What Are You Arguing For?

There are no winners in an argument. Find out more in this mini podcast.

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Transcript

What Are You Arguing For?

Have you ever noticed that when people argue . . . nobody really wins?

Socrates once said the first step toward knowledge is recognizing our own ignorance.

And honestly, I think arguing may be one of the most ignorant ways we engage with each other.

Now, I don’t think people are born wanting to argue — although sometimes it sure looks that way.

My personal poster child for arguing is attorney and law professor Alan Dershowitz. I don’t think I’ve ever seen him on TV without a scowl on his face making an argument.

Now look — if I ever needed someone to defend me in court, I’d probably beg the man to represent me. But invite him over for relaxed dinner conversation?

I’m not sure he cracks my Top 500.

Because arguing has a way of hardening people. It pushes solutions farther away instead of bringing people together.

You can be passionate about an issue. You can care deeply. But the moment your goal becomes making the other person wrong . . . the conversation is already lost.

And we do this in subtle ways all the time.

Even churches are sometimes guilty when their marquee makes this argument: “Come discover the one true savior.”

Now whether you agree with that message or not, notice what it sets up immediately: an argument with everyone who believes differently.

A lot of habitual arguing comes from the need to be right.

And years ago, The Grasshopper reminded us: “Some people would rather be right than happy.”

There’s a lot of truth in that.

Because when we have to be right, we stop listening. We stop learning. We close the door to anything new.

And that leaves us stuck.

The purpose of this recording is simply to help us notice how often we argue to be right . . . without accomplishing much of anything.

The real gift comes when you catch yourself in the middle of an argument . . . and choose a different direction.

If you really need to argue, go down to the local bar and talk politics or call a radio talk show. You can get your fix there.

But notice something: Arguments stir things up . . . rather than settle things down.

Bottom line: The moment you choose to put arguing on pause . . . you create a space for solutions.

And a little more peace too.

All the best,

John