The Equity Test

They say, "all's fair in love and war." But the probing question is: Is all  equitable in your relationships.Find out in this mini podcast.

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Transcript

The Equity Test

Let me throw out this question: Can I ask something of you that I’m not willing to do for you?

Now, if I’m paying you—sure, that’s a transaction. But outside of that? That’s an inequity.

We all know life isn’t fair. It never has been, never will be. But here’s the real question: How do we keep things as equitable as possible in our relationships?

Simple. Stop asking of others what you’re not willing to give back. Because when you ask that, things get lopsided—and lopsided creates friction.

Think about it: even with the people closest to us, there seems to be a bit of push-pull. The moment you notice you’re pulling harder than you’re pushing? That’s your cue to rebalance.

Here’s an example. A therapist is working with a couple. One partner has been cheating—over and over again. A serial cheater, if you will. But the second they find out their partner did it once? They explode. That’s inequity in action. Expecting loyalty while giving none.

The raw reality is this: any relationship built on “you give, I take” won’t last. It eventually unravels, and inequity is always at the center of the fight.

So instead of tallying up all the times you’ve been treated unfairly, here’s the lesson: Ask yourself—What am I expecting from you that I’m unwilling to do for you?

That’s the equity test. Pass it, and life gets a whole lot smoother.

All the best,

John