for a partner to grow in with life. We do business together and we create a family together. You do you, I do me, and then we come together and we do us, and he redefined what he also wanted, you know. And I was like, you know, let's let's meet in the middle, let's make this work. I love it, you know. I love the energy that we're pulling in. Literally moved in together six months after knowing each other.

SPEAKER_00 18:19

Like it was lit, it was fast. It don't be shit.

SPEAKER_03 18:24

If it makes sense, you do not need a lot of time. Yeah, like you just you know, you know. Like my best friend, same energy. Like when I met her, I was like, I feel like I've known you before, but like I I don't. So hi. And then we've been inseparable for the last like five years. And like, just like just like a relationship with my partner, me and her have had our moments, you know what I mean? But we've we worked through it. I take my accountability, I know when I'm wrong, and I've definitely pushed her away at points, just you know, from life. And then I was like, oh my god, I love you so much, and I'm so sorry for that. And we learn to communicate. We love to, you know, so it's just when you know, you know. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. When you know someone's gonna be your best friend, you know. And you know someone's gonna be your ride or die life partner, you just know.

SPEAKER_00 19:09

Yeah, you can't you can't not know when you know. It's like, man, get your ass over here, quit playing. Like, you know, we fuck with each other, quit acting like we don't. You know what I mean? That's how bad. Yeah, you mad, but you'll be all right.

SPEAKER_03 19:21

You'll be all right, no, literally. And we have a little secret handshake too, where we will just check in on each other. It's like a heart. Oh, yeah, yeah. So I have the broken heart, he has a handshake, but we also the simplified version is just this. He could be across the room and yeah, love you, baby.

SPEAKER_01 19:35

Yeah, you know, we just had an argument.

SPEAKER_03 19:38

Love you, baby. We still here, baby. We still here, you know.

SPEAKER_00 19:40

So y'all gonna get y'all gonna make up.

SPEAKER_03 19:43

I love the makeup.

SPEAKER_00 19:44

Uh, I believe it. I believe it. Long talks and long sacks, man. Uh I'm still, I asked him, I said, Howdy, what is up with your stamina?

SPEAKER_03 19:53

Oh, god dang it.

SPEAKER_00 19:54

Oh, he has that boy going.

SPEAKER_03 19:56

That's why I'm not anywhere. He has me wrapped around his finger. Like, he will go to work, make sure he's clean, and then come home, take care of me. And I'm just like, or he'll wake up, take care of me, or when he's uh off, take care of me. And I'm like, I'm in heaven. Okay. Well, he said, he said he runs. A lot of running. That also helps too. Like, he he's a runner, so I heard that running really Yeah, I'm about to get my stamps up.

SPEAKER_00 20:21

You feel me? Yeah, no, he's just dana. With some uh some knee gel on my shits and get through it.

SPEAKER_03 20:28

And also, if you're in a good energy space, I feel like it sex comes easy. Yeah, you know?

SPEAKER_00 20:34

So this, you know, um, this is why I love I I I I I come from um the exotic entertainment from the strip up space of being an operator. So I own the book. Yeah. So I'm more of an administration type dude. Um but it was I was capped in in the because I'm a support. I want people to win. Yeah. And you know, I want the entertainers to win male and female, because I had a boat. So, you know, the next progression was the adult entertainment, just like come on in, come on in.

SPEAKER_01 21:04

Go ahead, I mean, go ahead and I should see the little one.

SPEAKER_00 21:08

Okay. Oh, we talk to you later on. I'm not sure. But um, just that, you know, knowing that there is success on every level, and there's everybody's human in my book. Yeah, we are the same. It's just uh what capacity can you be successful in? Some people can be successful in business as in traditional business, some people can be successful in the uh in the adult world as a business, and we recognize equally. Yeah, and I found it to be true because fuck, I did it. Then we're in a pool party with thousands of motherfuckers that can do this shit. You feel me? Um, you know what I'm saying? Some sexy, some messy, some a little whatever. Hey, you know, I'm extra. Yeah, but I keep it 100. Yeah, but the the truth behind the matter is defining your purpose and wearing it with pride. And that's that's the mantra. And the fact that you embody that by the fact that you are a goddess, you are your own boss, you do master sexual master, you do possess sexual mastery, and you master your cosmic consciousness and align that bad boy. Yes, then you got a partner. Yes, he's my baby. I love him so much. Yes. You added to it and put more blessings into the world. I wrote a whole book about this. I got two more parts to finish. And you know, this interview really asked like a genesis quad on it. Because, you know, when you see pretty people together, like, you like, whatever. You know what I'm saying? Not hating, but I'm just saying, whatever. But then you realize that um their connection is real. It is not a facade. It's not a, oh, they're planning together just to make something. It's like, no, she fucks with him. No, no.

SPEAKER_01 22:51

I'm not going to have to do that.

SPEAKER_00 22:53

Like when I seen it in um Nata Stevens and Hollywood Cashes, I had interviewed them. And um I looked when she looked up at him, you can see that twinkle, like, oh, she fucks with him. Fuck with you. You can say what you want. She ain't going nowhere. I am not going to do it. Like, like, don't play with him. Don't play with her because there's going to be some fluidure movement. You know what I mean? Yeah. So, man, I love it. I love it. Um, I can. I don't want to go. I'm not going to lift here with this because you get you gave me so much. Um, I think you gave the people so much. Yeah. Um, I think find you, make sure you spell it for the people that like to read.

SPEAKER_03 23:30

So my name, my performance name is erotic Medusa, but you can find me on Instagram, Spiritual Medusa, and on Twitter, erotic underscore underscore Medusa. And um, Cornhub, Many Vits, OnlyFans, Fans Lee, all of the sites, Erotic Medusa. So cool, and then I'll see you there.

SPEAKER_00 23:51

And y'all heard it, yes. Yay!