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It's easy to think that things will"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":682.1980000000001,"endTime":685.1840000000001,"body":"stay the same romantic, lovey dovey way as when"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":685.2220000000001,"endTime":688.144,"body":"you and your partner agreed to be in a committed relationship."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":688.342,"endTime":691.0440000000001,"body":"But the reality is that you and your partner will"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":691.082,"endTime":694.032,"body":"grow over time. Your goals and desires"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":694.096,"endTime":696.868,"body":"change, and life brings situations that cause"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":696.9540000000001,"endTime":699.9240000000001,"body":"change. That kind of change can either draw you"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":699.962,"endTime":702.884,"body":"closer or push you further apart. So your"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":702.922,"endTime":705.652,"body":"relationship coach will help you navigate"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":705.716,"endTime":708.616,"body":"change in your life so that you can continue to maintain a"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":708.638,"endTime":711.384,"body":"close relationship with your partner. And I'd like to"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":711.422,"endTime":714.056,"body":"say whether you stay together or not, my"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":714.0780000000001,"endTime":716.936,"body":"clients have said these things about my relationship coaching"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":716.9680000000001,"endTime":719.868,"body":"services and I'm sharing them with you because I feel like they are a"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":719.874,"endTime":722.652,"body":"strong guideline for ensuring you're being"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":722.706,"endTime":725.624,"body":"nurtured and cared for by your coach."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":725.7520000000001,"endTime":728.7520000000001,"body":"I call them the six guideposts for being relationship"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":728.8860000000001,"endTime":731.7760000000001,"body":"coached. So here they"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":731.798,"endTime":734.672,"body":"are. The first one is you feel safe, heard"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":734.726,"endTime":737.072,"body":"and supported. The second one is you don't feel"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":737.1260000000001,"endTime":739.6360000000001,"body":"judged, nor do you feel like there are any"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":739.658,"endTime":742.3720000000001,"body":"biases or ideologies being"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":742.426,"endTime":745.412,"body":"pushed on you. You're not afraid to open"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":745.466,"endTime":748.404,"body":"up, to bury your soul and your heart, and you"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":748.442,"endTime":751.176,"body":"feel safe to do that. You feel free to"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":751.1980000000001,"endTime":753.5440000000001,"body":"express your emotions and"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":753.662,"endTime":756.5840000000001,"body":"reactions however they come out and"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":756.6220000000001,"endTime":759.1600000000001,"body":"know that you're going to be accepted and supported."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":759.5,"endTime":762.488,"body":"You feel supported between sessions and"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":762.5740000000001,"endTime":765.404,"body":"you also look forward to your"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":765.442,"endTime":768.0440000000001,"body":"sessions with your coach. Those are all a good"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":768.082,"endTime":770.9240000000001,"body":"indicator that this coach is an"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":770.962,"endTime":773.88,"body":"ideal match for you. You may be wondering,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":773.96,"endTime":776.816,"body":"but isn't that what a therapist does? Well, there"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":776.8380000000001,"endTime":779.616,"body":"is some overlap, but relationship coaching is"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":779.638,"endTime":782.476,"body":"different from therapy. Therapy focuses"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":782.508,"endTime":785.356,"body":"on healing past wounds, typically, and treating mental"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":785.388,"endTime":788.336,"body":"and emotional health issues. And relationship"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":828.138,"endTime":831.1120000000001,"body":"coaching tends to be more proactive and focused on the present"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":831.166,"endTime":834.0240000000001,"body":"and future of a relationship. I want to share a little bit about"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":834.0620000000001,"endTime":836.6640000000001,"body":"ontological coaching because that's more of what I"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":836.7020000000001,"endTime":839.6540000000001,"body":"do, along with, choice theory and"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":839.6920000000001,"endTime":842.666,"body":"reality therapy. Those are terms that may not make sense"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":842.6880000000001,"endTime":845.5260000000001,"body":"to you, but I'll do my best to explain them now. Ontology"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":845.638,"endTime":848.09,"body":"means the science of being and so"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":848.2400000000001,"endTime":851.2220000000001,"body":"ontological coaches have been trained"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":851.2860000000001,"endTime":854.1540000000001,"body":"and continue their education. By the way,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":854.3520000000001,"endTime":857.2940000000001,"body":"in m studying humans, what it is to be"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":857.3320000000001,"endTime":859.9340000000001,"body":"human, why is it that we behave and do the things we"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":859.9720000000001,"endTime":862.8140000000001,"body":"do? What drives the choices that we"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":862.8520000000001,"endTime":865.2740000000001,"body":"make, what motivates and inspires"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":865.3220000000001,"endTime":868.114,"body":"us? And the key questions that we"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":868.152,"endTime":871.0740000000001,"body":"seek to answer with our clients are what is"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":871.1120000000001,"endTime":874.066,"body":"serving you, what isn't serving you, and your"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":874.0880000000001,"endTime":877.042,"body":"highest good. And what choices are you"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":877.0960000000001,"endTime":879.9860000000001,"body":"making that are serving you and aren't serving"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":880.0180000000001,"endTime":882.4540000000001,"body":"you? And that's a very powerful model that"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":882.4920000000001,"endTime":884.7740000000001,"body":"creates incredible results for my"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":884.8120000000001,"endTime":887.714,"body":"clients. In addition to orienting"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":887.7620000000001,"endTime":890.5980000000001,"body":"around the relationship needs that I shared earlier,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":890.6940000000001,"endTime":893.402,"body":"relationship coaching offers a safe space for"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":893.4560000000001,"endTime":895.0500000000001,"body":"you and your partner"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":896.4300000000001,"endTime":898.9540000000001,"body":"to address difficult topics without judgment or"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":898.9920000000001,"endTime":901.5140000000001,"body":"bias. 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While therapy can be"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":945.7060000000001,"endTime":948.6440000000001,"body":"incredibly beneficial for individuals with"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":948.6820000000001,"endTime":951.59,"body":"deep rooted psychological and emotional issues,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":951.9000000000001,"endTime":954.6640000000001,"body":"coaching is geared towards individuals who seek to"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":954.7020000000001,"endTime":957.5440000000001,"body":"improve their current relationships and create a better"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":957.5820000000001,"endTime":960.056,"body":"future in life for themselves. 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Unlike"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1045.798,"endTime":1048.374,"body":"therapy, which tends to have a more generalized"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1048.422,"endTime":1051.082,"body":"approach with packaged tools and"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1051.136,"endTime":1053.8220000000001,"body":"techniques that already exist, coaching also"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1053.876,"endTime":1056.65,"body":"takes into account the specific dynamics and challenges"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1056.73,"endTime":1059.726,"body":"that you're having in your relationship. 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It can benefit happy and healthy"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1091.782,"endTime":1094.78,"body":"relationships as well by helping you maintain a,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1094.78,"endTime":1097.266,"body":"strong connection, again, keeping"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1097.314,"endTime":1100.018,"body":"communication skills optimal"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1100.13,"endTime":1103.098,"body":"and navigating any challenges that can arise. I"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1103.1200000000001,"endTime":1105.2740000000001,"body":"personally don't think therapy and coaching can be done"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1105.328,"endTime":1107.978,"body":"simultaneously. According to the relationship"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1108.08,"endTime":1111.018,"body":"Coaching Institute where I received my singles, couples and"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1111.04,"endTime":1113.81,"body":"family coach training, coaching starts"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1113.846,"endTime":1116.686,"body":"where therapy ends. And I think that just says"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1116.724,"endTime":1118.672,"body":"it so completely"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1119.442,"endTime":1122.33,"body":"and clearly. Here are some differences between coaching"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1122.346,"endTime":1125.178,"body":"and therapy. 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Relationships Therapy"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1177.774,"endTime":1180.562,"body":"focuses a lot on feelings and past based"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1180.632,"endTime":1183.31,"body":"events and past relationships."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1183.406,"endTime":1186.146,"body":"Coaching focuses on actions in the present,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1186.264,"endTime":1188.642,"body":"choices in the present, and"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1188.712,"endTime":1191.23,"body":"designing the future from the"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1191.256,"endTime":1194.2459999999999,"body":"present. Therapy explores the root cause and the root of"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1194.2839999999999,"endTime":1197.094,"body":"problems to where you have to relive them over and over"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1197.148,"endTime":1199.798,"body":"again. As my clients have told me,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1199.98,"endTime":1202.812,"body":"coaching actually focuses on solving problems"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1203.262,"endTime":1206.09,"body":"and more importantly, preventing them."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1206.176,"endTime":1208.7459999999999,"body":"Therapy works to bring the unconscious into your"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1208.7839999999999,"endTime":1211.686,"body":"consciousness and coaching works with the conscious"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1211.734,"endTime":1214.542,"body":"mind, which I have found also"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1214.692,"endTime":1217.406,"body":"benefits the unconscious mind as well."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1217.604,"endTime":1220.59,"body":"Therapy works for internal resolution of pain"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1220.676,"endTime":1223.386,"body":"and the letting go of old patterns. Coaching"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1223.434,"endTime":1226.378,"body":"works on providing solutions to"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1226.42,"endTime":1228.91,"body":"overcome barriers, learn new skills,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1229.086,"endTime":1231.9379999999999,"body":"implement healthy choices and"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1232.04,"endTime":1235.01,"body":"habits, and as a result of that, pain"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1235.096,"endTime":1237.742,"body":"can get removed along with pattern,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1237.822,"endTime":1240.818,"body":"older patterns that are not serving you fall to"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1240.84,"endTime":1243.49,"body":"the wayside because I take the approach of what's"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1243.506,"endTime":1246.422,"body":"serving you and what isn't serving you. It's pretty"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1246.492,"endTime":1249.414,"body":"easy for my clients to see, well, that's not serving me."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1249.468,"endTime":1252.29,"body":"Why am I? I shouldn't keep doing that. I'm going to stop. And it's"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1252.306,"endTime":1254.5539999999999,"body":"easier for them to stop once they"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1254.608,"endTime":1257.37,"body":"recognize what is and is not serving them."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1257.456,"endTime":1259.786,"body":"Why don't more people get help from a relationship"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1259.904,"endTime":1262.666,"body":"coach? Well, here are a few reasons that you"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1262.704,"endTime":1265.658,"body":"may resonate with and understand. They might fear that"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1265.68,"endTime":1268.6499999999999,"body":"they will be judged or controlled or pushed"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1268.666,"endTime":1271.566,"body":"to do something they don't want to do or push to"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1271.604,"endTime":1274.078,"body":"change who they are. They might feel embarrassed or"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1274.1,"endTime":1276.99,"body":"ashamed for seeking outside help with their relationship."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1277.156,"endTime":1279.778,"body":"They might feel like they should be able to handle things on their"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1279.8,"endTime":1282.718,"body":"own. They have a desire to keep things private and fear"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1282.75,"endTime":1285.634,"body":"that their family or community will find out. They have"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1285.6879999999999,"endTime":1288.466,"body":"a public Persona of things"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1288.504,"endTime":1291.286,"body":"are great in front of their"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1291.324,"endTime":1294.21,"body":"communities. They want to keep things private. They don't"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1294.2259999999999,"endTime":1297.074,"body":"want their family or community or coworkers"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1297.138,"endTime":1299.99,"body":"to know. So they put on this brave front"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1300.156,"endTime":1302.882,"body":"and behave as though everything's fine,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1302.972,"endTime":1305.786,"body":"everything's great. They might have a misconception that"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1305.824,"endTime":1308.666,"body":"only couples in dire straits or on the verge of"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1308.704,"endTime":1311.434,"body":"a breakup need coaching, which is far"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1311.488,"endTime":1314.47,"body":"from the truth. They also might have a lack"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1314.4859999999999,"endTime":1317.374,"body":"of awareness that relationship coaching is even a thing"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1317.4279999999999,"endTime":1320.266,"body":"or an option like I did. Consequently,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1320.314,"endTime":1323.134,"body":"they opt for doing nothing, choosing to talk with friends"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1323.1879999999999,"endTime":1326.078,"body":"or family. Or they think the only option they have is"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1326.1,"endTime":1329.038,"body":"religious counseling or therapy. They might think that"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1329.06,"endTime":1331.9859999999999,"body":"admitting they need help is a sign of weakness. On"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1332.024,"endTime":1334.978,"body":"a side note, in the years that I've been a"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1335.0,"endTime":1337.6019999999999,"body":"relationship coach, I have to say at least"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1337.672,"endTime":1340.662,"body":"80% of my clients have come to me"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1340.732,"endTime":1343.558,"body":"and their partner is not in"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1343.58,"endTime":1346.146,"body":"support of therapy because of the stigma"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1346.194,"endTime":1348.952,"body":"associated with it, but also because"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1349.562,"endTime":1351.8319999999999,"body":"they don't want to rehash the old"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1352.442,"endTime":1355.354,"body":"going through the past, digging through the past. Their"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1355.408,"endTime":1358.186,"body":"partners are more focused on the now and what they can"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1358.224,"endTime":1360.9859999999999,"body":"do for tomorrow. And that's where coaching is"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1361.024,"endTime":1363.978,"body":"very beneficial. So if you have"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1364.0,"endTime":1366.446,"body":"someone or with a partner who is"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1366.564,"endTime":1369.4859999999999,"body":"resistant or thinks coaching is therapy, they"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1369.524,"endTime":1372.446,"body":"are very different and they might be more open"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1372.564,"endTime":1375.2259999999999,"body":"and accepting of coaching. The truth is, seeking"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1375.274,"endTime":1378.106,"body":"guidance and support from a relationship coach shows strength"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1378.154,"endTime":1380.974,"body":"and commitment to making your relationship thrive."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1381.118,"endTime":1384.018,"body":"It takes courage to admit that you might need some help in"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1384.04,"endTime":1386.77,"body":"this aspect of your life. Seeking the assistance of a"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1386.776,"endTime":1389.382,"body":"relationship coach is actually a sign"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1389.532,"endTime":1392.2459999999999,"body":"of your strength and commitment to making your"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1392.2839999999999,"endTime":1394.982,"body":"relationship better and becoming a better"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1395.052,"endTime":1397.97,"body":"partner for your partner. In our society,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1398.066,"endTime":1400.754,"body":"we focus on individual growth"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1400.818,"endTime":1403.654,"body":"and self care and our careers,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1403.798,"endTime":1406.6979999999999,"body":"but we neglect the importance of investing in"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1406.72,"endTime":1409.558,"body":"our relationships. Our relationships don't"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1409.59,"endTime":1412.042,"body":"just go on autopilot and work"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1412.112,"endTime":1414.85,"body":"effectively and harmoniously"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1414.966,"endTime":1417.838,"body":"for the rest of our lives. Relationship coaching can"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1417.86,"endTime":1420.538,"body":"benefit any type of couple. Doesn't"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1420.57,"endTime":1423.406,"body":"matter where you're from, who you are, who"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1423.444,"endTime":1426.074,"body":"you're with, or what type of relationship"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1426.228,"endTime":1428.738,"body":"you are. Whether you're just getting into a"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1428.76,"endTime":1431.652,"body":"relationship, getting out of a relationship,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1432.3419999999999,"endTime":1435.058,"body":"or a newlywed, or"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1435.16,"endTime":1437.982,"body":"your long term partners or short term"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1438.062,"endTime":1440.802,"body":"partners, you can benefit from relationship coaching"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1440.882,"endTime":1443.67,"body":"also. It's not about fixing problems only."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1443.836,"endTime":1446.738,"body":"It's also about making things better, bringing"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1446.77,"endTime":1449.334,"body":"more things into your life that work for you"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1449.468,"endTime":1452.37,"body":"and when you're in that sweet spot,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1452.466,"endTime":1455.446,"body":"life is easier and things start happening for"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1455.484,"endTime":1458.098,"body":"you. Doors start opening because your energy is"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1458.1399999999999,"endTime":1460.9859999999999,"body":"changing to that of attraction, which"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1461.024,"endTime":1463.91,"body":"is what I want to talk about next. As a relationship"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1464.016,"endTime":1466.8899999999999,"body":"coaching institute certified relationship coach,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1467.066,"endTime":1469.934,"body":"I am professionally trained for these five"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1469.988,"endTime":1472.862,"body":"stages of relationships and to coach you"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1473.012,"endTime":1475.7259999999999,"body":"in any of the five or all of them together."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1475.844,"endTime":1478.73,"body":"Readiness coaching. Readiness coaching to"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1478.756,"endTime":1481.346,"body":"me is all about becoming ready for the"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1481.384,"endTime":1484.306,"body":"relationship that you're in as individuals. We"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1484.344,"endTime":1487.234,"body":"are single for a long time and we know how to do,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1487.202,"endTime":1490.0919999999999,"body":"know ourselves and we know how to do single or"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1490.162,"endTime":1492.8,"body":"be an individual. But becoming a couple"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1492.886,"endTime":1495.564,"body":"requires a lot of different things. Readiness"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1495.628,"endTime":1498.576,"body":"coaching addresses questions like who am I? What do I"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1498.614,"endTime":1501.392,"body":"want? How do I get what I want? What type of person"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1501.462,"endTime":1503.988,"body":"do I want to be with? Am I with this type of"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1504.01,"endTime":1506.836,"body":"person? Is what I'm doing in my life today? And"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1506.874,"endTime":1509.556,"body":"is my relationship serving me for my"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1509.594,"endTime":1512.576,"body":"highest good? In what areas is it not serving"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1512.624,"endTime":1515.4959999999999,"body":"me and addressing those types of things?"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1515.694,"endTime":1518.536,"body":"Readiness coaching benefits you whether or not"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1518.574,"endTime":1520.9959999999999,"body":"you are in a relationship and the coaching"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1521.0439999999999,"endTime":1523.4959999999999,"body":"activities walks you through your relationship"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1523.614,"endTime":1526.436,"body":"history and helps you define"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1526.484,"endTime":1529.468,"body":"or determine identify what from your history"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1529.57,"endTime":1532.2839999999999,"body":"is impacting you today and isn't serving you"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1532.338,"endTime":1535.068,"body":"and what is impacting your relationship today"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1535.17,"endTime":1537.836,"body":"and isn't serving your relationship today. Going"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1537.874,"endTime":1540.038,"body":"through a, personality assessment with the"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1540.076,"endTime":1540.934,"body":"intention"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1542.874,"endTime":1545.606,"body":"to get you to the point where you truly love yourself,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1545.74,"endTime":1548.706,"body":"all of you, your traits, behaviors, values,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1548.77,"endTime":1550.978,"body":"preferences, dare I say, even your"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1551.036,"endTime":1554.006,"body":"mistakes and where things didn't"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1554.07,"endTime":1557.066,"body":"go well or where your choices weren't serving you,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1557.12,"endTime":1559.85,"body":"helps you identify your goals, wants and needs and it"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1559.872,"endTime":1562.7459999999999,"body":"clarifies your relationship vision, life"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1562.8,"endTime":1565.738,"body":"vision, your requirements, needs and wants because those are"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1565.776,"endTime":1568.634,"body":"slightly different from your personal needs and vision."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1568.714,"endTime":1571.48,"body":"Most of the couples I've worked with or individuals"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1571.512,"endTime":1574.51,"body":"I've worked with, they don't have a life vision. they don't really"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1574.532,"endTime":1577.024,"body":"know what their requirements are. And"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1577.474,"endTime":1580.306,"body":"when I first ask them what do you need or what do you want?"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1580.36,"endTime":1583.23,"body":"Their quick answer usually is I don't know, I'm focused"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1583.262,"endTime":1586.114,"body":"on my partner or I'm focused on the person I care about."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1586.184,"endTime":1588.962,"body":"Can we focus on them because I know what they want?"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1589.048,"endTime":1592.018,"body":"But here's the thing. When you get clear about your vision, requirements,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1592.066,"endTime":1594.918,"body":"needs and wants, then you can communicate them better. 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What do you want to"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1665.4759999999999,"endTime":1668.398,"body":"accomplish with your partner this year and"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1668.436,"endTime":1671.26,"body":"individually? and it also provides a check in"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1671.282,"endTime":1673.9479999999999,"body":"on various aspects of a"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1673.9859999999999,"endTime":1676.9279999999999,"body":"relationship that can go awry, and I'll talk about"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":1676.966,"endTime":1679.744,"body":"those in a minute. 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Ride through"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":2192.718,"endTime":2195.464,"body":"any conflicts calmly enjoy"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":2195.5499999999997,"endTime":2198.4999999999995,"body":"time with your partner again and feel like the best"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":2198.5579999999995,"endTime":2201.3399999999997,"body":"version of yourself as your relationship"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":2201.4579999999996,"endTime":2204.028,"body":"just gets better and better and better. Please"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":2204.082,"endTime":2206.7119999999995,"body":"know you're not in this alone."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":2206.8239999999996,"endTime":2209.598,"body":"As a side note, I mentioned this earlier. 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And if you're feeling like what they're"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":2233.138,"endTime":2235.7859999999996,"body":"saying, their energy resonates with"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":2235.8079999999995,"endTime":2237.8999999999996,"body":"you and there are"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":2238.6699999999996,"endTime":2241.4019999999996,"body":"no barriers or resistance in you,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr Dar","startTime":2241.5359999999996,"endTime":2244.3619999999996,"body":"then they're probably a good fit for you. 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