Quality Time?

Who or what do you spend your quality time with? Your answer may surprise you.

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Transcript

Quality Time?

Question: Who or what is the love of your life?

Now, most of us think we know the answer right away. We’ll say it’s our spouse, our kids, our family, maybe our friends. And for a lot of people, that’s true — their time and attention reflect that.

For others, the great love of their life is an activity. Woodworking. Photography. Painting. Writing. Golf. Crocheting. You name it. Something that lights them up, so they make space for it — carve out hours for it — because it matters to them.

But . . . there’s another group. And honestly, it might be larger than we want to believe. These are people whose quality time is going to something that isn’t serving them well at all. Ask them who the love of their life is, and they’ll give you a quick, socially acceptable answer: “Oh, my family comes first.” But when you look at how they actually spend their time, the story doesn’t match the script.

Here’s a blunt example — if you’re drinking yourself numb every night, guess what? You’ve already picked the love of your life. Alcohol gets the best of your time, your attention, your presence.

Because intentions don’t crown the winner — behavior does.

Quality time isn’t accidental. It’s time you set aside on purpose for someone or something. A hobby. A spouse. Or, yes . . . your hootch.

And the tricky part is, most people don’t even notice when that love shifts. Addiction, after all, is just a love affair that slowly replaces real relationships. You start including the thing that harms you, and excluding the people you claim matter most.

If you’ve ever been the designated driver, you’ve seen this. You watch friends personalities change right in front of you. The night out stops being a chance to catch up — it becomes a date with their drink of choice.

Where your quality time goes is your vote. Every hour you spend on alcohol, drugs, gambling, mind-numbing TV, endless internet scrolling — that’s you casting your ballot. That’s you saying, “This is what I love.”

And here’s the kicker: The larger the gap between what we say and what we do is a measurement of how badly we have misused our love.

So maybe ask yourself, gently and honestly: Who — or what — is the real love of my life? Not the answer you’ve rehearsed, but the answer your time reveals.

Because when you finally see it clearly, that truth can actually guide you out of the dark. And it starts with just that one question: Who or what is the love of my life?

All the best,

John