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Beware Of The Third Person

John Morgan Season 5 Episode 213

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People who speak in the third person, by and large, don't have your interest at heart, only theirs.

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Beware of the Third Person

You ever notice when someone talks about themselves in the third person?

It always gets me. I mean, usually when someone says something like, “Senator Joe Blow’s plan for America . . .” instead of just, “Here’s my plan,” or, “AH had a good game,” instead of, “I played well,” my radar goes up.

(AH stands for—well, you can probably guess.)

Sure, we expect this stuff from politicians or athletes. They’re used to having PR teams and venues full of fans. But what gets tricky is when it starts showing up closer to home—at work, in your neighborhood, or worse… in your own mirror.

Now, I’m not saying you're doomed if you’ve ever slipped into third-person talk. We’ve all done it once or twice. But I am saying: keep an eye out for the ones who do it all the time. The serial third-person referrers.

In my experience, they don’t change. Not really. They might try to look like they’re self-aware—kind of like throwing on colored contacts to hide their real eye color—but that’s just for show. Underneath? Same old person. Same old self-interest. Let me quote my late step-father: "They'll steal the eyes out of your head and tell you, you look better without them."

Let me put it this way: if you’re a hiring manager and someone in the interview says, “Jim Smith brings great leadership skills,” instead of “I bring,” just . . . walk away. No matter how shiny the resume is, the headaches you’ll avoid are worth more than whatever they claim to offer.

Same goes for everyday stuff. If the guy pitching you to mow your lawn says, “Ray 'Abolony' gets the job done,” maybe let Ray get someone else’s job done.

These folks tend to flame out. Sooner or later. Doesn’t matter if it’s on the debate stage, the basketball court, or behind the wheel of a riding mower—they usually burn bright, fast . . . and crash hard.

Bottom line? Third-person talk is one of the clearest red flags I know of. It usually means you won’t be their priority. But they sure will be.

And hey—if this is all old news to you, thanks for letting me vent. But if it’s something you haven’t paid much attention to before, keep it in your back pocket. It might save you some frustration—and maybe a few bucks too.

Because when someone constantly refers to themselves in the third person? The best you can hope for . . . is to be third on their list.

All the best,

John

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