Talking To Be Noticed vs. Talking To Be Heard

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Transcript

Talking To Be Noticed vs. Talking To Be Heard

You ever notice there are some people who don’t really talk to communicate — they talk to get noticed?

There’s a TV talk show host — I won’t name names — but every time she opens her mouth, you can tell the goal isn’t connection, it’s attention. She’s not alone. Some folks — both in and out of the spotlight — just want to be seen, not heard.

They don’t seem all that interested in what they’re saying. As long as it’s loud enough, flashy enough, or outrageous enough to get attention, mission accomplished.

You probably know someone like that.

Then there’s the other kind — the ones who talk a blue streak. They’re not trying to be noticed, they’re trying to be heard. My guess? Somewhere along the line, they didn’t feel listened to. So now they’re making up for lost time — and they can talk a dog off a meat wagon.

Here’s how you know you’re in the presence of one of these "Yackers": at some point in the conversation, you just . . . disappear. They’re not tuned into you at all. Their attention is completely on them.

Now, whether you’re talking to be noticed or talking to be heard, both are pretty ineffective ways to communicate. Because the only thing you’re really communicating — is your need for attention.

If you truly want your message to land — to get through — you’ve got to have a purpose for speaking.

I remember years ago, I’d often say whatever popped into my head — no plan, no goal — and then wondered why nobody was listening.

Then one day, a wise seminar leader asked me a question that changed everything. He said, “What’s your purpose in speaking?”

That simple question stuck with me. Ever since, I’ve cut way down on meaningless chatter, and focus on saying things that seem to matter.

The takeaway here is simple: Take the hamburger helper out of your speech. The result? The more people you'll reach.

All the best,

John