Holding On To A Grudge Holds Off Your Happiness

Are you holding on to a grudge? It's holding you back.

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Transcript

Holding On To A Grudge Holds Off Your Happiness

Holding onto something that hurts us sounds unreasonable . . . yet most of us do it every day.

A grudge is really just this: replaying a story about how someone wronged us. The story stays in our head, and the emotion stays in our body . . . and it's the emotion that keeps the grudge alive.

Well meaning people love to say, “Just let it go.” If it were that easy, nobody would have a grudge longer than a weekend.

The problem is, logic and emotion don’t speak the same language. Your intellect may know it’s time to move on, but the emotional charge is still lingering.

That’s why thinking your way out of a grudge rarely works. As Einstein said, “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.”

Most people try to get rid of a grudge by focusing on the facts — what happened, who was wrong, why they were justified in feeling hurt. But the more attention you give the story, the more life you give the grudge.

The way through it is different.

Instead of arguing with the feeling, feel it.

Notice where it lives in your body. Sit with it. Don’t explain it, defend it, or rehearse your case for the thousandth time. JUST FEEL IT! (Hmm, maybe that could be Nike's next new slogan).

Seriously, emotions are meant to move. But when they’re cemented in place by righteous thinking, they stay stuck.

Fully feeling an emotion without mental commentary is what loosens its grip. It’s like pouring Drano down a clogged sink . . . suddenly things begin to flow again.

And that flow makes room for something else: happiness.

Not endless happiness. Not permanent bliss. Just more opportunities to feel lighter and freer than before.

There’s no rule against carrying a grudge to your grave if you choose . . . but the only happiness that comes out of that is when the person you held a grudge against reads your obituary.

Give yourself a chance at more happiness today. Feel the grudge . . . and let it flow down the drain.

All the best,

John