If You Can't Love Everybody, You'll Never Fully Love Yourself

Is there someone you can't love? Sadly that keeps you from loving you.

Grasshopper Notes are the writings from America's Best Known Hypnotherapist John Morgan. His podcasts contain his most responded to essays and blog posts from the past two decades. 

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• How to stay in the present moment
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Transcript

If You Can’t Love Everybody, You’ll Never Fully Love Yourself
Yep, everybody. That might sound impossible, but it's actually simpler—and more rewarding—than it seems.

My friend Jerry Stocking defines love as inclusion. That hit me differently once I really thought about it. 

Imagine Earth as a spaceship, like Buckminster Fuller said. If we're all riding the same ship, and you blow up a part you don’t like, guess what? We all go down. Same goes with people. We’re all connected—even the ones we can’t stand.

Now, this doesn’t mean you have to like everyone or approve of what they do. Some people do terrible things. Others are just annoying. You don’t have to invite them to your barbecue. But you do have to include them in your view of reality, because pretending they’re not part of the human story—your story—hurts you in the long run.

We all come from the same source and return to it eventually. That person you can’t forgive? They’re from the same tree as you. Author Eckhart Tolle says one day we’ll all share one thing in common: we’ll be corpses. Morbid, maybe—but true. We’re temporary, flawed, and human.

Making space for others’ actions (without condoning them) helps us stay grounded in reality. Ignoring or denying them creates internal conflict. Inclusion isn’t about letting people off the hook—it’s about seeing things clearly so we’re not living in emotional denial.

And the same goes for you. Including your own flaws leads to acceptance and, eventually, forgiveness. That’s how you break out of isolation. That’s how you thaw the ice.

At our core, what we really love in others is the same spirit that animates us. Our bodies and egos may look and act differently, but the spirit is shared. When we deny someone else's humanity, we’re denying our own.

Once you start seeing that connection, your view of people—and yourself—starts to change. You withhold less love. You judge less. And peace becomes possible, inside and out.

So, instead of pondering the old “chicken or the egg” question, try this:
No part of the egg—shell, yolk, or white—is an egg by itself. It’s all of them together.

Just like us.

All the best,
 John