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A strong"},{"startTime":178.926,"endTime":181.87,"body":"partnership sets a positive example for your"},{"startTime":181.91,"endTime":184.606,"body":"family, for children and friends that are around"},{"startTime":184.678,"endTime":187.25,"body":"you, and provides a nurturing environment."},{"startTime":189.11,"endTime":191.68599999999998,"body":"Here are five ways to become a better"},{"startTime":191.75799999999998,"endTime":194.334,"body":"husband starting today. Number"},{"startTime":194.382,"endTime":197.286,"body":"one, express gratitude regularly"},{"startTime":197.438,"endTime":199.934,"body":"gratitude is underused and"},{"startTime":199.982,"endTime":202.35,"body":"undervalued in relationships. 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And here's a tip."},{"startTime":419.226,"endTime":422.106,"body":"Wait until they mention it to you that"},{"startTime":422.138,"endTime":424.99399999999997,"body":"they found it. Unless you're concerned that it got thrown"},{"startTime":425.042,"endTime":426.63,"body":"away in a box or something,"},{"startTime":428.57,"endTime":431.394,"body":"just be patient and wait for them to find it"},{"startTime":431.442,"endTime":433.89,"body":"and experience the joy that you can"},{"startTime":433.93,"endTime":436.502,"body":"observe in them. Rather than saying"},{"startTime":436.626,"endTime":438.96999999999997,"body":"something like I put the note"},{"startTime":439.66999999999996,"endTime":442.44599999999997,"body":"in your lunch that you took to work."},{"startTime":442.518,"endTime":445.30199999999996,"body":"Did you not see it? 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It also increases"},{"startTime":473.042,"endTime":475.882,"body":"emotional safety. By reassuring your spouse that they"},{"startTime":475.906,"endTime":477.978,"body":"are valued, appreciated, and"},{"startTime":478.034,"endTime":480.58599999999996,"body":"loved, this daily trust building"},{"startTime":480.65799999999996,"endTime":483.21,"body":"practice lays a solid foundation for deeper"},{"startTime":483.25,"endTime":486.138,"body":"intimacy and mutual understanding. On"},{"startTime":486.154,"endTime":489.09,"body":"the plus side, expressing gratitude only takes a few"},{"startTime":489.13,"endTime":491.906,"body":"minutes with a gigantic payoff. 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Number two,"},{"startTime":517.23,"endTime":519.582,"body":"taking on responsibility together in a"},{"startTime":519.606,"endTime":522.518,"body":"partnership shared responsibilities in"},{"startTime":522.534,"endTime":525.5020000000001,"body":"a marriage builds a sense of unity and partnership."},{"startTime":525.566,"endTime":528.374,"body":"When both of you actively participate in managing"},{"startTime":528.422,"endTime":531.198,"body":"household tasks, parenting duties,"},{"startTime":531.294,"endTime":533.646,"body":"financial obligations or other"},{"startTime":533.718,"endTime":536.4300000000001,"body":"activities, it actually alleviates"},{"startTime":536.47,"endTime":538.9300000000001,"body":"stress and creates a more balanced environment."},{"startTime":539.35,"endTime":542.342,"body":"It creates the space for both of you to feel like you're not in"},{"startTime":542.366,"endTime":544.974,"body":"this alone, that you have support"},{"startTime":545.142,"endTime":548.09,"body":"from each other, and that you're partners."},{"startTime":551.87,"endTime":554.49,"body":"Open communication is another way."},{"startTime":555.16,"endTime":558.02,"body":"Have weekly discussions about daily tasks."},{"startTime":620.24,"endTime":623.0640000000001,"body":"how gratitude strengthens emotional safety and"},{"startTime":623.1120000000001,"endTime":625.984,"body":"trust when gratitude is regularly"},{"startTime":626.032,"endTime":628.7760000000001,"body":"expressed, it can transform not only how you see your"},{"startTime":628.808,"endTime":631.8040000000001,"body":"partner, how you see yourself, but"},{"startTime":671.5520000000001,"endTime":674.3360000000001,"body":"also how your partner perceives themselves in the"},{"startTime":674.368,"endTime":676.9040000000001,"body":"relationship. 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When both of"},{"startTime":713.7040000000001,"endTime":716.5120000000001,"body":"you feel secure and appreciated, you're both more likely"},{"startTime":716.5760000000001,"endTime":719.2560000000001,"body":"to share openly and support each"},{"startTime":719.2880000000001,"endTime":721.5400000000001,"body":"other through life's challenges."},{"startTime":723.9000000000001,"endTime":726.1960000000001,"body":"The second way for"},{"startTime":726.3080000000001,"endTime":729.2760000000001,"body":"expressing appreciation is to take on"},{"startTime":729.3080000000001,"endTime":731.7800000000001,"body":"responsibilities together. Shared"},{"startTime":731.82,"endTime":734.412,"body":"responsibilities build a sense of unity"},{"startTime":734.5160000000001,"endTime":737.34,"body":"and equal partnership. 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Learning to truly"},{"startTime":1177.504,"endTime":1180.01,"body":"listen and be silent"},{"startTime":1180.194,"endTime":1183.01,"body":"and wait for your turn to express yourself can"},{"startTime":1183.074,"endTime":1186.058,"body":"transform your relationship. Empathetic"},{"startTime":1186.098,"endTime":1188.514,"body":"listening plays a critical role in"},{"startTime":1188.546,"endTime":1191.238,"body":"improving marital satisfaction."},{"startTime":1191.538,"endTime":1194.138,"body":"When you listen with empathy, you validate your"},{"startTime":1194.1779999999999,"endTime":1197.066,"body":"partner's feelings. You show that you care and understand"},{"startTime":1197.162,"endTime":1199.858,"body":"their perspective. 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Say something like, I just"},{"startTime":1262.11,"endTime":1264.848,"body":"want to summarize what you just said and ensure"},{"startTime":1264.9279999999999,"endTime":1267.4479999999999,"body":"that I understood it, and then"},{"startTime":1267.568,"endTime":1269.468,"body":"say what you think you heard."},{"startTime":1270.408,"endTime":1273.384,"body":"It's important to use I statements expressing"},{"startTime":1273.416,"endTime":1275.768,"body":"your feelings using I statements rather than"},{"startTime":1275.848,"endTime":1278.36,"body":"accusations saying, for"},{"startTime":1278.384,"endTime":1281.096,"body":"example, I feel neglected when we don't spend"},{"startTime":1281.152,"endTime":1284.152,"body":"time together as opposed to you never spend"},{"startTime":1284.2,"endTime":1287.104,"body":"time with me. Using I statements"},{"startTime":1287.136,"endTime":1289.876,"body":"can prevent defender and foster open"},{"startTime":1289.932,"endTime":1292.356,"body":"dialogue. Improving"},{"startTime":1292.412,"endTime":1294.8999999999999,"body":"communication leads to deeper understanding and"},{"startTime":1294.964,"endTime":1297.412,"body":"emotional safety. I feel that"},{"startTime":1297.5,"endTime":1300.148,"body":"partners know when communication is getting"},{"startTime":1300.1879999999999,"endTime":1302.884,"body":"derailed and sadly,"},{"startTime":1302.9959999999999,"endTime":1305.924,"body":"many of them really don't know how"},{"startTime":1305.956,"endTime":1308.808,"body":"to communicate in an intimate relationship."},{"startTime":1309.1879999999999,"endTime":1311.964,"body":"Most of us have been taught reading and"},{"startTime":1311.9959999999999,"endTime":1314.828,"body":"writing skills and speaking skills,"},{"startTime":1314.868,"endTime":1317.1879999999999,"body":"but not using communication to"},{"startTime":1317.228,"endTime":1319.68,"body":"connect and to create"},{"startTime":1319.824,"endTime":1321.988,"body":"positive results skills."},{"startTime":1322.568,"endTime":1325.16,"body":"However, when both partners do feel heard and"},{"startTime":1325.184,"endTime":1328.0,"body":"valued, it improves communication, leads"},{"startTime":1328.024,"endTime":1330.968,"body":"to deeper understanding and emotional safety, which"},{"startTime":1331.008,"endTime":1333.312,"body":"then creates a more harmonious and fulfilling"},{"startTime":1333.36,"endTime":1336.12,"body":"relationship. 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Demonstrating personal"},{"startTime":1648.464,"endTime":1650.716,"body":"growth as a husband is important"},{"startTime":1651.406,"endTime":1654.1499999999999,"body":"in order to create a thriving marriage that"},{"startTime":1654.1979999999999,"endTime":1656.614,"body":"lasts. Aim to be present,"},{"startTime":1656.71,"endTime":1659.014,"body":"attentive and proactive in your personal"},{"startTime":1659.11,"endTime":1661.262,"body":"development and in nurturing your"},{"startTime":1661.2939999999999,"endTime":1664.118,"body":"relationship. The journey to becoming a"},{"startTime":1664.142,"endTime":1666.95,"body":"better husband is continuous and ongoing,"},{"startTime":1667.038,"endTime":1669.886,"body":"and it's deeply rewarding. Commit today"},{"startTime":1669.966,"endTime":1672.51,"body":"to make meaningful changes and watch your"},{"startTime":1672.558,"endTime":1675.2939999999999,"body":"marriage flourish. Work towards"},{"startTime":1675.35,"endTime":1678.238,"body":"strengthening your relationship skills so that you can become a"},{"startTime":1678.262,"endTime":1681.218,"body":"healthy, equal partner. Have a"},{"startTime":1681.242,"endTime":1683.366,"body":"healthy relationship mindset,"},{"startTime":1683.706,"endTime":1686.646,"body":"practice healthy relationship behaviors,"},{"startTime":1686.946,"endTime":1689.786,"body":"learn to use connecting, compassionate"},{"startTime":1689.826,"endTime":1692.818,"body":"communication, manage your energy and"},{"startTime":1692.8419999999999,"endTime":1695.722,"body":"your moods, and regularly schedule quality"},{"startTime":1695.7939999999999,"endTime":1698.778,"body":"time. If"},{"startTime":1698.802,"endTime":1701.0339999999999,"body":"you would like to learn more about those"},{"startTime":1701.09,"endTime":1703.806,"body":"relationship skills and how to build them,"},{"startTime":1704.146,"endTime":1707.046,"body":"you can get my relationships toolkit."},{"startTime":1708.016,"endTime":1710.856,"body":"You can get the toolkit at Toolkit dot"},{"startTime":1710.896,"endTime":1713.712,"body":"drdarhawks.com, where I"},{"startTime":1713.744,"endTime":1716.6879999999999,"body":"talk about the 15 relationship skills"},{"startTime":1716.8319999999999,"endTime":1718.796,"body":"and the five"},{"startTime":1720.136,"endTime":1722.768,"body":"ways to become a better partner that I just"},{"startTime":1722.8319999999999,"endTime":1724.076,"body":"covered with you."},{"startTime":1725.7359999999999,"endTime":1728.464,"body":"If the toolkit's not for you, get started with your self"},{"startTime":1728.52,"endTime":1731.256,"body":"development by discovering your dominant primary"},{"startTime":1731.336,"endTime":1734.272,"body":"relationship need that motivates and drives you"},{"startTime":1734.3039999999999,"endTime":1737.292,"body":"within your relationship. Take my free quiz"},{"startTime":1737.364,"endTime":1740.132,"body":"and ask your partner too as well, so that you can both"},{"startTime":1740.204,"endTime":1742.508,"body":"learn how your dominant primary"},{"startTime":1742.572,"endTime":1745.396,"body":"relationship needs works with that of your"},{"startTime":1745.436,"endTime":1748.196,"body":"partners. Thank you"},{"startTime":1748.276,"endTime":1750.936,"body":"for the gift of your time and your listening."},{"startTime":1751.276,"endTime":1753.8999999999999,"body":"I look forward to connecting with you in the"},{"startTime":1753.9479999999999,"endTime":1756.268,"body":"next podcast, and in the"},{"startTime":1756.292,"endTime":1758.416,"body":"meantime, please do"},{"startTime":1759.316,"endTime":1762.228,"body":"leave me a comment or reach out. I'm, here"},{"startTime":1762.276,"endTime":1765.164,"body":"for you. I would love to get to know you and"},{"startTime":1765.204,"endTime":1768.0439999999999,"body":"support you in creating a thriving"},{"startTime":1768.204,"endTime":1768.524,"body":"marriage."}]}