Decide, Don't Debate

Debating is oneupmanship on steroids. Nothing new is revealed and a fresh perspective is concealed. Find out more in this mini podcast.

 Grasshopper Notes are the writings from America's Best Known Hypnotherapist John Morgan. His podcasts contain his most responded to essays and blog posts from the past two decades. 

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Transcript

Decide, Don't Debate

Debating, for the most part, contains "known" positions. The unknown hasn't positioned itself yet.

Whether you're debating with yourself inside your head or with someone else using your outside voice, no new territory is gonna be covered. You'll just take cover and fire from behind some rocks ( from some solid positions).

The hole in your argument is where the unknown is found.

Have you ever argued for a position, maybe for years on end, and then found out that you weren't on solid ground? That's when the unknown became a known quantity. 

It didn't come out of debate. It actually came out of thin air. The idea arrived when you had some spaces show up between your solid thoughts of being so damn sure.

Debating, for the most part, prolongs getting to a solution. As the character Ishmael says in the book "Ishmael," "There's no argument that will end the argument."

Debating can easily be renamed "Positioning." That's what a debater does: presents a known position and argues against another known position. Nothing new is coming out of that back and forth. Just an attempt to make the other person wrong.

Deciding ends debating. When you hit a fork in the road, don’t set up camp there arguing about which path is right. Take a quick look . . . and pick one.

Even if it's the wrong direction, that becomes apparent quicker than the time you spend at the fork debating. You can then make the necessary adjustments and backtrack and go down the other road. 

Even going the “wrong” way teaches you more than standing still, debating forever. You'll get there quicker when you stop standing at the crossroads and continue to dicker.

It's like a management consultant told our group some 30 years ago, "when you have two opposing positions, rather than arguing them to death, 'shorten the storm' by deciding."

Are you looking for some unknown territory to explore? End the debate, instead of playing tit for tat trying to even the score.

All the best,

John