I Can't

"I can't" is "I'm unwilling" in another suit of clothes.

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Transcript

I Can’t

The two words I’ve heard more than any others from people who say they want to make changes are: “I can’t.”

It’s rarely a lack of ability that brings those words out. More often, it’s a lack of willingness. A more honest statement would be: “I’m unwilling to make an attempt.”

“I can’t” is a cover.

It’s a quick two-word dodge that hides our unwillingness to make an effort.

Reminds me of a story . . . Years ago, I witnessed “I can’t” at a bowling alley. A group of friends had dinner, then decided to bowl for fun. Most of them hadn’t bowled in years—or ever. In short, they mostly all sucked.

One person rolled the ball twice, missed every pin both times, and then declared, “I can’t bowl.” They sat down.

A more experienced bowler in the group offered some encouragement and a few tips. But again came the same words: “I can’t bowl.” And that was it—they sat out the rest of the night.

Here’s my guess: the thing that really stopped them wasn’t their ability to learn; It was their fear of looking silly.

They had the capacity to learn, but not the willingness to go through the process.

That’s what “I can’t” usually is—a programmed reaction that puts up a stop sign in front of the one quality we actually need: willingness.

In my experience, “I can’t” almost always translates to “I’m unwilling.”

So here’s the question: What are you unwilling to do in order to move forward?

Unwillingness is the real roadblock.

It might sound like semantics, but say these phrases aloud and notice the difference in your body:

Phrase One: “I can’t.

Phrase Two: “I’m unwilling.”

To my ears, “I can’t” puts the blame out there somewhere. “I’m unwilling” brings it back to you.

That shift changes things up. “I just can’t lose weight” becomes “Up until now, I’ve been unwilling to do what’s necessary to lose weight.”

Suddenly the impossible feels more possible. You realize “I can’t” is just a little monkey pretending to be a 500-pound gorilla.

And right then, you discover the quality you need to move forward: willingness.

All the best,

John