Choosing Choice

We do have a choice, but we often don't recognize that we do.

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Transcript

Choosing Choice

I read a quote from a photojournalist that went something like this: “I set out to change the world but the world changed me.”

On the surface, most of us would agree with that observation. But, when you dig a bit deeper, the facts just don’t support the claim.

The world doesn’t change you, a situation doesn’t change you; your response to the situation changes you.

We leave out the fact that we have a choice when we make the claim that someone or something made us do something.

Reminds me of a story . . .

Years ago, I was conducting a workshop and asked a participant a hypothetical question. I asked, “If I put a gun to your head and tell you to move to another location and you comply, did I make you move?” She answered “Yes.”

She neglected to notice that she had a choice. She also had the unenviable choice to not move and risk having her head blown off. Good choice.

There are dire situations in the world that people encounter every day. Many change as a result and others do not. Take the serious issue of PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). Many soldiers come home from war and have flashbacks that traumatize them. Others, who have experienced the exact set of circumstances, have no after effects. Is one soldier “tougher” than the other? No, they are just responding differently.

This stimulus/response happens so quickly in the affected party that it seems they have no choice in the matter. In order for them to put this traumatic response behind them, they eventually have to come face to face with the fact that they have a choice. It’s the only way to heal. If they conclude that war does this to some people and leave it at that, they'll likely be traumatized for life.

A helpful therapist will guide a client to choice. They'll help the person appreciate that there's a wedge we can put between stimulus and response, and each time we do, we offer ourselves a choice. The eventual outcome of repeatedly interrupting a stimulus/response connection is that a different, more productive response will automatically emerge. I don’t know why it works this way, but it does.

The closest we get to control in this life is our response. We just have to recognize that we have a choice in order to make a choice.

The world WILL change you with your unspoken consent. To have some personal say, it’s necessary to notice that there is a choice point between stimulus and response.

All the best,

John