Are You Entitled?

Entitlement is a myth, as is its cousin deserve. Find a better way to get what you want in this mini podcast.

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Transcript

Are You Entitled?

You may not want to listen to this . . . because it might burst a bubble or two — especially if you believe you’re entitled.

Here’s the short version: entitlement is a myth.

So is its close cousin, deserve.

And they’re two myths worth shattering, because they keep a lot of people stuck — ankle-deep in the muck and mire of expectation.

Let me offer a bold, unpopular statement:

We’re entitled to nothing. We deserve even less.

Now I can hear the pushback already.

“But I deserve a raise.”
 “I’m entitled to respect.”

Those sound strong . . . but you’re using the language of powerless.

Because buried inside those statements is an unspoken formula:

If A, then B.

If I work hard enough…
If I keep my nose clean…
Then I deserve the reward.

And when that reward doesn’t show up, guess what we do?
We blame the person holding the purse strings.

What we almost never examine is the mindset itself — the mindset of entitlement.

Because if you start from the assumption that you deserve nothing, something interesting happens:

You realize that what you want has to be asked for — requested.

Not silently prayed for.
Not hoped for at the altar of the god of entitlement.

Waiting for someone to hand you what you think you deserve is like waiting for your ship to come in . . . at a babbling brook.

Take sales, for example.

The person who gives a brilliant presentation but never asks for the sale is living in the dreamworld of deserve.

A great pitch isn’t enough. The request is the missing piece.

And that’s not just true in sales — it’s true in life.

We have to ask for what we want. Deserve will never get us there.

Because deserve is really just the fear of asking.

We don’t ask because we’re afraid of what the answer will be. So instead, we retreat into the fantasy of deserve — and then make it someone else’s fault when we don’t get what we want.

Asking, by the way, is a fifty-fifty proposition.

It’s either yes or no.

Even “maybe” eventually becomes one or the other.

Deserve has much longer odds. As in, “I deserve to win the lottery.”

Good luck with that.

Start making clear requests in every area of your life.

You’ll dramatically increase your odds of getting what you want — and you’ll leave the disappointment of deserve in the dust.

All the best,
 John