Upset In Advance

How often do you prepare to be upset in advance? Probably more than you realize. And not realizing it adds unnecessary angst to your life.

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Transcript

Upset In Advance

When your football team is supposed to win and they don’t, that’s an upset. We all get that.

But how many other things do we get upset about . . . before they even happen?

The Grasshopper said something one morning that hit home: “There are enough reasons to get upset without looking for them.”

And once you hear that, you start noticing advanced upsets everywhere. And have you ever noticed that some people show up already upset? You didn’t do anything. You just arrived. They were upset before they even got there.

I don’t know about you, but I’ve had entire conversations in my head before I ever had them in real life. That works great if you’re an actor rehearsing a role. Not so great if you’re trying to communicate with an actual human being.

“Let me tell you how upset I’m going to be if this person does that thing.” That’s being upset in advance. And once you finally meet up with that person, it doesn’t really help the conversation move forward.

So here’s a thought: Save your upsets for when there’s an actual thing to be upset about. Life supplies plenty of those circumstances on its own. No need to manufacture more.

If you check the Farmers’ Almanac for your wedding day that’s three months from now and it predicts rain . . . congratulations. You’ve just scheduled yourself to be upset for the next ninety days.

Being upset about imagined futures pulls you out of the moment you’re in. And those moments? They’re gone whether you enjoyed them or not.

Comedian Martin Mull once told this great story. He used to room with Steve Martin, before either of them was famous. Steve would write jokes in their apartment and throw away the ones he didn’t think worked. Mull, knowing how funny Steve was, would dig through the trash after he left. One of the discarded jokes he found said this:

“We sure have had a great time tonight. Too bad we’re all going to die someday.”

So here’s the practice: Notice when you’re getting upset in advance. Just notice it. Simply noticing the potential upset, without reacting to it, creates a little space between what’s real and what’s imagined.

And the result?

You sail on a sea of tranquility here  and now . . . while the weather’s still nice.

All the best,

John