{"version":"1.0.0","segments":[{"startTime":88.83,"endTime":91.52199999999999,"body":"Welcome to episode 31 of the Better"},{"startTime":91.576,"endTime":94.494,"body":"Relationships podcast. Today's"},{"startTime":94.542,"endTime":97.394,"body":"topic is who is a better option for"},{"startTime":97.432,"endTime":99.78,"body":"you to talk about your marriage problems?"},{"startTime":100.95,"endTime":103.55,"body":"It breaks my heart when I hear my clients"},{"startTime":103.63,"endTime":106.562,"body":"say I don't have anyone to talk to about"},{"startTime":106.616,"endTime":109.47399999999999,"body":"what's going on in my marriage. They say"},{"startTime":109.512,"endTime":112.466,"body":"things like, I don't trust anyone to keep it to"},{"startTime":112.488,"endTime":115.28999999999999,"body":"themselves, to not meddle or try and fix"},{"startTime":115.36,"endTime":118.314,"body":"things. Or they say, I can't even talk"},{"startTime":118.352,"endTime":121.318,"body":"with my spouse about it without hurting their feelings,"},{"startTime":121.494,"endTime":124.314,"body":"causing a fight, being blamed for"},{"startTime":124.352,"endTime":127.31,"body":"causing our problems or making them angry."},{"startTime":129.01,"endTime":131.694,"body":"My wedding day was not the happiest day in my"},{"startTime":131.732,"endTime":134.426,"body":"life. Don't get me wrong, my two wedding"},{"startTime":134.458,"endTime":136.894,"body":"days were lovely. I had two"},{"startTime":136.932,"endTime":139.55,"body":"ceremonies, one asian indian and the other"},{"startTime":139.62,"endTime":142.526,"body":"western. It truly was a celebration of our"},{"startTime":142.548,"endTime":145.25,"body":"union with in front of family and"},{"startTime":145.32,"endTime":147.73,"body":"friends, surrounded by"},{"startTime":147.8,"endTime":150.466,"body":"love. But I would be"},{"startTime":150.488,"endTime":153.36599999999999,"body":"remiss to not come clean with you and tell you"},{"startTime":153.388,"endTime":156.278,"body":"that my happiest day was the day the man I"},{"startTime":156.284,"endTime":159.11,"body":"was dating. Now, my husband said"},{"startTime":159.18,"endTime":162.038,"body":"I would never meet anyone else more committed to"},{"startTime":162.04399999999998,"endTime":164.954,"body":"me than he is. And that's what"},{"startTime":164.99200000000002,"endTime":167.85,"body":"made my wedding day all the more special because"},{"startTime":167.92000000000002,"endTime":170.874,"body":"that was the symbolic day when I"},{"startTime":170.91199999999998,"endTime":173.06,"body":"fully committed myself to him."},{"startTime":173.35,"endTime":176.054,"body":"Given I've been married for 23 plus years,"},{"startTime":176.172,"endTime":179.142,"body":"I feel that marriage is a beautiful thing, but"},{"startTime":179.196,"endTime":182.07,"body":"no one mentions that it requires daily care"},{"startTime":182.14,"endTime":184.69400000000002,"body":"and feeding among all the other"},{"startTime":184.732,"endTime":187.36599999999999,"body":"responsibilities we have in our life."},{"startTime":187.548,"endTime":190.314,"body":"We both are also committed to supporting each other"},{"startTime":190.352,"endTime":193.24200000000002,"body":"and maintaining an environment in which we each can"},{"startTime":193.296,"endTime":196.28199999999998,"body":"thrive. But not all my relationships have worked"},{"startTime":196.336,"endTime":199.20999999999998,"body":"towards being healthy, happy, or harmonious."},{"startTime":199.57,"endTime":202.414,"body":"And the times I was in a relationship that"},{"startTime":202.452,"endTime":204.59,"body":"was riddled with either financial,"},{"startTime":205.09,"endTime":207.67399999999998,"body":"legal, emotional connection,"},{"startTime":207.802,"endTime":209.834,"body":"compatibility, domestic"},{"startTime":209.882,"endTime":212.82999999999998,"body":"responsibilities, family interactions,"},{"startTime":213.19,"endTime":216.082,"body":"attraction or respect issues,"},{"startTime":216.216,"endTime":219.026,"body":"to name just a few. I did"},{"startTime":219.048,"endTime":221.79399999999998,"body":"not have anyone to talk to back then,"},{"startTime":221.91199999999998,"endTime":224.81400000000002,"body":"so I took a lot of classes,"},{"startTime":224.942,"endTime":227.942,"body":"bought and read a lot of books, and worked"},{"startTime":227.99599999999998,"endTime":230.66199999999998,"body":"through it on my own. As I look"},{"startTime":230.716,"endTime":233.654,"body":"back towards those days, I see now"},{"startTime":233.692,"endTime":236.502,"body":"it was a lonely approach and it took me"},{"startTime":236.55599999999998,"endTime":239.25799999999998,"body":"years instead of minutes to create"},{"startTime":239.344,"endTime":241.75400000000002,"body":"transformation. All that to"},{"startTime":241.79199999999997,"endTime":244.70999999999998,"body":"say, when things start to feel overwhelming"},{"startTime":244.79000000000002,"endTime":247.05,"body":"or difficult in your marriage, it is"},{"startTime":247.12,"endTime":249.78199999999998,"body":"essential to find someone to confide"},{"startTime":249.846,"endTime":252.762,"body":"in. It might not be the best decision"},{"startTime":252.82600000000002,"endTime":255.61399999999998,"body":"to turn to friends and family, as they may not be well"},{"startTime":255.652,"endTime":258.362,"body":"equipped to provide the unbiased guidance"},{"startTime":258.426,"endTime":261.054,"body":"and advice you need. So"},{"startTime":261.172,"endTime":264.034,"body":"I'm going to walk through who you should and should not"},{"startTime":264.072,"endTime":267.058,"body":"talk to about your marriage problems and why."},{"startTime":267.224,"endTime":270.034,"body":"I'll also discuss the pros and benefits of"},{"startTime":270.072,"endTime":272.654,"body":"marriage coaching versus couples"},{"startTime":272.702,"endTime":275.694,"body":"therapy, uh, and make a case for marriage coaching"},{"startTime":275.742,"endTime":278.546,"body":"as a better option. M so when you're"},{"startTime":278.578,"endTime":279.346,"body":"going through rough."},{"startTime":279.378,"endTime":282.31,"body":"Patches in your marriage, it really is natural to wonder"},{"startTime":282.38,"endTime":283.174,"body":"who you can talk."},{"startTime":283.212,"endTime":286.166,"body":"To about the marriage problems, and in"},{"startTime":286.188,"endTime":288.954,"body":"a pinch, it's very easy to turn to close"},{"startTime":288.992,"endTime":291.74,"body":"friends or family members for guidance and support."},{"startTime":292.11,"endTime":294.934,"body":"But it is essential to be ultra"},{"startTime":294.98199999999997,"endTime":297.914,"body":"selective and frankly, protective about who you"},{"startTime":297.952,"endTime":300.686,"body":"talk to. I recommend that you choose someone who can"},{"startTime":300.70799999999997,"endTime":303.642,"body":"provide objective, honest advice without judgment"},{"startTime":303.706,"endTime":305.934,"body":"and beyond advice, ask you questions"},{"startTime":306.052,"endTime":308.49399999999997,"body":"to discern for yourself"},{"startTime":308.692,"endTime":311.342,"body":"the answers that you're looking for."},{"startTime":311.476,"endTime":313.954,"body":"It is also crucial to consider the"},{"startTime":313.992,"endTime":316.914,"body":"consequences of revealing too much information"},{"startTime":317.032,"endTime":319.826,"body":"to family and friends. For example,"},{"startTime":319.928,"endTime":322.802,"body":"if you tell your mother in law about your marriage issues,"},{"startTime":322.936,"endTime":325.926,"body":"she could develop resentment towards you or your"},{"startTime":325.948,"endTime":328.886,"body":"partner, and that creates tension and stress in the"},{"startTime":328.908,"endTime":331.714,"body":"relationship. That situation is totally"},{"startTime":331.762,"endTime":334.598,"body":"not desirable because retaining a"},{"startTime":334.604,"endTime":337.574,"body":"steady relationship with your partner and their family is important for"},{"startTime":337.612,"endTime":340.166,"body":"your sake and your marriage's sake and your partner's"},{"startTime":340.198,"endTime":343.014,"body":"sake. It's also safer not to involve"},{"startTime":343.062,"endTime":345.89799999999997,"body":"close friends, especially those who may take"},{"startTime":345.984,"endTime":348.77799999999996,"body":"sides, either yours or your partner's side."},{"startTime":348.94399999999996,"endTime":351.614,"body":"Not only that, it can make things really awkward for"},{"startTime":351.652,"endTime":354.414,"body":"them and you at events where"},{"startTime":354.452,"endTime":357.406,"body":"you are there together. Remember, your marital problems"},{"startTime":357.508,"endTime":360.44599999999997,"body":"are extremely personal and should not be a topic of"},{"startTime":360.46799999999996,"endTime":363.42199999999997,"body":"discussion with everyone around you. I'll be talking more"},{"startTime":363.476,"endTime":366.466,"body":"about friends and family. I wanted to bring it up now because"},{"startTime":366.488,"endTime":369.33,"body":"it seems to be the most popular place"},{"startTime":369.4,"endTime":372.19399999999996,"body":"where couples turn to first, or they"},{"startTime":372.23199999999997,"endTime":375.026,"body":"don't seek help at all and suffer on their"},{"startTime":375.048,"endTime":377.75,"body":"own, or think it's going to magically get better"},{"startTime":377.82,"endTime":380.518,"body":"over time or dare I say, have a."},{"startTime":380.524,"endTime":382.35999999999996,"body":"Baby or get a new job."},{"startTime":382.35999999999996,"endTime":384.966,"body":"Um, something to disrupt the"},{"startTime":384.988,"endTime":387.86199999999997,"body":"situation, thinking that it's going to make the relationship"},{"startTime":387.996,"endTime":390.69399999999996,"body":"better. Now I'd like to talk about the benefits of marriage"},{"startTime":390.74199999999996,"endTime":393.498,"body":"coaching versus couples therapy as"},{"startTime":393.664,"endTime":396.534,"body":"an option for whom to turn to when facing"},{"startTime":396.582,"endTime":399.142,"body":"marriage problems. When it comes to seeking"},{"startTime":399.20599999999996,"endTime":402.142,"body":"professional help for your marital problems, you may think"},{"startTime":402.19599999999997,"endTime":404.654,"body":"only of couples therapy or religious based"},{"startTime":404.692,"endTime":407.59799999999996,"body":"counseling. However, marriage coaching is another"},{"startTime":407.68399999999997,"endTime":410.574,"body":"option to seriously consider as it does"},{"startTime":410.61199999999997,"endTime":413.354,"body":"not have the same stigma attached to it as therapy"},{"startTime":413.402,"endTime":416.114,"body":"does. And to be honest, it is an"},{"startTime":416.152,"endTime":418.882,"body":"easier option to get your partner to agree"},{"startTime":418.936,"endTime":421.566,"body":"to and participate in with you. Marriage"},{"startTime":421.59799999999996,"endTime":424.514,"body":"coaching focuses on providing guidance and support for"},{"startTime":424.55199999999996,"endTime":426.84,"body":"couples who want to strengthen their relationship"},{"startTime":427.21,"endTime":430.19399999999996,"body":"and work through any issues they may be facing."},{"startTime":430.322,"endTime":433.074,"body":"At its core, marriage coaching is about helping"},{"startTime":433.12199999999996,"endTime":435.654,"body":"couples build a strong foundation for their"},{"startTime":435.692,"endTime":438.294,"body":"relationship. This includes developing effective"},{"startTime":438.342,"endTime":441.20599999999996,"body":"communication skills, learning how to collaborate"},{"startTime":441.238,"endTime":444.186,"body":"with each other, resolving differences and conflicts in"},{"startTime":444.20799999999997,"endTime":446.88599999999997,"body":"a healthy way, learning about each other's"},{"startTime":446.998,"endTime":449.914,"body":"personalities, motivations and needs, and"},{"startTime":449.952,"endTime":452.542,"body":"collaborating to get them filled and"},{"startTime":452.596,"endTime":455.306,"body":"setting goals together for the future. A marriage"},{"startTime":455.33799999999997,"endTime":458.334,"body":"coach can also provide personalized a marriage coach can"},{"startTime":458.37199999999996,"endTime":461.246,"body":"also provide personalized guidance based on the"},{"startTime":461.268,"endTime":463.794,"body":"specific needs and dynamics of each"},{"startTime":463.832,"endTime":466.402,"body":"couple, making your experience more"},{"startTime":466.45599999999996,"endTime":468.578,"body":"tailored, specific and"},{"startTime":468.664,"endTime":471.486,"body":"effective. In addition, marriage coaching provides"},{"startTime":471.518,"endTime":474.19399999999996,"body":"a safe and neutral space for you to"},{"startTime":474.23199999999997,"endTime":477.054,"body":"discuss the issues in your relationship. Unlike"},{"startTime":477.102,"endTime":479.894,"body":"therapy where one person might feel like that they're being"},{"startTime":479.93199999999996,"endTime":482.88599999999997,"body":"singled out as the problem, marriage coaching focuses on"},{"startTime":482.90799999999996,"endTime":485.734,"body":"the relationship and what you both can do"},{"startTime":485.852,"endTime":488.45799999999997,"body":"for the sake of the relationship, the benefit of the"},{"startTime":488.464,"endTime":491.402,"body":"relationship and the success of the relationship. This"},{"startTime":491.45599999999996,"endTime":494.25,"body":"can help both partners feel more comfortable, become"},{"startTime":494.32,"endTime":497.222,"body":"completely transparent, feel supported in sharing"},{"startTime":497.286,"endTime":500.222,"body":"things that they would not normally say, and become"},{"startTime":500.276,"endTime":503.13399999999996,"body":"more open to working on the issues together,"},{"startTime":503.252,"endTime":505.98199999999997,"body":"but also celebrating the successes where"},{"startTime":506.036,"endTime":508.37,"body":"things are working in their relationship and, um,"},{"startTime":508.852,"endTime":511.774,"body":"creating a vitality plan. A relationship"},{"startTime":511.892,"endTime":514.654,"body":"vitality plan that focuses on building your"},{"startTime":514.692,"endTime":517.4540000000001,"body":"relationship and growing together as well as"},{"startTime":517.492,"endTime":520.258,"body":"individuals. Another benefit of marriage coaching is the"},{"startTime":520.264,"endTime":523.106,"body":"flexibility it offers. Sessions can be tailored to"},{"startTime":523.128,"endTime":525.686,"body":"fit your busy schedule, making it easier for you to"},{"startTime":525.708,"endTime":528.5020000000001,"body":"prioritize your relationship. Another benefit of"},{"startTime":528.556,"endTime":530.84,"body":"marriage coaching is the flexibility it, uh,"},{"startTime":530.972,"endTime":533.83,"body":"offers. Sessions are usually tailored to fit"},{"startTime":533.9,"endTime":536.774,"body":"your needs and your schedule, making it"},{"startTime":536.812,"endTime":537.202,"body":"easier."},{"startTime":537.266,"endTime":540.0740000000001,"body":"For you to prioritize your relationship with"},{"startTime":540.112,"endTime":541.4780000000001,"body":"or without your partner."},{"startTime":541.5740000000001,"endTime":544.474,"body":"Marriage coaching combines professional expertise with"},{"startTime":544.5120000000001,"endTime":547.434,"body":"a friendly and approachable tone, making it"},{"startTime":547.472,"endTime":550.234,"body":"an effective tool for couples who want to strengthen"},{"startTime":550.282,"endTime":553.034,"body":"their relationship. With its focus on helping couples"},{"startTime":553.082,"endTime":555.614,"body":"achieve their desired goals, enhancing their"},{"startTime":555.652,"endTime":558.282,"body":"emotional connection, improving communication"},{"startTime":558.346,"endTime":561.114,"body":"and intimacy, addressing concerns"},{"startTime":561.162,"endTime":563.49,"body":"that they might have in the moment,"},{"startTime":563.64,"endTime":566.45,"body":"and creating a healthy, happy,"},{"startTime":566.52,"endTime":569.134,"body":"harmonious relationship that sustains"},{"startTime":569.182,"endTime":572.146,"body":"itself into your future, marriage coaching can"},{"startTime":572.168,"endTime":575.106,"body":"help couples build a strong foundation for a happy and"},{"startTime":575.128,"endTime":577.926,"body":"fulfilling partnership. If you're looking to improve your"},{"startTime":577.948,"endTime":580.886,"body":"relationship or just want to learn how to better communicate with"},{"startTime":580.908,"endTime":583.5740000000001,"body":"your partner, consider giving marriage coaching a try."},{"startTime":583.692,"endTime":586.534,"body":"It may be just what your relationship needs"},{"startTime":586.572,"endTime":589.306,"body":"to thrive, and it's never too late to work on your"},{"startTime":589.328,"endTime":592.138,"body":"marriage and make it better or the best it can be."},{"startTime":592.224,"endTime":594.9060000000001,"body":"Unlike couples therapy, which usually means"},{"startTime":595.008,"endTime":595.606,"body":"reliving."},{"startTime":595.638,"endTime":597.866,"body":"The past over and over again to."},{"startTime":597.888,"endTime":600.374,"body":"Uncover and deal with unresolved issues,"},{"startTime":600.5120000000001,"endTime":603.2940000000001,"body":"marriage coaching operates on the present and future,"},{"startTime":603.412,"endTime":606.366,"body":"helping you prioritize what is important now."},{"startTime":606.4680000000001,"endTime":608.654,"body":"And work on what's going on now."},{"startTime":608.772,"endTime":611.422,"body":"Here are some possible options for"},{"startTime":611.476,"endTime":613.9820000000001,"body":"seeking help and talking about your marriage"},{"startTime":614.046,"endTime":616.5260000000001,"body":"problems. The first one is marriage and couples"},{"startTime":616.558,"endTime":619.442,"body":"coaching. Marriage or couples coaching involves working"},{"startTime":619.4960000000001,"endTime":622.1460000000001,"body":"with a professional coach who is trained in"},{"startTime":622.168,"endTime":625.166,"body":"helping individuals and couples improve their"},{"startTime":625.2080000000001,"endTime":628.1940000000001,"body":"relationships. This can be done through individual or joint"},{"startTime":628.2420000000001,"endTime":630.9820000000001,"body":"coaching sessions where you and your partner can learn"},{"startTime":631.0360000000001,"endTime":633.5540000000001,"body":"effective communication skills, problem solving"},{"startTime":633.6020000000001,"endTime":636.4060000000001,"body":"techniques and strategies for building a"},{"startTime":636.428,"endTime":637.462,"body":"stronger marriage."},{"startTime":637.5260000000001,"endTime":640.134,"body":"Here are the pros of marriage coaching. You'll"},{"startTime":640.182,"endTime":643.014,"body":"experience improved communication, conflict"},{"startTime":643.062,"endTime":645.606,"body":"resolution skills, increased emotional"},{"startTime":645.638,"endTime":648.022,"body":"intimacy, faster relief and measurable"},{"startTime":648.086,"endTime":650.8820000000001,"body":"results enhanced relationship satisfaction"},{"startTime":650.966,"endTime":653.774,"body":"and an actionable plan to keep your"},{"startTime":653.812,"endTime":656.5740000000001,"body":"relationship on the right path going forward. The"},{"startTime":656.6120000000001,"endTime":659.562,"body":"cons of marriage coaching could be there's a potential"},{"startTime":659.6260000000001,"endTime":662.4340000000001,"body":"for dependency and it's not suitable for more"},{"startTime":662.4720000000001,"endTime":665.09,"body":"serious mental or emotional health issues."},{"startTime":665.24,"endTime":668.0,"body":"There could also be concerns around, uh,"},{"startTime":668.07,"endTime":670.7220000000001,"body":"financial investment. My experience"},{"startTime":670.856,"endTime":673.826,"body":"of marriage coaching and relationship coaching, when you"},{"startTime":673.8480000000001,"endTime":676.5020000000001,"body":"find the right match for you is"},{"startTime":676.556,"endTime":679.426,"body":"also, uh, a pro, is that it's"},{"startTime":679.4580000000001,"endTime":682.4540000000001,"body":"more expeditious. You get results much faster because"},{"startTime":682.4920000000001,"endTime":685.366,"body":"there is focus on the results that you want"},{"startTime":685.388,"endTime":688.2460000000001,"body":"to have happen. The next option is marriage counseling"},{"startTime":688.278,"endTime":690.9340000000001,"body":"or therapy. Marriage counselors and therapist"},{"startTime":690.9820000000001,"endTime":693.8340000000001,"body":"professionals are trained to provide therapeutic and"},{"startTime":693.8720000000001,"endTime":696.486,"body":"clinical solutions for individuals and couples"},{"startTime":696.518,"endTime":698.986,"body":"struggling in their marriages. They focus on the"},{"startTime":699.008,"endTime":701.466,"body":"past to help resolve the issues you're"},{"startTime":701.498,"endTime":704.2860000000001,"body":"experiencing with a diagnostic approach. The"},{"startTime":704.308,"endTime":706.714,"body":"pros of marriage counseling include improved"},{"startTime":706.7620000000001,"endTime":709.69,"body":"communication, developing conflict resolution skills,"},{"startTime":709.7700000000001,"endTime":712.254,"body":"strengthening emotional connection, and gaining new"},{"startTime":712.292,"endTime":714.8620000000001,"body":"perspectives. The cons of marriage counseling"},{"startTime":714.926,"endTime":717.714,"body":"include financial costs, the time commitment, a"},{"startTime":717.7520000000001,"endTime":720.594,"body":"potential for unresolved issues, and I hear"},{"startTime":720.6320000000001,"endTime":723.106,"body":"this one a lot, incompatibility with a"},{"startTime":723.128,"endTime":725.6700000000001,"body":"therapist, as well as this issue"},{"startTime":725.82,"endTime":728.7420000000001,"body":"where the therapist tells the couple that they should"},{"startTime":728.796,"endTime":731.522,"body":"split up or they're taking sides,"},{"startTime":731.586,"endTime":734.562,"body":"or they're bringing their own biases or belief systems"},{"startTime":734.6260000000001,"endTime":737.414,"body":"to the counseling sessions. Another option"},{"startTime":737.532,"endTime":740.422,"body":"is that you could talk with friends or family members. I've already"},{"startTime":740.476,"endTime":743.4340000000001,"body":"talked about this a little bit, but I'm going to review it"},{"startTime":743.4720000000001,"endTime":746.426,"body":"some more here. Sometimes talking to a close friend or"},{"startTime":746.4480000000001,"endTime":749.446,"body":"family member can be helpful. They can offer a listening"},{"startTime":749.4780000000001,"endTime":752.3340000000001,"body":"ear, support and even some valuable advice based"},{"startTime":752.3720000000001,"endTime":755.2940000000001,"body":"on their own experiences. It's easy to"},{"startTime":755.332,"endTime":758.0780000000001,"body":"call them because we share our lives with them."},{"startTime":758.164,"endTime":760.7660000000001,"body":"However, it's important to choose someone who will be"},{"startTime":760.788,"endTime":763.7620000000001,"body":"unbiased and nonjudgmental in their approach and"},{"startTime":763.816,"endTime":766.4340000000001,"body":"someone who will be able to interact with you and your"},{"startTime":766.4720000000001,"endTime":769.2180000000001,"body":"partner at events without it being"},{"startTime":769.3040000000001,"endTime":772.13,"body":"awkward and without watching you both"},{"startTime":772.2,"endTime":775.058,"body":"with that, uh, judgmental eye. Here are the pros and"},{"startTime":775.0640000000001,"endTime":777.5540000000001,"body":"cons of talking to friends and family about marriage"},{"startTime":777.6020000000001,"endTime":780.47,"body":"problems. It's always good to have a support"},{"startTime":780.5400000000001,"endTime":783.014,"body":"system, but discussing your marriage problems in"},{"startTime":783.052,"endTime":786.022,"body":"detail or issues with your partner or about"},{"startTime":786.076,"endTime":788.7420000000001,"body":"your partner with friends and family may not be the best"},{"startTime":788.796,"endTime":791.658,"body":"idea. So here are the pros and cons. The good"},{"startTime":791.744,"endTime":794.6460000000001,"body":"they may provide emotional support and cheer you up when you're"},{"startTime":794.678,"endTime":797.514,"body":"feeling down, but you know you can receive that without going"},{"startTime":797.552,"endTime":799.994,"body":"into the nitty gritty details about your relationship"},{"startTime":800.1120000000001,"endTime":802.974,"body":"issues. They can also help you gain new insights into"},{"startTime":803.0120000000001,"endTime":805.9340000000001,"body":"your specific situation. They could share their own"},{"startTime":805.9720000000001,"endTime":808.586,"body":"experiences and insights that may be helpful."},{"startTime":808.6980000000001,"endTime":811.546,"body":"They also, and talking about your issues out loud"},{"startTime":811.5780000000001,"endTime":814.446,"body":"to someone else can help you clarify and understand the"},{"startTime":814.4680000000001,"endTime":817.33,"body":"problem better. Here are the cons. Your family or friends"},{"startTime":817.4000000000001,"endTime":820.2700000000001,"body":"may take sides and develop resentment towards your partner."},{"startTime":820.35,"endTime":823.2660000000001,"body":"They may not have the experience, skills or knowledge necessary to"},{"startTime":823.288,"endTime":826.13,"body":"help you, and sharing sensitive information with people outside"},{"startTime":826.2,"endTime":829.142,"body":"your marriage may cause problems and"},{"startTime":829.196,"endTime":832.166,"body":"make it an awkward situation for your partner. They"},{"startTime":832.188,"endTime":835.094,"body":"also can have the tendency to get involved in your"},{"startTime":835.1320000000001,"endTime":838.086,"body":"marital problems and try to help, which only leads to"},{"startTime":838.1080000000001,"endTime":839.666,"body":"additional stress and tension."},{"startTime":839.778,"endTime":842.1020000000001,"body":"The fourth option can be support groups."},{"startTime":842.166,"endTime":844.7940000000001,"body":"There are so many support groups specifically for"},{"startTime":844.832,"endTime":847.498,"body":"individuals going through marriage problems. They provide a"},{"startTime":847.504,"endTime":850.3140000000001,"body":"venue where you can talk about the problems, and these"},{"startTime":850.3520000000001,"endTime":853.3380000000001,"body":"groups can provide a sense of community and understanding,"},{"startTime":853.514,"endTime":856.2700000000001,"body":"as well as the opportunity to learn from others"},{"startTime":856.34,"endTime":859.2460000000001,"body":"who may be experiencing similar issues. Here are the"},{"startTime":859.268,"endTime":861.706,"body":"pros of using support groups emotional"},{"startTime":861.738,"endTime":864.394,"body":"support, shared experiences, different"},{"startTime":864.452,"endTime":867.234,"body":"perspectives, understanding and seeing that you're not"},{"startTime":867.272,"endTime":870.1460000000001,"body":"alone in this, and learning and growth. Here"},{"startTime":870.168,"endTime":873.1020000000001,"body":"are the negatives or cons of using support groups."},{"startTime":873.166,"endTime":876.0060000000001,"body":"There usually is a lack of professional guidance or a"},{"startTime":876.028,"endTime":878.758,"body":"focus on the individual. There is"},{"startTime":878.844,"endTime":881.7660000000001,"body":"a huge potential for misinformation, especially"},{"startTime":881.868,"endTime":884.69,"body":"today with so much misinformation"},{"startTime":884.7700000000001,"endTime":887.5260000000001,"body":"online and offline, there could be an issue with the"},{"startTime":887.548,"endTime":890.342,"body":"group dynamics that could be unhealthy. And there"},{"startTime":890.3960000000001,"endTime":893.322,"body":"are privacy concerns involved as well"},{"startTime":893.3760000000001,"endTime":896.2660000000001,"body":"because there is a tendency for people to share outside of the"},{"startTime":896.288,"endTime":899.258,"body":"group even though they've been told to or not to, and they"},{"startTime":899.264,"endTime":901.9820000000001,"body":"may have signed something stating that they wouldn't, but they do"},{"startTime":902.0360000000001,"endTime":905.034,"body":"anyway. The next option is using online resources"},{"startTime":905.082,"endTime":907.8860000000001,"body":"and forums. Technology is amazing, there"},{"startTime":907.908,"endTime":910.7460000000001,"body":"is no doubt, and there's so many online resources"},{"startTime":950.4780000000001,"endTime":953.0740000000001,"body":"and forums available now for discussing marriage"},{"startTime":953.1220000000001,"endTime":955.8140000000001,"body":"problems. You can find articles, videos and"},{"startTime":955.8520000000001,"endTime":958.7260000000001,"body":"forums and Facebook groups where you can"},{"startTime":958.748,"endTime":961.3820000000001,"body":"connect with others and discuss your issues, sometimes"},{"startTime":961.5160000000001,"endTime":964.4140000000001,"body":"anonymously. Problem with these online resources"},{"startTime":964.4820000000001,"endTime":967.402,"body":"if you are not signing up with your own account"},{"startTime":967.5360000000001,"endTime":970.378,"body":"and a stringent privacy policy"},{"startTime":970.464,"endTime":973.2420000000001,"body":"and confidentiality agreement for those"},{"startTime":973.296,"endTime":975.8140000000001,"body":"sites, it is not anonymous,"},{"startTime":975.9420000000001,"endTime":978.926,"body":"even though people think it is. Here"},{"startTime":978.9480000000001,"endTime":981.6300000000001,"body":"are the pros and cons. The pros of using online"},{"startTime":981.7,"endTime":984.5740000000001,"body":"resources and forums include giving you"},{"startTime":984.6120000000001,"endTime":987.1020000000001,"body":"access to a wide range of information"},{"startTime":987.2360000000001,"endTime":990.0260000000001,"body":"and expertise, from which you"},{"startTime":990.0680000000001,"endTime":992.7540000000001,"body":"can then make your own decisions and choices and"},{"startTime":992.792,"endTime":995.6980000000001,"body":"sort through your thoughts and feelings. It"},{"startTime":995.7040000000001,"endTime":998.4940000000001,"body":"can provide networking opportunities and collaboration,"},{"startTime":998.6220000000001,"endTime":1001.474,"body":"and it provides the convenience and flexibility of"},{"startTime":1001.5120000000001,"endTime":1004.3180000000001,"body":"accessing information. Here are the cons of"},{"startTime":1004.344,"endTime":1007.3180000000001,"body":"using online resources and forums. There can be a"},{"startTime":1007.3240000000001,"endTime":1010.1500000000001,"body":"lack of reliability and credibility of information,"},{"startTime":1010.3000000000001,"endTime":1012.806,"body":"requiring you to put in a lot more time of"},{"startTime":1012.8280000000001,"endTime":1015.3700000000001,"body":"validating it. There's a lack of face to face"},{"startTime":1015.44,"endTime":1018.1540000000001,"body":"interaction and human connection, and we as human"},{"startTime":1018.1920000000001,"endTime":1020.7940000000001,"body":"beings really need that there's a potential for"},{"startTime":1020.8320000000001,"endTime":1023.542,"body":"misinformation and truly very biased"},{"startTime":1023.6060000000001,"endTime":1026.282,"body":"opinions. Here are some cautions as"},{"startTime":1026.336,"endTime":1028.99,"body":"you use or contemplate using online"},{"startTime":1029.06,"endTime":1031.7740000000001,"body":"resources and forums, it's important that"},{"startTime":1031.8120000000001,"endTime":1034.478,"body":"you maintain your own critical thinking"},{"startTime":1034.564,"endTime":1036.99,"body":"and use your own discernment."},{"startTime":1037.81,"endTime":1040.782,"body":"You should supplement your online resources with offline"},{"startTime":1040.846,"endTime":1043.57,"body":"resources and make sure that there's overlap and"},{"startTime":1043.64,"endTime":1045.986,"body":"synchronicity between them and"},{"startTime":1046.1680000000001,"endTime":1049.154,"body":"engage in healthy online discussions in your"},{"startTime":1049.192,"endTime":1052.114,"body":"communities. The 6th option consists of self"},{"startTime":1052.152,"endTime":1055.042,"body":"help books. Selfhelp books can be a valuable"},{"startTime":1055.106,"endTime":1057.89,"body":"resource for working through marriage problems. These books"},{"startTime":1057.97,"endTime":1060.854,"body":"teach you skills. They offer guidance, advice and"},{"startTime":1060.892,"endTime":1063.474,"body":"exercises to help improve communication, resolve"},{"startTime":1063.522,"endTime":1066.406,"body":"conflicts and strengthen the overall relationship. It's"},{"startTime":1066.438,"endTime":1069.2740000000001,"body":"essential to find a book that resonates with you and your"},{"startTime":1069.3120000000001,"endTime":1072.122,"body":"specific issues, but also something"},{"startTime":1072.176,"endTime":1075.05,"body":"your partner is willing to use without"},{"startTime":1075.1200000000001,"endTime":1077.9460000000001,"body":"you pushing it on them. Here are the pros of using"},{"startTime":1078.048,"endTime":1080.574,"body":"selfhelp books. They are easily accessible and"},{"startTime":1080.612,"endTime":1083.582,"body":"affordable. They provide self empowerment and self"},{"startTime":1083.636,"endTime":1086.094,"body":"reflection. They offer practical advice and"},{"startTime":1086.132,"endTime":1089.13,"body":"strategies based on having worked"},{"startTime":1089.22,"endTime":1091.81,"body":"with couples for however long"},{"startTime":1091.88,"endTime":1094.8020000000001,"body":"years. In some cases, they focus on the"},{"startTime":1094.856,"endTime":1097.65,"body":"common skills and strategies, common"},{"startTime":1097.72,"endTime":1100.626,"body":"practical advice and strategies and they provide an"},{"startTime":1100.6480000000001,"endTime":1103.426,"body":"opportunity for independent learning and growth. But the"},{"startTime":1103.448,"endTime":1106.194,"body":"cons of using self help books include"},{"startTime":1106.242,"endTime":1109.094,"body":"lack of personalization. There might be stories and"},{"startTime":1109.132,"endTime":1112.118,"body":"cases that you can relate to based on your own relationship,"},{"startTime":1112.284,"endTime":1115.2740000000001,"body":"but they also may not be. But there also"},{"startTime":1115.3120000000001,"endTime":1117.4660000000001,"body":"may not be. There also tends to be an"},{"startTime":1117.488,"endTime":1120.426,"body":"oversimplification of very complex issues."},{"startTime":1120.608,"endTime":1123.594,"body":"Selfhelp books can also leave couples and"},{"startTime":1123.632,"endTime":1126.374,"body":"individuals with unrealistic expectations."},{"startTime":1126.502,"endTime":1129.374,"body":"And there also creation for the potential for"},{"startTime":1129.412,"endTime":1132.026,"body":"self doubt and frustration is couples"},{"startTime":1132.058,"endTime":1134.622,"body":"retreats. This is for couples looking for a more"},{"startTime":1134.676,"endTime":1137.306,"body":"immersive experience. There are also retreats"},{"startTime":1137.338,"endTime":1139.9660000000001,"body":"designed specifically for working on marriage"},{"startTime":1139.998,"endTime":1142.926,"body":"problems. These retreats offer workshops, therapy"},{"startTime":1142.958,"endTime":1145.886,"body":"or coaching sessions and activities to help couples"},{"startTime":1145.9180000000001,"endTime":1148.4660000000001,"body":"reconnect and improve their relationship in a"},{"startTime":1148.488,"endTime":1151.026,"body":"supportive and structured environment. Look for"},{"startTime":1151.048,"endTime":1153.686,"body":"retreats that are led by licensed therapists or"},{"startTime":1153.708,"endTime":1156.614,"body":"counselors or couples coaches and"},{"startTime":1156.732,"endTime":1159.394,"body":"ensure that you and your partner aren't"},{"startTime":1159.442,"endTime":1162.2939999999999,"body":"having issues collaborating to improve your"},{"startTime":1162.3319999999999,"endTime":1164.818,"body":"relationship. Otherwise, you're both going to a"},{"startTime":1164.844,"endTime":1167.546,"body":"retreat and the issues are going to"},{"startTime":1167.568,"endTime":1170.394,"body":"present themselves where you're not working together and"},{"startTime":1170.432,"endTime":1173.098,"body":"collaborating together to improve your relationship."},{"startTime":1173.264,"endTime":1175.974,"body":"Here are the pros of couples retreats."},{"startTime":1176.1019999999999,"endTime":1178.9859999999999,"body":"There's an opportunity for focused communication."},{"startTime":1179.1779999999999,"endTime":1181.694,"body":"There can be opportunity to"},{"startTime":1181.812,"endTime":1184.202,"body":"spend time with the retreat"},{"startTime":1184.266,"endTime":1187.258,"body":"provider, therapist, counselor or couple's coach."},{"startTime":1187.354,"endTime":1190.258,"body":"In addition to group settings and group learning, you"},{"startTime":1190.264,"endTime":1192.594,"body":"can learn and implement effective relationship"},{"startTime":1192.712,"endTime":1195.634,"body":"skills. You receive some professional guidance and"},{"startTime":1195.672,"endTime":1198.514,"body":"support and it can provide the opportunity for"},{"startTime":1198.552,"endTime":1201.49,"body":"an intense bonding experience. The cons"},{"startTime":1201.56,"endTime":1204.354,"body":"of couples retreats include limited long term"},{"startTime":1204.402,"endTime":1207.202,"body":"impact, a financial investment, a potential"},{"startTime":1207.266,"endTime":1210.146,"body":"for discomfort and vulnerability and lack"},{"startTime":1210.1779999999999,"endTime":1212.998,"body":"of individualized attention. I want to provide a"},{"startTime":1213.004,"endTime":1215.99,"body":"side note here. I am not a believer"},{"startTime":1216.07,"endTime":1218.874,"body":"or a fan or supporter for creating a"},{"startTime":1218.912,"endTime":1221.494,"body":"situation for discomfort and vulnerability"},{"startTime":1221.622,"endTime":1224.5539999999999,"body":"for not feeling safe. That whole notion in the"},{"startTime":1224.5919999999999,"endTime":1227.446,"body":"therapy and um, achievement world and"},{"startTime":1227.488,"endTime":1230.078,"body":"performance coaching, uh, world is"},{"startTime":1230.244,"endTime":1232.654,"body":"stretch beyond your comfort zone. Things have to be"},{"startTime":1232.692,"endTime":1235.498,"body":"uncomfortable for you to experience transformation."},{"startTime":1235.594,"endTime":1238.382,"body":"I for one do not believe that I feel very"},{"startTime":1238.436,"endTime":1241.406,"body":"strongly and believe that that creates trauma and"},{"startTime":1241.4279999999999,"endTime":1244.306,"body":"more pain and struggle and delays the benefits and"},{"startTime":1244.328,"endTime":1247.186,"body":"results that you can get for marriage coaching. I'll get"},{"startTime":1247.208,"endTime":1249.854,"body":"off that soapbox now and talk about the 8th"},{"startTime":1249.902,"endTime":1252.83,"body":"option which is pastoral or religious counseling."},{"startTime":1252.91,"endTime":1255.874,"body":"For those of you who are deeply religious, pastoral"},{"startTime":1255.922,"endTime":1258.854,"body":"counseling can be a helpful option for working through your"},{"startTime":1258.892,"endTime":1261.654,"body":"marital problems. These counseling sessions are often"},{"startTime":1261.692,"endTime":1264.562,"body":"led by clergy members and can incorporate"},{"startTime":1264.626,"endTime":1267.394,"body":"religious beliefs into the therapy process."},{"startTime":1267.532,"endTime":1270.314,"body":"It's important to find a counselor who aligns with your"},{"startTime":1270.3519999999999,"endTime":1272.902,"body":"religious values and is trained in marital"},{"startTime":1272.966,"endTime":1275.866,"body":"counseling and that you feel safe and trust there"},{"startTime":1275.888,"endTime":1278.666,"body":"will not be any leaks to flame gossip in your religious"},{"startTime":1278.6979999999999,"endTime":1281.274,"body":"community. The pros of talking to pastoral"},{"startTime":1281.322,"endTime":1283.966,"body":"counselors include religious guidance and support,"},{"startTime":1284.068,"endTime":1286.734,"body":"shared values and beliefs, and integration of"},{"startTime":1286.772,"endTime":1289.738,"body":"faith. Shared faith, values and beliefs"},{"startTime":1289.834,"endTime":1292.782,"body":"I want to share a side note here because of the clients"},{"startTime":1292.846,"endTime":1295.646,"body":"that have come to me that sought out religious or pastoral"},{"startTime":1295.6779999999999,"endTime":1298.162,"body":"counseling, and the distinction is between"},{"startTime":1298.216,"endTime":1301.154,"body":"religious counseling and spiritual counseling. I call"},{"startTime":1301.192,"endTime":1303.714,"body":"this religious counseling because it's rid in religious"},{"startTime":1303.762,"endTime":1306.626,"body":"doctrine and ideology and that religious doctrine"},{"startTime":1306.658,"endTime":1309.522,"body":"and ideology may be in complete alignment"},{"startTime":1309.586,"endTime":1312.07,"body":"with your religious doctrine and"},{"startTime":1312.1399999999999,"endTime":1314.906,"body":"ideology. If it is, great, if it"},{"startTime":1314.9279999999999,"endTime":1317.754,"body":"isn't, then it becomes a con of talking to"},{"startTime":1317.792,"endTime":1319.766,"body":"pastoral counselors."},{"startTime":1319.878,"endTime":1322.506,"body":"Spirituality to me is a very personal"},{"startTime":1322.608,"endTime":1325.334,"body":"thing and our faith weaves"},{"startTime":1325.382,"endTime":1327.934,"body":"into our spirituality. But I find that"},{"startTime":1327.972,"endTime":1330.894,"body":"religious counseling and spiritual counseling are two"},{"startTime":1330.932,"endTime":1333.466,"body":"very different things because spiritual"},{"startTime":1333.498,"endTime":1336.238,"body":"counseling is very personal and"},{"startTime":1336.324,"endTime":1339.222,"body":"you can talk about the religious aspects"},{"startTime":1339.306,"endTime":1341.934,"body":"of things, but spiritual"},{"startTime":1341.982,"endTime":1344.85,"body":"counseling really is about you and less"},{"startTime":1344.92,"endTime":1347.47,"body":"about the religious principles and ideology."},{"startTime":1347.6299999999999,"endTime":1350.562,"body":"From my perspective, here are the cons of talking"},{"startTime":1350.616,"endTime":1353.266,"body":"to pastoral counselors. A lack of professional"},{"startTime":1353.298,"endTime":1355.96,"body":"counseling, a lack of professional training,"},{"startTime":1356.33,"endTime":1359.314,"body":"limited scope and expertise, potential"},{"startTime":1359.362,"endTime":1362.274,"body":"for bias or judgment, and religious pressure"},{"startTime":1362.322,"endTime":1365.218,"body":"or expectations. The 9th option, and I've"},{"startTime":1365.244,"endTime":1367.974,"body":"covered this, uh, briefly before. The 9th"},{"startTime":1368.022,"endTime":1371.002,"body":"option and I have covered this briefly, but I want to cover"},{"startTime":1371.056,"endTime":1373.926,"body":"it again, is professional therapy"},{"startTime":1374.038,"endTime":1376.57,"body":"in more serious mental or emotional health"},{"startTime":1376.6399999999999,"endTime":1379.614,"body":"cases, it may be beneficial to seek out"},{"startTime":1379.652,"endTime":1382.634,"body":"professional therapy from a licensed therapist"},{"startTime":1382.682,"endTime":1385.402,"body":"or counselor. These professionals have the expertise"},{"startTime":1385.466,"endTime":1388.25,"body":"and training to help you or your partner"},{"startTime":1388.33,"endTime":1391.074,"body":"with mental or emotional issues. I"},{"startTime":1391.112,"endTime":1393.7939999999999,"body":"invite you to look for therapists who specialize in"},{"startTime":1393.8319999999999,"endTime":1396.562,"body":"marriage counseling have experience working"},{"startTime":1396.616,"endTime":1399.5539999999999,"body":"with similar problems? Have experience in"},{"startTime":1399.5919999999999,"endTime":1402.222,"body":"working with two people at the same time versus"},{"startTime":1402.286,"endTime":1404.966,"body":"just one or in addition to one."},{"startTime":1405.068,"endTime":1408.018,"body":"They have excellent listening skills and don't"},{"startTime":1408.0339999999999,"endTime":1410.454,"body":"make you feel unsupported or push their"},{"startTime":1410.492,"endTime":1413.222,"body":"ideology or methodology on you."},{"startTime":1413.276,"endTime":1416.2459999999999,"body":"This all brings me to the question of who is best for"},{"startTime":1416.268,"endTime":1419.2259999999999,"body":"you when you're facing marital problems and you need someone to"},{"startTime":1419.248,"endTime":1421.994,"body":"talk to when it comes to seeking professional help"},{"startTime":1422.112,"endTime":1425.0819999999999,"body":"for yourself and your partner, many people only think"},{"startTime":1425.136,"endTime":1428.01,"body":"of couples therapy, but marriage coaching is another"},{"startTime":1428.08,"endTime":1430.974,"body":"option that you could consider as it does not have"},{"startTime":1431.012,"endTime":1433.886,"body":"the stigma that therapy does and it's an"},{"startTime":1433.908,"endTime":1436.714,"body":"easier sell to a resistant partner. Marriage"},{"startTime":1436.762,"endTime":1439.7259999999999,"body":"coaching focuses on helping you and your partner build a healthy"},{"startTime":1439.758,"endTime":1442.514,"body":"foundation, deepen emotional connection and"},{"startTime":1442.552,"endTime":1445.186,"body":"improve communication and intimacy in the"},{"startTime":1445.208,"endTime":1447.954,"body":"now and prepare you for a future together"},{"startTime":1448.072,"endTime":1451.0539999999999,"body":"and design that together. Unlike couples therapy,"},{"startTime":1451.1019999999999,"endTime":1453.934,"body":"which involves usually diving into the past"},{"startTime":1454.072,"endTime":1456.454,"body":"as an individual to uncover and deal with"},{"startTime":1456.492,"endTime":1459.126,"body":"unresolved issues that are impacting you and your"},{"startTime":1459.148,"endTime":1461.894,"body":"relationship, marriage coaching operates on the present and"},{"startTime":1461.932,"endTime":1464.7259999999999,"body":"future, helping you prioritize what is important"},{"startTime":1464.828,"endTime":1467.594,"body":"now, what isn't working now, what is"},{"startTime":1467.632,"endTime":1470.538,"body":"working now and let's create a success"},{"startTime":1470.624,"endTime":1473.578,"body":"plan for you and your partner. I want to talk a little"},{"startTime":1473.584,"endTime":1476.5539999999999,"body":"bit about myself now. I am a leading relationship"},{"startTime":1476.672,"endTime":1479.642,"body":"expert that you can turn to for guidance"},{"startTime":1479.706,"endTime":1482.32,"body":"and support in sorting out marital problems."},{"startTime":1482.69,"endTime":1485.646,"body":"My approach is unique and tailored to your specific"},{"startTime":1485.748,"endTime":1488.686,"body":"needs and I deliver my services in a"},{"startTime":1488.708,"endTime":1491.47,"body":"confidential, nonjudgmental, unbiased,"},{"startTime":1491.55,"endTime":1494.142,"body":"nurturing and, dare I say, loving and supportive"},{"startTime":1494.206,"endTime":1496.894,"body":"manner. I provide personalized coaching"},{"startTime":1496.942,"endTime":1499.666,"body":"sessions that are structured to address your specific"},{"startTime":1499.768,"endTime":1502.594,"body":"concerns, your goals, and achieve"},{"startTime":1502.642,"endTime":1505.382,"body":"realistic and measurable outcomes that you"},{"startTime":1505.436,"endTime":1508.114,"body":"say you want. My coaching approach covers"},{"startTime":1508.162,"endTime":1510.754,"body":"various aspects of relationships including"},{"startTime":1510.802,"endTime":1513.606,"body":"communication, intimacy, emotional well being"},{"startTime":1513.708,"endTime":1516.298,"body":"and designing a life together"},{"startTime":1516.464,"endTime":1519.146,"body":"that creates a path for success"},{"startTime":1519.248,"endTime":1522.214,"body":"for you. Marriage coaching is an excellent alternative"},{"startTime":1522.262,"endTime":1524.934,"body":"to couples therapy that can help you achieve your desired"},{"startTime":1524.982,"endTime":1527.754,"body":"goals, enhance emotional connection, improve"},{"startTime":1527.802,"endTime":1530.59,"body":"communication and intimacy, and help you"},{"startTime":1530.74,"endTime":1533.694,"body":"care for and nurture and feed your relationship"},{"startTime":1533.812,"endTime":1536.778,"body":"on a daily basis with joy and ease."},{"startTime":1536.874,"endTime":1539.774,"body":"Furthermore, talking to a relationship expert like"},{"startTime":1539.812,"endTime":1542.766,"body":"Dr. Hawks like me can provide invaluable"},{"startTime":1542.798,"endTime":1545.442,"body":"guidance and support to help you work through your issues,"},{"startTime":1545.576,"endTime":1548.0339999999999,"body":"improve your relationship and experience"},{"startTime":1548.232,"endTime":1551.154,"body":"immediate relief with the skills that you can learn"},{"startTime":1551.192,"endTime":1553.7259999999999,"body":"and apply on your own with your partner. But"},{"startTime":1553.768,"endTime":1556.5339999999999,"body":"ultimately, the key to addressing marital problems"},{"startTime":1556.652,"endTime":1559.414,"body":"is you working together with your partner to find"},{"startTime":1559.452,"endTime":1562.134,"body":"the best resource that fits your needs and"},{"startTime":1562.172,"endTime":1565.014,"body":"works for both of you. I truly would be"},{"startTime":1565.052,"endTime":1567.7939999999999,"body":"honored to support you in creating"},{"startTime":1567.8419999999999,"endTime":1570.802,"body":"a happier, healthier and harmonious"},{"startTime":1570.866,"endTime":1573.574,"body":"relationship. Please contact me via my"},{"startTime":1573.612,"endTime":1576.134,"body":"website@drdarhawks.com"},{"startTime":1576.252,"endTime":1578.91,"body":"and click the contact link at the top,"},{"startTime":1579.06,"endTime":1581.838,"body":"and I look forward to connecting with you"},{"startTime":1581.924,"endTime":1582.3799999999999,"body":"next time."}]}