{"version":"1.0.0","segments":[{"startTime":88.82,"endTime":91.402,"body":"Welcome to episode 44 of the Better"},{"startTime":91.466,"endTime":94.26599999999999,"body":"Relationships podcast. I'm"},{"startTime":94.298,"endTime":97.09,"body":"Doctor Dar Hawkes, the relationship healer,"},{"startTime":97.21,"endTime":99.922,"body":"and today I'm talking about how to fix"},{"startTime":99.986,"endTime":102.786,"body":"marriage problems and strengthen your"},{"startTime":102.858,"endTime":105.666,"body":"relationship. Marriage"},{"startTime":105.738,"endTime":108.674,"body":"is a sacred bond between two"},{"startTime":108.722,"endTime":111.322,"body":"individuals that requires constant"},{"startTime":111.506,"endTime":113.722,"body":"and consistent effort,"},{"startTime":113.906,"endTime":116.002,"body":"communication and"},{"startTime":116.146,"endTime":118.27,"body":"understanding to thrive."},{"startTime":118.93,"endTime":121.19,"body":"However, even the strongest of"},{"startTime":121.22999999999999,"endTime":124.18199999999999,"body":"relationships can encounter challenges along"},{"startTime":124.246,"endTime":127.174,"body":"the way. In this guide, I'll"},{"startTime":127.22200000000001,"endTime":130.182,"body":"explore effective strategies and techniques on how to"},{"startTime":130.206,"endTime":132.85399999999998,"body":"fix marriage problems and strengthen your"},{"startTime":132.902,"endTime":135.726,"body":"relationship. Whether you"},{"startTime":135.75799999999998,"endTime":138.254,"body":"are facing issues with communication,"},{"startTime":138.422,"endTime":141.334,"body":"trust, intimacy, or any"},{"startTime":141.382,"endTime":144.118,"body":"other aspect of your partnership, this"},{"startTime":144.174,"endTime":146.526,"body":"guide will provide you with the tools and"},{"startTime":146.598,"endTime":149.51,"body":"insights needed to navigate through tough"},{"startTime":149.55,"endTime":152.478,"body":"times and build a stronger foundation"},{"startTime":152.574,"endTime":155.19,"body":"for years to come. Understanding the root"},{"startTime":155.23000000000002,"endTime":157.93,"body":"causes of marriage problems is essential"},{"startTime":158.47,"endTime":160.894,"body":"to effectively address and resolve"},{"startTime":160.942,"endTime":163.422,"body":"them. Conflict can arise"},{"startTime":163.486,"endTime":166.34199999999998,"body":"from many sources such as communication"},{"startTime":166.406,"endTime":168.846,"body":"breakdowns, unresolved past"},{"startTime":168.918,"endTime":171.798,"body":"traumas, differing values or"},{"startTime":171.85399999999998,"endTime":174.32999999999998,"body":"expectations, or lifestyle needs,"},{"startTime":174.63,"endTime":177.238,"body":"or even external stressors like job"},{"startTime":177.29399999999998,"endTime":179.744,"body":"demands or ambitions, financial"},{"startTime":179.872,"endTime":182.3,"body":"struggles, or even family meddling."},{"startTime":183.51999999999998,"endTime":186.44,"body":"By identifying and acknowledging the root causes"},{"startTime":186.48000000000002,"endTime":189.336,"body":"of your conflict, you can begin to work towards a"},{"startTime":189.368,"endTime":192.344,"body":"resolution and healing with your"},{"startTime":192.392,"endTime":195.32,"body":"partner. It's important to approach"},{"startTime":195.39999999999998,"endTime":198.112,"body":"conflicts in your marriage with compassion"},{"startTime":198.296,"endTime":201.2,"body":"and understanding. Rather"},{"startTime":201.24,"endTime":203.656,"body":"than placing blame or seeking to win an"},{"startTime":203.688,"endTime":206.226,"body":"argument, focus on listening to your"},{"startTime":206.25799999999998,"endTime":208.93,"body":"partner's perspective and empathizing with their"},{"startTime":208.97,"endTime":211.93,"body":"feelings. Also focus on"},{"startTime":211.97,"endTime":214.69,"body":"getting clear about how you feel"},{"startTime":214.85,"endTime":217.074,"body":"and what you want to communicate"},{"startTime":217.24200000000002,"endTime":219.81,"body":"before you share with your"},{"startTime":219.85000000000002,"endTime":222.618,"body":"partner. One common cause of difficulties in a"},{"startTime":222.63400000000001,"endTime":224.95,"body":"marriage is poor communication."},{"startTime":225.69,"endTime":228.442,"body":"When couples fail to effectively communicate"},{"startTime":228.50599999999997,"endTime":231.13,"body":"their feelings, needs, dreams, and"},{"startTime":231.17000000000002,"endTime":234.098,"body":"desires, misunderstandings can"},{"startTime":234.154,"endTime":236.75,"body":"arise and that leads to conflict."},{"startTime":237.31,"endTime":240.15800000000002,"body":"It's important for both of you to actively"},{"startTime":240.25400000000002,"endTime":243.13,"body":"and compassionately listen to each other,"},{"startTime":243.46999999999997,"endTime":245.878,"body":"express yourselves honestly and"},{"startTime":245.93400000000003,"endTime":248.78199999999998,"body":"calmly, and work together to find"},{"startTime":248.846,"endTime":251.726,"body":"mutually acceptable solutions. When I work"},{"startTime":251.75799999999998,"endTime":254.55,"body":"with couples, I look for things that they're"},{"startTime":254.58999999999997,"endTime":257.19,"body":"both saying they want rather than"},{"startTime":257.23,"endTime":259.878,"body":"focusing on what they both don't"},{"startTime":259.934,"endTime":262.686,"body":"want, because that's where you can find"},{"startTime":262.758,"endTime":265.606,"body":"the common ground and that's where you can"},{"startTime":265.638,"endTime":268.05,"body":"find the mutually acceptable solutions."},{"startTime":269.75,"endTime":272.67,"body":"Another root cause of marriage problems can be a,"},{"startTime":272.656,"endTime":275.536,"body":"lack of trust. 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Addressing the"},{"startTime":294.462,"endTime":297.174,"body":"underlying issues that may have led to the breach of"},{"startTime":297.214,"endTime":300.03,"body":"trust is essential in order to"},{"startTime":300.062,"endTime":302.314,"body":"restore faith in your relationship."},{"startTime":303.414,"endTime":306.394,"body":"In addition to communication and trust issues,"},{"startTime":307.014,"endTime":309.782,"body":"other common root causes of marriage problems"},{"startTime":309.838,"endTime":312.594,"body":"may include differences in values or goals,"},{"startTime":313.014,"endTime":315.55,"body":"lifestyle variations, career"},{"startTime":315.622,"endTime":317.782,"body":"ambition, parenting"},{"startTime":317.838,"endTime":319.948,"body":"styles, financial"},{"startTime":320.076,"endTime":322.704,"body":"stressors, intimacy issues,"},{"startTime":323.24399999999997,"endTime":325.964,"body":"or outside influences such as family or"},{"startTime":326.004,"endTime":328.864,"body":"friends interfering with your partnership,"},{"startTime":329.324,"endTime":332.084,"body":"unresolved past traumas that impact present"},{"startTime":332.164,"endTime":334.908,"body":"behavior patterns, or many"},{"startTime":334.996,"endTime":337.836,"body":"other things. By taking the"},{"startTime":337.86,"endTime":340.268,"body":"time to identify the core issues within your"},{"startTime":340.316,"endTime":342.988,"body":"relationship, you actually can start"},{"startTime":343.116,"endTime":346.02,"body":"working towards finding solutions that"},{"startTime":346.05199999999996,"endTime":348.70799999999997,"body":"will strengthen the relationship with your partner"},{"startTime":348.876,"endTime":351.248,"body":"and improve overall marital"},{"startTime":351.33599999999996,"endTime":352.56399999999996,"body":"satisfaction."},{"startTime":354.664,"endTime":357.324,"body":"Improving communication with your partner"},{"startTime":358.304,"endTime":360.912,"body":"communication is really the key"},{"startTime":361.08799999999997,"endTime":363.608,"body":"in resolving conflicts, but also"},{"startTime":363.776,"endTime":366.296,"body":"building a better relationship in every"},{"startTime":366.35999999999996,"endTime":369.044,"body":"moment. Without communication,"},{"startTime":369.904,"endTime":372.12399999999997,"body":"you don't really have a relationship."},{"startTime":372.62399999999997,"endTime":375.364,"body":"You're coexisting, but you're not communicating."},{"startTime":375.984,"endTime":378.74399999999997,"body":"So I invite you to take the time to express yourself"},{"startTime":378.824,"endTime":381.71999999999997,"body":"honestly while also being open to hearing"},{"startTime":381.752,"endTime":384.49199999999996,"body":"your partner's point of view. 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With"},{"startTime":410.938,"endTime":413.866,"body":"logic and rationalization, you can"},{"startTime":413.89,"endTime":416.794,"body":"repair any damage that's been done and truly"},{"startTime":416.834,"endTime":419.26599999999996,"body":"build a stronger foundation for your marriage. Moving"},{"startTime":419.33,"endTime":422.114,"body":"forward. Seeking"},{"startTime":422.154,"endTime":425.034,"body":"help from a professional therapist or couples coach"},{"startTime":425.19399999999996,"endTime":427.94599999999997,"body":"can be more beneficial in addressing"},{"startTime":428.09,"endTime":430.954,"body":"deep seated issues within your marriage rather than"},{"startTime":430.99399999999997,"endTime":433.75,"body":"working through it on your own. A marriage or"},{"startTime":433.774,"endTime":436.222,"body":"couples coach is trained as a mediator,"},{"startTime":436.31,"endTime":438.88599999999997,"body":"facilitator, and in techniques"},{"startTime":438.942,"endTime":441.294,"body":"to help you create healthy"},{"startTime":441.32599999999996,"endTime":443.686,"body":"communication between you and your partner"},{"startTime":443.86199999999997,"endTime":446.42199999999997,"body":"offer insights into patterns of behavior"},{"startTime":446.46999999999997,"endTime":448.974,"body":"that could be contributing to creating the"},{"startTime":449.006,"endTime":451.974,"body":"conflict. Teaching you both compassionate"},{"startTime":452.006,"endTime":455.006,"body":"communication techniques and providing"},{"startTime":455.062,"endTime":457.974,"body":"guidance on how to navigate challenging situations"},{"startTime":458.006,"endTime":459.418,"body":"together going forward."},{"startTime":462.95799999999997,"endTime":465.046,"body":"Conflict M is a natural part of any"},{"startTime":465.102,"endTime":467.984,"body":"relationship, but by working through"},{"startTime":468.01599999999996,"endTime":470.23199999999997,"body":"it together with patience,"},{"startTime":470.32,"endTime":473.01599999999996,"body":"compassion, understanding and love,"},{"startTime":473.192,"endTime":476.12,"body":"you can really emerge stronger"},{"startTime":476.18399999999997,"endTime":479.08,"body":"as partners. One of the"},{"startTime":479.104,"endTime":481.768,"body":"key components to improving communication in your"},{"startTime":481.808,"endTime":484.512,"body":"relationship is compassionate listening"},{"startTime":484.64,"endTime":487.032,"body":"and speaking. This"},{"startTime":487.08,"endTime":490.03999999999996,"body":"requires completely paying attention to"},{"startTime":490.06399999999996,"endTime":492.312,"body":"what your partner is saying without"},{"startTime":492.4,"endTime":495.368,"body":"interrupting or formulating a response before they"},{"startTime":495.40799999999996,"endTime":497.912,"body":"finish speaking. Compassionate"},{"startTime":497.96,"endTime":500.608,"body":"listening aims to hear things from your partner's"},{"startTime":500.64799999999997,"endTime":503.592,"body":"perspective, not your own, and then"},{"startTime":503.64,"endTime":505.856,"body":"having a dialogue to understand their"},{"startTime":505.99199999999996,"endTime":508.712,"body":"perspective better without interjecting your own"},{"startTime":508.76,"endTime":511.512,"body":"opinions or needs. Once"},{"startTime":511.56,"endTime":513.7280000000001,"body":"that happens and your partner has"},{"startTime":513.768,"endTime":516.5600000000001,"body":"confirmed they've completed what they wanted to"},{"startTime":516.5840000000001,"endTime":519.424,"body":"say, compassionate speaking allows"},{"startTime":519.456,"endTime":522.36,"body":"for a transition to you being able to"},{"startTime":522.384,"endTime":524.388,"body":"share your thoughts with your partner."},{"startTime":525.438,"endTime":528.294,"body":"Asking if you can do that now and giving your"},{"startTime":528.326,"endTime":531.27,"body":"partner the space to say not now or for them"},{"startTime":531.294,"endTime":533.718,"body":"to say yes is key to a healthy"},{"startTime":533.758,"endTime":536.5740000000001,"body":"dialogue. If they say yes,"},{"startTime":536.686,"endTime":539.63,"body":"you can share your thoughts about what they shared with you,"},{"startTime":539.774,"endTime":541.982,"body":"how you feel it impacts you and your"},{"startTime":542.03,"endTime":544.59,"body":"relationship. And if there are glaring"},{"startTime":544.654,"endTime":547.63,"body":"differences, ask your partner to help you find a"},{"startTime":547.654,"endTime":550.498,"body":"way to get your needs met along with theirs."},{"startTime":551.798,"endTime":554.694,"body":"By showing empathy and understanding,"},{"startTime":554.766,"endTime":557.018,"body":"you can create a more supportive"},{"startTime":557.398,"endTime":559.63,"body":"environment where both of you feel heard and"},{"startTime":559.654,"endTime":561.958,"body":"valued. 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And because they're"},{"startTime":1764.952,"endTime":1767.696,"body":"personalized, it will help strengthen"},{"startTime":1767.744,"endTime":1769.812,"body":"emotional connection between you both."},{"startTime":1770.822,"endTime":1773.694,"body":"By investing in your relationship and being willing to"},{"startTime":1773.718,"endTime":1776.562,"body":"put in the efforts to overcome obstacles together,"},{"startTime":1777.1019999999999,"endTime":1779.894,"body":"you can build a stronger foundation that will withstand"},{"startTime":1779.958,"endTime":1782.222,"body":"the test of time. With"},{"startTime":1782.262,"endTime":1784.694,"body":"dedication, patience, mutual"},{"startTime":1784.758,"endTime":1787.174,"body":"respect, and connecting"},{"startTime":1787.278,"endTime":1789.702,"body":"regularly to talk about your"},{"startTime":1789.742,"endTime":1792.502,"body":"relationship and work on your"},{"startTime":1792.542,"endTime":1795.3419999999999,"body":"relationship actively, you can navigate through"},{"startTime":1795.382,"endTime":1798.126,"body":"challenges hand in hand and emerge even"},{"startTime":1798.174,"endTime":1800.322,"body":"stronger on the other side as"},{"startTime":1800.402,"endTime":1803.402,"body":"partners. By facing conflicts head"},{"startTime":1803.442,"endTime":1806.434,"body":"on. With compassion and an open heart, you"},{"startTime":1806.458,"endTime":1809.378,"body":"have the opportunity to not only resolve issues,"},{"startTime":1809.57,"endTime":1812.346,"body":"but also deepen your understanding of your partner"},{"startTime":1812.394,"endTime":1815.242,"body":"and yourself. Challenges truly can"},{"startTime":1815.282,"endTime":1817.8899999999999,"body":"be an opportunity for growth and transformation"},{"startTime":1817.9859999999999,"endTime":1820.562,"body":"within yourself, your partner and your"},{"startTime":1820.6019999999999,"endTime":1823.362,"body":"marriage. So instead of avoiding it,"},{"startTime":1823.442,"endTime":1826.242,"body":"embrace them as a chance to learn more"},{"startTime":1826.282,"endTime":1829.196,"body":"about yourself and your partner as you build"},{"startTime":1829.244,"endTime":1832.156,"body":"trust and intimacy along the way. Things"},{"startTime":1832.244,"endTime":1835.0919999999999,"body":"happen in our lives that throw us"},{"startTime":1835.132,"endTime":1837.892,"body":"off kilter. And rather than"},{"startTime":1837.932,"endTime":1840.512,"body":"reacting from a, past memory"},{"startTime":1840.632,"endTime":1843.488,"body":"or how we responded or reacted to it"},{"startTime":1843.52,"endTime":1846.256,"body":"the last time something similar happened,"},{"startTime":1846.424,"endTime":1848.812,"body":"I invite you to think of it as a new experience"},{"startTime":1849.472,"endTime":1852.232,"body":"with your partner and think about the"},{"startTime":1852.272,"endTime":1855.024,"body":"present moment and how you want to manage yourself"},{"startTime":1855.128,"endTime":1857.522,"body":"and address it today."},{"startTime":1858.222,"endTime":1861.1019999999999,"body":"Because the past has nothing to do with what's happening"},{"startTime":1861.142,"endTime":1863.95,"body":"today. Through mutual"},{"startTime":1864.006,"endTime":1866.934,"body":"support, communication, patience, forgiveness, and"},{"startTime":1866.958,"endTime":1869.854,"body":"by focusing on nurturing feelings of love,"},{"startTime":1869.918,"endTime":1872.654,"body":"resilience and unity, you truly will be able"},{"startTime":1872.718,"endTime":1875.242,"body":"to strengthen your relationship"},{"startTime":1875.542,"endTime":1878.222,"body":"and create the space for"},{"startTime":1878.262,"endTime":1880.862,"body":"challenges to be something that you look not"},{"startTime":1880.902,"endTime":1883.83,"body":"necessarily look forward to, but challenges"},{"startTime":1883.886,"endTime":1886.87,"body":"that you just approach, observe, talk"},{"startTime":1886.926,"endTime":1889.782,"body":"about together and figure"},{"startTime":1889.822,"endTime":1892.782,"body":"out how you each want to manage it and jump over them,"},{"startTime":1892.776,"endTime":1895.72,"body":"with ease. And all the while"},{"startTime":1895.768,"endTime":1898.224,"body":"you'll be building a better and stronger"},{"startTime":1898.28,"endTime":1901.152,"body":"relationship and deepening"},{"startTime":1901.224,"endTime":1904.208,"body":"your partnership. I hope this"},{"startTime":1904.232,"endTime":1906.648,"body":"has been helpful to you. I look forward to meeting"},{"startTime":1906.712,"endTime":1909.074,"body":"you when you get your better"},{"startTime":1909.1299999999999,"endTime":1912.0339999999999,"body":"relationships toolkit and you can do that at Toolkit"},{"startTime":1912.09,"endTime":1914.346,"body":"dot drdarhawks.com."}]}