Own Your Feelings

Too often we want to assign the blame for our feelings somewhere else. That practice causes the feeling to stay in place. Find out how to give the feeling an eviction notice in this mini podcast.

Grasshopper Notes are the writings from America's Best Known Hypnotherapist John Morgan. His podcasts contain his most responded to essays and blog posts from the past two decades. 

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Transcript

Own Your Feelings

Long ago, The Grasshopper dropped tis piece of barnyard wisdom on me: “Scapegoats are the sacrificial lambs we send out to avoid responsibility for our feelings.”

See, once you say something like this: “I feel this way . . . because,” you’re offering up a sacrificial lamb as the cause of your feelings. The word “because” is a red flag.

The sentence structure goes something like this: “I feel this way because you or someone did X.” Whatever “X” is becomes the scapegoat for our feelings. 

When you can just express “I feel this way,” and put a period after the word “way,” you are on your way to owning your own feelings.

Ownership of our feelings brings us back to the moment; assigning them to someone or something else, takes us away.

“I’m feeling sad” is being in touch with your sadness. “I’m feeling sad because . . .” attempts to make the feeling belong somewhere else. Each time we negate responsibility for how we're feeling, we keep that feeling knocking on our door until we let it in and give it the attention it requires.

Each time you scapegoat a feeling, it gets stronger and becomes harder to deal with.

It’s worth practicing some new grammar by putting periods after stating how you feel. It keeps the feeling close to home where it can be acknowledged and metabolized, not continually kicking in the door attempting to terrorize.

Try it on for size. Say, “I feel (fill in the blank).” There are no additional words needed after the period. Just sit with your feeling and let it be there as long as it needs. My experience is it lessens in intensity when acknowledged in this way rather than coming back stronger another day.

After a little practice with this technique, the phrase “In like a lion, out like a lamb” will take on a whole new meaning for you.

All the best,

John