{"version":"1.0.0","segments":[{"startTime":88.94,"endTime":91.826,"body":"Welcome to episode 35 of the Better"},{"startTime":91.89,"endTime":93.654,"body":"Relationships podcast."},{"startTime":94.394,"endTime":97.114,"body":"Today's topic is how to improve your."},{"startTime":97.154,"endTime":99.17,"body":"Marriage without talking about it."},{"startTime":99.322,"endTime":102.258,"body":"I'm, um, Doctor Dara, the relationship healer, and let's"},{"startTime":102.306,"endTime":105.05,"body":"dive in. When your marriage is in trouble, the."},{"startTime":105.082,"endTime":106.826,"body":"Last thing your partner wants to do."},{"startTime":106.89,"endTime":109.174,"body":"Is dive into a deep conversation"},{"startTime":109.554,"endTime":112.378,"body":"about what's broken, much less how to fix"},{"startTime":112.426,"endTime":113.09,"body":"things."},{"startTime":113.282,"endTime":115.954,"body":"Anytime you bring up wanting to talk about your"},{"startTime":115.994,"endTime":118.788,"body":"relationship, making things better between."},{"startTime":118.876,"endTime":121.74,"body":"You, or just having a conversation about each"},{"startTime":121.77199999999999,"endTime":124.46799999999999,"body":"other's day, it just causes stress,"},{"startTime":124.556,"endTime":127.5,"body":"or worse, an argument. So how"},{"startTime":127.532,"endTime":130.372,"body":"do you improve your marriage without talking about it?"},{"startTime":130.468,"endTime":133.324,"body":"Nonverbal communication, believe it or not, can be"},{"startTime":133.364,"endTime":135.828,"body":"more effective and empowering"},{"startTime":135.99599999999998,"endTime":138.868,"body":"than verbal communication. While"},{"startTime":138.916,"endTime":141.684,"body":"talking openly is essential, there are other"},{"startTime":141.724,"endTime":144.164,"body":"ways to improve your relationship without"},{"startTime":144.244,"endTime":147.07999999999998,"body":"directly addressing the issues. Let's"},{"startTime":147.112,"endTime":149.10399999999998,"body":"explore some commonly advised"},{"startTime":149.224,"endTime":151.864,"body":"strategies. Number one, be a good"},{"startTime":151.904,"endTime":154.688,"body":"listener. Remove distractions, watch"},{"startTime":154.736,"endTime":157.50400000000002,"body":"for nonverbal cues, and show"},{"startTime":157.584,"endTime":160.49599999999998,"body":"genuine interest in your partner. And it's"},{"startTime":160.56,"endTime":163.024,"body":"essential to avoid interrupting your"},{"startTime":163.064,"endTime":166.05599999999998,"body":"partner when you need to speak or when there's time"},{"startTime":166.12,"endTime":168.99200000000002,"body":"for you to share. Ask if you can share, and then"},{"startTime":169.048,"endTime":171.72,"body":"invest a few moments to think through what you want to"},{"startTime":171.752,"endTime":174.586,"body":"say before you speak so"},{"startTime":174.61,"endTime":177.514,"body":"that what you say is clear, concise, and"},{"startTime":177.594,"endTime":180.554,"body":"kind. And when you do pause,"},{"startTime":180.63400000000001,"endTime":183.074,"body":"let your partner know. I'm pausing to gather my"},{"startTime":183.114,"endTime":185.962,"body":"thoughts so that they don't interrupt"},{"startTime":186.058,"endTime":188.898,"body":"your thought process. Number"},{"startTime":188.946,"endTime":191.73399999999998,"body":"two, express appreciation."},{"startTime":192.19400000000002,"endTime":194.45,"body":"Regularly expressing gratitude and"},{"startTime":194.482,"endTime":197.378,"body":"appreciation for your partner, while"},{"startTime":197.466,"endTime":199.97,"body":"also acknowledging their qualities and"},{"startTime":200.042,"endTime":202.844,"body":"efforts, whether big or small, or"},{"startTime":202.88400000000001,"endTime":205.684,"body":"even not to your level of detail with"},{"startTime":205.724,"endTime":208.344,"body":"kindness will go a long way."},{"startTime":209.124,"endTime":212.06799999999998,"body":"Behavior that's acknowledged and appreciated gets"},{"startTime":212.11599999999999,"endTime":214.45999999999998,"body":"repeated, and that builds a"},{"startTime":214.49200000000002,"endTime":216.836,"body":"healthy, happy, and harmonious"},{"startTime":216.94,"endTime":219.652,"body":"relationship. Practice"},{"startTime":219.70799999999997,"endTime":222.228,"body":"flexibility. You may make"},{"startTime":222.276,"endTime":225.204,"body":"plans, or your partner may say something and you"},{"startTime":225.24399999999997,"endTime":228.216,"body":"think of it as a promise or a commitment, or"},{"startTime":228.24,"endTime":230.50400000000002,"body":"an agreement. But life"},{"startTime":230.62400000000002,"endTime":233.204,"body":"happens and things change."},{"startTime":233.62400000000002,"endTime":236.488,"body":"And when that happens, it's hard not to think"},{"startTime":236.536,"endTime":239.51999999999998,"body":"about, um, your partner breaking a promise. But the"},{"startTime":239.55200000000002,"endTime":242.464,"body":"reality is, it's really"},{"startTime":242.54399999999998,"endTime":244.964,"body":"necessary for you to be adaptable"},{"startTime":245.344,"endTime":248.192,"body":"when unexpected changes occur. You"},{"startTime":248.20799999999997,"endTime":250.644,"body":"could say something like, oh, I understand,"},{"startTime":251.18400000000003,"endTime":254.04000000000002,"body":"we had a commitment to do this on this day at"},{"startTime":254.072,"endTime":256.968,"body":"this time, but this has"},{"startTime":257.016,"endTime":259.984,"body":"happened. So let's pick another day to make"},{"startTime":260.024,"endTime":262.816,"body":"that other thing happen. Number four,"},{"startTime":263.0,"endTime":265.824,"body":"prioritize quality time. Set"},{"startTime":265.864,"endTime":268.768,"body":"aside dedicated time to connect with each"},{"startTime":268.816,"endTime":271.376,"body":"other daily, whether it's a"},{"startTime":271.4,"endTime":274.112,"body":"conversation over dinner, or a quiet walk"},{"startTime":274.168,"endTime":277.164,"body":"together, or even doing the dishes together."},{"startTime":277.464,"endTime":280.192,"body":"You really need to make it a habit, like a"},{"startTime":280.248,"endTime":283.054,"body":"daily habit, because that"},{"startTime":283.134,"endTime":286.006,"body":"will build a deeper connection, even if you're"},{"startTime":286.03,"endTime":288.274,"body":"not talking while you're doing it together."},{"startTime":288.814,"endTime":291.702,"body":"Activities, when shared without conversation,"},{"startTime":291.798,"endTime":293.758,"body":"speak more"},{"startTime":293.886,"endTime":296.254,"body":"loudly than filling the"},{"startTime":296.294,"endTime":298.998,"body":"time with talk. Number"},{"startTime":299.046,"endTime":301.862,"body":"five, use I statements"},{"startTime":301.998,"endTime":304.39,"body":"instead of blaming, criticizing, or"},{"startTime":304.422,"endTime":307.182,"body":"accusing. Express your thoughts and feelings"},{"startTime":307.238,"endTime":310.21,"body":"using I statements. For example,"},{"startTime":310.322,"endTime":312.978,"body":"I feel hurt when this situation"},{"startTime":313.106,"endTime":316.018,"body":"happened, not using you statements to blame"},{"startTime":316.066,"endTime":318.898,"body":"your partner. Or you could say,"},{"startTime":319.066,"endTime":321.962,"body":"I was thinking this when I heard"},{"startTime":322.138,"endTime":325.002,"body":"this statement instead of when I"},{"startTime":325.018,"endTime":327.48199999999997,"body":"heard you say the reason why. Is it"},{"startTime":327.498,"endTime":330.378,"body":"because? Is because it puts you or your partner"},{"startTime":330.426,"endTime":332.978,"body":"on the defensive and then that can spiral"},{"startTime":333.146,"endTime":335.68,"body":"into a fight or argument and"},{"startTime":335.792,"endTime":338.484,"body":"refrain from using terms like you always"},{"startTime":339.104,"endTime":341.856,"body":"or this always happens"},{"startTime":341.96,"endTime":344.472,"body":"or number six, avoid"},{"startTime":344.528,"endTime":346.728,"body":"criticism. Focus on"},{"startTime":346.816,"endTime":349.784,"body":"positive reinforcement and support rather"},{"startTime":349.824,"endTime":352.416,"body":"than criticism. Ask for support in"},{"startTime":352.44,"endTime":355.12,"body":"resolving issues without attacking your partner"},{"startTime":355.272,"endTime":357.592,"body":"or their character or their"},{"startTime":357.64799999999997,"endTime":360.216,"body":"actions and shifting"},{"startTime":360.28,"endTime":362.852,"body":"from criticizing. Blaming,"},{"startTime":362.948,"endTime":365.132,"body":"accusing can be really"},{"startTime":365.228,"endTime":366.132,"body":"difficult."},{"startTime":366.308,"endTime":369.068,"body":"So hire a relationship coach to work."},{"startTime":369.116,"endTime":371.56399999999996,"body":"With you on how to shift and"},{"startTime":371.604,"endTime":374.58,"body":"transform criticism and critical"},{"startTime":374.652,"endTime":376.02799999999996,"body":"language and thinking."},{"startTime":376.19599999999997,"endTime":379.164,"body":"Into a more positive way"},{"startTime":379.204,"endTime":380.036,"body":"of communicating."},{"startTime":380.09999999999997,"endTime":382.46799999999996,"body":"And thinking that is going to benefit."},{"startTime":382.51599999999996,"endTime":385.38399999999996,"body":"You but also create better results"},{"startTime":385.724,"endTime":386.036,"body":"in."},{"startTime":386.06,"endTime":388.984,"body":"Your connection with your partner. Number seven,"},{"startTime":389.484,"endTime":392.46799999999996,"body":"learn each other's communication style. Understand"},{"startTime":392.596,"endTime":395.332,"body":"how your spouse communicates. Some"},{"startTime":395.428,"endTime":398.00399999999996,"body":"people prefer direct communication and"},{"startTime":398.044,"endTime":400.83599999999996,"body":"conversations, while others, while"},{"startTime":400.9,"endTime":402.824,"body":"others need time to process."},{"startTime":403.284,"endTime":406.17199999999997,"body":"And we need to ask our partners, do you"},{"startTime":406.188,"endTime":408.628,"body":"need time to process this? And if they say"},{"startTime":408.676,"endTime":411.284,"body":"yes, say, great, let's talk about it"},{"startTime":411.324,"endTime":413.998,"body":"tomorrow afternoon during our quality time together."},{"startTime":414.156,"endTime":416.89799999999997,"body":"That's really honoring each other's space and each other's"},{"startTime":416.94599999999997,"endTime":419.654,"body":"need and ways of communicating."},{"startTime":419.954,"endTime":422.09,"body":"Number nine, nonverbal"},{"startTime":422.12199999999996,"endTime":425.082,"body":"communication. Pay attention to your body"},{"startTime":425.138,"endTime":427.858,"body":"language and your partner's, the eye contact"},{"startTime":427.986,"endTime":430.914,"body":"and the gestures being used. Sometimes what's"},{"startTime":430.954,"endTime":433.858,"body":"left unsaid says a lot, but don't make"},{"startTime":433.906,"endTime":436.84999999999997,"body":"assumptions. Instead, say, I'm sensing this for"},{"startTime":436.882,"endTime":439.538,"body":"you. Is that true for you? Number"},{"startTime":439.58599999999996,"endTime":442.32599999999996,"body":"ten, set boundaries. Agree"},{"startTime":442.43,"endTime":444.514,"body":"on boundaries for discussions,"},{"startTime":445.014,"endTime":447.95,"body":"avoid heated arguments and revisit topics when"},{"startTime":447.98199999999997,"endTime":450.75399999999996,"body":"emotions have cooled down and when"},{"startTime":451.13399999999996,"endTime":454.074,"body":"the topic doesn't feel charged"},{"startTime":454.37399999999997,"endTime":457.366,"body":"and urgent for you to"},{"startTime":457.46999999999997,"endTime":460.214,"body":"address and resolve. Right now, in this moment,"},{"startTime":460.294,"endTime":463.27,"body":"most of the time, things can wait until you're"},{"startTime":463.30199999999996,"endTime":466.13399999999996,"body":"both in a healthy, happy, and harmonious"},{"startTime":466.25399999999996,"endTime":469.11199999999997,"body":"frame of mind and your body posture"},{"startTime":469.168,"endTime":471.592,"body":"is relaxed. Number eleven,"},{"startTime":471.768,"endTime":474.33599999999996,"body":"practice empathy. Put yourself in your"},{"startTime":474.35999999999996,"endTime":477.35999999999996,"body":"partner's shoes. Understand their perspective."},{"startTime":477.512,"endTime":479.644,"body":"Validate their thoughts and feelings."},{"startTime":480.104,"endTime":482.91999999999996,"body":"Also, validation doesn't mean you have to agree or"},{"startTime":482.952,"endTime":485.952,"body":"think that they are 100% right. It's really"},{"startTime":486.008,"endTime":488.68,"body":"about making them feel safe and"},{"startTime":488.832,"endTime":491.536,"body":"giving them the freedom to have their own feelings and"},{"startTime":491.56,"endTime":494.376,"body":"thoughts, not discounting their feelings and"},{"startTime":494.4,"endTime":497.32,"body":"thoughts or not saying you're wrong. And"},{"startTime":497.352,"endTime":499.67199999999997,"body":"instead it's just giving them space to share."},{"startTime":499.768,"endTime":502.712,"body":"And you can simply say thank you for sharing"},{"startTime":502.768,"endTime":505.68,"body":"your thoughts and feelings about that topic. It's not"},{"startTime":505.712,"endTime":508.12,"body":"an opportunity for you to defend your thoughts or"},{"startTime":508.152,"endTime":511.128,"body":"feelings. It's an opportunity for them to share."},{"startTime":511.296,"endTime":514.128,"body":"You could ask, do you have a request"},{"startTime":514.176,"endTime":516.644,"body":"of me? Or is there a question,"},{"startTime":517.2,"endTime":519.984,"body":"uh, for me? Or how can I support you"},{"startTime":520.024,"endTime":522.88,"body":"through this? Or are there things that"},{"startTime":522.912,"endTime":525.726,"body":"I can do to shift that perspective for you?"},{"startTime":525.84,"endTime":528.818,"body":"Those ways of communicating and showing"},{"startTime":528.866,"endTime":531.706,"body":"empathy are really healthy and"},{"startTime":531.77,"endTime":534.218,"body":"build a stronger relationship. Number"},{"startTime":534.266,"endTime":536.922,"body":"twelve, avoid mind reading."},{"startTime":537.098,"endTime":540.034,"body":"Don't assume you know what your spouse is thinking. Even"},{"startTime":540.0740000000001,"endTime":542.674,"body":"if you think you know him or her extremely"},{"startTime":542.714,"endTime":545.634,"body":"well, it's still an assumption until you"},{"startTime":545.674,"endTime":548.61,"body":"ask curious questions. To learn more about their"},{"startTime":548.642,"endTime":551.326,"body":"perspective and to seek clarity."},{"startTime":551.49,"endTime":553.734,"body":"Whether you ended up being right or not is"},{"startTime":593.474,"endTime":596.042,"body":"immaterial. The point is, you're not making"},{"startTime":596.0980000000001,"endTime":599.0980000000001,"body":"assumptions and you're involving your partner and"},{"startTime":599.2260000000001,"endTime":601.5780000000001,"body":"being curious enough to want to know what they're"},{"startTime":601.6260000000001,"endTime":604.498,"body":"thinking. 13. I think we've already talked about"},{"startTime":604.546,"endTime":607.0340000000001,"body":"this, but it's important enough to point out again,"},{"startTime":607.1940000000001,"endTime":610.0980000000001,"body":"choosing the right time. Timing"},{"startTime":610.186,"endTime":612.8900000000001,"body":"matters. Avoid discussing important"},{"startTime":613.0020000000001,"endTime":615.7460000000001,"body":"matters during stressful or busy moments."},{"startTime":615.9300000000001,"endTime":618.9060000000001,"body":"Pay attention to you. Pay attention to yourself and"},{"startTime":618.9300000000001,"endTime":621.7900000000001,"body":"your partner, and notice when they're most calm"},{"startTime":621.822,"endTime":624.7020000000001,"body":"and open. Whether your partner needs personal space"},{"startTime":624.758,"endTime":627.7020000000001,"body":"in the morning after waking up or in the evening after getting"},{"startTime":627.758,"endTime":630.2740000000001,"body":"home, I find that couples"},{"startTime":630.5740000000001,"endTime":633.4140000000001,"body":"will jump on each other"},{"startTime":633.5740000000001,"endTime":636.23,"body":"to communicate things that are really"},{"startTime":636.302,"endTime":639.2940000000001,"body":"important, essential or crucial. As soon as there is the"},{"startTime":639.3340000000001,"endTime":641.8940000000001,"body":"perception of focused"},{"startTime":641.9340000000001,"endTime":642.3980000000001,"body":"time."},{"startTime":642.5260000000001,"endTime":644.974,"body":"Usually it's in the car with closed."},{"startTime":645.0140000000001,"endTime":647.8620000000001,"body":"Doors and no distractions. Which is the worst"},{"startTime":647.9180000000001,"endTime":650.6000000000001,"body":"place and most unsafe place place to have"},{"startTime":650.6320000000001,"endTime":653.4960000000001,"body":"these conversations? Or as soon as"},{"startTime":653.5200000000001,"endTime":656.4000000000001,"body":"they've walked in the door, or as soon as they've"},{"startTime":656.4320000000001,"endTime":659.1920000000001,"body":"come out of the bedroom fully dressed in the morning."},{"startTime":659.3280000000001,"endTime":661.9760000000001,"body":"Which is why it's really crucial to choose"},{"startTime":662.0400000000001,"endTime":665.0000000000001,"body":"times of day and it be a standard ten or"},{"startTime":665.032,"endTime":667.488,"body":"15 minutes every day to have these"},{"startTime":667.5360000000001,"endTime":670.3600000000001,"body":"conversations and make decisions. And"},{"startTime":670.4320000000001,"endTime":673.4000000000001,"body":"if something's going to take longer, table it"},{"startTime":673.5120000000001,"endTime":676.44,"body":"for, uh, 30 minutes or an hour over"},{"startTime":676.4720000000001,"endTime":679.2500000000001,"body":"the weekend where you've already carved out"},{"startTime":679.3220000000001,"endTime":682.1540000000001,"body":"connection time. I also like to say,"},{"startTime":682.2740000000001,"endTime":685.138,"body":"or like my clients, to carve out not only quality"},{"startTime":685.186,"endTime":687.7060000000001,"body":"time together, but to keep that separate from decision"},{"startTime":687.8100000000001,"endTime":690.8100000000001,"body":"time. And decision time is really important,"},{"startTime":690.9620000000001,"endTime":693.8100000000001,"body":"right? Because there's things that happen during the week"},{"startTime":693.9220000000001,"endTime":696.8020000000001,"body":"that need to be decided on together"},{"startTime":696.9780000000001,"endTime":699.9060000000001,"body":"or individually, but you need to inform or want to"},{"startTime":699.9300000000001,"endTime":702.7860000000001,"body":"inform your partner or include them. So"},{"startTime":702.9300000000001,"endTime":705.9080000000001,"body":"don't use your quality time to have those"},{"startTime":705.9560000000001,"endTime":708.7640000000001,"body":"conversations. Carve out separate decision"},{"startTime":708.844,"endTime":711.508,"body":"times so that both of you come with the mindset"},{"startTime":711.6360000000001,"endTime":714.5960000000001,"body":"of supporting each other to make decisions for"},{"startTime":714.7400000000001,"endTime":717.1320000000001,"body":"your household and for each other."},{"startTime":717.3080000000001,"endTime":720.0120000000001,"body":"Also for urgent"},{"startTime":720.0680000000001,"endTime":722.4920000000001,"body":"decisions, things that have to be decided that"},{"startTime":722.5480000000001,"endTime":725.412,"body":"day. I find usually nothing"},{"startTime":725.4680000000001,"endTime":728.1240000000001,"body":"is that urgent on a week to week basis."},{"startTime":728.2040000000001,"endTime":730.8040000000001,"body":"But they do arise. Those emergencies do"},{"startTime":730.844,"endTime":733.7540000000001,"body":"arise, and in that case, carve"},{"startTime":733.7940000000001,"endTime":736.6020000000001,"body":"out a portion of your quality time. But"},{"startTime":736.6580000000001,"endTime":739.234,"body":"inform your partner, hey, this evening's 15"},{"startTime":739.3140000000001,"endTime":742.2900000000001,"body":"minutes. I need ten minutes of that time to"},{"startTime":742.3220000000001,"endTime":745.2660000000001,"body":"discuss this issue that's become urgent and"},{"startTime":745.2900000000001,"endTime":746.57,"body":"get agreement to do that."},{"startTime":746.642,"endTime":748.186,"body":"Or if they say, no, I need."},{"startTime":748.21,"endTime":751.1700000000001,"body":"Our quality time, then say, can"},{"startTime":751.2020000000001,"endTime":751.3700000000001,"body":"we."},{"startTime":751.402,"endTime":754.1460000000001,"body":"Schedule another block of ten to"},{"startTime":754.1700000000001,"endTime":754.426,"body":"15."},{"startTime":754.4900000000001,"endTime":757.272,"body":"Minutes to discuss this and call that decision time?"},{"startTime":757.4180000000001,"endTime":758.1800000000001,"body":"Number 14."},{"startTime":758.292,"endTime":760.9200000000001,"body":"I've already addressed this too, but it bears, uh,"},{"startTime":761.0040000000001,"endTime":763.344,"body":"importance, and important enough,"},{"startTime":764.0840000000001,"endTime":766.7800000000001,"body":"and is important enough to bring up again. Learn each"},{"startTime":766.8120000000001,"endTime":769.7,"body":"other's best times of day. Understanding"},{"startTime":769.7320000000001,"endTime":772.388,"body":"whether you or your partner is a morning, afternoon, or evening"},{"startTime":772.436,"endTime":775.3000000000001,"body":"person will help you determine when it's best to connect"},{"startTime":775.3320000000001,"endTime":777.7560000000001,"body":"and have conversations instead of hitting."},{"startTime":777.7800000000001,"endTime":779.9040000000001,"body":"Them up whenever your need arises."},{"startTime":780.4440000000001,"endTime":783.0520000000001,"body":"The other thing is, pay attention to when they're most"},{"startTime":783.1080000000001,"endTime":786.066,"body":"productive. Those aren't the times to"},{"startTime":786.09,"endTime":788.9700000000001,"body":"have these conversations because they're in go and get"},{"startTime":789.0020000000001,"endTime":791.8100000000001,"body":"it done mode. Number 15. Be open and"},{"startTime":791.8420000000001,"endTime":794.6980000000001,"body":"honest. Share your thoughts, fears, and dreams."},{"startTime":794.7460000000001,"endTime":797.5540000000001,"body":"Openly being transparent builds"},{"startTime":797.594,"endTime":800.4100000000001,"body":"trust. Also, let your partner know,"},{"startTime":800.522,"endTime":803.1700000000001,"body":"I am sharing my thoughts, fears, and dreams with you right"},{"startTime":803.2020000000001,"endTime":806.1460000000001,"body":"now. I don't need you to solve anything, fix"},{"startTime":806.21,"endTime":809.1460000000001,"body":"anything, support me, or do anything. I just want to"},{"startTime":809.1700000000001,"endTime":811.8340000000001,"body":"share my thoughts and feelings and fears and dreams with"},{"startTime":811.8740000000001,"endTime":814.6080000000001,"body":"you. If we don't ask our partners how"},{"startTime":814.6560000000001,"endTime":817.6160000000001,"body":"to listen when we're communicating, and if"},{"startTime":817.6400000000001,"endTime":819.9440000000001,"body":"we're unclear about what we need in that"},{"startTime":819.984,"endTime":822.936,"body":"conversation from our partner, then we don't know what"},{"startTime":822.96,"endTime":825.1840000000001,"body":"to ask for, and it creates"},{"startTime":825.3040000000001,"endTime":828.0640000000001,"body":"unnecessary conflict because we haven't"},{"startTime":828.1440000000001,"endTime":830.9920000000001,"body":"asked them how we need them to listen,"},{"startTime":831.128,"endTime":834.0000000000001,"body":"and we haven't told them or"},{"startTime":834.032,"endTime":836.816,"body":"informed them what we need from them"},{"startTime":836.96,"endTime":839.6580000000001,"body":"as a result of that conversation. Number"},{"startTime":839.7060000000001,"endTime":842.1460000000001,"body":"16. Spend more time"},{"startTime":842.21,"endTime":845.0820000000001,"body":"together. Prioritize quality time"},{"startTime":845.138,"endTime":847.498,"body":"with each other. Make that non"},{"startTime":847.546,"endTime":850.5060000000001,"body":"negotiable in your calendar and have it blocked"},{"startTime":850.57,"endTime":853.3460000000001,"body":"out. Engage in activities you both enjoy,"},{"startTime":853.4100000000001,"endTime":856.4100000000001,"body":"whether it's cooking together, going for walks, or watching a"},{"startTime":856.4420000000001,"endTime":859.4340000000001,"body":"movie, shared experiences build"},{"startTime":859.5140000000001,"endTime":862.402,"body":"connection. And when you schedule"},{"startTime":862.4580000000001,"endTime":865.2620000000001,"body":"this time that is non negotiable."},{"startTime":865.4580000000001,"endTime":868.2300000000001,"body":"You show that you care about each"},{"startTime":868.2620000000001,"endTime":869.7660000000001,"body":"other and that you think of each."},{"startTime":869.7900000000001,"endTime":871.3900000000001,"body":"Other as a priority."},{"startTime":871.5820000000001,"endTime":874.5580000000001,"body":"Sure, there are things that pop up in life that"},{"startTime":874.6460000000001,"endTime":877.6300000000001,"body":"make us need to reschedule time, but"},{"startTime":877.7020000000001,"endTime":880.2060000000001,"body":"make that a rare"},{"startTime":880.2700000000001,"endTime":882.926,"body":"occurrence. If there's a party you've been"},{"startTime":882.95,"endTime":885.7900000000001,"body":"invited to or a speaking event you've been invited"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":885.8620000000001,"endTime":888.8620000000001,"body":"00 p.m. But your quality"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":888.9180000000001,"endTime":891.792,"body":"time is from seven to 715. Get to"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":891.8080000000001,"endTime":894.4240000000001,"body":"the event and walk in 15"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":894.5040000000001,"endTime":897.416,"body":"minutes late. After your quality time in a"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":897.44,"endTime":899.8000000000001,"body":"corner or cubbyhole of the hotel, for"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":899.8320000000001,"endTime":902.3760000000001,"body":"example, there are ways to work"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":902.44,"endTime":905.0160000000001,"body":"around interruptions that"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":905.08,"endTime":907.296,"body":"cause a need to reschedule."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":907.44,"endTime":909.8000000000001,"body":"Look for those ways to still fit."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":909.8320000000001,"endTime":911.8000000000001,"body":"It in instead of rescheduling."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":911.9520000000001,"endTime":914.6160000000001,"body":"Number 17 hug your spouse"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":914.6800000000001,"endTime":917.6640000000001,"body":"regularly hugging is a nonverbal way to"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":917.7040000000001,"endTime":919.3240000000001,"body":"express love and intimacy."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":919.6240000000001,"endTime":921.0240000000001,"body":"It is said that when you work."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":921.0640000000001,"endTime":923.9920000000001,"body":"Towards four to six hugs a day, it"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":924.008,"endTime":926.0040000000001,"body":"will help you both be present."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":926.3040000000001,"endTime":929.1640000000001,"body":"For each other and improve your listening."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":929.5040000000001,"endTime":932.0720000000001,"body":"Number 18 focus on the"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":932.128,"endTime":933.7760000000001,"body":"positive instead."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":933.8000000000001,"endTime":936.32,"body":"Of dwelling on negatives, intentionally notice and."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":936.3520000000001,"endTime":938.8800000000001,"body":"Appreciate the positive aspects of your"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":938.912,"endTime":941.6160000000001,"body":"partner. Express gratitude for their efforts and"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":941.6400000000001,"endTime":944.6320000000001,"body":"kindness and if your partner's not giving"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":944.7280000000001,"endTime":947.6000000000001,"body":"you the same, remember you're modeling"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":947.6320000000001,"endTime":950.4240000000001,"body":"the behavior and over time,"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":950.5440000000001,"endTime":953.0240000000001,"body":"one day they will start expressing"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":953.0640000000001,"endTime":955.484,"body":"gratitude for your efforts and kindness."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":955.8240000000001,"endTime":958.7600000000001,"body":"Also, when you're expressing gratitude for their"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":958.792,"endTime":961.6000000000001,"body":"efforts and kindness, it may be that they"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":961.6720000000001,"endTime":964.6480000000001,"body":"they are quick to give you the same kindness"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":964.6960000000001,"endTime":967.5440000000001,"body":"or the same gesture. Let them know listen,"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":967.5840000000001,"endTime":968.3600000000001,"body":"I'm sharing this."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":968.392,"endTime":969.84,"body":"With you because I feel like sharing."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":969.8720000000001,"endTime":972.8000000000001,"body":"It with you right now. Please don't feel like you have"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":972.8320000000001,"endTime":972.9760000000001,"body":"to."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":973.0000000000001,"endTime":975.5340000000001,"body":"Give to give kindness and"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":975.6540000000001,"endTime":977.2620000000001,"body":"gratitude and."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":977.3180000000001,"endTime":980.2700000000001,"body":"Thankfulness to me because I'm doing it for you right"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":980.3020000000001,"endTime":983.07,"body":"now. You can wait when it's natural"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":983.142,"endTime":985.734,"body":"and you feel inspired to do so."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":985.854,"endTime":988.2460000000001,"body":"Oftentimes, especially for the love and"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":988.2700000000001,"endTime":990.662,"body":"belonging sovereign relationship"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":990.7180000000001,"endTime":993.6300000000001,"body":"need, a partner will want"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":993.662,"endTime":996.4940000000001,"body":"to give back immediately, and it's"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":996.5340000000001,"endTime":996.854,"body":"an."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":996.9340000000001,"endTime":999.238,"body":"It is a defense or a reactive."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":999.3660000000001,"endTime":1001.9580000000001,"body":"Posture as opposed to doing it when"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1002.0060000000001,"endTime":1002.7020000000001,"body":"inspired."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1002.8380000000001,"endTime":1005.6940000000001,"body":"So you will give them the freedom by saying"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1005.7740000000001,"endTime":1007.2060000000001,"body":"that to do it when."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1007.2300000000001,"endTime":1010.19,"body":"They'Re inspired to do so. And they may just say, I feel like it right"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1010.2220000000001,"endTime":1013.1540000000001,"body":"now and that's all great too. Number 20"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1013.5340000000001,"endTime":1016.1500000000001,"body":"oop, I skipped one. Number 19"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1016.3020000000001,"endTime":1017.5020000000001,"body":"acts of love."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1017.6780000000001,"endTime":1020.2940000000001,"body":"Show your affection through small gestures."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1020.4140000000001,"endTime":1023.3580000000001,"body":"Surprise your spouse with thoughtful presents, a."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1023.4060000000001,"endTime":1026.346,"body":"Love note, cook their favorite meal,"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1026.51,"endTime":1029.186,"body":"or do something that they do"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1029.33,"endTime":1029.97,"body":"usually."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1030.082,"endTime":1032.386,"body":"My husband is pretty"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1032.45,"endTime":1035.394,"body":"religious about recycling and taking"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1035.434,"endTime":1037.842,"body":"the trash out on Wednesday morning or Tuesday"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1037.938,"endTime":1038.458,"body":"night."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1038.586,"endTime":1041.554,"body":"And every now and then if he's not"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1041.594,"endTime":1042.882,"body":"feeling well or if he's out."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1042.8980000000001,"endTime":1045.186,"body":"Of town and the trash cans are."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1045.21,"endTime":1047.874,"body":"Full, I will do that for us"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1048.034,"endTime":1049.954,"body":"in the exact way that he does."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1049.9940000000001,"endTime":1052.7540000000001,"body":"It, because he is meticulous and he's"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1052.794,"endTime":1055.526,"body":"very caring about the workers that"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1055.59,"endTime":1058.422,"body":"manage the trash and the recycling in the"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1058.438,"endTime":1061.31,"body":"bins. Number 20"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1061.422,"endTime":1064.23,"body":"initiate intimacy. Physical closeness is"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1064.262,"endTime":1066.982,"body":"essential. Initiate intimacy without"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1067.078,"endTime":1069.942,"body":"discussing it explicitly. A light,"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1070.038,"endTime":1071.846,"body":"quick, loving touch or a."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1071.8700000000001,"endTime":1074.622,"body":"Passionate kiss can rekindle the flame"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1074.678,"endTime":1077.318,"body":"and connection between you two, and"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1077.4460000000001,"endTime":1080.354,"body":"when they're surprised, surprisingly done"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1080.674,"endTime":1083.4180000000001,"body":"or spontaneous, it's even"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1083.4660000000001,"endTime":1084.378,"body":"more special."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1084.546,"endTime":1086.13,"body":"I also find that the other partner."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1086.162,"endTime":1087.854,"body":"Will say, what brought that on?"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1088.154,"endTime":1090.922,"body":"Refrain from the need from for having"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1090.978,"endTime":1093.714,"body":"to explain it and just say, oh, I just felt like it right"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1093.7540000000001,"endTime":1094.122,"body":"now."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1094.218,"endTime":1095.45,"body":"How did that feel?"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1095.642,"endTime":1096.9940000000001,"body":"And then move on with your day."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1097.034,"endTime":1099.41,"body":"After they answer number 21."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1099.482,"endTime":1101.106,"body":"Prioritize self care."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1101.25,"endTime":1104.178,"body":"When you take care of yourself, you become a better partner"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1104.226,"endTime":1105.53,"body":"and a better person."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1105.722,"endTime":1108.7060000000001,"body":"Prioritize self care by getting enough rest."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1108.89,"endTime":1111.394,"body":"Exercising, eating well, and"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1111.434,"endTime":1112.73,"body":"managing your stress."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1112.842,"endTime":1115.69,"body":"And anxiety and nervousness. Your"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1115.722,"endTime":1118.594,"body":"partner can't do that for you. And"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1118.7540000000001,"endTime":1121.634,"body":"when you are stressed for whatever reason, it"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1121.674,"endTime":1124.554,"body":"does not create a healthy environment or a safe"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1124.594,"endTime":1127.218,"body":"environment because we're in a reactive and defensive"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1127.306,"endTime":1130.2540000000001,"body":"mode and we're ready to fight or"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1130.834,"endTime":1131.81,"body":"leave, like."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1131.842,"endTime":1134.306,"body":"Just walk away and neither of those."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1134.3700000000001,"endTime":1137.202,"body":"Or we shut down and none of those are healthy."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1137.378,"endTime":1140.226,"body":"But saying, listen, I need to rest. I need to take time out"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1140.25,"endTime":1142.9940000000001,"body":"for myself so I can be in a better place for this"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1143.034,"endTime":1145.778,"body":"conversation and recognizing that"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1145.866,"endTime":1148.858,"body":"is a very healthy"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1149.026,"endTime":1151.018,"body":"and advanced skill for"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1151.106,"endTime":1153.854,"body":"relationships. Number 22"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1154.194,"endTime":1156.994,"body":"respect each other. Treat your spouse"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1157.0339999999999,"endTime":1160.026,"body":"with kindness and respect. Listen, actively"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1160.09,"endTime":1162.975,"body":"validate their feelings. Avoid criticism and"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1162.999,"endTime":1164.0629999999999,"body":"avoid telling them they're."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1164.103,"endTime":1166.9189999999999,"body":"Wrong or what they heard is incorrect."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1167.1109999999999,"endTime":1169.183,"body":"They're entitled to their thoughts and feelings."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1169.223,"endTime":1170.735,"body":"And what they think they heard."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1170.879,"endTime":1173.631,"body":"Let them have their space to share and just say,"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1173.687,"endTime":1176.535,"body":"thank you for sharing. I really respect that you"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1176.719,"endTime":1177.647,"body":"felt comfortable."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1177.695,"endTime":1179.455,"body":"Enough and said all of those things."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1179.519,"endTime":1181.455,"body":"Do you have any questions for me?"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1181.559,"endTime":1184.463,"body":"Or you could say, if it's important enough"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1184.543,"endTime":1187.447,"body":"to resolve. You could say, can I share my perspective"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1187.495,"endTime":1190.26,"body":"with you? 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So multiple"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1389.096,"endTime":1392.096,"body":"intelligences and building that for yourself and"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1392.16,"endTime":1395.0,"body":"in your partner is worth checking out."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1395.152,"endTime":1398.136,"body":"Because I do share activities you can do on your own"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1398.28,"endTime":1401.024,"body":"and with your partner that are light hearted and"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1401.064,"endTime":1403.76,"body":"calming and will shift your brain"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1403.8319999999999,"endTime":1406.266,"body":"from left brain over and out analysis"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1406.33,"endTime":1408.954,"body":"critical thinking to a more"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1408.994,"endTime":1411.706,"body":"balanced approach, and it will help you build"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1411.77,"endTime":1414.626,"body":"empathy. Here are some examples of how to"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1414.6499999999999,"endTime":1417.546,"body":"improve your marriage without talking about it. Number"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1417.61,"endTime":1420.6019999999999,"body":"one, the art of presence in"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1420.618,"endTime":1423.378,"body":"a world filled with distractions, being fully"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1423.426,"endTime":1425.85,"body":"present is a ginormous"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1425.922,"endTime":1428.914,"body":"gift that you can give and receive that speaks"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1428.954,"endTime":1431.408,"body":"volumes. Listening"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1431.586,"endTime":1434.2839999999999,"body":"and being fully present without"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1434.364,"endTime":1437.204,"body":"distractions making eye contact with"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1437.244,"endTime":1440.076,"body":"compassion is a priceless"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1440.1399999999999,"endTime":1442.94,"body":"gift you can give your partner. Take the time to be"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1442.972,"endTime":1445.74,"body":"silent, to truly listen."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1445.932,"endTime":1448.756,"body":"Look into your partner's eyes and"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1448.94,"endTime":1451.884,"body":"understand what is being communicated without the need"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1451.924,"endTime":1454.564,"body":"for words from you and"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1454.644,"endTime":1457.524,"body":"echo back what you heard and give them the space to"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1457.564,"endTime":1459.202,"body":"adjust what what they said."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1459.378,"endTime":1461.41,"body":"Because when you echo it back, they."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1461.442,"endTime":1463.906,"body":"May think of a different way"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1464.09,"endTime":1466.978,"body":"of communicating or they were unclear"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1467.026,"endTime":1469.906,"body":"in their original communication. And that's how you"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1469.93,"endTime":1472.894,"body":"both gain clarity and understanding and alignment."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1473.194,"endTime":1475.914,"body":"I can't emphasize enough the importance of"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1475.954,"endTime":1478.618,"body":"quality time with listening"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1478.706,"endTime":1481.174,"body":"without an agenda."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1482.114,"endTime":1484.826,"body":"More often than not, some couples who are in"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1484.8899999999999,"endTime":1487.546,"body":"arguing stages or"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1487.6499999999999,"endTime":1488.906,"body":"criticizing, blaming."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1488.97,"endTime":1491.882,"body":"And accusing stages, they have an agenda."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1491.9379999999999,"endTime":1494.826,"body":"When they're getting together for quality time and you really need to"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1494.85,"endTime":1495.186,"body":"leave that."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1495.21,"endTime":1497.514,"body":"At the door, a quiet walk together."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1497.594,"endTime":1500.506,"body":"A shared sunset, or just holding hands while watching a"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1500.53,"endTime":1503.258,"body":"movie, or even just being in the room while you're both"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1503.306,"endTime":1506.1299999999999,"body":"doing your own thing, can create connections"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1506.162,"endTime":1509.026,"body":"that words can struggle to convey. There's a lot"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1509.05,"endTime":1511.814,"body":"of truth in this saying. Silence is,"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1511.874,"endTime":1514.646,"body":"is golden. Sarah and Mark, a"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1514.67,"endTime":1517.3899999999999,"body":"couple struggling with the demands of work and family,"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1517.5819999999999,"endTime":1520.4859999999999,"body":"found solace in dedicating 15 minutes each day."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1520.51,"endTime":1522.118,"body":"To sit in silence together."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1522.286,"endTime":1525.182,"body":"This quiet time allowed them to connect on a deeper"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1525.238,"endTime":1528.11,"body":"level. Release stress, and they"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1528.142,"endTime":1531.062,"body":"created a sense of unity without the pressure to vocalize"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1531.118,"endTime":1534.11,"body":"their concerns. Number two, the"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1534.142,"endTime":1537.014,"body":"power of touch. Physical touch, even"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1537.0539999999999,"endTime":1539.768,"body":"a light one, transcends verbal barriers."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1539.966,"endTime":1542.94,"body":"I encourage my clients to rediscover the language"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1542.972,"endTime":1545.244,"body":"of touch from gentle caresses to warm"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1545.2839999999999,"endTime":1548.06,"body":"hugs. Even when you don't"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1548.132,"endTime":1550.66,"body":"want to do it, touch can"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1550.692,"endTime":1553.452,"body":"communicate love, support, and understanding in ways"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1553.508,"endTime":1555.384,"body":"words can't capture."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1556.164,"endTime":1559.1399999999999,"body":"John and Emily, a couple navigating a period of"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1559.172,"endTime":1561.86,"body":"emotional distance, started a nightly"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1561.892,"endTime":1564.264,"body":"ritual of exchanging hand massages."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1564.604,"endTime":1567.364,"body":"The simple act of physical connection helped them to"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1567.404,"endTime":1570.256,"body":"rebuild intimacy, diffused stress,"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1570.44,"endTime":1573.296,"body":"and created an unspoken understanding"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1573.3999999999999,"endTime":1575.568,"body":"that transcended the need for verbal"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1575.616,"endTime":1578.568,"body":"reassurance. Number three, acts of"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1578.616,"endTime":1581.432,"body":"service. Love, in this context is a"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1581.4479999999999,"endTime":1584.024,"body":"verb, and actions speak louder than words. As I've"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1584.064,"endTime":1586.752,"body":"mentioned earlier, I suggest"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1586.888,"endTime":1589.8799999999999,"body":"taking small acts of kindness for your partner to express love"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1589.912,"endTime":1592.7839999999999,"body":"and appreciation. Whether it's making breakfast"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1592.824,"endTime":1595.732,"body":"for your partner to enjoy in bed, taking care of a"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1595.748,"endTime":1598.732,"body":"household chore they usually do, or surprising"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1598.788,"endTime":1601.748,"body":"them with a thoughtful gesture, these actions"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1601.836,"endTime":1604.384,"body":"silently convey your commitment and care."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1604.844,"endTime":1607.644,"body":"Alex, aware of his wife Maria's hectic."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1607.684,"endTime":1609.74,"body":"Schedule, took it upon himself to prepare."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1609.772,"endTime":1612.468,"body":"A homemade dinner on a particularly"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1612.516,"endTime":1615.228,"body":"stressful day. He doesn't enjoy"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1615.356,"endTime":1617.904,"body":"making dinner or cooking lunch,"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1618.244,"endTime":1621.056,"body":"and his wife, Maria, knows that about"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1621.12,"endTime":1621.536,"body":"him."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1621.6399999999999,"endTime":1624.6,"body":"But she also knows that when he does, it tastes"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1624.632,"endTime":1625.712,"body":"pretty darn good."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1625.848,"endTime":1628.136,"body":"This act of service spoke volumes to"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1628.16,"endTime":1630.68,"body":"Maria. It showed that he was"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1630.712,"endTime":1633.672,"body":"communicating his love and support without the need for"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1633.768,"endTime":1636.24,"body":"one single spoken word. Number"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1636.272,"endTime":1639.004,"body":"four, creating shared rituals."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1639.344,"endTime":1641.76,"body":"I emphasize the importance of creating shared"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1641.792,"endTime":1644.696,"body":"experiences with my clients that become a language of"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1644.72,"endTime":1647.636,"body":"their own. Whether it's a weekly movie night,"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1647.7,"endTime":1650.3039999999999,"body":"a monthly adventure, or an annual tradition,"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1650.844,"endTime":1653.396,"body":"having these shared habitual"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1653.46,"endTime":1655.58,"body":"rituals create joyful memories and"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1655.612,"endTime":1658.384,"body":"understanding. 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And couples"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1708.266,"endTime":1709.17,"body":"that come to me to."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1709.202,"endTime":1711.874,"body":"Help improve or even save their"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1711.914,"endTime":1712.666,"body":"marriage."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1712.85,"endTime":1715.6499999999999,"body":"I find that they fill the space up"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1715.802,"endTime":1718.362,"body":"with activities or too much"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1718.418,"endTime":1719.0819999999999,"body":"talking."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1719.1779999999999,"endTime":1722.0819999999999,"body":"Or too much communication, and one or."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1722.098,"endTime":1724.922,"body":"The other partner is truly uncomfortable with silence."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1725.058,"endTime":1727.914,"body":"So silence and listening are two essential."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1727.994,"endTime":1730.92,"body":"Gifts you can give each other that do build"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1730.992,"endTime":1733.664,"body":"a relationship to be stronger. More than any"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1733.704,"endTime":1736.3519999999999,"body":"words can, I want to now cover"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1736.4479999999999,"endTime":1739.3999999999999,"body":"the five sovereign relationship needs and how to meet"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1739.432,"endTime":1741.128,"body":"them without uttering a word."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1741.256,"endTime":1743.872,"body":"These needs encapsulate the essence of a"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1743.888,"endTime":1746.816,"body":"thriving partnership and provide you with a."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1746.84,"endTime":1749.76,"body":"Roadmap to strengthen your marriage without saying"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1749.872,"endTime":1752.72,"body":"a word. The sovereign relationship needs"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1752.792,"endTime":1755.3999999999999,"body":"are a revolutionary approach to"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1755.432,"endTime":1757.936,"body":"cultivating lasting love and connection"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1758.12,"endTime":1760.776,"body":"by understanding the five needs of love and"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1760.8,"endTime":1763.192,"body":"belonging, fun, freedom,"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1763.288,"endTime":1766.2,"body":"power and safety, and survival from your"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1766.232,"endTime":1768.6,"body":"own perspective, but also that of your"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1768.632,"endTime":1771.472,"body":"partners. 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The love and belonging"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1777.088,"endTime":1779.96,"body":"sovereign relationship need it is the"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1779.992,"endTime":1782.944,"body":"foundation of any thriving relationship."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1783.104,"endTime":1785.728,"body":"I encourage you and invite you to engage"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1785.776,"endTime":1788.1979999999999,"body":"in activities that create"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1788.326,"endTime":1791.278,"body":"emotional intimacy without verbalizing every thought"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1791.326,"endTime":1794.134,"body":"or feeling. A shared hobby, a"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1794.174,"endTime":1797.07,"body":"quick dance, or even a heartfelt gaze can"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1797.1019999999999,"endTime":1798.75,"body":"affirm love and belonging."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1798.902,"endTime":1800.694,"body":"You can express love not only through."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1800.734,"endTime":1803.366,"body":"Words, but also through actions that resonate at a"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1803.3899999999999,"endTime":1806.206,"body":"soulful level. Simple gestures of"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1806.23,"endTime":1808.654,"body":"affection, like a warm embrace or a gentle"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1808.694,"endTime":1811.462,"body":"touch, can communicate profound love without"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1811.518,"endTime":1814.04,"body":"the necessity of verbalizing it."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1814.222,"endTime":1817.108,"body":"Cultivating a deep sense of love and belonging involves"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1817.196,"endTime":1820.172,"body":"also understanding your partner's emotions. Here"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1820.1879999999999,"endTime":1822.9959999999999,"body":"are two examples. Rachel and David"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1823.1,"endTime":1825.532,"body":"are navigating the challenges of a long distance"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1825.588,"endTime":1828.508,"body":"relationship, so they share handwritten"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1828.556,"endTime":1831.224,"body":"letters filled with affirmations of love."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1831.644,"endTime":1834.54,"body":"In spite of the physical distance, the tangible"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1834.612,"endTime":1837.58,"body":"expression of their feelings meets"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1837.612,"endTime":1839.884,"body":"the need for love and belonging, which creates"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1840.004,"endTime":1842.812,"body":"connection. Nikki and Mark"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1842.868,"endTime":1845.7,"body":"are feeling a, uh, disconnect after the birth of their first"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1845.772,"endTime":1848.444,"body":"child. 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Injecting fun into your relationship"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1902.984,"endTime":1905.936,"body":"without relying on words with a playful game, a"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1905.96,"endTime":1908.584,"body":"surprise date, or even sharing a funny"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1908.744,"endTime":1911.728,"body":"video can break down barriers and bring joy into your"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1911.776,"endTime":1912.364,"body":"lives."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1912.864,"endTime":1914.524,"body":"Here are two examples."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1915.064,"endTime":1917.8,"body":"Emma and Jack are caught in the monotony of"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":1917.8319999999999,"endTime":1920.276,"body":"daily routines. 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Silent gestures that"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2026.06,"endTime":2029.0439999999999,"body":"convey trust and respect for your partner's autonomy can fulfill"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2029.084,"endTime":2030.34,"body":"the need for freedom."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2030.492,"endTime":2031.884,"body":"It might be as simple as giving."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2031.924,"endTime":2034.788,"body":"Your partner time alone to pursue personal interests"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2034.916,"endTime":2037.8999999999999,"body":"or supporting their individual goals, or giving them half an hour"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2037.932,"endTime":2040.892,"body":"to an hour in the morning when they wake up for their daily"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2040.9479999999999,"endTime":2042.02,"body":"routine until they're."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2042.052,"endTime":2044.86,"body":"Ready for their day. 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I advocate for"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2165.2839999999997,"endTime":2168.236,"body":"mutual empowerment through actions supporting"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2168.2599999999998,"endTime":2170.988,"body":"your partner's goals. Acknowledging their strengths and sharing"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2171.036,"endTime":2173.4359999999997,"body":"responsibilities are a powerful way to"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2173.46,"endTime":2175.7439999999997,"body":"communicate without words."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2176.644,"endTime":2179.4039999999995,"body":"Here are a couple examples. 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For a six"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2376.5779999999995,"endTime":2379.522,"body":"month period of time, he and Olivia agreed that he"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2379.5379999999996,"endTime":2381.894,"body":"would leave his cell phone accessible to her."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2382.234,"endTime":2384.8979999999997,"body":"Olivia's willingness to forgive silently"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2385.026,"endTime":2387.6499999999996,"body":"and not constantly look at his phone to"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2387.682,"endTime":2388.194,"body":"reinforce."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2388.234,"endTime":2390.8019999999997,"body":"Her safety and survival need and instead."},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2390.8579999999997,"endTime":2393.834,"body":"Just periodically pick it up out of curiosity when"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2393.874,"endTime":2396.8579999999997,"body":"she was lighthearted, spoke volumes about"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2396.906,"endTime":2399.6499999999996,"body":"her commitment to safety and survival and that of her"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2399.682,"endTime":2402.58,"body":"partner's safety and survival need. Understanding"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2402.6119999999996,"endTime":2405.292,"body":"your primary, secondary, and shadow needs will"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2405.348,"endTime":2408.2119999999995,"body":"provide you profound insights into your relationship"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2408.2679999999996,"endTime":2410.8199999999997,"body":"dynamics. 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By implementing these"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2430.7219999999998,"endTime":2433.466,"body":"practical steps, you can improve your relationship without"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2433.5299999999997,"endTime":2436.4419999999996,"body":"talking about it extensively. I want you"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2436.4579999999996,"endTime":2439.45,"body":"to know that actions do speak volumes over"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2439.522,"endTime":2442.4579999999996,"body":"words, and these small, incremental"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2442.506,"endTime":2444.9779999999996,"body":"steps and efforts can lead to significant"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2445.1059999999998,"endTime":2448.066,"body":"shifts. I look forward to seeing you and meeting you in the"},{"speaker":"to that starts at 07","startTime":2448.0899999999997,"endTime":2448.794,"body":"next podcast."}]}