{"version":"1.0.0","segments":[{"startTime":90.1,"endTime":92.938,"body":"Welcome to episode 46 of the Better"},{"startTime":92.994,"endTime":95.77,"body":"Relationships podcast. I'm Doctor"},{"startTime":95.81,"endTime":98.626,"body":"Dar Hawkes, the relationship healer. And"},{"startTime":98.658,"endTime":101.45,"body":"today I'm talking about the six surprising"},{"startTime":101.53,"endTime":104.026,"body":"ingredients for relationship"},{"startTime":104.098,"endTime":106.946,"body":"success. Relationships"},{"startTime":106.978,"endTime":109.354,"body":"are really a beautiful blend of connection,"},{"startTime":109.482,"endTime":111.98599999999999,"body":"trust, mutual respect, and"},{"startTime":112.05799999999999,"endTime":114.946,"body":"growth. And let's face it, if we"},{"startTime":114.978,"endTime":117.834,"body":"didn't have relationships in our lives, I think"},{"startTime":117.882,"endTime":119.47,"body":"life would be pretty boring."},{"startTime":120.66,"endTime":122.9,"body":"Understanding the ingredients of a healthy"},{"startTime":122.94,"endTime":125.884,"body":"relationship is crucial for"},{"startTime":125.93199999999999,"endTime":128.8,"body":"creating a relationship that lasts."},{"startTime":129.18,"endTime":131.956,"body":"It's about more than just love. It's"},{"startTime":131.988,"endTime":134.96,"body":"about building a foundation together"},{"startTime":135.42000000000002,"endTime":137.948,"body":"that can weather anything that life"},{"startTime":138.004,"endTime":140.82,"body":"throws in your path. By"},{"startTime":140.86,"endTime":143.628,"body":"focusing on the key elements I'm going to cover in this"},{"startTime":143.684,"endTime":146.372,"body":"episode, you truly can create a"},{"startTime":146.39600000000002,"endTime":148.68,"body":"deeper connection with your partner"},{"startTime":148.98,"endTime":151.75799999999998,"body":"and a, safer, more stable and"},{"startTime":151.814,"endTime":153.926,"body":"secure relationship that"},{"startTime":153.998,"endTime":156.982,"body":"lasts. Here"},{"startTime":157.006,"endTime":159.31,"body":"are the six ingredients for relationship"},{"startTime":159.39,"endTime":162.094,"body":"success. Number one,"},{"startTime":162.18200000000002,"endTime":164.85399999999998,"body":"unselfishness. It's the heart of"},{"startTime":164.902,"endTime":167.438,"body":"generosity. Number two,"},{"startTime":167.574,"endTime":170.37,"body":"authentic, transparent communication."},{"startTime":170.82999999999998,"endTime":172.45,"body":"It's the key to connection."},{"startTime":173.87,"endTime":176.374,"body":"Trust. It's the cornerstone of"},{"startTime":176.422,"endTime":177.76999999999998,"body":"relationship stability."},{"startTime":178.70999999999998,"endTime":181.094,"body":"Recognition and healing of triggers."},{"startTime":181.22199999999998,"endTime":183.67000000000002,"body":"Understanding and addressing your own"},{"startTime":183.82999999999998,"endTime":186.01,"body":"emotional triggers."},{"startTime":186.59,"endTime":188.91,"body":"Fair resource negotiation."},{"startTime":189.07,"endTime":191.822,"body":"Having equitable discussion about"},{"startTime":191.886,"endTime":194.82999999999998,"body":"resources such as chores or"},{"startTime":194.87,"endTime":197.598,"body":"finances. Creating a co"},{"startTime":197.654,"endTime":200.574,"body":"equal partnership creates empowerment"},{"startTime":200.622,"endTime":203.438,"body":"through equality. Each"},{"startTime":203.494,"endTime":206.462,"body":"ingredient plays a crucial role in the secret to"},{"startTime":206.486,"endTime":209.326,"body":"a happy relationship and the keys to a"},{"startTime":209.358,"endTime":212.23399999999998,"body":"successful one. 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Truly"},{"startTime":264.924,"endTime":267.484,"body":"listening to your partner when they share their"},{"startTime":267.532,"endTime":270.34,"body":"concerns and joys without immediately"},{"startTime":270.38,"endTime":272.9,"body":"steering the conversation back to yourself,"},{"startTime":273.32,"endTime":274.56,"body":"is an act of unselfishness."},{"startTime":276.8,"endTime":279.28,"body":"acts of service. Simple,"},{"startTime":279.36,"endTime":281.896,"body":"everyday acts like making your partner's favorite"},{"startTime":281.928,"endTime":284.792,"body":"meal or taking over a chore that"},{"startTime":284.816,"endTime":287.704,"body":"they don't enjoy. Or just"},{"startTime":287.832,"endTime":290.592,"body":"doing something that they usually do"},{"startTime":290.696,"endTime":292.98,"body":"when they're running late"},{"startTime":293.8,"endTime":295.62,"body":"due to a work situation"},{"startTime":296.66,"endTime":299.556,"body":"so that they see when they get home, oh my gosh,"},{"startTime":299.588,"endTime":301.996,"body":"it's already done and I don't have to stress out about it and I can"},{"startTime":302.028,"endTime":304.924,"body":"relax. 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The benefits"},{"startTime":333.184,"endTime":335.5,"body":"of creating a spirit of generosity"},{"startTime":336.2,"endTime":338.98,"body":"in your partnership are immense."},{"startTime":340.92,"endTime":343.584,"body":"It cultivates an environment where both of you feel"},{"startTime":343.632,"endTime":346.424,"body":"valued and loved. It reduces feelings"},{"startTime":346.472,"endTime":349.128,"body":"of resentment, and it creates deeper"},{"startTime":349.18399999999997,"endTime":351.912,"body":"emotional connection. When you practice"},{"startTime":351.976,"endTime":354.87199999999996,"body":"unselfishness, you're not just adhering to rules"},{"startTime":355.01599999999996,"endTime":357.74,"body":"and guidelines for a happy relationship,"},{"startTime":357.91999999999996,"endTime":360.556,"body":"you're also building a foundation based on"},{"startTime":360.58799999999997,"endTime":363.5,"body":"mutual respect and care. 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Active communication in relationships"},{"startTime":391.878,"endTime":394.78999999999996,"body":"is the root and the foundation for closeness,"},{"startTime":394.90999999999997,"endTime":397.486,"body":"understanding, feeling heard,"},{"startTime":397.638,"endTime":400.406,"body":"and being supported. Authentic"},{"startTime":400.438,"endTime":403.318,"body":"communication goes beyond just talking. 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These often"},{"startTime":477.09799999999996,"endTime":478.95,"body":"speak louder than words"},{"startTime":479.60999999999996,"endTime":482.274,"body":"and not interpreting or"},{"startTime":482.322,"endTime":485.14599999999996,"body":"assuming that you know what these nonverbal"},{"startTime":485.178,"endTime":487.70599999999996,"body":"cues mean. Instead, ask"},{"startTime":487.77799999999996,"endTime":489.43,"body":"curious questions."},{"startTime":490.40999999999997,"endTime":493.234,"body":"Here's an example. I'm noticing that your"},{"startTime":493.322,"endTime":496.19,"body":"shoulders are kind of tight and shrugged."},{"startTime":496.65,"endTime":499.22999999999996,"body":"Is something about this stressing you out?"},{"startTime":500.25,"endTime":503.25,"body":"Or I'm noticing that you're squinting as you're"},{"startTime":503.28999999999996,"endTime":506.27,"body":"sharing this. Is there a reason for that?"},{"startTime":506.60999999999996,"endTime":509.522,"body":"I'm curious. There is a role for"},{"startTime":509.58599999999996,"endTime":512.378,"body":"open and honest dialogue when it comes to conflict"},{"startTime":512.434,"endTime":515.274,"body":"resolution. Conflict is a normal part of any"},{"startTime":515.322,"endTime":518.106,"body":"relationship, but how you handle it"},{"startTime":518.138,"endTime":520.71,"body":"can either bring you closer or push you apart."},{"startTime":521.17,"endTime":523.986,"body":"Open and honest dialogue will allow both of you to"},{"startTime":524.018,"endTime":526.514,"body":"express your viewpoints without fear of being"},{"startTime":526.562,"endTime":528.654,"body":"judged, criticized, or"},{"startTime":528.7620000000001,"endTime":531.5500000000001,"body":"interrupted. Use I statements instead of"},{"startTime":531.59,"endTime":534.366,"body":"blaming language. Say I"},{"startTime":534.398,"endTime":537.126,"body":"feel upset when instead of you make me"},{"startTime":537.158,"endTime":538.53,"body":"upset when you"},{"startTime":539.95,"endTime":542.758,"body":"make breaks if your emotions are running high."},{"startTime":542.854,"endTime":545.758,"body":"Give each other space to cool down before you come back to"},{"startTime":545.774,"endTime":548.702,"body":"the conversation and focus on"},{"startTime":548.726,"endTime":551.638,"body":"finding solutions together rather than trying to win"},{"startTime":551.694,"endTime":554.09,"body":"the argument or compete for attention."},{"startTime":555.73,"endTime":558.666,"body":"By embracing authentic, transparent and"},{"startTime":558.698,"endTime":561.682,"body":"compassionate communication, couples can"},{"startTime":561.706,"endTime":564.586,"body":"build a foundation of trust, respect and empathy"},{"startTime":564.698,"endTime":567.63,"body":"that are essential for navigating"},{"startTime":568.0500000000001,"endTime":570.8340000000001,"body":"life in a relationship. This"},{"startTime":570.8820000000001,"endTime":573.61,"body":"approach not only resolves conflicts, but also"},{"startTime":573.69,"endTime":575.71,"body":"deepens your emotional connection."},{"startTime":577.01,"endTime":579.03,"body":"The third key is"},{"startTime":579.45,"endTime":582.282,"body":"trust. This truly is one of"},{"startTime":582.306,"endTime":584.586,"body":"the base foundations of strong"},{"startTime":584.658,"endTime":587.53,"body":"relationships. It's not"},{"startTime":587.57,"endTime":590.426,"body":"just about believing that your partner won't cheat on"},{"startTime":590.458,"endTime":592.898,"body":"you. It's about feeling safe, secure and"},{"startTime":592.9540000000001,"endTime":595.754,"body":"supported in every part of your relationship"},{"startTime":595.802,"endTime":598.03,"body":"and interactions with your partner."},{"startTime":598.49,"endTime":600.4300000000001,"body":"Here's why trust is so important."},{"startTime":601.9300000000001,"endTime":604.8820000000001,"body":"Emotional safety trust allows both of"},{"startTime":604.9060000000001,"endTime":607.7900000000001,"body":"you to feel emotionally safe, creating an environment"},{"startTime":608.33,"endTime":611.21,"body":"where openness and bearing your soul"},{"startTime":611.25,"endTime":614.1360000000001,"body":"is encouraged and nurtured. It"},{"startTime":614.168,"endTime":616.9200000000001,"body":"provides dependability. When you trust your"},{"startTime":616.96,"endTime":619.936,"body":"partner, you can count on them to be there for you. 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You might be concerned"},{"startTime":659.9340000000001,"endTime":662.918,"body":"or fearful that they're going to react negatively."},{"startTime":663.014,"endTime":665.926,"body":"Maybe they're going to get angry or they're going to get"},{"startTime":665.9580000000001,"endTime":668.6800000000001,"body":"emotional. You may want to"},{"startTime":668.72,"endTime":671.592,"body":"frame the conversation by saying, I want to share"},{"startTime":671.6560000000001,"endTime":674.6080000000001,"body":"something with you. It's really hard for"},{"startTime":674.624,"endTime":677.528,"body":"me to do this, but I really want to share my thoughts"},{"startTime":677.5440000000001,"endTime":679.46,"body":"and feelings about this topic"},{"startTime":680.12,"endTime":682.8720000000001,"body":"and I need you to just listen,"},{"startTime":682.976,"endTime":685.808,"body":"stay calm, and just hear me"},{"startTime":685.864,"endTime":688.856,"body":"out and not say anything. 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Can you do that for"},{"startTime":696.782,"endTime":698.25,"body":"me and for us?"},{"startTime":700.07,"endTime":703.0540000000001,"body":"Framing the conversation is really important"},{"startTime":703.2220000000001,"endTime":706.062,"body":"so that you inform your partner"},{"startTime":706.1260000000001,"endTime":709.086,"body":"as to what you need from them, how you"},{"startTime":709.118,"endTime":711.902,"body":"want them to listen, and what you're going to"},{"startTime":711.926,"endTime":714.038,"body":"need from them as a result of this"},{"startTime":714.094,"endTime":716.99,"body":"conversation, it's"},{"startTime":717.0300000000001,"endTime":720.0300000000001,"body":"also important to have realistic expectations in your"},{"startTime":720.07,"endTime":722.986,"body":"relationship. Oftentimes when I work with"},{"startTime":723.018,"endTime":725.7860000000001,"body":"my clients, they have this expectation"},{"startTime":725.8580000000001,"endTime":728.7620000000001,"body":"in their head and then it doesn't match up"},{"startTime":728.7860000000001,"endTime":731.298,"body":"to what they're experiencing in reality"},{"startTime":731.474,"endTime":734.346,"body":"and that creates conflict. So the"},{"startTime":734.378,"endTime":737.178,"body":"first thing is really to set achievable goals."},{"startTime":737.354,"endTime":739.9300000000001,"body":"Setting unrealistic expectations can lead"},{"startTime":739.97,"endTime":742.19,"body":"to massive disappointment."},{"startTime":742.6500000000001,"endTime":745.45,"body":"Instead, discuss the goal that you want"},{"startTime":745.49,"endTime":748.1700000000001,"body":"to accomplish with your partner and break it"},{"startTime":748.21,"endTime":750.7620000000001,"body":"down and check in with each other to see if"},{"startTime":750.7860000000001,"endTime":753.594,"body":"there achievable that you both can accomplish"},{"startTime":753.642,"endTime":756.57,"body":"them and have you broken them down small"},{"startTime":756.6500000000001,"endTime":759.63,"body":"enough to where you can make incremental"},{"startTime":760.09,"endTime":762.7460000000001,"body":"progress each day or each week or"},{"startTime":762.778,"endTime":765.73,"body":"however, whatever your frequency is for"},{"startTime":765.7700000000001,"endTime":768.49,"body":"working on it. 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The fifth"},{"startTime":970.8140000000001,"endTime":972.614,"body":"key is fair resource"},{"startTime":972.662,"endTime":975.542,"body":"negotiation. This will help you build a"},{"startTime":975.566,"endTime":978.07,"body":"more equal partnership and involves"},{"startTime":978.1500000000001,"endTime":980.4100000000001,"body":"equitable discussions about resources."},{"startTime":981.0500000000001,"endTime":983.97,"body":"Fair resource negotiation and relationships is"},{"startTime":984.01,"endTime":986.8820000000001,"body":"about more than just finances. It's"},{"startTime":986.9060000000001,"endTime":989.594,"body":"a holistic approach that ensures both of you feel"},{"startTime":989.642,"endTime":992.634,"body":"valued and supported in the different aspects of"},{"startTime":992.682,"endTime":995.2520000000001,"body":"life. I emphasize that, equitable"},{"startTime":995.316,"endTime":998.116,"body":"discussions about resources can significantly"},{"startTime":998.188,"endTime":1001.028,"body":"enhance satisfaction in your"},{"startTime":1001.0840000000001,"endTime":1003.652,"body":"relationship. Fair"},{"startTime":1003.716,"endTime":1006.676,"body":"resource negotiation means balancing different types"},{"startTime":1006.7080000000001,"endTime":1009.668,"body":"of resources, including your time, making"},{"startTime":1009.724,"endTime":1012.51,"body":"sure that you have quality time for yourself, your"},{"startTime":1012.5500000000001,"endTime":1014.61,"body":"career, each other, and your family."},{"startTime":1015.07,"endTime":1017.734,"body":"Chunking out time is a huge"},{"startTime":1017.822,"endTime":1019.89,"body":"effort for couples."},{"startTime":1020.19,"endTime":1022.9820000000001,"body":"Oftentimes I find they fill their calendars"},{"startTime":1023.046,"endTime":1025.83,"body":"up so much that there's no"},{"startTime":1025.91,"endTime":1028.51,"body":"spare time for anything, much less"},{"startTime":1028.55,"endTime":1031.294,"body":"themselves. 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Communicate"},{"startTime":1134.792,"endTime":1137.656,"body":"openly. Use active listening to understand your"},{"startTime":1137.6879999999999,"endTime":1140.4959999999999,"body":"partner's perspective. Avoid interrupting or"},{"startTime":1140.528,"endTime":1143.2479999999998,"body":"dismissing their concerns. Seek"},{"startTime":1143.3039999999999,"endTime":1146.272,"body":"compromise. Find middle ground where you"},{"startTime":1146.336,"endTime":1148.26,"body":"both can feel satisfied."},{"startTime":1148.6399999999999,"endTime":1151.136,"body":"Oftentimes I find couples get stuck in an"},{"startTime":1151.168,"endTime":1154.0,"body":"argument because they're each trying to prove that"},{"startTime":1154.04,"endTime":1156.58,"body":"their way is better or their perspective is"},{"startTime":1156.6399999999999,"endTime":1159.572,"body":"better. 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Having regular check"},{"startTime":1188.412,"endTime":1191.116,"body":"ins I advocate for five to ten minutes"},{"startTime":1191.1879999999999,"endTime":1194.028,"body":"each day as soon as you get home from"},{"startTime":1194.0839999999998,"endTime":1196.916,"body":"work because you can"},{"startTime":1196.9479999999999,"endTime":1199.9399999999998,"body":"knock out everything that you need to talk about. Then have fun"},{"startTime":1199.98,"endTime":1202.908,"body":"together and relax. 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Each evening, spend a"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1252.634,"endTime":1255.586,"body":"few minutes thinking about what you want to"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1255.618,"endTime":1258.21,"body":"talk with your partner about in that"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1258.37,"endTime":1260.07,"body":"check in the next day."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1261.09,"endTime":1263.9859999999999,"body":"By approaching resource negotiation with empathy"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1264.018,"endTime":1266.7459999999999,"body":"and openness, you and your partner can"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1266.818,"endTime":1269.73,"body":"create a balanced partnership where you both thrive"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1269.81,"endTime":1272.528,"body":"and you feel like your co equal"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1272.5839999999998,"endTime":1275.3439999999998,"body":"partners, which is the next"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1275.3919999999998,"endTime":1278.264,"body":"key. Coequal partnership creates"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1278.312,"endTime":1281.21,"body":"empowerment through equality. A,"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1281.1599999999999,"endTime":1284.032,"body":"co equal partnership is something that I've actually"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1284.128,"endTime":1286.608,"body":"created and coined in"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1286.656,"endTime":1289.552,"body":"relationships. It means that both partners share equal"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1289.608,"endTime":1292.464,"body":"responsibility, respect and influence within the"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1292.504,"endTime":1295.096,"body":"relationship. 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Each of your opinions,"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1350.4019999999998,"endTime":1353.002,"body":"feelings and needs are acknowledged, validated,"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1353.098,"endTime":1356.088,"body":"heard of, understood, supported and"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1356.136,"endTime":1357.164,"body":"respected."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1358.944,"endTime":1361.6319999999998,"body":"Another key of a co equal partnership consists"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1361.6879999999999,"endTime":1364.664,"body":"of balance responsibilities. 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Doing"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1386.8419999999999,"endTime":1389.1299999999999,"body":"things for others brings you joy."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1389.282,"endTime":1391.9299999999998,"body":"So there's a tendency in a"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1391.962,"endTime":1394.722,"body":"relationship to take care of all"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1434.478,"endTime":1436.95,"body":"your partner's needs and to"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1437.142,"endTime":1439.822,"body":"predict what they're going to need and just"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1439.878,"endTime":1442.71,"body":"handle it for them because you're such a giving and"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1442.742,"endTime":1445.51,"body":"generous person. 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When I work with"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1466.5919999999999,"endTime":1468.772,"body":"couples, every single time,"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1469.5919999999999,"endTime":1472.552,"body":"when this conversation comes up about balanced"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1472.5919999999999,"endTime":1475.472,"body":"responsibilities, the generous partner"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1475.512,"endTime":1478.398,"body":"talks about all the things that they do for their partner"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1478.43,"endTime":1481.282,"body":"and how they get very little help and support."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1481.902,"endTime":1484.782,"body":"The response from their partner is, I never"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1484.862,"endTime":1487.0819999999999,"body":"asked you to do all those things."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1488.782,"endTime":1491.758,"body":"And it creates a look of surprise"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1491.83,"endTime":1494.162,"body":"and shock for an instant."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1494.622,"endTime":1497.522,"body":"Then the giving partner says, you know what?"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1498.182,"endTime":1501.0819999999999,"body":"Yes, but I did it out of the goodness of my heart."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1501.422,"endTime":1503.8419999999999,"body":"And then, the other partner will say, I really"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1503.8899999999999,"endTime":1506.754,"body":"appreciate that. 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This can create"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1568.002,"endTime":1570.93,"body":"problems later on in life when the"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1570.962,"endTime":1573.642,"body":"children have left to pursue their own"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1573.6979999999999,"endTime":1576.594,"body":"lives or their partner is busy"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1576.634,"endTime":1579.6019999999999,"body":"with their own interests and you're left at home"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1579.738,"endTime":1582.714,"body":"figuring out how you're going to fill your time. There"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1582.754,"endTime":1585.094,"body":"also tends to be a loss of identity,"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1585.394,"endTime":1588.1299999999999,"body":"of self when putting the"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1588.162,"endTime":1590.634,"body":"wholeness of who you are into the identity of your"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1590.674,"endTime":1593.086,"body":"relationship and your home"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1593.1499999999999,"endTime":1593.754,"body":"life."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1596.134,"endTime":1598.35,"body":"Here are some ideas on creating a co equal"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1598.382,"endTime":1600.918,"body":"partnership. Some of these you've heard before."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1601.086,"endTime":1603.71,"body":"Open dialogue regularly discussing your"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1603.742,"endTime":1606.474,"body":"expectations and desires for the relationship."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1606.934,"endTime":1609.2939999999999,"body":"Working on your relationship actively and"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1609.334,"endTime":1612.326,"body":"regularly is important. I"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1612.35,"endTime":1614.594,"body":"mentioned having regular check ins"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1615.0539999999999,"endTime":1617.926,"body":"daily, five to ten to 15 minutes a day."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1617.99,"endTime":1620.966,"body":"Those are not the times to talk about your relationship and work on"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1620.99,"endTime":1623.232,"body":"it. I suggest a monthly"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1623.288,"endTime":1626.12,"body":"relationship check in. You can use"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1626.192,"endTime":1628.9759999999999,"body":"my healthy relationship couples quiz to"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1629.0,"endTime":1631.76,"body":"do that. 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Creating support"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1657.916,"endTime":1660.8039999999999,"body":"mechanisms establish ways to support each"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1660.844,"endTime":1663.66,"body":"other's personal and professional aspirations"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1663.8519999999999,"endTime":1666.692,"body":"and regularly ask questions about how you"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1666.708,"endTime":1668.824,"body":"can support each other in them."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1669.844,"endTime":1672.788,"body":"By creating and cultivating a co equal"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1672.836,"endTime":1675.612,"body":"partnership, you as a couple can ensure that you both"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1675.668,"endTime":1678.644,"body":"feel empowered, appreciated and"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1679.184,"endTime":1681.272,"body":"motivated to nurture your"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1681.328,"endTime":1684.064,"body":"relationship. This approach"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1684.144,"endTime":1687.056,"body":"aligns perfectly with my philosophy"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1687.12,"endTime":1689.944,"body":"on building healthy, harmonious and happy"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1689.984,"endTime":1692.864,"body":"relationships through balanced dynamics in the"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1692.904,"endTime":1695.896,"body":"relationship. Everything I've mentioned here is part"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1695.96,"endTime":1698.8,"body":"of my relationship success system."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1698.992,"endTime":1701.9759999999999,"body":"It's a comprehensive framework that offers you"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1702.0,"endTime":1704.564,"body":"as a couple a structured path to"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1704.604,"endTime":1707.184,"body":"creating a healthy, happy relationship."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1707.484,"endTime":1710.292,"body":"My approach emphasizes practical tools"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1710.348,"endTime":1712.932,"body":"tailored to enhance relationship skills"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1713.068,"endTime":1715.908,"body":"and ensure that you both are well equipped"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1716.036,"endTime":1718.364,"body":"to navigate complexities of your"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1718.404,"endTime":1720.984,"body":"relationship and life as you move forward."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1721.524,"endTime":1723.972,"body":"Here are the key elements of my relationship"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1724.028,"endTime":1726.844,"body":"success, self awareness and"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1726.884,"endTime":1729.644,"body":"personal growth. 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I, provide you techniques for"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1737.186,"endTime":1739.922,"body":"self reflection and personal growth."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1740.09,"endTime":1742.318,"body":"Effective communication strategies"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1743.6979999999999,"endTime":1746.434,"body":"the framework will offer you actionable steps for"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1746.466,"endTime":1749.058,"body":"improving communication, such as active listening"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1749.098,"endTime":1751.754,"body":"exercises and ways to express your"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1751.786,"endTime":1754.218,"body":"feelings constructively through compassionate"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1754.258,"endTime":1757.228,"body":"communication. Trust building"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1757.308,"endTime":1759.78,"body":"activities are also included. 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I've mentioned daily check ins. They're"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1791.396,"endTime":1794.204,"body":"simple, but they're powerful. Daily check"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1794.244,"endTime":1797.2359999999999,"body":"ins encourage you to share your thoughts and"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":1797.26,"endTime":1800.204,"body":"feelings regularly. 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One of you might"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2130.756,"endTime":2133.54,"body":"handle morning routines with the kids while the"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2133.5719999999997,"endTime":2135.864,"body":"other handles them in the evenings."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2136.2439999999997,"endTime":2139.124,"body":"Or maybe you both split"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2139.2039999999997,"endTime":2142.076,"body":"the morning routines and you both split"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2142.18,"endTime":2145.132,"body":"the evening routines so that you each get done"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2145.1879999999996,"endTime":2147.98,"body":"sooner and can have quality time together after they're"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2148.0119999999997,"endTime":2150.99,"body":"completed. This type of balance ensures neither"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2151.022,"endTime":2153.718,"body":"if you feel overwhelmed or undervalued"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2153.806,"endTime":2156.194,"body":"because you are sharing in it."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2157.214,"endTime":2160.086,"body":"Here are some practical tips around being a"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2160.1099999999997,"endTime":2163.086,"body":"healthy, coequal partner. Having"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2163.1499999999996,"endTime":2164.5139999999997,"body":"open dialogue"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2167.0139999999997,"endTime":2169.9179999999997,"body":"regularly discuss each other's roles"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2169.966,"endTime":2172.958,"body":"and responsibilities to ensure that you both"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2173.006,"endTime":2175.9739999999997,"body":"feel heard and valued. You may have to make"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2176.0139999999997,"endTime":2178.9139999999998,"body":"adjustments as circumstances change."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2180.854,"endTime":2183.5739999999996,"body":"I ask that you don't constantly make"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2183.6139999999996,"endTime":2186.5099999999998,"body":"change every day. Changes should really"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2186.582,"endTime":2189.4539999999997,"body":"be the exception and not the norm, especially"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2189.5339999999997,"endTime":2192.0699999999997,"body":"if you've made agreements. Broken"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2192.102,"endTime":2194.774,"body":"agreements create unstable and lack of"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2194.814,"endTime":2197.566,"body":"safety, and diminish emotional"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2197.6299999999997,"endTime":2200.334,"body":"support and trust in a relationship and"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2200.374,"endTime":2203.285,"body":"consequently diminish respect. So make"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2203.3089999999997,"endTime":2205.8689999999997,"body":"sure that you're honoring your agreements with each other and"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2205.901,"endTime":2208.5409999999997,"body":"make adjustments only when absolutely"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2208.5969999999998,"endTime":2209.473,"body":"necessary."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2211.7729999999997,"endTime":2214.073,"body":"Make your agreements the priority"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2214.8529999999996,"endTime":2217.473,"body":"and align your life around them."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2218.9329999999995,"endTime":2221.0289999999995,"body":"When you make agreements, you can"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2221.1009999999997,"endTime":2224.037,"body":"renegotiate them and make another agreement"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2224.0849999999996,"endTime":2227.0849999999996,"body":"that aligns with your schedule better. When you do, you"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2227.109,"endTime":2229.66,"body":"really need to honor and respect and"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2229.812,"endTime":2232.644,"body":"follow through on it. Creating"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2232.6839999999997,"endTime":2235.62,"body":"shared goals, which I've mentioned before. Work together on setting"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2235.6519999999996,"endTime":2238.548,"body":"common goals for your future. Whether it's saving"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2238.5959999999995,"endTime":2241.0199999999995,"body":"for a house, planning vacations, or raising"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2241.0919999999996,"endTime":2243.772,"body":"children, having shared objectives can"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2243.8279999999995,"endTime":2246.7479999999996,"body":"strengthen your relationship. I'm going to use saving"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2246.796,"endTime":2249.7879999999996,"body":"for a house as an example. Oftentimes"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2249.836,"endTime":2252.486,"body":"when I'm speaking with couples and working with them. Two, on"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2252.5339999999997,"endTime":2255.1499999999996,"body":"one, I find that they have different"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2255.2059999999997,"endTime":2257.8819999999996,"body":"definitions of what saving for a house means"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2258.6119999999996,"endTime":2261.6119999999996,"body":"one partner, for example, puts away"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2261.732,"endTime":2264.312,"body":"every spare penny that just"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2265.252,"endTime":2267.644,"body":"is in their checking account"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2267.8279999999995,"endTime":2270.6679999999997,"body":"or is in their pocketbook or"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2270.74,"endTime":2273.6119999999996,"body":"is in their wallet. They immediately come"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2273.6519999999996,"endTime":2276.428,"body":"home, empty their wallet and put it"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2276.4599999999996,"endTime":2279.272,"body":"into a savings bucket bank, so to speak."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2280.0919999999996,"endTime":2282.7879999999996,"body":"Another person might think that if they've"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2282.8199999999997,"endTime":2285.3019999999997,"body":"spent money on"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2285.3419999999996,"endTime":2287.682,"body":"groceries and it came to"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2288.062,"endTime":2290.9619999999995,"body":"$85.30,"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2291.4219999999996,"endTime":2294.294,"body":"they will round it up to 100 and put"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2294.4779999999996,"endTime":2296.892,"body":"what they didn't spend into a, savings."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2297.352,"endTime":2300.0159999999996,"body":"And they'll do that every time they spend any"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2300.064,"endTime":2302.984,"body":"money. So it's really important that you"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2303.1679999999997,"endTime":2306.16,"body":"regularly talk about how and"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2306.216,"endTime":2309.144,"body":"what savings looks like when you're saving for a"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2309.1679999999997,"endTime":2311.3219999999997,"body":"house and how that's going to work."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2312.542,"endTime":2315.35,"body":"Here's a real life example with the"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2315.3659999999995,"endTime":2318.238,"body":"names changed. To protect the confidentiality of my"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2318.2699999999995,"endTime":2321.142,"body":"clients, Alex and Jamie divide"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2321.182,"endTime":2323.9979999999996,"body":"their household responsibilities based on their strengths and"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2324.0299999999997,"endTime":2327.0139999999997,"body":"schedules. 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Having a positive"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2362.9379999999996,"endTime":2365.8579999999997,"body":"mindset about your relationship is important for"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2365.89,"endTime":2368.4179999999997,"body":"handling the ups and downs of your relationship."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2368.6099999999997,"endTime":2371.4419999999996,"body":"When you remain optimistic, it"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2371.482,"endTime":2374.298,"body":"encourages growth instead of blame. It"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2374.33,"endTime":2377.3059999999996,"body":"makes it easier to tackle issues together and"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2377.4339999999997,"endTime":2380.3059999999996,"body":"plan things together, and even"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2380.354,"endTime":2383.1459999999997,"body":"dialogue about shared responsibilities. Be mindful"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2383.194,"endTime":2386.062,"body":"about how you talk about each other as well."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2386.522,"endTime":2389.142,"body":"Ensure you're being respectful of each other."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2389.562,"endTime":2392.178,"body":"Ensure you're being respectful of each other when"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2392.2099999999996,"endTime":2395.0739999999996,"body":"talking about each other. Here"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2395.098,"endTime":2397.586,"body":"are some strategies for maintaining positivity"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2397.6339999999996,"endTime":2400.4339999999997,"body":"together. Focus on growth instead of"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2400.4579999999996,"endTime":2403.3459999999995,"body":"pointing fingers during conflicts, and look for"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2403.394,"endTime":2406.162,"body":"ways to learn and grow together. This might"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2406.2019999999998,"endTime":2409.026,"body":"involve discussing what each of you can do differently"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2409.0739999999996,"endTime":2409.982,"body":"next time."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2412.8419999999996,"endTime":2415.714,"body":"Celebrate small wins oftentimes I find"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2415.778,"endTime":2418.618,"body":"couples are so focused on the present moment and the"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2418.6499999999996,"endTime":2421.2619999999997,"body":"next day, and planning what they're going to do next,"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2421.4419999999996,"endTime":2424.2619999999997,"body":"or on their to do list, or on what didn't get"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2424.3019999999997,"endTime":2426.982,"body":"done and needs to get done. Instead of"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2427.022,"endTime":2429.7819999999997,"body":"celebrating what they did do together and what they've"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2429.8219999999997,"endTime":2432.7499999999995,"body":"accomplished during your 15 minutes"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2432.8059999999996,"endTime":2435.5899999999997,"body":"each day or during your monthly relationship"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2435.6459999999997,"endTime":2438.6459999999997,"body":"check in. Please include the celebration"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2438.734,"endTime":2441.2859999999996,"body":"piece. It's not just about"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2441.334,"endTime":2444.294,"body":"focusing on what's not working in your relationship or what"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2444.3179999999998,"endTime":2446.7819999999997,"body":"your complaints are. It's about"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2446.8619999999996,"endTime":2449.6739999999995,"body":"celebrating as well and acknowledging each"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2449.698,"endTime":2452.658,"body":"other and validating each other. The"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2452.6899999999996,"endTime":2455.4019999999996,"body":"third strategy for maintaining positivity"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2455.4419999999996,"endTime":2458.2499999999995,"body":"together is to practice gratitude"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2458.3459999999995,"endTime":2461.274,"body":"regularly express daily appreciation for each"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2461.298,"endTime":2464.2019999999998,"body":"other's contributions to the relationship. Whether"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2464.2419999999997,"endTime":2467.2019999999998,"body":"it's thanking your spouse for cooking dinner or acknowledging their"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2467.2419999999997,"endTime":2470.2099999999996,"body":"support in a conversation"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2470.2659999999996,"endTime":2472.714,"body":"that you had or during a tough time you're having,"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2472.8579999999997,"endTime":2475.6539999999995,"body":"gratitude grows gratitude goes a long"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2475.718,"endTime":2478.082,"body":"way. When I work with couples on,"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2479.3379999999997,"endTime":2482.0499999999997,"body":"practicing gratitude through some exercises,"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2482.1539999999995,"endTime":2484.834,"body":"I let them know that gratitude"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2484.946,"endTime":2487.562,"body":"appreciates and then your"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2487.6099999999997,"endTime":2490.5699999999997,"body":"relationship appreciates. And"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2490.5939999999996,"endTime":2493.5699999999997,"body":"what do I mean by that? 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And by the way, I"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2510.4239999999995,"endTime":2513.2679999999996,"body":"did mention my relationships toolkit earlier."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2513.5679999999998,"endTime":2515.832,"body":"In the toolkit, there are"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2515.8799999999997,"endTime":2518.3039999999996,"body":"conversation scripts on how"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2518.4959999999996,"endTime":2521.0879999999997,"body":"to have appreciation"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2521.1679999999997,"endTime":2523.8239999999996,"body":"conversations. I call it the"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2523.8559999999998,"endTime":2526.1479999999997,"body":"appreciation sandwich, and"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2526.7679999999996,"endTime":2529.4719999999998,"body":"I invite you to grab the toolkit to learn more"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2529.5199999999995,"endTime":2532.4339999999997,"body":"about that and use it every day with your"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2532.466,"endTime":2535.41,"body":"partner. The third one"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2535.4339999999997,"endTime":2538.298,"body":"is practicing healthy relationship behaviors."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2538.4579999999996,"endTime":2541.218,"body":"Engaging in healthy relationship behaviors is"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2541.258,"endTime":2543.698,"body":"essential for a happier"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2543.8179999999998,"endTime":2546.6499999999996,"body":"relationship at home. 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I've already mentioned this one."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2562.772,"endTime":2565.66,"body":"Show your appreciation. 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That often leads to upsets"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2589.178,"endTime":2591.5379999999996,"body":"later on in your relationship."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2591.698,"endTime":2594.6099999999997,"body":"Because if your partner didn't ask you to do it and you do"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2594.6339999999996,"endTime":2595.638,"body":"it anyway,"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2597.4179999999997,"endTime":2600.4179999999997,"body":"at first it's appreciated and noticed."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2600.5779999999995,"endTime":2602.9219999999996,"body":"But if you keep doing it for years"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2603.0899999999997,"endTime":2605.834,"body":"and your to do list has piled up and you're"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2605.8659999999995,"endTime":2608.4979999999996,"body":"feeling overwhelmed, then it builds"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2608.5379999999996,"endTime":2611.234,"body":"resentment and creates conflicts in other areas of the"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2611.2659999999996,"endTime":2614.156,"body":"relationship. 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Would that help you?"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2626.7479999999996,"endTime":2629.2079999999996,"body":"Yes, please do that for me, would you?"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2629.508,"endTime":2632.408,"body":"Is a response rather than just assuming."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2634.6679999999997,"endTime":2637.58,"body":"The fourth ingredient in my relationship success"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2637.6839999999997,"endTime":2639.9959999999996,"body":"system is using compassionate connecting"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2640.0519999999997,"endTime":2641.048,"body":"communication."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2642.5879999999997,"endTime":2645.412,"body":"Effective communication is truly the foundation"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2645.4599999999996,"endTime":2648.14,"body":"of a happy relationship and home. Clear"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2648.2039999999997,"endTime":2650.836,"body":"expression coupled with empathy creates a strong"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2650.892,"endTime":2653.3799999999997,"body":"foundation that builds mutual respect and"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2653.4039999999995,"endTime":2656.2839999999997,"body":"understanding. Here are some strategies for"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2656.316,"endTime":2657.928,"body":"compassionate conversations."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2658.868,"endTime":2661.4199999999996,"body":"Active listening show genuine interest in your"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2661.444,"endTime":2663.9799999999996,"body":"partner's words. Nod, maintain eye"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2664.004,"endTime":2666.2879999999996,"body":"contact, and avoid interrupting"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2666.718,"endTime":2669.182,"body":"empathy. Put yourself in your partner's shoes."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2669.31,"endTime":2671.854,"body":"Acknowledge their feelings even if you don't agree with their"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2671.886,"endTime":2674.6299999999997,"body":"perspective. Listening and practicing"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2674.694,"endTime":2677.6139999999996,"body":"empathy does not mean you have to agree. It"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2677.6459999999997,"endTime":2680.0379999999996,"body":"means you're listening to them and care about their"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2680.0779999999995,"endTime":2682.966,"body":"perspective. I want to make a"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2682.982,"endTime":2685.678,"body":"side note about agreeing with each"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2685.718,"endTime":2688.694,"body":"other. Unfortunately, many of us have"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2688.7259999999997,"endTime":2691.218,"body":"been educated and trained"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2691.9179999999997,"endTime":2694.814,"body":"that agreement is the most important thing"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2694.8459999999995,"endTime":2697.798,"body":"in a relationship. And so what we do is we"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2697.8779999999997,"endTime":2700.85,"body":"disagree with our partner, and then we try to"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2700.874,"endTime":2703.8419999999996,"body":"find ways to get them to see things our way"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2703.93,"endTime":2706.298,"body":"or vice versa. 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Using I statements to"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2784.8639999999996,"endTime":2787.72,"body":"convey your emotions without blaming or criticizing. For"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2787.7439999999997,"endTime":2790.2279999999996,"body":"example, I feel hurt when or"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2791.408,"endTime":2793.928,"body":"I feel hurt when instead of you make me"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2793.968,"endTime":2796.8399999999997,"body":"feel. And paying attention to"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2796.8639999999996,"endTime":2799.8399999999997,"body":"body language and tone of voice, which often give you more"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2799.9039999999995,"endTime":2802.4399999999996,"body":"information with which you can ask"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2802.504,"endTime":2805.2679999999996,"body":"questions to see what's going on for your partner"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2805.8179999999998,"endTime":2808.314,"body":"instead of making assumptions about their"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2808.3459999999995,"endTime":2811.002,"body":"nonverbal cues. 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It's important to notice when your emotions"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":2840.138,"endTime":2843.082,"body":"are running high. 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I"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3114.0339999999997,"endTime":3116.9219999999996,"body":"invite you to embrace your role as a"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3116.9539999999997,"endTime":3119.7619999999997,"body":"healthy, happy and harmonious co"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3119.794,"endTime":3122.6339999999996,"body":"equal partner. Incorporating these six"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3122.6899999999996,"endTime":3125.122,"body":"ingredients of a healthy relationship from my"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3125.1539999999995,"endTime":3127.406,"body":"relationship success system"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3127.7859999999996,"endTime":3130.642,"body":"enhances this foundation of"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3130.6739999999995,"endTime":3133.602,"body":"a healthy relationship. Here's"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3133.6339999999996,"endTime":3136.6099999999997,"body":"the summary of the six ingredients from my"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3136.658,"endTime":3138.446,"body":"relationship success system."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3139.2859999999996,"endTime":3141.7259999999997,"body":"Being a healthy equal partner means"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3141.8059999999996,"endTime":3144.31,"body":"contributing equally, building mutual respect"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3144.3979999999997,"endTime":3146.7059999999997,"body":"through support and understanding."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3147.406,"endTime":3150.3659999999995,"body":"Having a healthy relationship mindset focuses on"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3150.406,"endTime":3152.894,"body":"growth during challenges rather than blame."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3153.0699999999997,"endTime":3155.7459999999996,"body":"Building and maintaining positivity together"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3156.1659999999997,"endTime":3158.7819999999997,"body":"and ensuring that you're thinking, feeling and"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3158.814,"endTime":3161.3179999999998,"body":"talking about each other in a positive,"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3161.502,"endTime":3163.986,"body":"respectful way and"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3165.696,"endTime":3168.696,"body":"ensuring that you are"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3168.736,"endTime":3170.4759999999997,"body":"managing your emotional"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3171.0559999999996,"endTime":3173.3959999999997,"body":"triggers and healing them."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3174.8959999999997,"endTime":3177.776,"body":"Healthy relationship behaviors engaging"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3177.816,"endTime":3180.08,"body":"in active listening, regularly showing"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3180.1279999999997,"endTime":3182.3559999999998,"body":"appreciation and"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3183.0959999999995,"endTime":3185.656,"body":"managing your emotional"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3187.236,"endTime":3189.9959999999996,"body":"well being are all part of"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3190.0759999999996,"endTime":3192.736,"body":"practicing healthy relationship behaviors."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3194.1859999999997,"endTime":3197.026,"body":"Using compassionate communication, expressing"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3197.066,"endTime":3200.026,"body":"yourself clearly while being empathetic will"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3200.066,"endTime":3202.8659999999995,"body":"strengthen your relationship through every"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3202.946,"endTime":3205.6099999999997,"body":"compassionate conversation that you have. It"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3205.658,"endTime":3208.33,"body":"builds and builds and builds and builds"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3208.3779999999997,"endTime":3211.3619999999996,"body":"over time. Managing your"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3211.394,"endTime":3214.3619999999996,"body":"energy, being mindful of emotional energy and"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3214.394,"endTime":3216.7459999999996,"body":"taking breaks when you need them to avoid"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3216.8259999999996,"endTime":3218.8819999999996,"body":"conflict. It doesn't mean that"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3218.9139999999998,"endTime":3221.6899999999996,"body":"youre avoiding difficult"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3221.8179999999998,"endTime":3224.8019999999997,"body":"conversations when you're taking"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3224.874,"endTime":3227.4579999999996,"body":"breaks. It means that you're"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3227.602,"endTime":3230.178,"body":"wanting to get into a more positive,"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3230.2419999999997,"endTime":3233.1299999999997,"body":"calm, neutral place before you talk"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3233.178,"endTime":3235.7459999999996,"body":"about potentially conflicting or"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3235.7859999999996,"endTime":3237.9539999999997,"body":"difficult topics instead of"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3238.0099999999998,"endTime":3240.794,"body":"creating unresolvable conflict,"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3240.85,"endTime":3243.8419999999996,"body":"arguments and fights. The last one"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3243.874,"endTime":3246.5719999999997,"body":"is quality time. Spending time together"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3246.644,"endTime":3249.3759999999997,"body":"without distractions is important"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3250.1159999999995,"endTime":3252.796,"body":"when you are distracted and you're spending time"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3252.836,"endTime":3255.7819999999997,"body":"together. I think of couples that"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3255.814,"endTime":3258.7259999999997,"body":"are out for dinner to share a meal and"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3258.7659999999996,"endTime":3261.6259999999997,"body":"both of them are scrolling through their cell phones."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3262.3659999999995,"endTime":3265.2619999999997,"body":"That's not the time to do that. This is the time to"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3265.294,"endTime":3268.142,"body":"look at each other and talk with each"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3268.1739999999995,"endTime":3270.95,"body":"other and share about your day,"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3271.0379999999996,"endTime":3274.0379999999996,"body":"share your love, share your interests, share something new that"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3274.062,"endTime":3276.446,"body":"you've learned together or that you want to learn. And"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3277.2259999999997,"endTime":3280.162,"body":"I've already talked about the things to do when"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3280.194,"endTime":3282.9779999999996,"body":"you're spending quality time together. So"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3283.042,"endTime":3285.85,"body":"do go back and listen to that as to what"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3285.8979999999997,"endTime":3288.2059999999997,"body":"to talk about and what not to talk about."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3288.986,"endTime":3291.33,"body":"When you implement all of these strategies I've"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3291.3779999999997,"endTime":3294.1059999999998,"body":"mentioned day to day, you do"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3294.1459999999997,"endTime":3295.946,"body":"create a stronger, more connected"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3296.026,"endTime":3298.6499999999996,"body":"relationship filled with love, joy,"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3298.698,"endTime":3300.85,"body":"respect, trust, open communication,"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3300.9379999999996,"endTime":3303.7019999999998,"body":"collaboration, freedom, playfulness,"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3303.774,"endTime":3306.406,"body":"emotional security, safety, and even some"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3306.446,"endTime":3308.8779999999997,"body":"adventure. But this builds over"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3308.9419999999996,"endTime":3311.5579999999995,"body":"time and no matter"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3311.662,"endTime":3314.3259999999996,"body":"what stage your relationship is in, whether it's"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3314.3659999999995,"endTime":3317.046,"body":"currently healthy or there are some"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3317.086,"endTime":3319.8059999999996,"body":"improvements to make, or you really want to"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3319.8459999999995,"endTime":3322.814,"body":"save your relationship starting today"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3322.95,"endTime":3325.5739999999996,"body":"with these things that I've mentioned and practicing"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3325.6299999999997,"endTime":3328.4139999999998,"body":"them, taking small steps every single"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3328.47,"endTime":3330.676,"body":"day can transform your"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3330.716,"endTime":3333.66,"body":"relationship. If you would like"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3333.7079999999996,"endTime":3336.5879999999997,"body":"support in implementing any of these strategies, I do"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3336.6119999999996,"endTime":3339.4159999999997,"body":"invite you to schedule a coaching session with me today"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3339.716,"endTime":3342.0199999999995,"body":"and you can do that at huddle dot"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3342.0679999999998,"endTime":3345.0359999999996,"body":"drdarhawks.com. thank"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3345.0759999999996,"endTime":3347.4759999999997,"body":"you so much for your listening and your"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3347.5159999999996,"endTime":3350.1639999999998,"body":"engagement. Please share this podcast"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3350.3399999999997,"endTime":3353.1719999999996,"body":"with, everyone in your circle that you think could benefit"},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3353.22,"endTime":3355.3979999999997,"body":"from it and I it."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3357.698,"endTime":3360.5699999999997,"body":"Please let me know your thoughts or questions."},{"speaker":"interrupting your partner at work at 11","startTime":3360.6739999999995,"endTime":3363.178,"body":"I look forward to seeing you in the next podcast."}]}