Happy Endings

Happiness is not a permanent state. Find out how to entice it to return in this mini podcast.

 Grasshopper Notes are the writings from America's Best Known Hypnotherapist John Morgan. His podcasts contain his most responded to essays and blog posts from the past two decades. 

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"The Grasshopper" is the part of you that whispers pearls of wisdom that  seem to pop into your mind from out of the blue. John's essays and blog posts are his interpretations of these "Nips of Nectar." Others have labeled his writings as timeless wisdom. 

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• Mindfulness
• Peace of mind
• Creativity
• How to stay in the present moment
• Spirituality
• Behavior improvement

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Transcript

Happy Endings

Many years ago, The Grasshopper dropped this little piece of reality on me: “If you’re married to happy endings, you’re headed for divorce.”

At first blush, that sounded pretty grim—almost like resignation. But the more I sat with it, the more I realized it wasn’t about giving up. It was about managing reality.

Happy endings may be our goal. But happy has never been—and will never be—a permanent state. It comes and it goes. When it’s here, it's to be celebrated. Enjoy it. And when it leaves, the most productive thing we can do is create the environment for its return.

I like to think of happiness this way: when it disappears, it’s like getting off a bus at the wrong stop. You can stand there, frustrated, replaying what went wrong . . . or you can recognize the fact that another bus is coming.

Trying to trap happiness and keep it forever is like catching a firefly. For a moment, you’ve got the light. But eventually, it fades.

I believe we spend way too much time worrying about how to keep happiness in place, instead of fully experiencing it while it’s here. We’re so busy trying to catch lightning bugs in a jar that we forget to enjoy the glow they give off.

Here’s a guaranteed formula for disappointment: try to be perpetually happy. No one is. And if someone tells you they are, get ready—they’re probably about to sell you an “amazing” formula. (Think snake oil).

Creating the environment for happiness starts with an optimistic mindset. Trust the bus is coming again . . . and that when it does, be ready to hop back on.

One warning though—this matters. If something specific has to be in place for you to be happy, you may never see that bus again.

"I’ll be happy when…” (Fill in the blank).

That’s a blank check—and it only ever buys unhappiness.

For me, it feels way better to be happy than sad. No argument there. But life has taught me that both of those states of mind are lifelong visitors. The trick is noticing their temporary nature—expecting the less-desired one to move along . . . and trusting the more-coveted one to come back around.

Or, as my mother used to say, “If you’re mad, you’ll get glad again.”

All the best,

John