You're Not Getting Through

Trouble getting through to folks? Try this technique in this mini podcast.

 Grasshopper Notes are the writings from America's Best Known Hypnotherapist John Morgan. His podcasts contain his most responded to essays and blog posts from the past two decades. 

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"The Grasshopper" is the part of you that whispers pearls of wisdom that  seem to pop into your mind from out of the blue. John's essays and blog posts are his interpretations of these "Nips of Nectar." Others have labeled his writings as timeless wisdom. 

Most of the John's writings revolve around self improvement and self help. They address topics like:

• Mindfulness
• Peace of mind
• Creativity
• How to stay in the present moment
• Spirituality
• Behavior improvement

And stories that transform you to a wider sense of awareness that presents more options. And isn't that what we all want, more options? 

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Transcript

You're Not Getting Through

Ever wonder why somebody doesn’t just get what you're saying?

It may not be because you're explaining it poorly. It may be because you're paying more attention to your words than to their reaction.

In other words . . . read the room.

Of course, you may not actually be in the same room. You could be sending an email or a text. That's where things get tricky because the exact same words can land very differently depending on who's reading them.

Take something as simple as a car horn. If I say I "tooted" the horn, it has one feel. If I say I "beeped" the horn, it has another. Same basic action. Different emotional flavor.

That's one reason face-to-face communication is still king. You can see confusion, curiosity, agreement—or boredom—before the other person ever says a word.

But whether you're speaking to one person or a hundred, here's something worth remembering.

People tend to process information through one of three primary channels: what they see, what they hear, or what they feel.

Think back to your favorite teacher. They probably weren't everyone's favorite, but they clicked with you. Chances are, they taught in a style that matched the way you naturally learn.

The best communicators don't rely on just one style. They paint pictures for the people who see, tell stories for the people who hear, and create experiences for the people who feel. They have something for everybody.

So when someone isn't getting your message, resist the temptation to repeat yourself . . . only louder.

Instead, change the way you're delivering it.

It's a little like the stereotypical tourist who walks up to a food vendor in a foreign country and says, "I'll have a hot dog."

The vendor looks puzzled.

So the tourist says it again—only louder.

"I'LL HAVE A HOT DOG!"

As if volume were a substitute for understanding.

We've all done some version of that.

The next time you catch yourself in what I call a talking trance – so focused on what you're saying that you've stopped noticing the person you're talking to – pause.

Watch their face.

Listen to their questions.

Notice their reactions.

Then adjust.

Because communication isn't measured by what leaves your mouth.

It's measured by what arrives in someone else's mind and body.

All the best,

John