{"version":"1.0.0","segments":[{"startTime":88.92,"endTime":91.76,"body":"Today I'm talking about nagging thoughts,"},{"startTime":91.84,"endTime":94.732,"body":"feelings, and memories that's stick around and"},{"startTime":94.786,"endTime":97.532,"body":"pop up when we least expect it or even"},{"startTime":97.586,"endTime":100.348,"body":"want it. The time has come. The pain"},{"startTime":100.434,"endTime":103.244,"body":"is not serving me. The pain is keeping me"},{"startTime":103.282,"endTime":106.088,"body":"stuck. The memories of the bullies, jerks,"},{"startTime":106.184,"endTime":109.184,"body":"power hungry takers and the experiences that went"},{"startTime":109.222,"endTime":112.094,"body":"with them. the memories of parents or other role"},{"startTime":112.126,"endTime":114.75399999999999,"body":"models or even people at work,"},{"startTime":114.856,"endTime":117.72999999999999,"body":"coworkers, friends, you name"},{"startTime":117.78399999999999,"endTime":120.582,"body":"it. Anybody that said or did anything"},{"startTime":120.69999999999999,"endTime":123.382,"body":"that did not feel good to you. Those"},{"startTime":123.5,"endTime":126.15,"body":"things are no longer serving me or"},{"startTime":126.20400000000001,"endTime":129.094,"body":"you. Today is the day to move on."},{"startTime":129.196,"endTime":131.826,"body":"Today is the day to say no more to the"},{"startTime":131.852,"endTime":134.69,"body":"memories that, no longer serve you. Today"},{"startTime":134.792,"endTime":137.25,"body":"is the day to say I am free."},{"startTime":137.352,"endTime":140.14600000000002,"body":"Today is the day to see it and"},{"startTime":140.2,"endTime":143.198,"body":"feel it differently. What if? What if"},{"startTime":143.256,"endTime":146.24599999999998,"body":"we can shift from shit to shine by"},{"startTime":146.3,"endTime":149.078,"body":"contemplating these things? What"},{"startTime":149.11599999999999,"endTime":151.75,"body":"if they were there to cause transformation by"},{"startTime":151.772,"endTime":154.76999999999998,"body":"ruffling feathers, causing disruption, creating"},{"startTime":154.802,"endTime":157.71800000000002,"body":"resistance, and pushing their agenda or power?"},{"startTime":157.836,"endTime":160.74599999999998,"body":"What if they were the messenger to us, saying our time"},{"startTime":160.8,"endTime":163.738,"body":"in that experience was complete? What if they were"},{"startTime":163.776,"endTime":166.762,"body":"saying they believed in you by taking away all that you"},{"startTime":166.768,"endTime":169.518,"body":"had worked to build, by criticizing you or"},{"startTime":169.55599999999998,"endTime":172.446,"body":"asking you to do more with less or"},{"startTime":172.5,"endTime":175.07,"body":"even making you wrong? What if the"},{"startTime":175.09199999999998,"endTime":176.894,"body":"judgment comparing"},{"startTime":177.23399999999998,"endTime":179.998,"body":"discrimination complaints that"},{"startTime":180.036,"endTime":182.958,"body":"you experienced was actually the path for you"},{"startTime":182.99599999999998,"endTime":185.598,"body":"to embrace your own gifts and your own unique"},{"startTime":185.64600000000002,"endTime":188.338,"body":"talents because they were shining a light on"},{"startTime":188.376,"endTime":191.32999999999998,"body":"them, to bring them to your awareness, to bring"},{"startTime":191.352,"endTime":193.71800000000002,"body":"them to a place where you acknowledge and"},{"startTime":193.756,"endTime":196.63,"body":"appreciated those talents and gifts. What"},{"startTime":196.652,"endTime":199.574,"body":"if those experiences freed you up to do something"},{"startTime":199.644,"endTime":202.406,"body":"else? Perhaps something bigger, better, and"},{"startTime":202.45999999999998,"endTime":205.398,"body":"more aligned. Consider the what ifs from"},{"startTime":205.43599999999998,"endTime":207.978,"body":"a transformational perspective, from a"},{"startTime":208.01600000000002,"endTime":210.95,"body":"perspective that helps you see it differently."},{"startTime":211.062,"endTime":213.76999999999998,"body":"What's freedom? Freedom is one of the"},{"startTime":213.792,"endTime":216.618,"body":"relationship superpowers. If you don't know what your"},{"startTime":216.656,"endTime":219.63,"body":"relationship superpower is, I invite you to go and"},{"startTime":219.652,"endTime":222.478,"body":"take the quiz@drdar.com to"},{"startTime":222.51600000000002,"endTime":225.262,"body":"learn yours. I have learned through"},{"startTime":225.348,"endTime":228.298,"body":"many years fighting does not serve my highest"},{"startTime":228.346,"endTime":231.30200000000002,"body":"good. Whenever I stood up and I fought,"},{"startTime":231.418,"endTime":234.35399999999998,"body":"which is standing against something, my energy"},{"startTime":234.42399999999998,"endTime":237.106,"body":"would get zapped, my health would get affected, and"},{"startTime":237.16000000000003,"endTime":239.45799999999997,"body":"frankly, the outcome wasn't a"},{"startTime":239.49599999999998,"endTime":242.30599999999998,"body":"collaborative outcome that really worked"},{"startTime":242.36,"endTime":245.26999999999998,"body":"out for me and frankly, worked out for everyone else."},{"startTime":245.372,"endTime":248.34199999999998,"body":"For me, the peaceful way is the path towards"},{"startTime":248.428,"endTime":251.058,"body":"mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual"},{"startTime":251.106,"endTime":253.618,"body":"wellness. I have also learned that pushing"},{"startTime":253.666,"endTime":256.634,"body":"others, when we're in that space, of pushing against"},{"startTime":256.704,"endTime":259.626,"body":"something that does not serve my highest good"},{"startTime":259.68,"endTime":262.154,"body":"or that of others, for me, having"},{"startTime":262.224,"endTime":264.934,"body":"conversations and meaningful dialogues"},{"startTime":265.014,"endTime":267.93,"body":"to arrive at a collaborative approach does"},{"startTime":268.032,"endTime":270.55,"body":"serve my highest good as well as"},{"startTime":270.592,"endTime":273.438,"body":"theirs. It's not always possible. But when it"},{"startTime":273.476,"endTime":276.474,"body":"is, magic can happen. And when it isn't,"},{"startTime":276.554,"endTime":279.406,"body":"you get really clear that it's time to make a different"},{"startTime":279.46,"endTime":282.098,"body":"choice. It's time to move on. I have"},{"startTime":282.136,"endTime":284.85,"body":"learned that pushing myself does not serve my"},{"startTime":284.872,"endTime":287.822,"body":"highest good. For me, choosing aligned actions"},{"startTime":287.918,"endTime":290.786,"body":"with my relationship superpower and then"},{"startTime":290.84,"endTime":293.79,"body":"fulfilling them when inspired does serve"},{"startTime":293.822,"endTime":296.678,"body":"my highest good. I have learned that when something does"},{"startTime":296.716,"endTime":299.43,"body":"not feel good, I'm not to do anything with"},{"startTime":299.452,"endTime":302.294,"body":"it. I'm just to be patient and wait"},{"startTime":302.364,"endTime":305.078,"body":"for that moment to pass so that I can"},{"startTime":305.116,"endTime":307.9,"body":"process it, and think about it and feel about it"},{"startTime":307.938,"endTime":310.812,"body":"with a different viewpoint or a different, more open,"},{"startTime":310.914,"endTime":313.70799999999997,"body":"grounded, and centered perspective. For me,"},{"startTime":313.762,"endTime":316.62,"body":"being the observer in the moment is the key to"},{"startTime":316.658,"endTime":319.608,"body":"transformation. The moment when things don't feel good,"},{"startTime":319.682,"endTime":322.448,"body":"those do pass. Those moments pass"},{"startTime":322.582,"endTime":325.456,"body":"the times I chose to stand up, fight, take"},{"startTime":325.526,"endTime":328.512,"body":"actions, or do anything. 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And it doesn't mean"},{"startTime":379.86199999999997,"endTime":382.82,"body":"that we're not loved or we don't belong. It could just mean"},{"startTime":382.858,"endTime":385.668,"body":"that this is not the right time, right place, or"},{"startTime":385.722,"endTime":388.532,"body":"right moment with these individuals to feel love and"},{"startTime":388.554,"endTime":391.316,"body":"belonging. 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I have learned that when I feel threatened or"},{"startTime":410.94599999999997,"endTime":413.628,"body":"unsafe, I must make a choice to restore my"},{"startTime":413.666,"endTime":416.268,"body":"safety and survival needs for me."},{"startTime":416.38599999999997,"endTime":419.15999999999997,"body":"Only I can make choices to restore or"},{"startTime":419.202,"endTime":422.08,"body":"reconnect my safety and survival need, regardless of"},{"startTime":422.102,"endTime":424.688,"body":"what others are doing or saying. When we get"},{"startTime":424.726,"endTime":427.44,"body":"triggered in a relationship or in a"},{"startTime":427.462,"endTime":430.368,"body":"meeting or in any situation, it"},{"startTime":430.406,"endTime":433.284,"body":"is the fight or flight response that's showing up."},{"startTime":433.354,"endTime":436.15999999999997,"body":"It is a primal, programmed response."},{"startTime":436.272,"endTime":439.19399999999996,"body":"And when we react from that fight or flight primal,"},{"startTime":439.524,"endTime":441.94399999999996,"body":"way, it doesn't usually turn out well."},{"startTime":442.014,"endTime":444.3,"body":"Today we are in modern times,"},{"startTime":444.48199999999997,"endTime":447.404,"body":"and we've got to let that moment"},{"startTime":447.554,"endTime":450.364,"body":"pass or identify what"},{"startTime":450.43399999999997,"endTime":453.4,"body":"we need for ourselves in order to restore safety"},{"startTime":453.43199999999996,"endTime":455.83599999999996,"body":"and survival. This is really important,"},{"startTime":455.96999999999997,"endTime":458.71999999999997,"body":"because what I think the modern human does"},{"startTime":458.822,"endTime":460.976,"body":"is we stay in it and we go into"},{"startTime":461.03,"endTime":463.64799999999997,"body":"paralysis, and then we feel bad about"},{"startTime":463.686,"endTime":466.144,"body":"ourselves and others and those"},{"startTime":466.214,"endTime":469.14799999999997,"body":"survival and safety needs. And the triggers"},{"startTime":469.19599999999997,"endTime":471.828,"body":"are really important. They are signposts and"},{"startTime":471.866,"endTime":474.56399999999996,"body":"guideposts. But we've got to really"},{"startTime":474.63399999999996,"endTime":477.42199999999997,"body":"look at it from a place, of what is it going to take"},{"startTime":477.508,"endTime":480.45799999999997,"body":"for me to restore my survival or safety"},{"startTime":480.506,"endTime":483.45799999999997,"body":"need? What is going on in this moment that I feel like"},{"startTime":483.496,"endTime":486.382,"body":"I need to leave? Is it a real threat?"},{"startTime":486.478,"endTime":489.074,"body":"And if it is a real threat, like your"},{"startTime":489.144,"endTime":492.09799999999996,"body":"physical, emotional well being is really"},{"startTime":492.13599999999997,"endTime":495.09,"body":"being threatened by another human being, it's time to"},{"startTime":495.11199999999997,"endTime":497.782,"body":"exit. If it's not and it just"},{"startTime":497.868,"endTime":500.78999999999996,"body":"feels that way in the moment, there are other ways to look"},{"startTime":500.812,"endTime":503.666,"body":"at it. Ultimately, I and you are accountable"},{"startTime":503.72999999999996,"endTime":506.55,"body":"for our own safety and survival needs. We can"},{"startTime":506.572,"endTime":509.462,"body":"certainly partner with others and collaborate."},{"startTime":509.558,"endTime":511.974,"body":"For example, if we're going on a hiking"},{"startTime":512.054,"endTime":515.03,"body":"trip, having conversations with the people that we're"},{"startTime":515.062,"endTime":517.818,"body":"going with, and identifying who's going to be accountable and"},{"startTime":517.856,"endTime":520.67,"body":"responsible for different safety and survival needs, that's an"},{"startTime":520.692,"endTime":523.4540000000001,"body":"important conversation to have in our personal"},{"startTime":523.524,"endTime":526.186,"body":"lives. Talking about things that trigger"},{"startTime":526.25,"endTime":529.246,"body":"our safety and survival needs with our loved ones"},{"startTime":529.3000000000001,"endTime":531.89,"body":"is really important so that they understand what your"},{"startTime":531.912,"endTime":534.818,"body":"triggers are and what your needs are. And then you can"},{"startTime":534.856,"endTime":537.4060000000001,"body":"create community and collaboration"},{"startTime":537.5500000000001,"endTime":540.418,"body":"in finding ways to get those needs met. But"},{"startTime":540.456,"endTime":543.138,"body":"not talking about them not collaborating and"},{"startTime":543.176,"endTime":546.11,"body":"not being aware of what yours are makes"},{"startTime":546.152,"endTime":548.95,"body":"it very difficult and challenging for when they do"},{"startTime":548.972,"endTime":551.718,"body":"get triggered, and it creates a space for not"},{"startTime":551.756,"endTime":554.5500000000001,"body":"being clear when you do get triggered, and then that fight"},{"startTime":554.572,"endTime":557.2860000000001,"body":"or flight takes over. I have learned also that"},{"startTime":557.34,"endTime":560.058,"body":"holding on to what others did that did not feel"},{"startTime":560.096,"endTime":562.938,"body":"good or did not serve my highest good or that"},{"startTime":562.976,"endTime":565.738,"body":"of others is really a recipe for me to be"},{"startTime":565.7760000000001,"endTime":568.65,"body":"unwell. All of this has been a process"},{"startTime":568.7520000000001,"endTime":571.726,"body":"for me, for letting go. But what I've found is my left"},{"startTime":571.78,"endTime":574.75,"body":"brain has hung onto the memory, and so has my body,"},{"startTime":574.852,"endTime":577.8340000000001,"body":"and I need to make an active choice"},{"startTime":577.914,"endTime":580.67,"body":"to change the program that's running in my"},{"startTime":580.692,"endTime":583.57,"body":"head and in my cellular memory. It is time for"},{"startTime":583.592,"endTime":586.562,"body":"me to release. There's no more reflection needed."},{"startTime":586.648,"endTime":589.538,"body":"There's no more retrospection needed. There's no"},{"startTime":589.576,"endTime":592.078,"body":"more lessons from those past events"},{"startTime":592.206,"endTime":594.918,"body":"needed. There is nothing for me to learn."},{"startTime":595.0360000000001,"endTime":597.878,"body":"It is done. It is complete. It is"},{"startTime":597.916,"endTime":600.438,"body":"time to say goodbye, adios and"},{"startTime":600.476,"endTime":603.3180000000001,"body":"sayonara to what happened and to all those"},{"startTime":603.356,"endTime":606.13,"body":"who participated in it. It is time to"},{"startTime":606.172,"endTime":609.066,"body":"release the cellular memory. When the memory shows"},{"startTime":609.12,"endTime":611.9100000000001,"body":"up again, simply say goodbye."},{"startTime":612.022,"endTime":614.778,"body":"That is all there is to do. That is all there"},{"startTime":614.816,"endTime":617.498,"body":"is that's required or necessary to"},{"startTime":617.5360000000001,"endTime":620.2700000000001,"body":"program a new story for you. A story that"},{"startTime":620.292,"endTime":622.8140000000001,"body":"serves your highest good in this moment going"},{"startTime":622.884,"endTime":625.1980000000001,"body":"forward, say goodbye to the thought and"},{"startTime":625.236,"endTime":627.806,"body":"associated emotion. The situation has"},{"startTime":627.86,"endTime":630.618,"body":"passed. It is in the past. The memory"},{"startTime":630.666,"endTime":633.518,"body":"and thought are just stuck in the head and the emotion"},{"startTime":633.566,"endTime":636.354,"body":"in the body and saying goodbye when they show up"},{"startTime":636.4240000000001,"endTime":639.33,"body":"will result in letting them and it go. My"},{"startTime":639.3520000000001,"endTime":642.066,"body":"invitation to you and me is to be"},{"startTime":642.12,"endTime":644.85,"body":"free, divine being. Be free of the"},{"startTime":644.8720000000001,"endTime":647.6980000000001,"body":"mental chains and cellular memories that don't serve"},{"startTime":647.7460000000001,"endTime":650.726,"body":"your or my highest good. Say goodbye when they show"},{"startTime":650.7800000000001,"endTime":653.35,"body":"up and they will show up less and less"},{"startTime":653.452,"endTime":656.378,"body":"until they no longer are present for you. Say"},{"startTime":656.416,"endTime":659.1940000000001,"body":"goodbye to release with love"},{"startTime":659.264,"endTime":661.926,"body":"and grace. This is going to be a transition"},{"startTime":661.99,"endTime":664.6980000000001,"body":"to reprogram. It's what's necessary to"},{"startTime":664.736,"endTime":667.654,"body":"create living from a place of possibility."},{"startTime":667.8140000000001,"endTime":670.654,"body":"It will open your eyes and heart to other ways"},{"startTime":670.724,"endTime":673.71,"body":"of seeing, doing, being and living one that"},{"startTime":673.7320000000001,"endTime":676.57,"body":"is more honoring, respectful and loving. There won't"},{"startTime":676.6020000000001,"endTime":679.4060000000001,"body":"be any more competing or fighting. There will be more"},{"startTime":679.46,"endTime":682.178,"body":"peace, joy, ease, freedom, time and"},{"startTime":682.216,"endTime":684.946,"body":"fulfillment for you in your head, body"},{"startTime":685.0,"endTime":687.5980000000001,"body":"and heart. There's also mental, emotional,"},{"startTime":687.6460000000001,"endTime":690.546,"body":"physical and spiritual wellness available to"},{"startTime":690.6,"endTime":693.2700000000001,"body":"you as you honor your path, ways,"},{"startTime":693.3720000000001,"endTime":696.038,"body":"values and needs as you nurture your"},{"startTime":696.076,"endTime":698.806,"body":"nature and find your new space and"},{"startTime":698.86,"endTime":701.686,"body":"place. As you be free and"},{"startTime":701.74,"endTime":704.63,"body":"say goodbye. Your one step, just as a"},{"startTime":704.652,"endTime":707.37,"body":"reminder to release undesired thoughts, feelings and"},{"startTime":707.392,"endTime":710.378,"body":"memories, is to simply say goodbye. When"},{"startTime":710.416,"endTime":713.2900000000001,"body":"that undesired or joyless thought, feeling or"},{"startTime":713.312,"endTime":715.898,"body":"memory pops into your awareness, say"},{"startTime":715.936,"endTime":718.7180000000001,"body":"goodbye. Thank you for listening and giving me the"},{"startTime":718.7560000000001,"endTime":721.45,"body":"precious gift of your time and presence."}]}