Competitive Conversations

Better to retreat rather than compete in conversations. That's what this mini podcast explores.

 Grasshopper Notes are the writings from America's Best Known Hypnotherapist John Morgan. His podcasts contain his most responded to essays and blog posts from the past two decades. 

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Transcript

Competitive Conversations

Make no mistake . . . tit for tat? . . . it’s combat. 

When a conversation turns into competition, you no longer have communication.

And if you want any shot at getting things back on track, you’ve gotta recognize what’s happening. You’ve gotta notice, “Oh . . . this just turned into a war zone.” And then . . . take a peaceful pause.

Because in that pause, you get a choice: Do I reload . . . or do I take another road?

Now here’s where it gets tricky. If you don’t realize you’re in combat, you might think you’re just tossing out a playful jab . . . when the other person feels like they just got gut punched. 

And once that happens? Things don’t exactly trend upward.

They go downhill . . . fast.

Unless – somebody notices what’s really going on.

Think about it like this . . . Have you ever watched a late-night TV host try to compete with their guest?

It’s painful.

You feel it. The guest feels it. The audience feels it. Everybody’s a little uncomfortable.

But the great hosts? They don’t compete. They let the guest shine. They guide things. They create space.

And because of that, something better happens. The conversation actually goes somewhere –somewhere it never would’ve gone if it got clogged up with ego and competition.

That’s really what good conversation is about.

There’s a word for it: synergy.

It’s when two people interact and somehow create something better than either one could’ve come up with on their own.

Competition does the opposite. It shrinks the moment instead of expanding it.

And you know, there’s a reason someone once said, “Don’t talk politics or religion in mixed company.” Whoever said that . . . probably learned the hard way.

Now sure – there’s absolutely room for different opinions. That’s not the problem.

The problem is when the goal quietly shifts from appreciating what someone's saying . . . to winning.

Because once you’re trying to win, you’re not in a conversation anymore. You're on a battlefield. And battlefields always take a toll.

If you want to become a better conversationalist. Don’t compete. And if you do, have the good sense to retreat.

You have a greater chance of going somewhere better together when competition is under the weather.

 All the best,

John