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Ignoring"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":100.842,"endTime":103.33,"body":"your unhappiness can lead to long term"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":103.37,"endTime":106.258,"body":"problems in your relationship with"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":106.354,"endTime":108.626,"body":"emotional, physical and mental"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":108.698,"endTime":111.626,"body":"disconnection. 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When you are concerned"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":161.814,"endTime":164.74200000000002,"body":"about how to talk to your husband about being unhappy,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":164.80599999999998,"endTime":167.75799999999998,"body":"it can create some of these challenges while"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":167.814,"endTime":170.19,"body":"also potentially making things worse in your"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":170.23000000000002,"endTime":173.078,"body":"relationship due to avoiding"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":173.17399999999998,"endTime":176.102,"body":"having this difficult conversation. Communicating"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":176.166,"endTime":178.598,"body":"your unhappiness in marriage requires"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":178.654,"endTime":181.53,"body":"emotional openness and honesty."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":181.91,"endTime":184.902,"body":"By discussing your feelings, you might be able to"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":184.926,"endTime":187.622,"body":"work together to find solutions. But it takes"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":187.68599999999998,"endTime":190.68599999999998,"body":"doing self introspection and reflection"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":190.838,"endTime":193.814,"body":"and planning your conversation so that you're clear,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":193.942,"endTime":196.502,"body":"unemotional, and can communicate"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":196.566,"endTime":198.99,"body":"cleanly. It starts with understanding your"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":199.03,"endTime":201.838,"body":"feelings. Engaging in self reflection"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":201.934,"endTime":204.546,"body":"is truly essential to identify the"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":204.578,"endTime":207.066,"body":"reasons why and what is"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":207.098,"endTime":208.91,"body":"contributing to your unhappiness."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":209.85,"endTime":212.738,"body":"Taking time to understand yourself can"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":212.79399999999998,"endTime":213.202,"body":"reveal."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":213.26600000000002,"endTime":216.21800000000002,"body":"Patterns and triggers that may not be immediately"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":216.274,"endTime":219.154,"body":"obvious to you. Consider your emotional needs"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":219.24200000000002,"endTime":222.14600000000002,"body":"in your relationship and how they"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":222.178,"endTime":224.99399999999997,"body":"may not be fully met. That can lead"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":225.04199999999997,"endTime":227.738,"body":"to feelings of dissatisfaction. As you self"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":227.79399999999998,"endTime":230.61,"body":"reflect, I also want to share with"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":230.64999999999998,"endTime":233.538,"body":"you that your happiness is your"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":233.594,"endTime":236.13,"body":"responsibility and not your part partners."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":236.51,"endTime":239.35000000000002,"body":"Your partner can partner with you"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":239.39,"endTime":242.15800000000002,"body":"and collaborate with you and support you"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":242.334,"endTime":242.91000000000003,"body":"in."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":243.02999999999997,"endTime":245.51,"body":"Your happiness, but they're not"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":245.55,"endTime":246.49399999999997,"body":"accountable for."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":246.54199999999997,"endTime":248.39800000000002,"body":"You to be happy now."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":248.454,"endTime":250.80599999999998,"body":"They might be doing some things or."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":250.83800000000002,"endTime":253.79000000000002,"body":"Saying some things or behaving in certain ways that is"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":253.82999999999998,"endTime":255.64999999999998,"body":"contributing to your unhappiness,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":256.19,"endTime":258.75,"body":"but it's still your, responsibility"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":260.25,"endTime":260.682,"body":"because."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":260.746,"endTime":263.45799999999997,"body":"It is your feeling and it's your"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":263.554,"endTime":266.426,"body":"take on the relationship, and"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":266.618,"endTime":269.61,"body":"it's your feelings. It's"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":269.69,"endTime":271.674,"body":"your unhappiness or"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":271.762,"endTime":272.79,"body":"discontent."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":273.17,"endTime":275.666,"body":"And that's why it's your accountability to."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":275.698,"endTime":278.37,"body":"Figure this out and"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":278.41,"endTime":279.306,"body":"then figure out."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":279.338,"endTime":281.49,"body":"What you need and want, and then."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":281.53,"endTime":284.434,"body":"Communicate that and collaborate with your partner."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":284.48199999999997,"endTime":287.306,"body":"To see if you can work together to create"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":287.378,"endTime":289.082,"body":"a different scenario for you."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":289.106,"endTime":291.026,"body":"Or a different experience for you."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":291.098,"endTime":293.962,"body":"To start your self reflection journey, I invite you to"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":293.986,"endTime":296.862,"body":"start with my relationship check in quiz to help"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":296.886,"endTime":299.37,"body":"you sort through your feelings and pinpoint"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":299.67,"endTime":302.21,"body":"specific reasons for your unhappiness."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":302.55,"endTime":305.182,"body":"The quiz will walk you through 15 different"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":305.246,"endTime":307.98199999999997,"body":"areas in a relationship and there'll."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":308.006,"endTime":310.71,"body":"Be statements for each area"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":310.79,"endTime":311.246,"body":"of a."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":311.278,"endTime":314.158,"body":"Relationship that you can then self assess."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":314.254,"endTime":316.75,"body":"It'll help you get your thoughts and feelings"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":316.91,"endTime":319.31,"body":"clear, and it'll help organize your."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":319.35,"endTime":322.15,"body":"Thoughts and better be able to communicate how you're"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":322.19,"endTime":324.854,"body":"feeling. Recognizing your feelings is"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":325.022,"endTime":327.862,"body":"the first step before initiating a conversation"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":327.926,"endTime":330.614,"body":"with your husband. Self awareness"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":330.662,"endTime":333.23,"body":"plays a significant role in acknowledging your"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":333.27,"endTime":335.95,"body":"emotions. It will help you pinpoint the root"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":335.99,"endTime":338.29,"body":"causes of your lack of happiness."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":339.07,"endTime":341.918,"body":"Reflect on your personal emotional needs and your"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":341.974,"endTime":344.81399999999996,"body":"personal relationship goals to gain clarity"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":344.86199999999997,"endTime":346.95,"body":"on what you desire from your partnership."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":347.03,"endTime":349.214,"body":"Armed with this clarity, you will gain."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":349.262,"endTime":351.42199999999997,"body":"The insights you need so that you."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":351.44599999999997,"endTime":354.34999999999997,"body":"Can communicate clearly, cleanly,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":354.43,"endTime":355.76599999999996,"body":"and concisely and."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":355.798,"endTime":358.60999999999996,"body":"Openly with your partners partner. 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Using I statements when"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":366.94599999999997,"endTime":368.16999999999996,"body":"you're communicating will."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":368.21,"endTime":370.642,"body":"Help you immensely in"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":370.746,"endTime":373.298,"body":"preventing defensive postures."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":373.43399999999997,"endTime":376.178,"body":"This could also help in making sense of your of"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":376.234,"endTime":379.09799999999996,"body":"any conflict in your relationships and provide you with"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":379.114,"endTime":382.05,"body":"a path towards resolution instead of"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":382.13,"endTime":385.082,"body":"repetitive arguments. I also invite you"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":385.106,"endTime":387.96999999999997,"body":"to ask your partner to listen to you that"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":388.01,"endTime":390.902,"body":"you just need need them to quietly"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":390.966,"endTime":393.166,"body":"listen. And before you have the"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":393.198,"endTime":396.142,"body":"conversation, ask them. Let"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":396.166,"endTime":399.03,"body":"them know I have something I want to speak with you about."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":399.15,"endTime":401.486,"body":"I really need you to be in a space of"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":401.558,"endTime":404.27,"body":"listening, not trying to fix it, not"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":404.31,"endTime":407.19,"body":"interrupting me, and just sitting with your full"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":407.22999999999996,"endTime":410.102,"body":"attention and listening. When would be a"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":410.126,"endTime":412.966,"body":"good time for us to have this conversation? Here are"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":412.998,"endTime":415.558,"body":"some ways to build a constructive conversation"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":415.654,"endTime":418.548,"body":"environment I had mentioned creating a safe environment"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":418.644,"endTime":421.332,"body":"earlier. Choosing the right environment"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":421.436,"endTime":424.436,"body":"is important to consider when discussing sensitive"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":424.508,"endTime":427.44399999999996,"body":"topics like marital dissatisfaction or"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":427.572,"endTime":429.84,"body":"just your own personal unhappiness."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":430.85999999999996,"endTime":433.748,"body":"Opt for a calm and private setting where both you"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":433.764,"endTime":436.3,"body":"and your husband can feel safe to express yourselves"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":436.38,"endTime":439.316,"body":"openly. This could be during a quiet evening"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":439.34799999999996,"endTime":442.26,"body":"at home or a peaceful walk in the park. Your"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":442.3,"endTime":444.964,"body":"goal is to create an atmosphere conducive to"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":445.012,"endTime":447.868,"body":"honest and meaningful dialogue. Using I"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":447.924,"endTime":450.87199999999996,"body":"statements can significantly improve the quality of"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":450.89599999999996,"endTime":453.88,"body":"your conversation. 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When I've worked with couples and they make"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":485.346,"endTime":487.894,"body":"statements like you never or you always."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":488.834,"endTime":490.894,"body":"I ask them to give me examples."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":491.474,"endTime":494.094,"body":"In a one week period,"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":494.794,"endTime":495.942,"body":"and I, usually."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":498.24199999999996,"endTime":500.30199999999996,"body":"And they are surprised to."},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":501.972,"endTime":504.752,"body":"They are surprised to understand and see"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":505.05199999999996,"endTime":507.604,"body":"that it is not always and it is not"},{"speaker":"\u003e\u003e Dr. Dar Hawks","startTime":507.668,"endTime":510.212,"body":"never. 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