{"version":"1.0.0","segments":[{"startTime":88.89,"endTime":91.64999999999999,"body":"Today we're talking about being lazy."},{"startTime":91.81,"endTime":94.76599999999999,"body":"It's not what you think it is. I"},{"startTime":94.788,"endTime":97.358,"body":"want you to stop accepting being lazy as a"},{"startTime":97.364,"endTime":99.67999999999999,"body":"judgment. I'm going to share with you why"},{"startTime":100.28999999999999,"endTime":103.02199999999999,"body":"we grew up in a generation that looked down on"},{"startTime":103.076,"endTime":105.714,"body":"laziness. This has resulted in"},{"startTime":105.752,"endTime":108.478,"body":"pushing ourselves and pushing"},{"startTime":108.574,"endTime":111.442,"body":"others. Pushing to improve our"},{"startTime":111.496,"endTime":114.162,"body":"weaknesses or theirs. Pushing to make"},{"startTime":114.216,"endTime":117.202,"body":"ourselves achievement oriented. Pushing them"},{"startTime":117.256,"endTime":120.222,"body":"to be achievement oriented. Pushing ourselves"},{"startTime":120.286,"endTime":123.19800000000001,"body":"in them to make more money. Pushing ourselves in"},{"startTime":123.22399999999999,"endTime":126.214,"body":"them to compete. Pushing to stand out in our"},{"startTime":126.252,"endTime":129.11,"body":"work and family life. Pushing for"},{"startTime":129.18,"endTime":131.946,"body":"acceptance. Pushing to change ourselves to"},{"startTime":131.968,"endTime":134.85399999999998,"body":"fit in. Pushing to be powerful"},{"startTime":134.902,"endTime":137.802,"body":"and feel empowered. Pushing to feel"},{"startTime":137.856,"endTime":140.81,"body":"good. Pushing for accomplishment"},{"startTime":141.23,"endTime":144.09,"body":"these are just a few examples of the pushing"},{"startTime":144.17000000000002,"endTime":146.26999999999998,"body":"energy that's so prevalent and"},{"startTime":146.34,"endTime":148.954,"body":"rampant in our society and culture"},{"startTime":149.002,"endTime":151.886,"body":"today. The health ramifications are"},{"startTime":151.90800000000002,"endTime":154.894,"body":"now being revealed for the pushing mindset that"},{"startTime":154.93200000000002,"endTime":157.826,"body":"has creeped into just about every family"},{"startTime":158.00799999999998,"endTime":160.558,"body":"and anywhere humans congregate."},{"startTime":160.73399999999998,"endTime":163.666,"body":"This, sadly, has resulted in humans showing that"},{"startTime":163.688,"endTime":166.53,"body":"they are constantly busy. This"},{"startTime":166.6,"endTime":169.374,"body":"constant state of busyness was and is still"},{"startTime":169.43200000000002,"endTime":172.14600000000002,"body":"valued in the workplace, and then it's brought"},{"startTime":172.178,"endTime":174.79,"body":"home as a good thing. So we stay"},{"startTime":174.86,"endTime":177.826,"body":"looking busy. Technology also helps"},{"startTime":177.858,"endTime":180.614,"body":"us look busy, putting our face in front of a"},{"startTime":180.652,"endTime":183.25400000000002,"body":"laptop, a tablet, or a cell phone."},{"startTime":183.452,"endTime":186.202,"body":"Those all make us look busy, especially when other people"},{"startTime":186.256,"endTime":189.19400000000002,"body":"can't see our screen and we have a percorface based on"},{"startTime":189.232,"endTime":191.61,"body":"whatever we're looking at, and we're not"},{"startTime":191.76,"endTime":194.74599999999998,"body":"emotionally expressing what we're watching or reading"},{"startTime":194.858,"endTime":197.69400000000002,"body":"on those devices. But really, all"},{"startTime":197.732,"endTime":200.606,"body":"those devices are just distractions, and the use of"},{"startTime":200.628,"endTime":203.454,"body":"them is a direct result of the addiction to being"},{"startTime":203.572,"endTime":206.53,"body":"busy, in my opinion. Let's face"},{"startTime":206.6,"endTime":209.122,"body":"it, busyness equates to"},{"startTime":209.176,"endTime":211.714,"body":"distraction. It keeps us from"},{"startTime":211.752,"endTime":214.402,"body":"connecting with each other. It keeps our"},{"startTime":214.45600000000002,"endTime":217.31400000000002,"body":"minds busy. It keeps us from"},{"startTime":217.35199999999998,"endTime":219.78199999999998,"body":"having to feel. It keeps us"},{"startTime":219.836,"endTime":222.70600000000002,"body":"disconnected from the world around us. And dare"},{"startTime":222.738,"endTime":225.416,"body":"I say it, virtual reality is not reality."},{"startTime":225.75599999999997,"endTime":227.81599999999997,"body":"Neither is reality tv."},{"startTime":228.39600000000002,"endTime":231.16000000000003,"body":"Engaging with your physical, emotional, mental,"},{"startTime":231.20799999999997,"endTime":233.80599999999998,"body":"and spiritual world is a key to"},{"startTime":234.736,"endTime":237.61200000000002,"body":"yours and our well being. But I"},{"startTime":237.63400000000001,"endTime":240.156,"body":"digress back to the word"},{"startTime":240.226,"endTime":243.14800000000002,"body":"lazy. Throwing the word lazy"},{"startTime":243.212,"endTime":245.80399999999997,"body":"around as a judgment of a person's qualities"},{"startTime":245.98000000000002,"endTime":248.88,"body":"is irresponsible, dishonouring, and"},{"startTime":248.918,"endTime":251.808,"body":"frankly, mean spirited. In fact,"},{"startTime":251.86200000000002,"endTime":254.844,"body":"the word lazy, according to the Oxford Dictionary,"},{"startTime":254.94,"endTime":257.908,"body":"means an unwillingness to work or"},{"startTime":257.962,"endTime":259.206,"body":"expend energy"},{"startTime":260.696,"endTime":262.928,"body":"characterized by a lack of effort,"},{"startTime":263.072,"endTime":265.984,"body":"care, or activity."},{"startTime":266.16,"endTime":269.06,"body":"But the word lazy is thrown around as a generalization,"},{"startTime":269.188,"endTime":271.96,"body":"judgment, and criticism of a person's character and"},{"startTime":271.998,"endTime":274.98,"body":"identity. For those of us who are sensitive"},{"startTime":275.028,"endTime":277.94,"body":"to criticism. This is an emotionally damaging"},{"startTime":277.988,"endTime":280.76,"body":"word to describe us. Let's be"},{"startTime":280.798,"endTime":283.772,"body":"honest here. When people use the"},{"startTime":283.794,"endTime":285.886,"body":"word lazy to describe someone,"},{"startTime":286.576,"endTime":289.34,"body":"it just means they're not getting what they want from the other"},{"startTime":289.378,"endTime":292.21999999999997,"body":"person and perhaps even in the way they want"},{"startTime":292.258,"endTime":294.446,"body":"it done. bam. I said it."},{"startTime":295.776,"endTime":298.73199999999997,"body":"And when we call ourselves lazy, it just means we"},{"startTime":298.754,"endTime":301.372,"body":"are not going to push ourselves to do something"},{"startTime":301.554,"endTime":304.46,"body":"someone else wants or has taught us we must"},{"startTime":304.498,"endTime":307.36,"body":"do because we're not feeling it, we're not"},{"startTime":307.398,"endTime":310.272,"body":"inspired. And most likely, we were told what to"},{"startTime":310.294,"endTime":312.48,"body":"do and how to do it. That's not"},{"startTime":312.518,"endTime":315.312,"body":"inspiring. If we all just learned how to"},{"startTime":315.334,"endTime":318.176,"body":"kindly ask for another person's help instead"},{"startTime":318.246,"endTime":321.172,"body":"of telling each other what to do, there'd be a whole"},{"startTime":321.194,"endTime":324.18,"body":"lot more joy and collaboration going on. As"},{"startTime":324.218,"endTime":326.992,"body":"human beings, we're more inspired to help when we're"},{"startTime":327.024,"endTime":329.73199999999997,"body":"asked for help. We're more inspired to"},{"startTime":329.754,"endTime":332.36,"body":"participate and engage when we're asked to"},{"startTime":332.398,"endTime":335.192,"body":"help today, ask others for"},{"startTime":335.214,"endTime":338.052,"body":"their help. Here's an example I'd"},{"startTime":338.084,"endTime":341.08,"body":"like your help with taking out the trash bins to the curb. Now,"},{"startTime":341.198,"endTime":344.072,"body":"do you have a moment to help me with that? I'd like to"},{"startTime":344.094,"endTime":346.85999999999996,"body":"focus on getting supper ready while that is taken care"},{"startTime":346.89799999999997,"endTime":349.532,"body":"of, as I just can't fit another thing in the"},{"startTime":349.554,"endTime":352.38,"body":"bin. And when it's done and they've done"},{"startTime":352.418,"endTime":355.292,"body":"it, say, oh my gosh, I really appreciate you"},{"startTime":355.31399999999996,"endTime":358.096,"body":"doing that because now supper is on the table for us to enjoy."},{"startTime":358.166,"endTime":360.88,"body":"Now that was not so freaking hard, was"},{"startTime":360.918,"endTime":363.45599999999996,"body":"it? More asking for help,"},{"startTime":363.606,"endTime":366.364,"body":"less telling what others telling, less"},{"startTime":366.46999999999997,"endTime":368.166,"body":"telling others what to do,"},{"startTime":369.096,"endTime":371.936,"body":"less yelling when it's not done. Telling"},{"startTime":372.01599999999996,"endTime":374.832,"body":"leads to yelling. Asking leads"},{"startTime":374.864,"endTime":377.14,"body":"to helping. Helping leads to"},{"startTime":377.178,"endTime":379.32,"body":"connection. Connection leads to"},{"startTime":379.358,"endTime":381.99199999999996,"body":"collaboration. Collaboration leads to"},{"startTime":382.014,"endTime":384.948,"body":"community. Community leads to belonging."},{"startTime":385.092,"endTime":387.464,"body":"Belonging leads to feeling and being"},{"startTime":387.55,"endTime":390.228,"body":"loved. It's all connected."},{"startTime":390.37199999999996,"endTime":392.96799999999996,"body":"That's my message for today. Being"},{"startTime":393.022,"endTime":395.912,"body":"lazy is not a bad thing. It just means we're"},{"startTime":395.94399999999996,"endTime":398.824,"body":"not inspired. So find your inspiration."},{"startTime":398.91999999999996,"endTime":401.08599999999996,"body":"And one way to do that is to"},{"startTime":401.69599999999997,"endTime":403.64599999999996,"body":"learn what motivates you"},{"startTime":404.57599999999996,"endTime":407.52,"body":"through learning about your relationship superpower. There"},{"startTime":407.558,"endTime":410.272,"body":"are five of them, and I invite you to take the"},{"startTime":410.294,"endTime":411.41999999999996,"body":"relationship superpower"},{"startTime":411.46799999999996,"endTime":413.82599999999996,"body":"quiz@drdar.com"},{"startTime":414.19599999999997,"endTime":417.02,"body":"and go take the quiz. Learn what your superpower"},{"startTime":417.068,"endTime":419.972,"body":"is, and in the spirit and honor of asking for"},{"startTime":419.99399999999997,"endTime":422.82,"body":"your help, ask your friends and family to take the"},{"startTime":422.858,"endTime":425.7,"body":"quiz. Then you can start talking about your relationship"},{"startTime":425.818,"endTime":428.692,"body":"superpowers that you've learned. And you can talk"},{"startTime":428.714,"endTime":431.604,"body":"about your kryptonite. Because we also have kryptonite."},{"startTime":431.7,"endTime":433.866,"body":"And when laziness creeps in,"},{"startTime":434.476,"endTime":437.0,"body":"usually our kryptonite has been activated and"},{"startTime":437.038,"endTime":439.656,"body":"triggered. So go take the quiz now."},{"startTime":439.806,"endTime":442.78,"body":"Ask your friends and family to take the quiz, if you would,"},{"startTime":442.89799999999997,"endTime":445.692,"body":"and start talking about your relationship superpower and"},{"startTime":445.714,"endTime":448.604,"body":"your kryptonite in your family and friend"},{"startTime":448.69,"endTime":451.608,"body":"community. It is powerful. It's"},{"startTime":451.67199999999997,"endTime":454.604,"body":"fun. It gives you both, ah, a"},{"startTime":454.60999999999996,"endTime":457.59999999999997,"body":"similar framework and language to use and to talk"},{"startTime":457.638,"endTime":460.47999999999996,"body":"about it without having to take a deep dive into your"},{"startTime":460.518,"endTime":463.466,"body":"feelings and upsets and, lack of inspiration"},{"startTime":463.546,"endTime":466.43399999999997,"body":"or even using the word lazy. Remember,"},{"startTime":466.52,"endTime":469.16999999999996,"body":"it's all connected and asking"},{"startTime":469.368,"endTime":472.226,"body":"is inspiring. Asking for help is"},{"startTime":472.296,"endTime":473.27799999999996,"body":"inspiring."}]}