Self-Sabotage

How do we sabotage ourselves? Let me count the ways. But in this mini podcast we're going to learn about one way and how to manage it.

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Transcript

Self-Sabotage

I had a doctor’s visit earlier this week. Rather than go into the medical details, which are uninteresting, I, instead, want to comment on how I felt about this physician.

It was a first time visit with this MD who is also a surgeon. I had a previous visit with his PA (physician’s assistant) for an evaluation and this was a follow-up.

Within the first 30 seconds, I didn’t like this man. To me, he epitomized the stereotype of the busy and important surgeon who’s proficient in the operating arena, but sorely lacking in the people skills department. In a word he was “officious.” 

I had to look up the definition after that word popped into my mind. My dictionary defines it as, “assertive of authority in an annoyingly domineering way.” If you’ve spent any time around surgeons, I’m sure you’ve run into your version of this person.

But this isn’t a rant about surgeons or even this particular doctor. It’s about you, or in this case me. When we have such strong reactions like I had, we are meeting parts of ourselves that we don’t like.

That doesn’t mean we’re just like the person, but the parts we have in common with them get triggered when in their company. We tend to immediately be at odds with them and the communication suffers.

I found myself gearing up for a verbal battle of wits, until I recognized that I was there for his learned opinion and knew I wouldn’t get it if I continued to give license to the parts of me that I don’t like.

We all have parts of our personality we don’t like unless you’re a malignant narcissist. These parts may not be as fully developed in you as they are the person you’re having a reaction to, but rest assured, they’re there.  

It’s the antithesis of when you notice the beauty of something. Who’s recognizing that beauty? The beauty in you is the answer. Who’s recognizing the traits you’re criticizing in another? The critical traits in you. The good news is these traits lie dormant for the most part, but when they see an opportunity, they revive themselves in a heartbeat. 

I’m pretty sure we’re going to have these unwanted traits for the rest of our lives. The saving grace is to recognize them when they rear their ugly head and reel them back in so you don’t get in your own way.

Hey, this isn’t a recommendation to try and get rid of these parts. That’s futile. It’s more about managing them when they come around, so you don’t self-sabotage and knock yourself to the ground.

All the best,

John