The Hardest People To Help

There is one consistent trait in people who are hard to help. Find out what it is in this mini podcast.
 
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Transcript

The Hardest People To Help

It’s been my experience that the hardest people to help are the ones who argue for their limitations. They’re like a drowning man who complains about the color of the life preserver you're about to throw him.

And the ones who argue for their limitations most convincingly are smart people. They're really hard to help because they can build more walls of resistance with their more skillful intellect.

Also note that the words “limitations” and “justifications” rhyme.

When we attempt to justify our behavior, we limit ourselves in the process.

Have you ever heard or said this particular dodge: “If you had the kind of day I’ve had, you would (blah, blah, blah) too”? Substitute a limiting behavior for blah, blah, blah.

That’s the kind of logic that cements you in place. You could have the best coach, teacher, therapist, or clergy member offering you their expert assistance and you would still fail. Your justifications keep you in jail.

If you are justifying your limitations, the help you need is self-awareness. Stop looking outside your skin for a scapegoat. Your resident behavior is the obstacle in your path, not someone or something on the outside whom you blame for your wrath.

The telltale word that keeps you locked in to your limitations is “because.”

“I’m this way because . . . ”

“The reason I’m so (fill in the blank) is because . . . ”

When you eliminate “because,” you zero in on the cause – arguing for your limitations.

Smart or not, you’ll be easier to help when you recognize that “justify” and “deny” also rhyme.

Help starts at home. Take steps to recognize you are the cause and throw away the limitation known as “because.”

All the best,

John