We're Attracted To People Who Help Us Breathe Easier

Is your partner someone you can talk to  . . . about anything? If not, you may be untying the knot.

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Transcript

We’re Attracted to People Who Help Us Breathe Easier

You ever notice how we call someone “the person of our dreams”? That’s not just a sweet saying. Dreams let go of tension—and so do the people we’re drawn to in real, loving relationships.

What I’ve witnessed in the healthiest of couples is this seamless kind of flow. There’s a friendship at the core, plus a give-and-take of energy. One person’s having a rough day? The other kind of takes that in, settles it, and gives back something calming. It’s like a quiet, natural exchange—no big effort, no big talk. It just happens.

It’s like a dance. A constant push and pull that keeps things moving. But even the best dancers trip sometimes. When both people are having a rough day, that relationship can feel off-balance—like a boat tilting in a storm. Tension rises, arguments pop up. But in strong relationships, there’s this built-in ability to reset. The ship rights itself, and you keep going.

That kind of connection is admirable. If you’ve got one, hold onto it. And if you see one, emulate it.

Now, let’s clear something up: just being together a long time doesn’t mean the relationship is working. Some couples stay stuck in a clunky, unhappy routine and call it love. That’s not what we’re talking about here.

So is there a secret recipe? Kind of. I don’t know the exact measurements, but I know a few of the key ingredients.

There’s that famous line from Jerry Maguire: “You complete me.” Yeah, some may call it cheesy—but it says a lot. In a solid relationship, the other person brings out the best in you. And you do the same for them. You’ve got each other’s backs. You help each other grow—without trying to fix or control.

Here’s a red flag: if you’re always complaining about your partner to someone other than a counselor, something’s slipping.

And good relationships don’t need forced space. The right amount of space happens on its own. If you’re saying things like, “I just need to get away,” that might be a sign the connection isn’t where it should be.

In the best relationships, your partner’s your favorite person to talk to. Conversations flow. You don’t have to try too hard. That Billy Joel lyric nails it:

“I don’t want clever conversation / I never want to work that hard / I just want someone that I can talk to / I want you just the way you are.”

That brings me to another big point: your partner isn’t a project. You’re not there to fix them. Sure, you can support their growth—but if you’re always trying to change them, you’re probably headed in different directions.

Now, I don’t claim this is a complete list. But it’s a good place to start.

Great relationships don’t stay great by accident. They need care. Attention. If you’re lucky enough to have one, tend to it. Don’t just set it and forget it.

And if your relationship feels like it’s coming apart, take a look at the ingredients. What’s missing? Can you rebake that cake?

And if you’re starting something new—pay attention. Look for those core pieces. Especially if you want something that lasts.

Because the person of your dreams? They don’t add to your stress. They help you release it. And you do the same for them.

That’s what real connection feels like.

All the best,
 John